| 11/28/2007 7:46:13 PM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 41
| So true emt and Looker, You never know...One of my best friends from highschool party's at the same club you do. 
xoxoPeaches.
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| 11/28/2007 7:49:26 PM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
emt854
Appleton, WI
age: 54
| You lost me there peaches? Parties at the same club?
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| 11/28/2007 7:49:57 PM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
libraliz
South Bend, IN
age: 54
| Hating others takes too much energy and is not worth all of the extra stress. Forgive and move on. "They" are not worth it. Life is too short to experience anger.
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| 11/28/2007 7:50:59 PM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
emt854
Appleton, WI
age: 54
| One thing that has always helped me was believing things happen for a reason so deal with it
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| 11/28/2007 7:53:36 PM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 41
| Sorry emt, that part was for Looker lol....but, Yea I was agreeing with what you said also. 
xoxoPeaches.
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| 11/28/2007 8:02:28 PM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
eroticartist
White Plains, NY
age: 49
| I lost my hate months ago...a good friend here talked with me and cleared my head and also helped heal my heart
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| 11/28/2007 8:19:43 PM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
eric5150
Ben Wheeler, TX
age: 24
| Wow, this is actually a thread worth thinking about.
Hate is an emotion that is secondary Which means, It does not happen at random
in the mentaly stable. Love is why we hate. This is because Love what what started
the whole thing. Love, unlike hate, can be primary. A perosn can love someone they have never met before. No, not IN love. But love has an ability to infiltrate. Hate is the
faster emotion But, it is not the stronger. Hate is the abandonment of love.
what is Greed? the love of Money. What is Lust? the love of physical pleassure.
what is Pride? the love of ones self. Love has a connection to everything.
From a relationship standpoint, Love can be devastating. The following is a stretch. So bear with me. Terrorisim, what is it? well it's goal is to obviously inflict terror.
However, how did it start? in religious cases, someone did something that greatly violates the religions premise. the first love was the deity the religion encompassed.
so, the love was violated. Hate followed. I do believe though that modern terrorisim is NOTHING more than a front for a greedy sect of people.
back to the more local issue. How CAN you move on when you carry hate and hurt? do we let it go? the answer some of you want is yes. the true answer is no. If it was possible to get rid of hurt, we would do it ASAP. However, you cant. Everytime you "get over" someone, you have really just repressed the feelings. to truly get rid of this pain and this hurt. You MUST LOVE again. I am not talking get married the next day. but, Realize that pain is a part of life which molds you. We all have some hate of something. Child molesters, liars, rapists, (I hate garden gnomes personally)but how many of you have lied? the part about not letting another in? that is fear. Fear is one of our most powerful emotions. It can elicit great things or, Atrocities. We must all realize our own humanity. We must realize our greatest of powers, love, as the saving grace of us all. ...every time.
"to err is human, to Forgive, divine"
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| 11/28/2007 8:27:16 PM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
looker19622
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 45
| I'll try to catch you tomorrow....goodnight!
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| 11/29/2007 4:04:17 AM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
huckleberrysqr
Renton, WA
age: 39
| This is really a great thread. It's made me do some thinking myself. When I divorced, I had alot of hurt and anger built up. So many years of her verbally abusing me, belittling me, and trying to make me feel as if I was nothing but a fat, useless piece of shit really took a toll on me emotionally.
But I've realized that I still care about her enough to want her to find happiness. I just realized that happiness would never be with me. So I've forgiven her, and am working hard at building the life that I know I deserve. There will come a day I hope that I find that person that truly deserves this big ol' teddy bear.
Thanks for a thread that got me thinking, it made my morning.
Hugs,
Rick
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| 11/29/2007 10:41:27 AM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
cats43injax
Jacksonville, FL
age: 44
| Eric, for such a young guy, you are one deep thinker! I really liked your post! Bravo!
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| 11/29/2007 11:15:25 AM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
yellowroom
Grand Island, NE
age: 47 online now!
| I think I had to use hate as the tool to move on from my marriage. I had to
get really angry and deal with that to make my feeble mind know that it was over.
Once I got through with that (which took some time), I let it go and now am ready
to move on..
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| 11/29/2007 11:26:02 PM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 41
| I'm really glad that you all liked this. I was really feeling it last night when I wrote it, I know I'm not on much right now but, I do want you to know that I care and I'm thinking of you. May the happiness you deserve come to you soon.
xoxoPeaches.
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| 11/29/2007 11:49:58 PM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
ixmyheart
Amarillo, TX
age: 26
| peaches you have to pray about it and then put it up on the shelf and let god take care of it. I also have been through hell, but I say to my self if your going through hell keep on movin you might get out before the devil even knows your there.
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| 11/30/2007 12:23:54 AM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
pickyguy
Ramona, CA
age: 50
| thankyou 4 this nice thread Peaches,you are right that hatred blinds us,until we can let go our hatred keeps us from living our lives to their fullest.we will keep attracting the thing we hate till we let it go....
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| 11/30/2007 5:12:02 AM | It makes me Wonder....... | |
jojo1nonly
Waco, TX
age: 31
| The answer to your question! like everything in life, answers to most situations are SIMPLE!
Let Go....
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