| 11/24/2007 5:15:44 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
warm64
Princeton, KY
age: 44
| If your mate has had four failed marriages, and has a very bad reputation of being LOOSE CHEEP EASY and has cheated several times in past marriages hides things from you and gets their own private email and [blocked site] is it time to let go and move on.
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| 11/24/2007 5:18:13 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| Cheating would of ended it right there
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| 11/24/2007 5:19:08 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 37
| hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm........ i dont see this type of person changing.....EVER.good luck !!!
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| 11/24/2007 5:25:22 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
kr328806
Valdosta, GA
age: 20
| I know what you mean...if you are a good hearted person, you want to believe said person when they swear they will change and want to make things right...it happens over and over and then finally, you realize they're not going to change and you end it...how much is too much...well you as a person will have to decide how much you can take...
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| 11/24/2007 6:00:07 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
lasttime4me
Townsend, MT
age: 63
| once a cheat always a cheat, why do you think she has been married 4 times, that should have been a red flag for you. I was dating a woman once that told me she had been married 6 times, never saw her after that day.
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| 11/24/2007 6:30:35 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
warm64
Princeton, KY
age: 44
| I really don't believe once a cheat always a cheat. We all have made mistakes in our lives. And I believe that if you make a mistake and acknowledge it as wrong and own up to it and learn from it you and only you can keep yourself from doing it again. But to condone it as you did nothing wrong because you had your reasons means under the same circumstances you would do it again!
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| 11/24/2007 7:06:46 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
lo_sue
El Paso, TX
age: 34
| Time to move on, looks like she is
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| 11/24/2007 7:09:06 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
lynn456
Martinsburg, WV
age: 39
| kick her to the curb.  
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| 11/24/2007 7:15:00 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45
| DUHHHH> Right after the first time. Once a cheet always a cheet! A liar is a liar for life. Give it up amigo.
[Edited 11/24/2007 7:16:59 PM]
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| 11/24/2007 7:18:04 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
telula
Orangeburg, NY
age: 40
| don't you think you deserve better ????? It's up to you.
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| 11/24/2007 7:32:41 PM | at what point do you say enough | |
sandbagger2u
Longmeadow, MA
age: 61
| Regardless of what she does, if you can't be the man you are because you are having to constantly sort out these thoughts and the inconsiderations, then astalavista baby and concentrate on you and your life. You're no good to her if your getting sideways and she's no good for you if she's twisting you up.
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| 11/25/2007 5:58:58 AM | at what point do you say enough | |
rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50 online now!
| I'm sorry you are involved with a woman who obviously has no respect for you, her vows,her children or herself. Just admitting you're wrong and want to change is NOT enough. This woman has serious problems with true intimacy. I believe you are a good hearted man who wants to see the good in someone. I would bet you your mate gives you the answers she thinks you want to hear and then goes on doing what she wants to do. She uses sex as a weapon, to control and or to prove that she is attractive. She likes the thrill of the chase and the excitement of something "new". She is bored by the day to day routine of everyday living.
I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to help or change her and it's not your job. You can only change your boundries, how YOU behave and WHAT you will tolerate as acceptable behavior.
I would not want my child or children subject to this woman on a daily basis. If possible she should see them on a regular basis with specific ground rules. I'm always encouraging people to consider counseling. You need to find out why you think you can or should "save" this person. If you decide to leave she will cry and beg you to reconsider. She will tell you that you are the only one she "really loves". It won't be true. She will be crying crocodile tears. She will swear and promise she will change. She will be upset that she "lost" and that she will be financially responsible for herself. The only way to deal with her will be through an attorney. If she calls do NOT allow her to pull you into a conversation about anything. The discussion should be at what time you or she will be picking up or dropping off the children. If you don't play into her game she will find somebody new fairly quickly.
Going foward. WHEN you are ready to date again make it a point to see people that are mentally and emotionally and financially healthy. At our age people don't change.
I would also encourage you to see your doctor to be tested for all STD's. Best of luck to you and I'm sorry for your pain.
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| 11/25/2007 6:15:46 AM | at what point do you say enough | |
free2bm
Bristol, CT
age: 40
| YES YES YES, It is time to move on. It sounds like she is not able to commit to one relationship. If she is doing all these things now again then the best advice I or anyone else can give you is .MOVE ON.you deserve to find someone who is willing to commit to one relationship and from what you have said she is not able to do that....RUN !!!!
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| 11/25/2007 6:33:55 AM | at what point do you say enough | |
emt854
Appleton, WI
age: 53
| I have to agree once a cheater always a cheater..and if you havent kicked her to the curb by now Id say its time for you to get some counseling..your living in a fairy tale land..
Read what you posted..and your questioning what to do?????
your mate has had four failed marriages, and has a very bad reputation of being LOOSE CHEEP EASY and has cheated several times in past marriages hides things from you and gets their own private email and [blocked site] is it time to let go and move on.
[Edited 11/25/2007 6:34:49 AM]
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| 11/25/2007 9:01:43 AM | at what point do you say enough | |
skunkbreath
Saint James, MO
age: 89
| "at what point do you say enough"
That's problematic...i try to keep a medic with defib and IV standing by just in case i don't say , enough, before i pass out....
seriously, folks....if a person asks this question, they need dr. phil..!!
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