| 10/24/2007 12:15:24 PM | right or wrong? | |
gamas
Porterville, CA
age: 41
| I have been friends with this guy for over twenty years when we are between relationships we tend to hook up now the reason I've known this guy for that long is because he is my ex-brother inlaw. i have been divorced from his brother for 12 years but when my ex-husband,who has been remarried and is currently involved in a 5 year relationship, found out he was violently furious he showed up at my house which resulted in a shouting match with my two older daughters standing in front of him pushing him back and telling him to get the hell off our property with my youngest daughter pulling me back in the house and standing in front of the door. His brother was not so lucky, he and my ex got into a fist fight. I think he needs to worry about himself and not what i'm doing what do you think?
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| 10/24/2007 12:17:17 PM | right or wrong? | |
peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 41
| Sounds like you made your bed of Way to much Drama for me.
xoxoPeaches.
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| 10/24/2007 12:19:39 PM | right or wrong? | |
air1medic
Lakewood, WA
age: 37
| Sounds to me like she has issues i dont even want to touch..needs to get her head examined first and foremost.
[Edited 10/24/2007 12:20:28 PM]
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| 10/24/2007 12:57:13 PM | right or wrong? | |
evie58
Port Arthur, TX
age: 50
| good luck
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| 10/24/2007 12:58:02 PM | right or wrong? | |
anony
Joplin, MO
age: 51
| Rather than worry about whether it's right or wrong in someone else's eyes just let your conscience be your guide. It sounds understandable to me that you may have some attraction to someone you've known that long, but I can understand you ex's problem with it too. I'm sure he feels betrayed, both by you and his brother. It sounds like the ones who may be hurt the most from it may be the kids. Kids hate to see their parents hurting for any reason. It sounds like hubby has moved on with his life and you should too, but maybe you should keep your relationship with the kids' uncle on a friendly basis....just a thought. It's really your decision as a mother to do what's best. Good luck to you.
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| 10/24/2007 1:13:15 PM | right or wrong? | |
mag11
New Port Richey, FL
age: 39
| Yea,That's bad. Good luck with that mess.
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| 10/24/2007 2:12:08 PM | right or wrong? | |
houstonmale43
Houston, TX
age: 47
| give jerry springer a call...sounds like a good segment for the show...
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| 10/24/2007 2:14:37 PM | right or wrong? | |
emtauburn
Appleton, WI
age: 53
| I would be more concerned with what all that mess is doing to your daughters..You need help
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| 10/24/2007 4:52:23 PM | right or wrong? | |
lawrence084
Honolulu, HI
age: 41
| Let me get this straight. You are thinking about dating your ex-husband's brother who is your daughter's uncle and wondering if you ex-husband is right or wrong to get upset?
If this is right...I can see him being upset.
[Edited 10/24/2007 4:53:18 PM]
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| 10/24/2007 6:49:34 PM | right or wrong? | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| You are divorced so he has no business on whom you see. If the X brother-in-law is good towards you and the kids then he has no right to do that. He is free to date whoever as well as you are. Sounds like your X is trying to control who you see. If he continues you will need to place a restraining order on your X. I don't think your X is over you.
[Edited 10/24/2007 6:50:18 PM]
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| 10/24/2007 8:01:55 PM | right or wrong? | |
lawrence084
Honolulu, HI
age: 41
| chopperbabe - If your ex starts dating your sister you don't have a problem with that or you don't see how someone other than you might have a problem with that?
Assuming you have a sister?
[Edited 10/24/2007 8:02:15 PM]
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| 10/24/2007 8:07:17 PM | right or wrong? | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| Yup, got 3 sisters and nope wouldn't have a problem with them dating any of my Xs. In fact, a friend asked if it was okay to ask my 1st X out and I said that what he does is his business not mine. Just because it didn't work between my 1st X and myself doesn't mean it won't work for my friend and him. She knows the verbal abuse I went through so maybe he'll change for her. So no, it wouldn't bother me.
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| 10/24/2007 8:13:12 PM | right or wrong? | |
sweetiepie69
Sioux City, IA
age: 38
| everyone's a little rough but it true think about your girls. Not yourself, I have alittle experience in this area not brothers and x's but close. So umm if they pass you around in this area and you don't get the respect you deserve from them or your kids
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| 10/24/2007 8:24:15 PM | right or wrong? | |
lawrence084
Honolulu, HI
age: 41
| My issue with it is the fact that it is with someone that is close to him. Family. I have never been married and I don't have any brothers, but if I was married and had a brother, I can see it being a huge problem, if my ex dated my brother. Mainly becuase everything I normally discussed with my brother would now be discussed with my ex. If I bought a new toy, I'll have to explain why I bought something and not forked over the money to her so she could buy the daughters something. If had a issue with my new wife, and I ask my mother, and of course my mother would tell her other son who happen to be dating my ex...
Bottomline it open a window to my personal life that she would not have with any other guy but my brother. My busines would now become her business. And my trust with my family would be in jeapody.
I would be upset, with both of them.
I think anyone who says it is ok...will say ok, until they find themself debating every choice they make with their ex-spouse, knowing the information came from their own family member who now dating their ex.
Then will it be ok?
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| 10/24/2007 8:35:36 PM | right or wrong? | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| I cannot tell my X what to do nor is it my right. We have a son together and as long as she is good with our son that's all that matters. If he had a brother I would hesitate in dating him ... not because he is a brother to my X but because I would probably think if my X was raised to learn that it's okay to use verbal abuse on women then probably the brother would be as well. Not all siblings grow up keeping the same family values but that is another thread.
[Edited 10/24/2007 8:37:33 PM]
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