| 7/19/2009 9:36:59 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | | cobra4u
Decatur, AL
age: 42
| I have a question for you...
Have you ever heard that old adage "Nice Guys
Finish Last?"
Well, I'm here to tell you that saying is 100%
true! But not for the reasons you may think.
Being a "Nice Guy" with women doesn't work,
not because you get too caught up in what a
girl wants and get stuck as a friend, but
because Nice Guys are typically very, very...
SELFISH!
That's right. When you're a "Nice Guy," you're
not really being nice, you're being EMOTIONALLY
GREEDY.
Let me explain...
One of the biggest problems guys who are
struggling with women face is something I
like to call "the Nice Guy factor."
So many guys have such a weak identity and
so little self-esteem, that they base their
own self-worth on what other people THINK OF
THEM.
These guys are at the mercy of everyone else
in their lives, so they try their best to
please the people around them, hoping
they'll continue to think highly of them,
so they can feel good about themselves.
That's not so bad, right? It feels good when
others approve of you, doesn't it?
Most people look at this behavior and would
instantly categorize these poor men in the
"Nice Guys" column. After all, they're the
ones who don't like conflict. They're the
ones who don't want to make waves. They're
the ones who want everyone to be happy.
They are also some of the most selfish people
on the planet.
Seriously. I know this because I used to be
one of these people, and I know all their
dirty little secrets! And the point of this
newsletter is to make everyone who thinks of
themselves as "nice" or as a "victim" really,
really pissed off!!!
All of you "Nice Guys" out there reading this
are nothing more than "people pleasers."
Somewhere in your life, you found out that
pleasing people is a way to get other people
to like you and admire you so you can feel
good about yourself.
Whether it was the acclaim of your parents,
or the acceptance of your friends, somewhere
in your time on this planet YOU LEARNED to
feel good based on what other people think
of you.
But I'm here to tell you that using other
people's feelings and goodwill like that
is not only harmful, but dishonest!
Anyone who says "I can't stand conflict!"
or "If you can't say anything nice, don't
say anything at all!" should do us all a favor
and move to the planet "Ideal" where life
is wonderful, we all have transparent heads,
and there is no war.
Only on this planet will you be able to find
that everyone is willing to give you the moral
support you need.
But that's the crux of the issue right there.
All you "Nice Guys" have a losing mentality
about your need for support. Your methodology
is: "I am so loving and giving and nice, I
expect you to treat me the exact same way as
I treat you!"
Here is the typical thought process of Nice Guys:
--"Don't disagree with me! It's not fair because
I do so much for you!!!"
--"Please be sympathetic and comfort me when I'm
upset! I'm needy and can't comfort myself."
--"Always be in a good mood. I am always trying
to make you happy and if I can't, I feel ashamed
and mad at you!"
--"Pay attention to me when I need it! I've earned
it after all I've done for you!!!!"
--"Take care of me by doing what I'm afraid to do!
I take care of you, so you need to return the favor!!!!"
Look at those thoughts above, and ask yourself "If
someone was saying that to me, how would I react?"
Now you know where women are coming from when they
don't want to have relationships with "Nice Guys."
Once that happens and the needy demands of "Nice
Guys" go unmet, they fall into the deep pits of
self-pity and depression.
They also feel a lot of shame and anger at their
failure to please the women they want, and though
these "Nice Guys" can keep their pleasant demeanor
up for a long time, their resentment of the women
they want to please will grow and grow until it
explodes in anger and rage, either directed at
others, themselves, or both.
This kind of mentality can extremely damage your
self respect and cause others to not want to be
around you.
So what's a "Nice Guy" to do?
If you want to have success with women,
you need to stop being agreeable and instead
be straightforward and honest, especially
when you have to go against the wishes
of others and disappoint them.
You can do this with kindness and sensitivity,
but you MUST do this nonetheless.
Only by being honest, with yourself and with
others, will you be able to overcome the selfish
"nice guy" habits you have adopted in your life.
And when you do this, you will stop caring about
what other people think of you because the source
of your validation comes from the fact that you're
being true to yourself and straightforward with
others, and you will cease to harbor resentment
and anger, and have more self respect and less
depression.
That is the only way I have found to truly stop
being a "Nice Guy" and become the type of man
other people can respect. It can be hard being
honest with others (especially yourself), but
in the end it is far more rewarding than any
other behavior you can adopt.
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| 7/19/2009 9:39:15 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| Nope, I suffer from the bad boy syndrome Don't know why. because I'm really a good guy
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| 7/19/2009 9:46:00 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
bamabob
Crane Hill, AL
age: 58
| I've definitely suffered from the nice guy syndrome a bit too much.. I've definitely found that not whining about my problems and acting like I didn't care if a woman wants to meet me or not... being a bit cold to the woman tends to work far better than trying to be too romantic too quick. Of course, putting anyone off too much is going to lose that possible one person you might really want to get to know. We all play games whether we want to admit it or not... what pisses me off is those that want to get upset over any little faux pas that I make... and I screw up pretty regularly. I don't mind so much if one points out my faults but to hammer me down about it just makes me want to get away from her and the drama she's trying to put in my life.. I don't need guilt trips over b.s.
