| 10/28/2007 12:27:40 PM | The Womans Code | |
darkclawz
Carbondale, PA
age: 31
| Ok so I dated woman both in New Jersey and Pennsylvania over the last 10 years moving back and forth. And I ran into this same "policy" amongst woman. No friend, relative, acquantices, etc are allowed to date anyone's ex under any circumstances. WTF is this all about. Not many things erk me, but this does. I can not understand the concept of it. If a man likes his friends ex, he just has to tell him, and the usual reply (in my experience) is, go ahead, but if you hurt her I'll kill ya (if he still likes her or what not). Or at least something to that respect. Can any women shed some light on this subject?   
PS. I did a search and came up with nothing on the forums...so I guess Im the first to start this topic?
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| 10/28/2007 12:28:55 PM | The Womans Code | |
trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 51
| I have introduced my friends and co workers to my exes.. they can have em lol
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| 10/28/2007 12:30:19 PM | The Womans Code | |
heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 51
| I'm with you trublu.. they can have em...lol
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| 10/28/2007 12:32:17 PM | The Womans Code | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| A friend of mine asked me if it was okay if she asked me my X out for a date. I told her that what he does is his business. To me, if things did not work out for me doesn't mean it won't work for them. I've been told that there is a "golden rule" that you don't date Xs of any kind which doesn't make sense to me.
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| 10/28/2007 12:40:03 PM | The Womans Code | |
darkclawz
Carbondale, PA
age: 31
| I totally agree with all of you. If the person is your ex, its for a reason. Let it go and move on. Don't pull others into whatever you are trying to hold on to. Just never understood the rule.
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| 10/28/2007 12:41:15 PM | The Womans Code | |
ladykathryn0414
Denison, IA
age: 30
| I this "code" is out there for a reason.. The only thing I can think of is that seeing your ex on your friends arm or dating your cousin makes it hard on a person. Maybe its immaturity or something like that I dunno. I've dated a ex of one of my friends and she went ballistic on me.. so yeah I don't get it as much either.
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| 10/28/2007 1:02:46 PM | The Womans Code | |
trinagirl
Riverdale, NJ
age: 48
| think it depends on how it ended. if it was mutual and no hurt feelings then who cares.
but if it was messy or she still has some angry feelings about him, then it can seem like her friend is disregarding what she went thru.
had that happen last year. my friend was dumped by bf and months later i saw him at store and he asked me out. no way would go near that. how do i explain this to my friend? oh i know you were hurt back then but me and your ex are going out to dinner next week?!
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| 10/28/2007 1:06:55 PM | The Womans Code | |
striker29527
London, KY
age: 45 online now!
| my ex and her friends have the same policy. if the one gets rid of a man, none of the others will touch the "left overs".
keeps the friendship out of danger that way. the man will never cause any problem for the ex that way.
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| 10/29/2007 12:07:19 PM | The Womans Code | |
rosannachanna
Des Moines, IA
age: 58
| No, no, not going there, a friendship is a sacred thing regardless of how hot her x is.
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| 10/29/2007 12:19:13 PM | The Womans Code | |
peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 41
| It's called "Respect" for my friends,family...They are an ex for a reason...Do you really wish to spend your Holidays with them? jmo
xoxoPeaches.
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| 10/29/2007 12:21:53 PM | The Womans Code | |
silkpanties52
Baytown, TX
age: 53
| kinda look at it this way
say you are talking to one of the x's
and you want to talk about how sexy the lady is
how you and her made mad passionate love and her love makeing is wonderful
His reply back is " been there done that "
so why would you want to go out with a friends X ?
especially if it is a friend you hang around with all the time.
What would you have to talk about ?
NOT HER !
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| 10/29/2007 12:21:56 PM | The Womans Code | |
johnnybravo76
Mechanicsville, VA
age: 31
| i could see where that would bother some people but if you keep my exes out of my life ill dance at your wedding! lol
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| 10/29/2007 12:23:53 PM | The Womans Code | |
peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 41
| I don't have issues with mine, We just prefer not to have to be in the same place to long. So, Yea...Don't go there. lol
xoxoPeaches.
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| 10/29/2007 1:04:21 PM | The Womans Code | |
darkclawz
Carbondale, PA
age: 31
| I've had woman apply it to woman I have never met.
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| 10/29/2007 1:18:57 PM | The Womans Code | |
mmaru
Erie, PA
age: 24
| I definitely wouldn't date the ex of any of my friends, and I would hope none of my friends would date my ex. It depends on the circumstances their relationship ended under, but even if they just parted ways out of a realization that they're better friends than lovers, it would be uncomfortable kissing him in front of the last person who his lips were on. I've lost several very good friends because they've started dating assholes and broken up our friendship... I wouldn't date anyone who can't get along with my friends. Most people don't want to be around their ex. So... it's just a matter of respecting and understanding your friends.
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