Forums: Introductions: Need Advice - TGIF - Thank God It's Friday - Need Advice
11/18/2007 6:04:45 PMNeed Advice - TGIF - Thank God It's Friday - Need Advice 

kazyka
Hudson, NH
age: 38

I use to say TGIF but now Friday nights have a whole new meetings. My kids go with their dad, and don't return till Saturday night. They are gone for 24 hours. I am so empty without them. I know in time it will get easier, but right now it is hard. It has been 5 months and every Friday I have been sick to my stomach. I worry so much about them, and I am so lost without them. I can only go to my parents house and be baby sat so many times, 3rd wheel at friends house can get old (they don't make me feel that way, but I still do), going to dinner alone stinks, movies are okay because it keeps your mind occupied but its waiting for the movie to start that is hard because you see all these couples together hugging, kissing, laughing and so on. Does anyone have any suggestion?



[Edited 11/18/2007 6:19:12 PM]

11/18/2007 6:14:50 PMNeed Advice - TGIF - Thank God It's Friday - Need Advice 

viktoriya75
Brooklyn, NY
age: 33

Hi...Welcome to DH...Come to forums....Ther are a lot of funny and crazy people there...You will make tons of friends...Things will get better with time...

11/18/2007 7:53:41 PMNeed Advice - TGIF - Thank God It's Friday - Need Advice 

cowboyup2787
Springdale, AR
age: 21

I need some advise my girl friend will not treat me with any respect and i have done everything i can think of still nothing i love her and she says she loves me but she dont show it what sould i do.



[Edited 11/18/2007 7:57:55 PM]

11/18/2007 10:15:47 PMNeed Advice - TGIF - Thank God It's Friday - Need Advice 

pgm708
Greensburg, PA
age: 43

kazyka -

Here's my suggestion - think of how your ex feels on Saturday night when he has to return your kids after just 24 hours. If he loves your children as much as you do, it's probably rough on him,too. Be thankful that you're not the one that sees your kids for only one day.

I may be out of line here, since I don't know what your or your ex's particular circumstances are with respect to your children, but my point is, be thankful that you have your children for six out of seven days. In time, I'm sure that it will get easier to deal with those 24 hours.

11/19/2007 4:11:33 AMNeed Advice - TGIF - Thank God It's Friday - Need Advice 

sandi0120
Vernon Rockville, CT
age: 45

changes are so hard, aren't they.

Time heals everything, so allow some time to pass but try a project. A Friday night project, i.e. refinishing a peice of furniture or shopping for curtains, etc can help.
this helped me after my divorce....I made an afghan just for me and now I look at it and remember how hard that time was and how it's in the past now.

You'll be fine.

another suggestion....Call a girlfriend and hook-up. Friends are so crucial and soooo
helpful.

Good luck

11/19/2007 4:49:19 AMNeed Advice - TGIF - Thank God It's Friday - Need Advice 

tittlemouse
Lilburn, GA
age: 52

Come chat with us. I have conversed with many interesting, lovable, and intelligent people here. It has helped me greatly in dealing with my separation. I think it will help you too. I hope you feel welcomed here.

11/19/2007 5:09:52 AMNeed Advice - TGIF - Thank God It's Friday - Need Advice 

waytogo51
Prairie Grove, AR
age: 51

Getting on these forums and chatting has helped me thru many rough times. There are times I find myself laughing so hard my side hurts and it does ease my troubles.

11/19/2007 1:03:18 PMNeed Advice - TGIF - Thank God It's Friday - Need Advice 

kazyka
Hudson, NH
age: 38

Thanks for the advice. I think I just might try the forums. I know I can't change people I just wish there father wanted to see them more. He doesn't even want to see on Thanksgiving. He's like "no thats okay, I'll see them on Friday like I always do. It blows my mind. It's like I don't even know who he is any more. Pretty soon he's not going to want to even do 24 hours, then what? The kids are going to loose out. How do I fix that? And then how do I get space and not loose it with the kids. I love my kids to death, but having them around all the time, I go bonkers. I know I just have to get use to this, and time will heal, but I just keep crying, and hiding it all from the kids. Faking it till I make it. It's been really hard.....