| 6/30/2009 4:18:20 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | | 
loyalandtrue41
Memphis, TN
age: 41
| You know i think that a lot of relationships end and don`t last long is because we are so quick to rush into one without really getting to know the person see in reality i think you have to be friends before you can be anything else and i believe it`s only because we are not really able to last without having someone in our lives to have sex with to be able to call our own but thats really being selfish to ourselves and it`s not really giving us time to really find that special someone who is really right for us i think a great friendship makes a wonderful relationship that will last long term like all of us are really looking for with love committment and something thats solid i know that nobody want`s to be alone but with a little time and patience you will find the one for you cause remember it`s somebody out there for everybody.
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| 6/30/2009 4:25:45 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
ironmuscle
Santa Cruz, CA
age: 33
| You know i think that a lot of relationships end and don`t last long is because we are so quick to rush into one without really getting to know the person see in reality i think you have to be friends before you can be anything else and i believe it`s only because we are not really able to last without having someone in our lives to have sex with to be able to call our own but thats really being selfish to ourselves and it`s not really giving us time to really find that special someone who is really right for us i think a great friendship makes a wonderful relationship that will last long term like all of us are really looking for with love committment and something thats solid i know that nobody want`s to be alone but with a little time and patience you will find the one for you cause remember it`s somebody out there for everybody.
I agree.....people are very co-dependent and have a destabilizing fear of being alone. I was talking to a friend about this yesterday. Sometimes people will even write-off obvious signs that the person isn't right and will still continue the relationship.
[Edited 6/30/2009 4:27:56 PM PST]
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| 6/30/2009 4:51:17 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 35
| Damn OP that's one helluva long sentence with tons of run ons LMAO 
I tried reading it twice but could never get past the middle section... Anyway lmao
With respect to your thread title; I don't think relationships don't last because of not being friends first. All my relationships didn't start off with the so called friends first. In my opinion, both men and women really know if they want to try and pursue a relationship with each other moments from meeting. People know what they want and really want to do.
The friends first thing allows for people to have options on the side so they can put the person they date the most in the friend zone should the person find someone better. This happens plenty of times - although not in every instance.
Too, in order to make relationships last for a long time, BOTH people must be on the same page as far as what they are looking for in a relationship. This is critical. Often times, one party is looking for one thing, and the other party is looking for something else. Too, one party usually catches feelings faster and this can also throw a monkey wrench in the program. But as long as both are on the same wavelength, this is just one area needed to make a relationship last for a long time.
Moreover, both must be in it for unconditional reasons, consistent positive energy and actions, supportive through the good and adverse times, no ulterior motives, no BS phone or mental games, no deceit/lies/drama issues, bad attitudes, mental problems, bitterness from past, ugly skeletons that creep out after 3 months, total 360 degree turns after 3-6 months, throwing in the towel too quick over minor trivial stuff that are not detrimental in the first place because everyone has minor flaws....
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| 6/30/2009 5:57:46 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
01beth
Athens, AL
age: 44
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I totally agree that some people disregard obvious signs just to stay in a relationship. I don't have a problem with being in a relationship, but I am also not afraid to alone. Being friends first can be a great thing, but it doesn't mean the relationship will last forever.
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| 6/30/2009 6:46:46 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 45
| Lack of communication is a killer too.
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| 6/30/2009 7:22:14 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
polefrog
Harriman, TN
age: 53
| Lack of communication is a killer too. What she said.
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| 7/1/2009 1:58:36 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
easydaddy2loveu
Dayton, OH
age: 40
| i think alot of relationships dont last cause because 1 or both parties go into the relation with a list of a,b,c etc through x,y,z and 1,2 etc to 25,26 things that they wont do. (inihibitions not all of which are meant to be sexual) and yet they went in saying well "im open minded". when the reality is when you find the person you want for the rest of your life. it is a commitment to that person to help feed their dreams in and out of the bedroom. personally im afraid of heights but if my mate wanted to have dinner in the spaceneedle. id say well i guess ill just have to pack an extra set of underwear when you wanna go? i know the most common arguement in most relationships is finances and while that may contribute i believe the break in communication began when the first 1 told the other "no i wont do that not even for you"
we should all prepared to put into the relationship exactly what we need out of it and expext nothing less than that in return. never ask anything of our partners that we wont do ourselves. i believe this is the difference between couples who have been married 50+ years and couples who have divorced after 2.
if you think im wrong tell me...
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| 7/1/2009 2:48:17 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
debbie5
Killeen, TX
age: 52
| It is true that you must be friends to have a great relationship.
I also think that relationships don't last because in the dating stage
too many people pretend to be what they think the other person wants
them to be and when they're not it's over. Keep it real, keep it true,
be yourself and dreams come true!! 
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| 7/1/2009 2:52:31 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
marqeye
Kent, OH
age: 33
| Um you make a strong friendship and it last's for a very long time, but you have to be honest and some people just can't do that!
[Edited 7/1/2009 2:55:50 AM PST]
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| 7/1/2009 3:34:23 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
age: 62
| You really 41 years old??... ever hear of using punctuation as you compose a letter?? anyway--you have some nice ideas--but you can't MAKE stuff happen--you have to WORK at it--you BOTH have to work at making a relationship stronger every day. Its like making a cable--one thread at a time--until it cannot be broken. Of course you should be BEST FRIENDS. Best friends make the best couples.
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| 7/1/2009 3:37:00 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
rodneyg668
Seattle, WA
age: 36
| Quote from th6231:"You really 41 years old??... ever hear of using punctuation as you compose a letter?? anyway--you have some nice ideas--but you can't MAKE stuff happen--you have to WORK at it--you BOTH have to work at making a relationship stronger every day. Its like making a cable--one thread at a time--until it cannot be broken. Of course you should be BEST FRIENDS. Best friends make the best couples.
