| 6/3/2009 8:12:18 AM | does love really depend on who u are | | 
burner1983
Toronto, ON
age: 26
| HI GUYS I AM A INDIAN GUY, LIVING IN TORONTO FOR THE LAST 4 YEARS. I JUST WANT TO KNOW THAT DOES LOVE GET EFFECTED BY SKIN COLOUR(NO OFFENCE TO ANYONE I WRITE THIS WITH DUE RESPECT). I AM A NICE,DECENT, AND HARD WORKING GUY WHO IS JUST LOOKING FOR A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH THE WOMAN OF MY DREAMS. I RESPECT ALL RELIGONS, BUT USUALLY THE GIRL JUST ENDS UP SAYING I AM SUCH A NICE GUY THAT THEY DONT SEE IT HAPPENING .
I MEAN I AM JUST GIVING UP TO BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE ANY NICE WOMEN LEFT WHO JUST SEE THE GUY FOR WHO THEY ARE. I WOULD TREAT HER THE RIGHT WAY AND ALWAYS KEEP HER HAPPY BUT PLEASE AM OPEN TO SUGGESTIONS..........
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| 6/3/2009 9:36:57 AM | does love really depend on who u are | |
goddess56
Tulsa, OK
age: 59
| No, love doesn't depend on who you are, but the potential for love depends on a lot of factors.
When we're seeking love, as opposed to friendship or physical companionship, we assess a lot of things. We look at the other person's beliefs and values, and whether or not there is a compatibility.
While we might respect another's right to their religion, it doesn't mean that we would want to fragment a potential family with the parents having different beliefs.
We think about how that person is going to interact with our family and friends.
We look at lifestyles. Are they compatible with what we have chosen?
So no...love doesn't depend on who you are, but it does depend on perceived compatibility.
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| 6/3/2009 10:22:18 AM | does love really depend on who u are | |
edgeofsandias
Placitas, NM
age: 41
| Wow Goddess, I'm in awe!
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| 6/3/2009 10:51:45 AM | does love really depend on who u are | |
barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 53
| Love does not depend on if you are white, black, Indian or purple!You just have not met the right girl.
[Edited 6/3/2009 10:51:59 AM PST]
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| 6/3/2009 6:51:47 PM | does love really depend on who u are | |
wildbluemist
Battle Mountain, NV
age: 48
| No, love doesn't depend on who you are, but the potential for love depends on a lot of factors.
When we're seeking love, as opposed to friendship or physical companionship, we assess a lot of things. We look at the other person's beliefs and values, and whether or not there is a compatibility.
While we might respect another's right to their religion, it doesn't mean that we would want to fragment a potential family with the parents having different beliefs.
We think about how that person is going to interact with our family and friends.
We look at lifestyles. Are they compatible with what we have chosen?
So no...love doesn't depend on who you are, but it does depend on perceived compatibility. What she just said is a lot of B.S.! If you can not be attractive to women the rest is meaningless.You have to learn how to bring about a deep gut level attraction response from a woman.Look nice guys weird just about all women out.They put them on a shelf and use them later.Decent and hard working?HELL look at most of the losers alot of women end up with.I'm not telling you to not be nice,decent and hard working.But thats not whats attracts the opposite sex,male or female.There are a ton of good women out there for you.Just learn how to properly fish for them.
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| 6/3/2009 7:44:05 PM | does love really depend on who u are | |
goddess56
Tulsa, OK
age: 59
| What she just said is a lot of B.S.! If you can not be attractive to women the rest is meaningless.You have to learn how to bring about a deep gut level attraction response from a woman.Look nice guys weird just about all women out.They put them on a shelf and use them later.Decent and hard working?HELL look at most of the losers alot of women end up with.I'm not telling you to not be nice,decent and hard working.But thats not whats attracts the opposite sex,male or female.There are a ton of good women out there for you.Just learn how to properly fish for them.
Wow, wild...can you not read, or is it a problem with comprehension? Here you go with the "nice guys finish last" whine, and I have to tell you...women are SICK AND TIRED OF IT!
What I told the OP was a real answer to a real question. He was concerned that his ethnicity was the problem. I discussed how PEOPLE assess another PERSON'S perceived compatibility with lifestyle, religion, etc. It's a process of selection, you nincompoop. It's not a question of attraction, but a question of selection!
