| 7/3/2009 6:52:21 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | | 
kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 55
| | 1. Hot & Sensual | | 2. Business attire | | 3. Casual | | 4. Come as your are |
First get-togethers are usually a drink, coffee, lunch or dinner. How do you prefer them to be attired and what is your favorite 1st-time outfit? Do you prefer showing them who you are or who you could be? Turn them on or let them know who you are most comfortable being?
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| 7/3/2009 6:56:49 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
trev_42
Laverne, OK
age: 43
| I prefer them to be Hot & Sensual expecially on the first date!
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| 7/3/2009 6:58:16 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
curvesahead70
Saint Petersburg, FL
age: 39
| I put hot and sensual but I am told I tend to dress that way most of the time...so more of a come as you are at the same time.
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| 7/3/2009 6:59:45 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 30 online now!
| I say come as you are, I don't want to meet, what you are not...
that to me is lying
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| 7/3/2009 7:01:49 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 37
| Depends on the venue really.
Day time I go business casual.
Evening I'll try my best to put on the Ritz and
make him feel all warm and cozy.
I like to save the hot and sensual for behind closed doors.
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| 7/3/2009 7:02:56 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
ladybugbp
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 51
| To me, clothes don't show who a person is or who they could be.
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| 7/3/2009 7:04:45 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 55
| I'm a come as you are kind of guy. I like the dinner jacket look, but it is rather difficult to engineer a formal occassion for a 1st meet without looking too desparate.
[Edited 7/3/2009 7:04:57 PM PST]
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| 7/3/2009 7:05:01 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
trev_42
Laverne, OK
age: 43
| To me, clothes don't show who a person is or who they could be.
Are you saying go on first date nude...
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| 7/3/2009 7:06:33 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 58
| Come as you are  What you see is what you get  
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| 7/3/2009 7:10:02 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 55
| Unless one is drop-dead gorgeous/handsome, I would think that the minimum price of admission to a new relationship is the effort to look ones best, whatever one thinks that is. If one only gets one time to make a first imnpression, why not make it a good one? We can dissappoint, later.
How can one go wrong with the little black dress?
[Edited 7/3/2009 7:23:26 PM PST]
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| 7/3/2009 7:23:59 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
cinthianna01
Goshen, IN
age: 30
| Clean, venue appropriate attire and makeup.
It's never failed me yet.
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| 7/3/2009 7:25:33 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
torisdad
Louisville, KY
age: 41
| I'm a laid back easy going guy so I'm usually casual.
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| 7/3/2009 7:27:27 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
going4broke08
Cape Coral, FL
age: 34
| I work from home so I always wear jeans & a t shirt that's the way I would go to the get together. It would be better if I showed who I was and not pretend to be someone I am not.
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| 7/3/2009 7:29:15 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 55
| Like this? (Torisdad)
[Edited 7/3/2009 7:30:09 PM PST]
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| 7/3/2009 7:38:05 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
catseyes2
Elk Grove Village, IL
age: 39
| I say come as you are, I don't want to meet, what you are not...
that to me is lying
Always be who you are and not who you are not.
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| 7/3/2009 7:54:49 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 41
| I am always me. I am not showing up in my cleaning attire. My hair will be done, my makeup on and I will look nice, but not going to be any different than if I were going out with friends.
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| 7/3/2009 7:56:31 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
polefrog
Harriman, TN
age: 53
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| 7/3/2009 8:15:22 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
summer4us
New London, CT
age: 52
| # 3 for coffee
# 2 for diner
# 1 for fun
# 4 for bed 
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| 7/3/2009 8:16:18 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
lovesillusion
Moab, UT
age: 26
| it would depend on the situation, if it was a "lets grab coffee after work" then it would be business, because that is how i dress for work. when i am just hanging out at home i usually wear jogging pants and a hoodie (winter) or basketball shorts and a tanktop or t shirt..... usually around town i'm in jeans or some comfortable fit pants...... so depends on the time and what we are doing...... (i would rather fish or hike or something to that measure
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| 7/3/2009 11:09:28 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48
| depends on where you meet
if it is a books and coffee shop.. jeans and high heels and nice shirt
if it is a nice up scale restaurant, i can go high dress or nice pants suit
if it is at a park for fun, casual jeans and t'shirt and sandals or if we ride bikes there tennis shoes
depends where you meet
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| 7/3/2009 11:25:56 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
katrinasq
Fort Smith, AR
age: 40
| I picked business attire because it was the closest to what I do. Business casual is probably closer to what I prefer for both people. I like to dress up and look nice, and what better time to do that than a first date? I always do my makeup and hair, and have my nails and toes done. I feel better when I know I look my best. I do this for work every day, too, so doing it for a date is not making myself look different from how I normally look. I don't generally leave the house in my cleaning or lawn clothes.
