Forums: General Discussion: what to when you are a widow at 38
10/21/2007 2:52:06 PMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

wendrew
Bristol, PA
age: 39

Now What? All your dreams together go up in smoke. Trying to decifer what my personal dreams are. Not easy. Anyone have any suggestions or clues on how to deal with and what to expect from this foreign concept called grieving? It's like a box of magic tricks. Day by day, Hour by hour, you never know when it wll appear(ta Da, I'm here)Or what new mood or experince it is going to bring.

10/21/2007 3:01:23 PMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

nopretense
Harleysville, PA
age: 47

I won't pretend to have any answers, but my heart goes out to you.

How long ago did you lose your husband?

10/21/2007 3:01:51 PMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

emtauburn
Appleton, WI
age: 53

How long has it been for you?

10/21/2007 3:45:13 PMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

wv_dad
Martinsburg, WV
age: 39

sorry to hear about your lose.

10/21/2007 3:49:43 PMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

klassykitten
Toccoa, GA
age: 50

My heart goes out to you. We all grieve in our on way. Time will eventually take the sharpness of the pain away. But how much time it takes you just don't know.

10/21/2007 4:43:35 PMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

wendrew
Bristol, PA
age: 39

two and half years.

10/21/2007 5:13:59 PMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

wendrew
Bristol, PA
age: 39

thanks all for the input. Your empathy is much appreciated.

10/21/2007 5:22:37 PMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

mustang_sally59
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 49

Wendrew, I'm very sorry for your loss. Believe it or not, it does get better, the pain does stop and eventually you can find someone else to open up to. You didn't mention if you have kids, but mine were the only reason I got out of bed most mornings. I had to be there for them, there was no other option. I also felt an enormous amount of guilt, thinking... I could have done more, pushed the doctors more, looked for some alternative treatment plan... that guilt, too, fades over time. Just niggles at you, but does not incapacitate you. Be strong kid, you'll make it.

10/22/2007 7:36:13 AMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

wildgypsy
Bellevue, WA
age: 88

My best advice would be to let yourself grieve. Let yourself cry. Holding it in will make you crazy. Had to explain to my kid after a while of trying to be a "rock" that mommy would be crying sometimes, and why, but not to let it scare or worry her, just something I had to do.

10/22/2007 7:43:19 AMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 39

this is a tough one . but i guess the best you can do is move forward . you cant accomplish or make things any better by being down . what happend ,happend, and there is nothing you can do to change that . life goes on after death . one thing im sure of , you can make this a lesson for you . in your next relationship , think of what the future may bring. you can easly find yourself in the same situation again . so be prepared . death can be sudden you never know when your time will come . one thing for sure it will come . take care of your self, and good luck

10/22/2007 7:44:06 AMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 39

hey gypsy nice ass !!

10/22/2007 7:50:21 AMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

emtauburn
Appleton, WI
age: 53

Wind..hmm I thought this had just happened to you.

Well if you are still having problems dealing with loosing your loved one,as it sounds like to me, Im terribly sorry for your loss but i was wondering if you have had any grief counseling?

I know it takes a long time to get over loosing somone close to you but if your here that is a good start.

10/22/2007 8:53:00 AMwhat to when you are a widow at 38 

wildgypsy
Bellevue, WA
age: 88

Uh, I lost mine in 1993, and it still hurts, just not as much or as often. Lost my sister way back in 1988, and that even still hurts. So lighten up a little huh? It never goes away completely.