Have you heard of proper punctuation and capitalization? At 61 none the less!
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| 7/1/2009 3:51:17 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
age: 62
| Quote from th6231:"You really 41 years old??... ever hear of using punctuation as you compose a letter?? anyway--you have some nice ideas--but you can't MAKE stuff happen--you have to WORK at it--you BOTH have to work at making a relationship stronger every day. Its like making a cable--one thread at a time--until it cannot be broken. Of course you should be BEST FRIENDS. Best friends make the best couples.
Have you heard of proper punctuation and capitalization? At 61 none the less! God--a back woods english teacher--oh well--HI to you and have a happy weekend--its finally here--a fun weekend for all. be safe.
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| 7/1/2009 3:52:19 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
rodneyg668
Seattle, WA
age: 36
| Thanks I will, but I don't live in the backwoods and the only reason I said something was that you were being critical of someone's English.  Have a good day!
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| 7/1/2009 3:58:18 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
age: 62
| Thanks I will, but I don't live in the backwoods and the only reason I said something was that you were being critical of someone's English. Have a good day!
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| 7/1/2009 4:01:17 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
rodneyg668
Seattle, WA
age: 36
| Later, be safe and well!
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| 7/1/2009 12:15:33 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
elanabanana
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 26
| HOT TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP LAST FOREVER:
Stick it in the freezer. 
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| 7/1/2009 12:28:10 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
yellowroom
Grand Island, NE
age: 48
| Moisturize!!!!
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| 7/1/2009 12:30:47 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 47
| You really 41 years old??... ever hear of using punctuation as you compose a letter?? anyway--you have some nice ideas--but you can't MAKE stuff happen--you have to WORK at it--you BOTH have to work at making a relationship stronger every day. Its like making a cable--one thread at a time--until it cannot be broken. Of course you should be BEST FRIENDS. Best friends make the best couples.
hahahaha... I was going to give him an award for the longest sentence in HISTORY!!!!
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| 7/1/2009 3:00:45 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
buckmasterbob
Clearfield, PA
age: 26
| You must be honest,caring and respectful of the other person. Also be able to communicate and just enjoy life. Have a great day!!
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| 7/1/2009 3:03:06 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
bella2020
Lebanon, OH
age: 48
| What he said
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| 7/1/2009 3:06:41 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
oceandive
Cartersville, GA
age: 52
| capitol "C" for communication,,,,of course nobody should listen to me since i'm on an internet site prowling for a date after my last relationship exploded.... 
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| 7/1/2009 3:13:51 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
brockr23
Chandler, AZ
age: 34
| Does anyone ever consider that relationships maybe shouldn't last forever?
The life expectancy is considerably longer in modern times than it was even as early as 100 years ago, never mind when so many of the tales of eternal love were written about.
The forever relationship to me is a romanticized ideal.
Does that mean that two people cannot be in a loving, lasting relationship? Absolutely not.
First thing first though, if a person wants a relationship to have a solid foundation and a chance at "forever", then one must enter into the relationship free of false faces.
The only chance at forever is if the truth about who you are as an individual is on display from the start, and is reciprocated by the other.
Everything else, all the work that comes with a relationship, is for no purpose if either person was at all dishonest about their persona.
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| 7/2/2009 5:33:52 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
luxuryme2
Flint, MI
age: 46
| I agree on a lot of things that everyone is saying,to me if a couple doesn't put GOD in there life and relationship there is no way that the relationship is going to ever.ever last.And as for the friends thing, yes you can become friends first but people now of days use friends as a key to still do what they want and still see you too.Lady's if a man say that you are his friend dont have intimate relationship with him until you is his mate. unless thats what you are looking for.
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| 7/2/2009 5:43:30 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
roz09
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 49
| Building a friendship is important. Honesty, trust, respect and friendship is a good foundation in forming a healthy relationship. Some people have so much to hide, have hidden agendas and expect from others what they are unable or unwilling to give. This eventually comes out and becomes a stumbling block.
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| 7/2/2009 5:50:56 AM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
lovesillusion
Moab, UT
age: 26
| i would have to agree.... everyone has this preconceived visual of what their perfect mate will be like...... well eventually people really just get tired of waiting so they pic the closest with the closest outter shell and they try to change everything else about them into what they wanted to begin with. and you can't change people, if people change it is simply because they want to for themselves... and i think that is the biggest mistake ever!
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| 7/2/2009 8:06:14 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
browneyes46_3
Houston, TX
age: 46
| If we put God in our relationships and you right you must be friends first!!
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| 7/2/2009 8:09:50 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
sea__1
Mesa, AZ
age: 56
| Gots to start off with substance and a foundation first then everything else will follow......Sea
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| 7/2/2009 8:33:08 PM | Relationships and how to make it last forever | |
bowlove
Morristown, TN
age: 29
| Love - Trust - Respect - a nice Dimond  & a pretty white Dress
" Tell me "
Tell me what you want ,
I will give you what you need .
Just ask once ,
you don't have to plead .
I just want you ,
here in my arms .
I promise to be true ,
I will keep you away from harm .
If ever you feel sad ,
please don't cry .
I will make you glad ,
if you let me try .
I can't give you the stars or the moon ,
because they are to far away .
But I can love you all afternoon ,
I will love you everyday .
You mean the world to me ,
you always give me a good thought .
Now I can see ,
I'm glad it's you I saught .
by RMD. 6-30-2009
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