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| 7/3/2009 11:29:08 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
viand
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 47
| Casual is fine. I'd rather know who they are than what they have in their wardrobe.
Viand
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| 7/3/2009 11:31:27 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
midnightgambler
Memphis, TN
age: 32
| Blah I don't know. I would feel like I "have" to be dressed up more than I personally like. I like being extremely laid back and casual. I even wear shorts basically every day of the year even if it;'s snowing unless I have to be soemwhere where it would be a bad idea to be that dressed down. lol
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| 7/3/2009 11:33:40 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
viand
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 47
| Kinky,
I'm trying to picture it and I think that little black dress would suit you well on a first date. At least they'd know you had a sense of humor. What kind of shoes would you wear with it and would you accessorize?
Just Kidding!!
Viand
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| 7/4/2009 3:35:13 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
oceandive
Cartersville, GA
age: 52
| decent,,,,will probably even put on a bra.....
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| 7/4/2009 5:35:02 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
suzeq103
Purcellville, VA
age: 53
| As my profile states, I am no frills, low maintenance woman. And I tend to tell the truth in my profile with no hidden agenda. Coffee at Starbucks or take out coffee from somewhere and a walk through a park are what I prefer for the first meeting. I dress casual, jeans and sneaks. Very casual dinner is also acceptable to me. What you are wearing should be clean and comfortable, because I'll be nervous enough.
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| 7/4/2009 5:37:56 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
aeacus
Dundalk, MD
age: 45
| I do prefer a more relaxed environment...so, I'd say casual. Right now being summer...I try to choose first date locations that are casual...tiki bar at the harbor, waterside park, outdoor malls, outdoor fests, etc...shorts, jeans, etc. are more appropriate.
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| 7/4/2009 6:10:27 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
lilmissala1957
Hartselle, AL
age: 52
| I like the casual thing myself. That way you are both comfortable. I do try to look my best even then. But I am me and don't change even for a first meeting. Looking my best means clean, neat and a huge smile.
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| 7/4/2009 6:28:26 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
moraldk325
State College, PA
age: 45
| It all looks the same when it's in a pile next to the bed.
I'm a jeans and t-shirt kinda guy. I'm beyond the need to be uncomfortable just to impress anyone.
My idea of "dressing up" is a button down shirt over top of a colored wifebeater with the sleeves rolled up and a pair of shoes, instead of boots. I keep a goretex shell in the back seat in case it rains. All I have to do is shake off the dog hair, and I'm ready for whatever happens.
I'm not interested in the limitations imposed by "high fashion".
I have gone from an expensive resteraunt to a caving expedition, comfortably without changing clothes. Try that in a suit.
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| 7/4/2009 6:34:45 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
destynea
Indianapolis, IN
age: 69
| I prefer casual, because that best shows who I am. I live in shorts, capris, jeans and casual tops. I prefer the first meet to be somewhere where I can just be me. A park, mall, or somewhere else where we can just have a look at each other and a short time together. I wouldn't say come as you are, 'cause I don't know what that might be.
I don't consider the first meet to be a date. Just a look-see.
When a man shows up in a suit, dressed to the nines, unless he is coming from the office, it makes him appear to be trying too hard. I like a man in casual dress.
If a person is hot and sensual, that will come through no matter how they are dressed.
Dressing too sexy for a first meet (for a woman)also looks like trying too hard.
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| 7/4/2009 7:01:34 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
lovesillusion
Moab, UT
age: 26
| no matter what i wear it is who i am! i would have to say i personally don't buy stuff that don't fit my personality!
and i do well with pulling any look off  hehehehe..... it goes by moods, i could be all grungy under a car helping someone rip it apart, but i clean up nice too and i feel comfortable any way you turn....
and i make my own sexiness! i don't need clothes to do it for me
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| 7/4/2009 9:18:35 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 55
| decent,,,,will probably even put on a bra.....
Don't have to put on a bra (or panties) for moi.
Kinky,
I'm trying to picture it and I think that little black dress would suit you well on a first date. At least they'd know you had a sense of humor. What kind of shoes would you wear with it and would you accessorize?
Just Kidding!!
Viand
Sense of humnor and Fabuolus Legs!
I would accessorizew with a fun-loving bimbette, of course.
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| 7/4/2009 9:25:37 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 47 online now!
| Well, I picked number one, but I like to go with a retro/vintage vibe if I can pull it off. I prefer being overdressed to being underdressed.
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| 7/4/2009 10:24:42 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
ladyeden
Waynesville, MO
age: 49
| Clean, well groomed - titty sack on jes' cause it's special - but casual.
Save the high buff, all dolled up and purdy lingere for the right ocassion to dazzle.
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| 7/4/2009 10:39:49 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
celtics12
Holbrook, MA
age: 31
| Dress appriorate for the situation. Most of my first date / meetings are at casual places. So I might wear T-shirt and jeans.
