Why do women seem to run away from men with children

6/8/2009 11:10:55 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
koolhandjoe Carrollton, TX age: 27	Tell me something.... Why is it that women seem to run away when they find out I have a kid who lives with me (some of which have kids of their own). I simply do not understand. I thought women liked men with kids.... Any thoughts?
6/8/2009 11:31:38 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
mallory124 Kyle, TX age: 45	I would rather date a man with a child...
6/8/2009 11:39:09 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
luckyjax San Antonio, TX age: 45	What about two
6/8/2009 11:42:09 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
mallory124 Kyle, TX age: 45	Hey that's what I do....have a son of my own and about 3 more in the neighborhood that seem to live here
6/8/2009 11:47:09 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
luckyjax San Antonio, TX age: 45	mallory what are doing up so late.?
6/8/2009 11:54:00 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
mallory124 Kyle, TX age: 45	Im kinda in a 'mood' and cant sleep,,,how bout you?
6/9/2009 12:05:22 AM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
luckyjax San Antonio, TX age: 45	I;m at work playing on the forums. So thats why off and on tonight.
6/9/2009 12:17:44 AM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
mallory124 Kyle, TX age: 45	Was wondering why it was takin' you so long to post....
6/9/2009 12:22:09 AM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
red1inconverse Converse, TX age: 43	kool.......kind of answers Mal's earlier thread. Women from a divorce w/children are more likely (80%) than the men to have conservatorship, or full time guardianship, which means THEY are the ones receiving child support, and they are the ones that do not spend their nights Lonely. Now....don't get me wrong....women from Long Term relationships, that have children are far more likely to LOVE AGAIN, the difference is they do not actually KNOW what is is truly like to have that missing piece of their heart somewhere else. I am one of those gentleman, that truly wishes I had Conservatorship, but realized what it would have done to my ex, should I have fought her, and gotten it. So to answer your question....the women that run, are usually those that have their children, and thus do not have the advantage of knowing what your feeling....well mostly that way in my opinion.......Kinda/Sorta the same reason I am not attracted to most women who have not given birth.........Strength my brother......you raise your child, and thus show the strength.....they cannot read you as well as they could most men.
6/9/2009 1:07:53 AM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
lipchick___ Longview, TX age: 48	...Or could it be that they (some women) have already been there ... got the t-shirt... and dont wanna go thru the child-rearing years again??? Not me necessarily... but I will admit it would definately take some heavy thinking on my part before I stepped off into that again!. That does not make me (or some women ) bad people. It just means both people gotta be on the same page.(smile) I offer you a scenario... I told myself I would never get involved with a man with children when I was divorced from my first husband. My two children were already grown. The man I fell in love with had a 12 yr old son. I grew to love that kid like my very own flesh and blood. He was in deep need of a mother since he had not had one since he was two years old and I was happy to step up to the plate! His father and I were divorced this year. My step son was 16 when we separated and just turned 17... I felt like someone had ripped that kid from my arms!! Because he was not my "natural son", there was nothing much I could do in regards to keeping in touch with him as I would have liked to do.(somewhat a conflict of interest was his dads take on that). I would have to give that some MAJOR going over in my mind before I could ever do that again. It could hurt me deeply... and the child too. Not sure this was what you were looking for.... but definately something to ponder for the ladies... and the gentleman.
6/9/2009 7:28:22 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
fnlgal San Angelo, TX age: 42	lipchick... I've lived something very similar to what you are talking about. I married a man with kids (and I had mine). When he left me for another, it was like ripping those children from my heart... I weeped like a baby for almost a year afterwards. My children were also deeply effected.. I had gotten married for life (and I think we all think that way when we first get married) but I think I'm still single today, not because I don't want to take the responsiblity of another woman's child... but also because I have my own to think about. Sometimes I really think that I might stay single until they've all grown. For someone like me, it's not because I don't want to, it's because I know how precious all children are, and sometimes bringing another woman or man into their lives is not always the best decision... I don't know that I've answered your question... but most woman, I would say know how much they could love your child/children... and they are most likely evaluating if it's worth the risk... I hope that makes sense. I don't automatically stay away from a man who's raising his children, ... but I do, without a doubt, stay away from a man who is not there for his children. I say all this because I've lived this - yet I'm willing to try it all again in the name of LOVE - but I'm just a bit more cautious now... when children are in question, decisions have to be made wisely... for they are the ones who end up hurting the most! God bless all our children!
