hahaha... I can name em off before they even get here!!!!

I dated a man that was a sociopath. He had no conscience but yet wanted to be a woman just to say he wasn't alone.

Binder...you're one in a million I swear, what a catch you'd be. Sincerely Nick

Thank you to alot of you who have given me
some really good information and shared your
experiences.

I can't say I apologize for my profile and if
you are in fact basing posting here because of it
well thats okay - if you knew me you would know I
am a very funny girl and I have used this scare tactic
to get across the fact that I am not here to date but
believe it or not I still get alot of emails jokingly
saying how much they would like to be stalked.
No one gets scared- Im just here for the forums and
just putting that on my profile did not work so I
pulled out the big guns. Good thats done me too.

Anyway - I need to not explain anything. Just looking
for some help on a subject I have been subjected too.

Thank you all.

Maybe part of the reason was that he wanted to file jointly on his taxes.

I would like some feedback from anyone who has dealt with someone in a
Relationship, marriage, living together, whatever.

Have you experienced someone with these disorders?
How did you handle it?
What were thier traits?

I have been reading up alot on personality disorders.
They are not curable. They are diseases of the brain - you are
born or it is formed in young adulthood.

Do these disorders include - cheating, lying, abandoment, alcohol
abuse - any other you can add would be helpful.

I just want to know if any of you, men or women have dealt with something
so upsetting and hurtful. The behaviors that exist in someone and your
left thinking "what the f**k was that"-

Thanks.

My ex of 25 yrs was a sociopath but I never knew it until the end of the marriage..sociopaths are cold hearted people..they have no conscience..they will lie even if they know they will get caught, and they are darn good at it..they pretend to be the person you want them to be but cannot keep of the facade for long..they have no shame no guilt..they are very calculating, clever..they never look back..they are in love with money and will do anything to get it..I just figured he had character flaws because I knew nothing about sociopaths until our psychologist told us he was one...learned a hard lesson..

Meet my ex husband:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. They believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.

Narcissistic personality disorder is one of several types of personality disorders. Personality disorders are conditions in which people have traits that cause them to feel and behave in socially distressing ways, limiting their ability to function in relationships and in other areas of their life, such as work or school. In particular, narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by dramatic, emotional behavior, in the same category as histrionic, antisocial and borderline personality disorders. Narcissistic personality disorder treatment is centered around psychotherapy.

Narcissistic personality disorder symptoms may include:

Believing that you're better than others
Fantasizing about power, success and attractiveness
Exaggerating your achievements or talents
Expecting constant praise and admiration
Believing that you're special
Failing to recognize other people's emotions and feelings
Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans
Taking advantage of others
Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior
Being jealous of others
Believing that others are jealous of you
Trouble keeping healthy relationships
Setting unrealistic goals
Being easily hurt and rejected
Having a fragile self-esteem
Appearing as tough-minded or unemotional
Although some features of narcissistic personality disorder may seem like having confidence or strong self-esteem, it's not the same. Narcissistic personality disorder crosses the border of healthy confidence and self-esteem into thinking so highly of yourself that you put yourself on a pedestal. In contrast, people who have healthy confidence and self-esteem don't value themselves more than they value others.

When you have narcissistic personality disorder, you may come across as conceited, boastful or pretentious. You often monopolize conversations. You may belittle or look down on people you perceive as inferior. You may have a sense of entitlement. And when you don't receive the special treatment to which you feel entitled, you may become very impatient or angry. You may also seek out others you think have the same special talents, power and qualities — people you see as equals. You may insist on having "the best" of everything — the best car, athletic club, medical care or social circles, for instance.

But underneath all this grandiosity often lies a very fragile self-esteem. You have trouble handling anything that may be perceived as criticism. You may have a sense of secret shame and humiliation. And in order to make yourself feel better, you may react with rage or contempt and efforts to belittle the other person to make yourself appear better.

My ex woke up oneday and decided to lose her mind.
Actually, she relapsed after being 7 years clean and sober.
I didn't know how she was as a drunk. I met her when she was sober.
The last 5 years with her was a living hell.
It was total insanity. Natcissist is an understatement.
I stayed becuase I love her of course. I had hope.
A combination of enabling her becuase I was afraid of living
without her or I've felt I invested too much of my life into
the relationship.

I barely made it out alive. I was mentally, emotionally
and spiritaul bankrupt.

I guess you can say she became a life force sucking B.

How have I dealt with that?

Lots and lots of healing and loving myself.
I couldn't even consentrate or focus for a while.
Recover from PTSD or Shellshock. Abandonment issues..ect
Talk to peaple that lived through it and survived it.
Group therapy and a lot of letting go/releasing.
Letting go of the guilt, shame, anger and pains that fogged my mind.
Work the 12 steps program.

I've been using the Sedona Methdoe to assist me in the letting go process.
It's helping me alot. It dosn't solve all my problems but I've been able
to live in peace, not having to carry the mental and emotional bagages.

Practice meditating to be in the moment and let go.

You can also try al-anon or Coda