i_pindu
Redmond, OR
age: 35
| I lost my girlfriend and her daughter in a car accident and i want to start dating again but i feel guilty about dating. I still love her and miss her everyday but i want to move on but is it fair?
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razorclaw
Coweta, OK
age: 41
| If you are ready to move on; do so. Feeling guilty is wrong. You didn't cause the accident. Move on man!
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rachelg
Kenner, LA
age: 20
| First of all im sorry for ur loss!!!! i know it's hard to loose a loved one..personaly if you dont care about what ppl say , n-e day would be a good day 2 start.... but if u do u should wait a couple of months!! not 2 or 3 about 8 or 9,,,, allthough i dont kno how long it has been since they have been gone!
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i_pindu
Redmond, OR
age: 35
| its been about 5 years
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wrinkles
Corning, AR
age: 53
| Oh it's definitely time to move on ..... I lost a wife in '92, waited till the time felt right. It was around 9mos for me. It's totally up to when you feel ready tho.
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genuine_risk_07
Boaz, AL
age: 47
| I am new here so correct me if I am wrong? I think this subject is in the wrong zip code. But since you asked I will make a comment.
If your feelings are on the runway? Then pack you emotions in your traveling bags and catch the first flight out!!!
I lost my mom just 8 months ago. She wasn't just a mom but my very best friend ever. My family lives over an hour from where I live. So on the weekends I go to assist my father in how to clean, pay bills, wash clothes, etc. He is a total wreck and I find myself lost at times too. My parents were married for 38 years. They displayed what true love is all about.
But this is what happened........
Only just this past weekend I was doing things in his home before he got home from work. Well the phone was ringing and I picked up. This lady on the other end asked me how was I doing? (thinking that I was my father) Her voice was of a tone that I would describe as "sugar sweet" and it was.....yes, a bit "above" friendly. I cant find the correct verbs to describe how that made me feel. So I never said a word to her but only hung up. Later that evening I confronted my father of this lady calling. He began crying saying that he was feeling so much guilt. He read me well and knew that I didn't like it. But I have not the right to judge him so I put on a mask and pretended that all was well. But deep inside I thought it was disrespectful to say the least. BUT on the other hand, what is too long and not too long before moving on? I personally believe that its based on an individual basis. And what others think shouldn't even come into play.
To not pursue someone that you possibly care about? Well..... Your only cheating the other party to include yourself. So let the guilt go if you can and live a great life with this person.
...my 2 cents worth
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sumbeach763
Raeford, NC
age: 45
| Well said, And its not up to us to decide when others times is good.......
My Mom, died 5 yrs ago this past July.... She was to be married that sept....... After being married to my Dad that abused her, she had finally found her true love, only to die to soon...
She ask us how we felt, and my response was Mom your a grown woman, what do you think?
She said I love him , then you answered your won question then, Just like you did here....
Good luck and enjoy you life, we don't really know how long we have to live so go live it..... JMO Beach
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