6/9/2009 7:37:05 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
princess_daisy Austin, TX age: 32	I only date men who have kids.. But I have been told that since I have a young child the men run away fast...
6/10/2009 10:27:48 AM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
chat_girl Desoto, TX age: 47	To say you wouldn't date someone because she hadn't given birth is the most shovenistic thing I have ever heard.. some women haven't given birth because God decided they would not.. I am one of those and you can't imagine the pain of not being able to have a child and desperately want one... as far as someone with a child (man) if the mother wasn't in the picture at all would be very appealing to me... But I do believe that one must take into concideration the responsibility.. because you don't just marry the man but his family as well...and you take on any drama going on..
6/10/2009 6:42:13 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
lonely2370 Texarkana, TX age: 39	I would also rather date a man that has kids of his own. I am not against a man that doesn't have any, but I feel a man that does have his own would better understand me and my children. Patience comes with raising kids. But I did have a man tell me the other day that I would never find a man because no man wants a woman with baggage. (talking about my babies.) I won't repeat what I told him.
6/10/2009 7:32:20 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
booboo27tx Beaumont, TX age: 27	Well to answer your question. I think when children are involves caution should be taken. There are so many things that need to be considered. As far running from a man that has children who know what a person’s reason are. There could be millions but all come down to being scared. I personally would not date a man that had children if he was not a great father. To me being a father and a donor are two different things. The same can be said about women. It takes a wonderful person to be a parent. I admire men that are raising their children on their own just as I do women that are. It is not an easy task. It does however make it extremely hard to date someone with kids if there is drama between the children mother and father. People are all so different and complex. Everyone thing a person has went through or experience has shaped them as well as their reasoning for acting the way the do in certain situations. So I’m not sure if I answered your question but hope that that helped some. Thanks Tarah
6/11/2009 1:14:11 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
caviya Millsap, TX age: 51	Quote from chat_girl: To say you wouldn't date someone because she hadn't given birth is the most shovenistic thing I have ever heard.. some women haven't given birth because God decided they would not.. I am one of those and you can't imagine the pain of not being able to have a child and desperately want one... as far as someone with a child (man) if the mother wasn't in the picture at all would be very appealing to me... But I do believe that one must take into concideration the responsibility.. because you don't just marry the man but his family as well...and you take on any drama going on.. I too could ever have children. Many men left me due to that, but I was always honest and upfront before a relationship ever tok place. Yet, so many did not really believe me...duh, and got involved, only to find out it was true then dumped me. So it can go both ways there. As for Chat and myself, it is not our fault we could not have children, and I'm sorry red but that to me was a bit hurtful.
6/19/2009 12:58:56 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
lazyttexas Lovelady, TX age: 47	I have found from experience, one with kids and one without dosen't work. I have dated many women with children as was a outsider. my late wife moved out because her kids didn't like living in the country, she married me knowing where I lived. Ones I dated in the past didn't even want me to meet there kids. Not having kidsy self I figure its a protection thing, if she hs kids she probably doesn't want to share herself with another mans kids out of guilt. JMO
6/19/2009 2:14:44 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
tx_blu_eyz2000 San Antonio, TX age: 42	sometimes also men dont want to date women with kids.they want them already grown and out the door.ihave no problem getting to know a man with kids
6/19/2009 2:23:35 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
cuintexas Baytown, TX age: 48	The only problem I've ever had was a woman wanting to meet my sons too quickly. I couldn't do that because I need to know the person first.
6/20/2009 9:16:02 AM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
lazyttexas Lovelady, TX age: 47	I agree, I have had some that wanted me to meet ther kids first, like they had to do a background check, kikk you in the shins and see what you will do. To wierd. Its like "wheres the door"
6/20/2009 11:30:04 AM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
mrdallas_00 Dallas, TX age: 21	babymama drama
6/20/2009 11:49:41 AM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
kcawood Austin, TX age: 24	kids some times scare women because then it is hard to brake up when you get close to the kid and sometimes feel trapped to stay with the man and then there is the mom of the kid most of the time its awful and a burden te ex is always difficult and hard to work with and around and always feel u have to different than her and prove . i love kids but it is hard be cause i want a kid and do not have one yet.i find it hard to be nice to the ex myself
6/20/2009 1:48:13 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
sweettx75 Wichita Falls, TX age: 22	men that have kids are mostly careing , and sweet and most women are just scrayed most women dont know what they want.
