Forums: Dating General Discussion: Dating and disabled
11/5/2007 8:42:47 AMDating and disabled 

blckquen
Stone Mountain, GA
age: 30

This question is for the men. Would you date a woman that has a physical disability. My frien is a very attractive woman, last year I she was in accident where she broke her back and had to learn how to walk again. The entire experience is new to her and she is been self conscious about tring to date again with all that is going on now. How do men feel about dating a woma with a temporary disability?

11/5/2007 12:15:33 PMDating and disabled 

bountyman
Carthage, MO
age: 47

Thats a tuff ?. And probably why this is the only response you've had so far. As far as it bothering me to date someone with a disabillity, no it wouldnt bother me at all. I would be affraid to because of my lack of knowledge medically and socially as what to do or what to expect(special needs). If she was already an aquaintance that would be easier to discuss but if not I feel like any question I would ask may be too personal.

11/5/2007 12:41:00 PMDating and disabled 

peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 41

I had a Major Back Surgury and have some nerve damage in my left leg. It does not Stop me from being me...I know how difficult it is and even somewhat Shameful to tell people about but, It is no reason to stop your friend from dating and moving on with her life. To me, Someone who can overcome a physical ailment must be a strong person indeed. I give her kudos for learning, trying and Not giving up!!
xoxoPeaches.

11/5/2007 12:52:49 PMDating and disabled 

me4aminute
Rutland, IA
age: 35

I think that she should continue to date and move forward. There are many dating that have disabilities that we can't see. Sometimes those can be worked around and sometimes they can't. I would much rather date someone with a physical disability than a mental one.

I was in a car wreck and smached my right side. I wasn't dating at all then, but found that men still wanted to talk to me and date me even though I had casts and surgeries on and off for two years. It might scare some away, but for those that see past it shows that they are a very open minded person and therefore worthy of your friend.JMO

I wish you and her the best.

11/5/2007 1:10:42 PMDating and disabled 

thepkk
Everton, MO
age: 53

There are men that can deal with it. She just has to be honest up front with them. I walk with a cane due to a knee surgery. Only ran off one because he could not deal with my pain. I didn't know I cry out in my sleep. He felt helpless and didn't know how to deal with it. Next time I will warn them about that. LOL

11/5/2007 1:15:16 PMDating and disabled 

peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 41

Like other things, It is something to be talked about before a Relationship progresses to far...Anyone who wants to be with me knows, I work out to overcome mine. I don't like whiney people who will cry over a scratch. I guess this has made me somewhat hard in what I expect. but, hey...I deal with it and work on it.
xoxoPeaches.

11/5/2007 2:08:40 PMDating and disabled 

blckquen
Stone Mountain, GA
age: 30

Hi me4min, I never thought of it that way I would rather be with someone with a physical than mental disability. I guess after a person has been noraml all your life then when something happens such as that it really changes how a person feel about theirself. Some people may not want to deal with the trouble.

11/5/2007 2:27:55 PMDating and disabled 

sidman
Grand Junction, CO
age: 30

well since I am disabled myself I don't think dating someone with a disablity is a problem as long as they try I got to keep my type in the disablity catigory as that I will have something in common with them, however it is so hard to find disabled singles out their in the community as they have a hard time interacting with people. As long as they don't give up I will date them, but the other girl I dated with a disablity she had a mental illness, and she would not even try at times I had no choice to give up on her. She also had bipolar, which I knewn we could have worked it out, but her mom gave her the easy way out of our 2 1/2 year relationship and she took it like I knew her bipolar mind would. So since I been with someone for 2 1/2 years with her having bipolar I think I am justified in saying that I can handle a disabled women to date. I am the sweetest nicest guy and gentle and patient in all aspects. I would like one that is not attached to her mom.

11/6/2007 2:45:51 AMDating and disabled 

dreama777
Conway, SC
age: 48

i think she should get on with her life. if she meets someone, she should tell him of her disability, if he can't deal with it, then she doesn't need him to start with. love is supposed to be unconditional, and when a person can't see past another person's disabilities and love them for who they are, it's not unconditional love. tell her to get out there, live and love life again, if she doesn't, then she may be allowing the best thing in her life to pass her by. good luck to you both, my prayers are with you.

11/6/2007 2:52:52 AMDating and disabled 

artus
Ashland, OR
age: 42

I think love people for who they are and not what they can become. Real love has an open heart.

11/6/2007 3:50:36 AMDating and disabled 

eroticartist
White Plains, NY
age: 49

I dated a girl in a wheelchair when I was in my 20's. She was such a incredible artist. I kinda fell for that hot artist and she just wanted to be friends. And we stayed really good friends although I haven't seen her in over 15 years. Haven't thought of her since this thread...thanks for bringing back memories

11/6/2007 9:57:42 AMDating and disabled 

bchopper
Shelby, NC
age: 45

My throughts of dating a disabled person, is everybody is somebody and God is all. I think if we as people would look beyond the physical asspect and look at the HEART, we can LOVE a person for who he or she is. God is to perfect to make mistakes, If the Jesus in me loves the Jesus in you, and the Jesus in you loves the Jesus in me then that makes it easy to loves everybody

11/6/2007 10:29:21 AMDating and disabled 

nonickname49
Belchertown, MA
age: 58

After being in a life threatening head on collision, it changed my life..but
I soon found out that if you give in to your physical pain..or the LABEL
of the word disability...you actually become more disabled.. you can think
yourself house bound. While I can't jello wrestle. or do the limbo..I have
worked myself into a normal life style...Do I have a classification of being
disabled, yes...do I look or act it NO....I have limitations, and like someone
said you may bring it out when you are comfortable to share with the other.
If you lose a man or women over it...then they were not someone you want in
your life...you will find that if someone cares enough about you...it will not
matter....as I have been so fortunate to find such a women. Good Luck

11/6/2007 10:30:26 AMDating and disabled 

potentloveslave
Dade City, FL
age: 41

I dated a woman with Celeral Palsy for two years. Wonderful woman.