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| 7/4/2009 10:42:32 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
luv2bum
Milwaukee, WI
age: 44
| I like to look good for myself....I said hot and sensual....because that is the real me. I can dress down and look just as good, with no problem!
[Edited 7/4/2009 10:44:10 AM PST]
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| 7/4/2009 12:26:18 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
kinseil
Matteson, IL
age: 30
| I'd like her to be casual so I can keep my cool. 
But I like to be the Hot & Sensual one to have the edge 
That way I feel more confident. And confidence as many women have told me...is attractive. 
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| 7/4/2009 3:36:53 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
nemalady
Braintree, MA
age: 36
| It depends on the venue, the time of year, and my schedule. On a nice summer day, I might wear a sundress. When the weather is cooler, I would probably wear a sweater with jeans. I might wear "business casual" to a date when I'm going there straight from work and didn't have time to change. Then I would probably wear a button down shirt with slacks or a skirt.
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| 7/4/2009 3:52:24 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 55
| Do we go for what WE think makes us look GOOD or just with what we would wear meeting a "bud" from work, for a cool one?
Are we intgerested in making an iompression or just covering our bods? Personally, I think if one doesn't make an effort on the 1st meet, they probably are telling me, "this is as good as it gets". Of course we arfe clean and smelling good but I woulkd think gals with cute butts wear tight skirts or jeans and those with nice headlights find a way to flash them.
As a middle-aged guy, in decent shape, I won't try to compete with a 22 year-old bodybuilder and would tend to reflect my "SWAAAAVE and deboner" and be flexible enough to escalate from Starbucks to The Palm, by wearing grown-up men's wear.
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| 7/5/2009 10:27:25 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
iamalwaysjustme
Olathe, KS
age: 50
| I prefer come as you are , nothing like the real thing  A man doesn't have to dress up for me , they look hot in the jeans they are in
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| 7/5/2009 11:09:58 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
bassguy1966
Pepperell, MA
age: 43
| Casual all the way for me. Nice jeans, and nice T or polo. Dressing up is for special occasions, and those come later when I get to know someone first.
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| 7/5/2009 5:38:53 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 55
| I love going naked and backing in to the room as a Parker House roll, but Jeans and a T? What is the impression you're trying to make for her to want to move forward. Maybe next time, shoes?
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| 7/5/2009 5:56:51 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
seabiscuit1
Waterbury, CT
age: 59
| It depends on the venue but would dress a little above
what is called for. Personally I would be impressed if the
women I was meeting put forth a little extra effort that it
would be evident.
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| 7/5/2009 6:03:07 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
bmoreyoungfella
Gwynn Oak, MD
age: 20
| i say come as u r i wear what i would were any other tyme i go outside but i might have to put a little smell good on for he to think about when she leaves lol
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| 7/5/2009 6:05:24 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
sundanceforu
Grantsburg, WI
age: 38
| Casual all the way..And always real
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| 7/5/2009 6:06:12 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
mistymay77
Newnan, GA
age: 32
| I think I would want to be comfortable on a first date and would prefer to dress casual. I would like him to get to know me and not be distracted by what I am wearing.
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| 7/5/2009 6:49:35 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
ladyvirtue123
Magalia, CA
age: 53
| I dress nice everyday no matter what I am doing or where I am going..it's just me..I enjoy looking nice all the time, a girlie girl..I appreciate the man I date to look nice and neat..smell clean and just look well groomed all the way around..it also depends upon where we are meeting up..but no matter where, count on me looking my best..
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| 7/5/2009 6:51:56 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
ladyvirtue123
Magalia, CA
age: 53
| To me, clothes don't show who a person is or who they could be.
Really? Then if you see a transient with dirty torn clothes on that would not tell you anything about that person?..how about someone who wears expensive diamonds and name brand clothing? No difference?..I am not bashing, I was amazed at the comment that's all..
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| 7/5/2009 6:52:53 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 48
| I think a clean shirt, tie, jacket and matching slacks are appropriate.
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| 7/5/2009 6:54:07 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
insulting
Houston, TX
age: 42
| Hot and sensual for them
Speedo and nipple clamps for me.
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| 7/5/2009 7:00:59 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
clownkilla
Sarasota, FL
age: 39
| I can look f**king hot wearing a fishnet shirt and poop stained white daisy duke shorts!Your you can't cover this much sexiness even in a raincoat clown.
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| 7/5/2009 11:13:37 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
faithfulways
Raleigh, NC
age: 39
| I would like to dress nice when I go out on my first date. I love jeans and t-shirt and I love good in that also. I believe in looking nice when I go out. I hope they take pride in how they are dress and I hope they believe in taking a bath. I love a man that dress real nice and smell good. I am sorry, I look at how a person dress.