6/20/2009 4:42:37 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
greeneye0516 Katy, TX age: 39	My expiriance is that some womens,who was older then me,has grown kids,and they want time for themself,and I completely respect that,if they tell me in the start what they want.Point of all this discassion is that my kid is allways gonna be on first place,and I'm expecting from Lady's to respect that,same way I respect her,and treat her kids like they are mine.JMO
6/20/2009 5:59:48 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
magicman271 Cushing, TX age: 27	I know what you mean I have 2 boys that are 2&3 I have seen alot of weman look at me and smile but when they see 2 boys in the back seat they are not smiling anymore what's up with that.
6/21/2009 6:29:58 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
lipchick___ Longview, TX age: 48	Quote from lazyttexas: I agree, I have had some that wanted me to meet ther kids first, like they had to do a background check, kikk you in the shins and see what you will do. To wierd. Its like "wheres the door" LmHo! Did you pass...lol?
6/21/2009 8:23:12 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
pawee Waco, TX age: 43	I was not blessed with children of my own.I am blessed with being a pre-school teacher.I hav so much respect and admiration for men who are fathers,especially single dads that hav their children 24-7.Nothing more special to me then a daddy holding their child.
6/21/2009 9:45:55 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
miralysa Converse, TX age: 45	Interesting thread. My problem, no not problem, challenge is that most men do not want nothing to do with me when they find out I have a special needs son. He is 22 years old but mentally he is the age of a 4 year old child. He also has mild cerebral palsy and uses a wheelchair for long distance walking. He is speech impaired but can say some words and others that are not so clear to other people. He is a fighter, we have been through a LOT over the years together. His father wanted me to have an abortion when I found out I was pregnant. Never received a dime. Men will say "I'm sorry for your loss." or "Oh wow. Well, I have to go. Talk to you later." and never hear from them again. I believe that women do the same thing when they find out a father has a child like that as well. We have hopes and dreams and needs just like "normal" parents do. Whoo, thanks, needed to get that off my chest tonight! I happen to not mind dating a man who have children. It is all in the matter whether he an I "click" regarding each other. Sorry for the novel. lol
6/21/2009 10:08:15 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
daate Houston, TX age: 49	What a pig
6/21/2009 10:15:06 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
daate Houston, TX age: 49	Quote from lonely2370: I would also rather date a man that has kids of his own. I am not against a man that doesn't have any, but I feel a man that does have his own would better understand me and my children. Patience comes with raising kids. But I did have a man tell me the other day that I would never find a man because no man wants a woman with baggage. (talking about my babies.) I won't repeat what I told him. What a pig
6/21/2009 10:30:36 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
signme Sutherland Springs, TX age: 58	I love kids...I've been a 1st or 2nd grade teacher for over 30 years now. But sinve I spent so much time with other folk's kids, I never got around to having kids of my own. Noow I would love to be part of a guy's family with kids or grandkids. I still have a lot of love to give. And if he has animals instead of kids, ok I'll take those too. I seem to have a lot of live backpiled and it needs a way to come out.
6/21/2009 10:32:51 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
signme Sutherland Springs, TX age: 58	I love kids...I've been a 1st or 2nd grade teacher for over 30 years now. But since I spent so much time with other folk's kids, I never got around to having kids of my own. Now I would love to be part of a guy's family with kids or grandkids. I still have a lot of love to give. And if he has animals instead of kids, ok I'll take those too. I seem to have a lot of love backpiled and it needs a way to come out. Edited to add: OOPS! dOUBLE pOST! tHAT MEANS MEDS HAVE KICKED IN TONIGHT! lol [Edited 6/21/2009 10:39:18 PM PST]
6/21/2009 10:36:32 PM	Why do women seem to run away from men with children
daate Houston, TX age: 49	Well said