Forums: Relationships: New to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem.
11/1/2007 5:55:45 PMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 
ghidrah
Clinton, TN
age: 36

So im totally new to these forums, actually this is the first time ive ever posted in any kind of dating forum ><

Be gentle ^^


So, i had this sweetheart growing up, friends since little kids and neighbors. We did everything together when we were young, thats why my daughter just turned 16 and my son 15, im 35.

Anyways, life was pretty rough then, i asked and tried to marry her once, but it kinda fell through. We parted (again) and i moved to Tennessee to find my dad in 1994.

Life goes on and we did our best, i wanted to work and make a life for us in Tennessee (plus i was havin fun, so i took advantage of alot back then, i thought everything would always work out with us) but in 1998 i lost her to a brain anurism. We were both 24. The kids were 4 and 5ish.

It was a rough time in my life, the kids ended up living with her father and his wife. I was in no shape to do anything, i lost everything in a month. House, job, friends and my health suffered. They say your body is gods temple, so i tried destroying his temple with drugs and alcohol, i did a pretty good job.

So ive spent the last 10 years alone in depression, feeling sorry for myself with my regrets beating me into submission.

Ahh the things ill never be able to fix or say im sorry for...

So, this last year ive tried taking back my life. Ive changed my diet and routine to include free-weights and ive dropped 60 pounds in about the last 6-8 months. I workout everyday, it helps.

Ive taken back my career as a Chef since both my mom and gramma were. Im a purty darn good cook ><

So, thats kinda my story until now. Now comes the reason im writing all of this ^^

Ive started to TRY to date again, its not going very good. My most recent was a single mom with a bright-eyed wonderful 3 year old son. It was a chance meeting, i knew her from 4 years previous but never hooked up with here then. So we started talking and calling and hanging out ALOT, almost everyday. We did Boo at the Zoo in Knoxville and i worked the Pin-the-nose on the Pumpkin booth with her for Trunk or Treat.

I felt like a man again after all these years, i was happy, truely happy again, and im always so guarded about stuff like this, it just happened.

So then i said the "R" word and she ran screaming, now she just doesnt call or talk to me anymore. This has all been within the last month, ending on Sunday.

Im so confused, i havent felt this kinda pain in a long time. Does the word Relationship really strike fear into people?

Shes a strong proud woman, full time job/school/mom. Strong women are hot as hell btw ^^

Now i dont know what to do, i seriously think ive lost her. Was i just a f**k buddy?

Anyways now comes the pain and depression, so im here ranting to you all. Millions of readers to bear my soul to.

>Ghidrah<

ps: ill have some pics soon ><
pss: im not posting this for any kind of validation or pity, so dont even bother. I never talk about this.

11/1/2007 5:59:36 PMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 
peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 41

Welcome, You are truly among those who can relate..I don't really know what all to say except for some of us the "R" word is rather Scarey. We need time and Space to make a wise decision. Especially when our Children are involved. I wish you the best.
xoxoPeaches.



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11/1/2007 6:28:38 PMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 

stormygrl
Casa Grande, AZ
age: 42

Good luck and no matter what don't give up on yourself again, you've come a long way so don't backslide.

11/1/2007 6:37:16 PMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 
ghidrah
Clinton, TN
age: 36

I was reading the whole "hate makes it easier" post and i dont hate her at all.

The last thing i want to do is act like some kind of child and scare her away even more.

11/1/2007 6:41:04 PMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 
uh_huh
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 35

Howdy, Ghidrah... Pull up a chair and sit a while..

ps. I have a whole bunch of realitives that live in your neck of the woods (Jacksboro and Lafollette)..

11/1/2007 6:44:52 PMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 
peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 41

That's very mature of you and commendable.
xoxoPeaches.

11/1/2007 6:49:22 PMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 
ghidrah
Clinton, TN
age: 36

Hah! Lafollette eh? Thats just 20-30 minutes away ^^

I work in Oak Ridge.

In fact, thats where her family lives ><



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11/1/2007 8:34:50 PMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 
uh_huh
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 35

small world...

My aunt just recently sold her carpet store in Jacksboro.... If my brain cell (got 1 left) is still functioning correctly, I believe my cousin works in Clinton..

Used to go up there and mess around Norris lake and wonder around them there hills..

11/2/2007 8:44:01 PMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 
ghidrah
Clinton, TN
age: 36

Well, she called me tonight and we went out.

It was nice, i felt like she was telling me "Heres your 2nd chance, dont f**k this one up"


And Norris is still as awesome as ever, good Trout fishing down by Weirr dam.

11/3/2007 5:57:36 AMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 

samwise
Bremerton, WA
age: 26

((In walks samwise, often the voice of reason in a world gone mad. Even though he is insane.))

Hello,

First of all you need to buck up, and prepare yourself for more heart ache to come. Chances are your next few relationships will fizzle out or down right turn to crap. And you cant go to the bottle everytime it happens. Grab your balls and proudly proclaim "I am man, hear me roar" honestly, do it and you will feel better if not make your situation seem a little more light hearted. Better yet, do it in front of a mirror and laugh at your own stupid look.

If i was you, id concentrate on all the material things that you want to build back up, better car, some money saved, whatever. This actually attracts women when they see you have nice things and a nice life. Never tell them you have had it so rough or about your "excuse me" lost love. Leave that conversation for after the "R" has been there for some time.

If some chick can appreciate you for who you are then keep these words in mind "f**k em" ya thats right "f**k em". There isnt one person out there for everyone there literally are hundreds, although they might not always live close by or are found on one dating site. You are who you are and there are no appoliogeeze for that.

11/3/2007 6:12:44 AMNew to these forums, brief intro to my life so far and a problem. 
lc69
Silvis, IL
age: 39

Hey , these people give some good advise. Just keep your head straight and be proud of what you accomplished . You should be proud of that now everything else will fall into place. She came back didnt she ? If it works good if doesnt then move on, But remember to take care of yourself first. Good luck