| 10/20/2007 1:36:26 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
picklejuice
Jamestown, TN
age: 50
| I have been talking to someone for a few weeks and he wants to meet me. I did agree to meet him but since I agreed he is talking like "I dont mind sharing you with my friends but I wont do it all the time" and I am like EXCUSE ME I dont need any permission from you because I dont even know you and have never met you and even if I did know you I am not looking for a BOSS, what do I do. HELP
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| 10/20/2007 1:46:05 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
sweetiepie123
Cary, NC
age: 32
| Hi PJ-
Did you call him out on how he was coming across now? I would and see what he has to say (but try not to tell him in an "attack" mode or he'll, understandably, get defensive and you won't get to find out what you really are trying to find out). Maybe it is just a misunderstanding...
But, after a little probing for more info, if you feel pretty sure he's changed his mind and is not so "into" the idea of dating or getting possibly serious or whatever anymore, tell him that is what you feel like is going on and if he doesn't really have anything to say or says "uh, yeah, I guess that's what's going on" then it's time for you to decide what YOU want.
It's hard dealing with folks who are ambiguous and send the mixed messages - that's why you've got to feed it right back to them so they know how they are coming across to you and how you feel about it.
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| 10/20/2007 1:54:51 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
osipsc
Chicago, IL
age: 54
| Sweetie said it very well - ask for some clarification on those mixed messages....
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| 10/20/2007 4:13:09 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
tailpipes
Winfield, KS
age: 41
| sounds like these two ladies have said like it is, and they are right. Tailpipes
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| 10/20/2007 4:51:23 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
gawd
Appleton, WI
age: 53
| That guy seems to have an attitude..
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| 10/20/2007 6:58:48 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| I'd have more clarification on what he means. If your instincts are telling you something about him then I'd listen to your instincts.
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| 10/20/2007 6:59:53 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
plowboyboots
Bon Aqua, TN
age: 22
| I AGREE BOOTS IS DRUNK AND GIVING ADVICE OOPS
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| 10/20/2007 8:25:57 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
picklejuice
Jamestown, TN
age: 50
| Thanks guys for the advice. you would think that after 50 years a fellow would
have learned something. I am feeling panicky and seeing big red flags so I havent
decided what to do. I just wish you could skip the dating part , lol. You guys rock!!
Even you bootsie.
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| 10/20/2007 8:27:38 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| Yah picklejuice, I know what you mean about dating ... it sucks
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| 10/20/2007 8:46:32 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
picklejuice
Jamestown, TN
age: 50
| I just would like to skip all the dating crap, and some guys make too big a deal
about everything. This guy went and bought all new clothes in case I do agree to meet
for coffee. I told him I was gonna wear something from my teen years if I go , lol. Just
to freak him out. But on the flip side he hasnt had a date in 26 years so I guess if it had been that long for me I would be buying new panties and everything, lol
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| 10/20/2007 8:48:39 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| I use to go out and buy clothes for meeting or get my hair done but it started getting expensive soooooo I wear what I normally wear and have my hair they way I normally do. After all, if we click he'll like me for me and I'll be the same as I was when we first met ... a nut 
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| 10/20/2007 8:50:50 PM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
picklejuice
Jamestown, TN
age: 50
| Amen to that chopper, I aint going to no extra trouble, theres either a spark or not.
Just like the song.
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| 10/21/2007 10:24:57 AM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
margaret12454
Chocowinity, NC
age: 54
| stand you ground! this is an insight to what is to come, it your life, live it the way you want to live it.
my 2 cents worth
Marge
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| 10/21/2007 10:34:34 AM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
bamadixiegal
Guntersville, AL
age: 38
| i would say forget him!!Next!!!
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| 10/21/2007 10:42:44 AM | I need advice!!!!!!!!!! Yeah or Nay??? | |
dg1260
Galion, OH
age: 47
| I would asked for clarification....
And then tell him to go explore the joys of self-intercourse.
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