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| 7/5/2009 11:39:40 PM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
mmilesg
Lima, OH
age: 32
| Definitely come as you are. I don't need to be impressed. In fact, keep your glasses on and leave the contacts in the medicine cabinet. Don't change clothes thinking I won't like the shirt you are wearing unless it is way out of style and is needing to be burned for some odd reason or another. If you dress all up and try and turn me on, I came with my head spinning as it was, but I was wanting to ask questions, talk and get to know one another. Fun and games in this hand or really wanting to know someone in the other. I choose really wanting to know them.
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| 7/6/2009 7:56:02 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
moraldk325
State College, PA
age: 45
| Really? Then if you see a transient with dirty torn clothes on that would not tell you anything about that person?..how about someone who wears expensive diamonds and name brand clothing? No difference?..I am not bashing, I was amazed at the comment that's all..
There are plenty of complete a**holes running around in diamonds and name brand clothing.
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| 7/6/2009 8:04:35 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 46
| well for myself I am not all into trying to make a BIG impression on someone...like me for whom I am OR don't like me at all...
If a person cannot handle me the way I am which isn't all sloppy or anything then I don't want them anyways...
I'd say casual, come as you are is more like myself...
I've met a person in a park think I'm gonna come there all decked out in a long formal dress...
I'm met a person in a casual restaurant think I'm gonna come dress to kill...
I've met a person on the street corner think I'm gonna wear a damn suit...
I seriously have NO preferences on a persons dress they can come in as a bum and if I like their insides I'll still like them I've seen some damn HOT dudes all dirty and stuff...suits are YUCKKY to me...unless there is some event that needs that.
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| 7/6/2009 8:11:09 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
yourfriendbob
Fayette, OH
age: 55
| There are plenty of complete a**holes running around in diamonds and name brand clothing.
Exactly!
And at least one old gent I know who's got more money than God, but wears bib overalls with patches on them when he's playing on his farms up here. When the women who don't know any better turn up their noses at him, he laughs it off and then lives in his OTHER place in Baja all Winter, sailing and golfing.
(and there always seems to be plenty of girls catching sun by his pool)...
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| 7/6/2009 8:13:11 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
wisegirl33
Queensland
Australia
age: 45
| Firstly, take a look at the statement of this thread.
* "Looking your best" - implies to me that someone wear their finest clothing and there is nothing wrong with that, but there is a place and time for everything - and formal evening wear is not suitable in most environments - but each to their own.
* Secondly, "who you are" implies that you "can only be one thing" at any one time and that "what you wear all the time" somehow gives the observer a direct visual clue as to "what your personality/character is". This is not good thinking at all. Would you know that someone loves classical music if you saw them in sporting clothing or jeans all the time ? No.
** If a woman wore pants all the time, would you assume she is "manly" or possibly a lesbian just because she wore pants for her employment ? NO.
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I say that with some people, "clothing" is most definitely a part of their identity and they wear clothing to "prove or validate" to the world, aspects of their personality and or/ even character. Celebrities mostly do this and don't we love to see what celebrities wear ?
To do this to the average person - is a stupid means of stereotyping.
But for the average consumer or office worker who holds a regular job, what ever it is; I believe that we stupidly assume too much. I have worn office type of clothing when I have worked in an office type of environment and dressed more casually when I go shopping - I don't put on clothing to make a statement about my identity - but I know that some people do.
Both are really Ok. I think that we judge too much by a persons appearance today, and need to realise that the only "decent" is a clean person.
Personally, I am a very casual but presentable person and this feels good for me at this time of my life. I dont care what others' think of me, if I wear only pants in a school environment for example (I am a teacher after all).
My opinion is as above. It takes all types of people to make the world go around. And too many short sighted assumptions and attempts to keep projecting "how we believe others' should be," simply (to judge them), by what they are wearing.
Stop judging other people too much and we will all be better off.
wisegirl33 - 7 July 2009 at 118am Aest
Edit at 120am Aest
[Edited 7/6/2009 8:14:22 AM PST]
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| 7/6/2009 8:17:45 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
wisegirl33
Queensland
Australia
age: 45
| Hello to you Bob and yes, I also agree and believe that there are people out there who don't get all dressed up and who have a lot of money (thereby agreeing with Morald) and who don't need to flaunt it.
Regards and hello to you,
wisegirl33 - 7 July 2009 at 123am Aest
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| 7/6/2009 8:44:09 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
wolfi
Albuquerque, NM
age: 44
| 'Dressing up' has never done me any good, it seems like the less effort I make, the better it goes.
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| 7/6/2009 10:59:28 AM | Looking your best or who you are" | |
dare2dream101
Springfield, MO
age: 46
| Dress for the ocaccsion in what makes me comfortable, but always hot and sensual underneath!
As for who I'm meeting...I want to see the real person. Hopefully they will know what the ocassion calls for!
[Edited 7/6/2009 11:00:41 AM PST]
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