Personally, I think the OP is a handsome young man and when the right woman for him comes along, he will make her very happy. You're telling him to not be nice and it will increase his chances for--what? Getting laid more frequently? He's looking for LOVE!
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| 6/3/2009 8:02:12 PM | does love really depend on who u are | |
julymorning07
Saint James, MO
age: 57
| Wow, wild...can you not read, or is it a problem with comprehension? Here you go with the "nice guys finish last" whine, and I have to tell you...women are SICK AND TIRED OF IT!
What I told the OP was a real answer to a real question. He was concerned that his ethnicity was the problem. I discussed how PEOPLE assess another PERSON'S perceived compatibility with lifestyle, religion, etc. It's a process of selection, you nincompoop. It's not a question of attraction, but a question of selection!
Personally, I think the OP is a handsome young man and when the right woman for him comes along, he will make her very happy. You're telling him to not be nice and it will increase his chances for--what? Getting laid more frequently? He's looking for LOVE!
If this forum had a karma button, you, goddess would have just reaped a couple of good ones.
Excellent perception.
I need to read his profile before commenting further.
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| 6/3/2009 8:07:18 PM | does love really depend on who u are | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 43
| HI GUYS I AM A INDIAN GUY, LIVING IN TORONTO FOR THE LAST 4 YEARS. I JUST WANT TO KNOW THAT DOES LOVE GET EFFECTED BY SKIN COLOUR(NO OFFENCE TO ANYONE I WRITE THIS WITH DUE RESPECT). I AM A NICE,DECENT, AND HARD WORKING GUY WHO IS JUST LOOKING FOR A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH THE WOMAN OF MY DREAMS. I RESPECT ALL RELIGONS, BUT USUALLY THE GIRL JUST ENDS UP SAYING I AM SUCH A NICE GUY THAT THEY DONT SEE IT HAPPENING .
I MEAN I AM JUST GIVING UP TO BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE ANY NICE WOMEN LEFT WHO JUST SEE THE GUY FOR WHO THEY ARE. I WOULD TREAT HER THE RIGHT WAY AND ALWAYS KEEP HER HAPPY BUT PLEASE AM OPEN TO SUGGESTIONS..........
Nice guy = wussy. Saying you're a nice guy = Player. You cannot dub yourself a "Nice guy" and expect others to take your word for it. If they do then you're target audience is obliviously the less intelligent, low self esteem desperate type.
I'd like to intervirew to your last three girlfriends to verify that you've been nice to them.
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| 6/3/2009 9:27:39 PM | does love really depend on who u are | |
wildbluemist
Battle Mountain, NV
age: 48
| Wow, wild...can you not read, or is it a problem with comprehension? Here you go with the "nice guys finish last" whine, and I have to tell you...women are SICK AND TIRED OF IT!
What I told the OP was a real answer to a real question. He was concerned that his ethnicity was the problem. I discussed how PEOPLE assess another PERSON'S perceived compatibility with lifestyle, religion, etc. It's a process of selection, you nincompoop. It's not a question of attraction, but a question of selection!
Personally, I think the OP is a handsome young man and when the right woman for him comes along, he will make her very happy. You're telling him to not be nice and it will increase his chances for--what? Getting laid more frequently? He's looking for LOVE! Nice guys do finish last because they seek approval.This gives a strong sense of insecurity and what women really wants that in a man.Read between the lines here this person wants to be sucessful with the opposite sex.Weather it be in dating or a relationship And I never told him to be a jerk.Look we all know damn well that when we see A person were strongly attracted too.That ethnicity,lifestyle,religion...all go out the window along with some common sense.If your so shallow that you actually do select people based on ethnicity,religion....What does that say about your thinking process?
I'd rather base it on feelings,attraction and character not selected preferences.I did that 25 years ago she was a different race,religion and lifestyle!I married her anyway and never regreted it.Lesson Do not pay attention to what women say.Pay attention to what they do.!!
Get yourself alot of girlfriends and I mean friends that happen to be women.When you start to feel more comfortable around them your confidence will grow.It then becomes far easier to meet and succeed with other women.
[Edited 6/3/2009 9:30:58 PM PST]
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| 6/3/2009 9:35:30 PM | does love really depend on who u are | |
steven030463
Newton Falls, OH
age: 46
| I don't see if it has anything to do with skin color, but love affect people in different ways, each person has there own way of loving someone. Color has nothing to do with it.
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