| 11/17/2007 12:24:15 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
la_sad_girl
Antioch, CA
age: 30
| Hello Im new to this, feeling alittle down, yet yeager to here some thoughts /advise.
I have a husband (married 6yr. , sparated 1 yr & half) I still love him but his life revolves around the drugs. I'M STUCK EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY ....How do heal or how do i help him out?
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| 11/17/2007 12:31:24 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
kerob6521
West Terre Haute, IN
age: 43
| you can't help him unless he wants to help himself. you need to take care of yourself and don't get pulled into the vortex. you need to take care of #1 and any kids in the picture. keep your chinup and if things get to bad get professional help. believe me it helps you see the light at the end of the tunnel!
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| 11/17/2007 12:35:17 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 37 online now!
| after being seperated for that long,it's clear that the drugs take precedence over anything else.your marriage is over but if you want to help him....as a friend....that may help you also.tough thing is you will just have to get over him.realize the failure was not your fault.since you are young there is a lot to look forward to,,,,just dont look back.unfortunately tough love doesnt always work.
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| 11/17/2007 12:37:49 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
la_sad_girl
Antioch, CA
age: 30
| Yes, i tried ...but its easier said than done . thanks for your advise. 
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| 11/17/2007 4:27:26 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
nonickname49
Belchertown, MA
age: 58
| Its tough as drugs become the only thing that matters to an addict, for
your sake try to find a program for spouses and families of drug addicts,
they can offer you the true advise you need and the support to help you
get your life back on track. Check with narcotics anonymous for family
programs...good luck
[Edited 11/17/2007 6:25:10 PM]
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| 11/17/2007 4:39:59 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
steveredman
Spotswood, NJ
age: 37
| I recommend that you go to a support group, such as alinon. It is specifically for family members and significant.
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| 11/17/2007 6:16:53 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
renesant
Madison, AL
age: 49
| good advice steve! sad girl my ex and i going on 3 years have continued our relationship as friends.I guess you will fall out of love when the negative influence is to great for you to bear.aa is a group for recovering addicts.alinon is for a group of none user family recovery.if you used but it ,and controled better than he, the better group would be aa.
wish you the best ren.
oh yea after three years i know,we can only help ourself and make recomendations.
[Edited 11/17/2007 6:21:30 PM]
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| 11/17/2007 6:24:01 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 52
| You can't help him unless he wants to help himself. You have to walk away and stay away, let him hit the bottom because until he does and he starts to help himself there is nothing that can be done
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| 11/17/2007 6:31:49 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
stellablue
Saint Louis, MO
age: 50
| You'll know when your done... Expectations of anyone is doomed. Keep your head up!
In the meantime, send him to pervertville. I tried to mapquest it...nick knows where...
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| 11/17/2007 6:37:52 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| Yeah right! You're the brazen hussy cruisin' hobo village lookin' 2 scarf up on a supposedly temporarily displaced, unemployed man livin' in a van down by the river.
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| 11/17/2007 6:45:13 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
stellablue
Saint Louis, MO
age: 50
| but nick...that's only because I found you at the tracks! 
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| 11/17/2007 6:47:16 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
bdiane30
Tulsa, OK
age: 32
| Been there done that, you cannot make someone change that doesnt want to change, no point in trying, He will need to learn on his own and make the decision for himself, It will hurt for sometime but good will come out of it in the long run.
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| 11/17/2007 6:54:16 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| Tell the truth groovegurl.....ya seduced me w/ya wiled wayz. Came down there 2 the tracks on a hot day w/cold bottle of cold duck, wearin short shorts n a skimpy tube top. Lurin' me in w/talk of hot wings, air condition n a night of passion. I have 2 admit I was lookin' pretty hot myself, fresh from a dunk in the river, wife beater T-shirt n my best cut-offs prominently displayin' what caught ya eye in the 1st place, THE PACKAGE....
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| 11/17/2007 6:58:26 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
stellablue
Saint Louis, MO
age: 50
| mmm mmm mmmm  The wife beater first caught my eye, couldn't resist the pkg. You dog you, blamin it on me now! 
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| 11/17/2007 8:41:11 PM | How do you fall OUT of love....or help him change? | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| BOW wow YO yippy Yo YIPPY Yea.........
That's right I still remember ya singin', "Do that 2 me 1 mo' time, once is never enough w/a dawg like you".
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