| 11/28/2007 7:58:18 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
qwest
Youngstown, OH
age: 33
| I don't know about most people but I believe that I am a complete person. Whole. some people don't feel like they are complete until they find a person that they can settle down and be with. I do not want a woman who feels that she is not complete with out a man in her life. Because what happens when it doesn't work out? Bitterness, anger, doubts, ect. But the one big thing is learning how to love yourself, by not staying depressed and down. I think is easier to get over if you feel that you are a complete person in the begining. Two halves equal a whole. I go by the saying two heads are better than one. You can't have two heads thinking and striving for one common goal with a two halves. Complete yourself first and then seek another who feels like they are complete too. What do you think?
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| 11/28/2007 8:03:14 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
falcon77
Eugene, OR
age: 42
| Qwest....I think you are right on the mark. Well said.
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| 11/28/2007 8:07:41 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 52
| I agree with you I think you need to love yourself first before you can love soneone else and when that happens I think it is nice to have someone to share it with. These last 3 years have been so hard for me with my husbands health and his death so I have been healing to and now I am at peace with myself and I want to share with other people and to be with people again but most of all I want someone I can talk to and to be my best friend first because you have to be friends to really love someone. Do I make any sense I don't know but to me that feels right.
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| 11/28/2007 8:10:02 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
zzjonze
Springfield, MO
age: 54
| I agree qwest.
I'm not looking for my "better-half" or "soul-mate" my soul is already taken by a higher power already and I'm to old now for a better-half.
Trying to change someone to fit their program is an exercise in frutility.
I just have to travel my own road hoping to bump into someone that is compatible.
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| 11/28/2007 8:31:20 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
qwest
Youngstown, OH
age: 33
| Thanks for posting. I am glad to see that their are others out there that feel the same as I do about this topic.
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| 11/28/2007 8:39:53 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
michiganfarmer
Kingsley, MI
age: 38
| Qwest, I think you have a good theory. It make sence, but it also seems kinda sterile, and uncaring too. Mabey you dont mean it to sound that way.
There are some lonely people out there though, and if they can find someone who matches them I think they should jump at the chance to be happy.
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| 11/28/2007 8:40:10 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
qwest
Youngstown, OH
age: 33
| kfab, sorry to hear about your loss. I just think that when it comes to relationships people are looking for a fantasy. Two halves equaling a whole is a fantasy. If i seen that in real life I would be a running ass. But two individual working for one common goal is more reality. Most force themselves to believe in that or want that because they do not want to deal with the responsibility of being responsible for how they feel, so some would rather put that off on someone else. Be strong babe, You are complete and working on your growth as a woman everyday.
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| 11/28/2007 8:45:53 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
qwest
Youngstown, OH
age: 33
| I did not mean it to sound harsh. I'm just saying how can you love others if you do not first know how to love yourself. The love or the happiness is always depended on something or someone else. If you can not show others how you want to be loved then you will except their version of what love is and sometimes it is enough and other times it is not.
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| 11/28/2007 8:49:53 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
angelleyess
Middleboro, MA
age: 35
| i said just that in another thread but in differnt words... ur right the person should be happy with his or her life and self before intering a relationship. it makes it all the more amazing when u do find someone speacial
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| 11/28/2007 8:51:12 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 42
| I feel I am complete and whole myself - I would like to find a person that I can share my whole self with and they can do the same with me. You have to be a complete person alone before you enter into a relationship with another person.
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| 11/28/2007 8:54:20 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
qwest
Youngstown, OH
age: 33
| I believe you two ladies are right. Be happy with yoursleves before you can expect other to do the same.  Good job, I appreciate the responses
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| 11/28/2007 8:57:39 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
dragonflys
Saint James, MO
age: 47
| Hey there angel...good to cya...and yeah, you can't love anyone without loving yourself. Being dependent on someone else to complete you is a RED FLAG...that tells me that person has no confidence or self-esteem. I can't see them being happy with someone else if they can't be happy with themselves first. It has to come from within to come out....."To thine ownself be true."
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| 11/28/2007 9:17:36 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
bamarose
Sterrett, AL
age: 39
| I feel I'm a complete person. Don't want someone to come in and make my life "better", but someone to enhance what it already is. You know, someone to share things with. 
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| 11/28/2007 9:43:35 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
skunkbreath
Saint James, MO
age: 89
| You may be correct for those who are "complete"...
But, for the majority of us who are fractured, with pieces missing, there just isn't enough time to put them back together, so i have begun a search for other fractured off parts and how to collect enough to do the job using the framework of bigamy. Get enough fractured parts together and sometin resembling a whole/complete is bound to come together....
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| 11/28/2007 10:32:10 AM | why are people looking for their better halves? | |
candy66
Cheshire
United Kingdom
age: 42
| I am complete as myself and single, but would be fun to meeat someone else but not an essential part of my life. I am happy, confident, financially stable and got great kids, grandchild. Love life even with all the problems been thrown at myself and my family the last few years. Especially the problems with my grandchilds health, but still happy, content as my own person.
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