Forums: Relationships: what do you do when the only man you ever loved passes away?
11/17/2007 2:25:52 PMwhat do you do when the only man you ever loved passes away? 

honey1206
Glasgow, KY
age: 32

where & when do you start over?

11/17/2007 2:27:26 PMwhat do you do when the only man you ever loved passes away? 

holdinpanama
Panama City, FL
age: 44

the answer lies with you.you will know when you are ready.i know he would want you to be happy

11/17/2007 2:29:18 PMwhat do you do when the only man you ever loved passes away? 

sorprano
Wayne, NJ
age: 56

at your age if that has happen--sorry--but you wait as long as you can --be sure you have recovered and when you do try again please do not try to compare the next guy to the special person lost--if you do you're doomed--in divorce they say the 2nd time should be better than the 1st time around--but try not to over mourn a lost one too long unless you have to...good men come along esp to good woman--



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11/17/2007 2:55:05 PMwhat do you do when the only man you ever loved passes away? 

chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47

Beautifly said sorprano

11/17/2007 3:45:12 PMwhat do you do when the only man you ever loved passes away? 

wnd_dragon
Morristown, TN
age: 29

Having been there myself... let me tell you what I've done... you go through all those "first time withouts".... while going through this time, you have to slowly decide what you can live without.. and what you just HAVE to keep. Getting rid of his things is probably the hardest part of dealing with the loss. Once you get to the end of your year of firsts, you wait for the time that you are ready to put all the things you HAD to keep in a box... and put it away. When you can do that, you are ready to move on. This may seem silly to some of you, but it is symbolic. AND when you are ready to NOT see his things every day.. you are ready to move on. You have to be able to put him in a safe place in your heart. He will never go away, but you have to be able to make room for someone that you love the same, but completely different. I agree, You cannot compare men to him. If you do, there is no chance of making it anywhere in the relationship... The first man you date, you will probably treat like shit. It happens... Just be careful and try not to do that....

If you ever need to talk, please don't hesitate to email me. I have been there, and I am even younger than you...

~Wind~

11/17/2007 4:22:44 PMwhat do you do when the only man you ever loved passes away? 

wicawic
Carnegie, PA
age: 27

you will know when the time is right just like everyone else has said..taking your time is the most important detail

11/17/2007 4:51:39 PMwhat do you do when the only man you ever loved passes away? 

honey1206
Glasgow, KY
age: 32

I want to thank everyone who took time to send a response.i guess all the things that were said are true.I really liked what wind had to say.i'm sorry that anybody ever has to go through this horrible life lesson.I will never forget him.and now since he's gone i have so many fears that i didn't have before.Moving on without him is such a terifing reality that i never really prepared myself for.he was in very bad health for a long time.and now i feel so stupid for taking his presense for granted.Thank's again everybody.

11/17/2007 5:29:01 PMwhat do you do when the only man you ever loved passes away? 

mr_passion_2006
Texarkana, TX
age: 45

hi there mis honey
i lose my baby mother 3 month after our baby was born it took me 4 years just to get over it and even now at times i find myself thinking of her but the thing to remember
is you can't bring them back so at some point you have to think of you

11/18/2007 7:05:53 AMwhat do you do when the only man you ever loved passes away? 

chocalatediva
Waldorf, MD
age: 42

You start over when in your heart and soul you feel it's right. But always remember the good times that you shared the funny things that was said that always made you laugh, remember how they were there when you needed a shoulder to cry on. Thank God for the time that was allowed for you to know this person to love this person and to charish all those good memories.