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| 7/19/2009 9:52:03 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| Amen Bro Randy, thats telling em like it is.
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| 7/19/2009 10:54:47 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
bellbottomblues
Waukegan, IL
age: 56
| No I try to be an a**hole all the time. just sayin
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| 7/19/2009 11:48:13 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
saraplay56
Hayden, AL
age: 58
| Whew! You tellum, dude.
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| 7/20/2009 4:21:54 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
mercymeta
Guntersville, AL
age: 56
| Are women allowed on here or is this man's land?
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| 7/20/2009 4:45:54 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
sandymac12000
Vinemont, AL
age: 57
| Whether this for just the guys or for women also, I would like to say that being honest with yourself and with others is the best policy. I have found after living almost 57 years that being honest and truthful is what I need from a man. Just do ont be cruel about the honest and truthfulness. You do not need to hurt someone by being honest and truthful but you need to be both.
If you are not happy and honest with yourself then how can you be happy and honest with others?
I am happy with myself and what I do and do not depend on others for my self worth. This happens with women as well as men. As long as I am truthful with myself then what other think does not affect me so much. I was a people pleaser for many years and miserable all those years. When I decided that as long as me and God knew what I was doing was not a problem then it should not be a problem with others and if it was then maybe they needed to check out their own feelings and re-evalutate those feelings.
I try to intentionally hurt anyone but you cannot go thru life without hurting someone. I also think you should be big enough to admit when you are wrong and to do what you can to fix it. Yeah, I am a fixer also. But after many years of self-evaluation I have learned that you cannot please all the people all the time.
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| 7/20/2009 4:51:32 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
stacidc
Birmingham, AL
age: 21
| The nice guy thing is really a load of bull you should never buy into. Its got nothing to do with jerks being more popular, its got everything to do with "nice guys" having zero confidence with women, then gaining the victim complex which further repulses women.
Confidence is what attracts women, jerks have it and it works for a while, but genuinely confident men do very well with girls, you don't have to be a****to qualify. There's nothing wrong with self-confidence, its more healthy for you for a start, without it stepping into the realms of egotism.
"Nice guys" is just the nice term for doormats, I've been there. You aren't nice, you are merely pandering to a girls wish, which causes her to lose interest. Your not confident in yourself, your awkward in your own skin and really you should search out confidence for yourself, attracting women is just a useful byproduct.
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| 7/20/2009 5:57:20 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
duchessa
Yonkers, NY
age: 59
| Be yourself...!
No, don' t go around pleasing others (as momma always told us to do) because sooner THAN later this will end up pissing the heck out of you.
Giving up wishes and desires to be accepted by the masses will not only create emptiness and anger in our souls, but will also reduce our self esteem to even lower levels.
Yes, as lovely Sandy says, don' t be cruel but neither be afraid of saying what you feel / believe.
Some people may say this approach would limit the number of friends we could make throughout our lives. True...but isn' t this an asset? Isn' t the best for a human being to be surrounded by those that respect him/her for the honesty and self respect that person shows them?
Yes, mankind will push for "say nice things or say none" and will trample you if you don' t follow this advise...but I believe in "Don' t give me any advise, I wish to make my own mistakes."
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| 7/20/2009 6:45:00 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
andornot
Paint Rock, AL
age: 57
| ... from the Andornot ... since most do not know themselves, think about it, living in the world is an ACT ... think of the 'nice guy' syndrome as a belly metaphor, a place where the 'nice guy' act (the darkside if you will) is digested and is transformed into the REALITY ... and your 'nice guy' act becomes disempowered ...
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| 7/20/2009 6:57:35 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
lbothere
Knoxville, TN
age: 57
| Looks to me like an advertisement to get people to visit his "myspace" page.
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| 7/20/2009 7:27:07 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
elaine77
Grant, AL
age: 49
| ... from the Andornot ... since most do not know themselves, think about it, living in the world is an ACT ... think of the 'nice guy' syndrome as a belly metaphor, a place where the 'nice guy' act (the darkside if you will) is digested and is transformed into the REALITY ... and your 'nice guy' act becomes disempowered ...
Hard road, Much Self-Searching....
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| 7/20/2009 8:01:42 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
duchessa
Yonkers, NY
age: 59
| ... from the Andornot ... since most do not know themselves, think about it, living in the world is an ACT ... think of the 'nice guy' syndrome as a belly metaphor, a place where the 'nice guy' act (the darkside if you will) is digested and is transformed into the REALITY ... and your 'nice guy' act becomes disempowered ...
...from the Duchessa .. Don't give a piff about who doesn't like you / gets appalled by your directness. Be yourself and enjoy those that enjoy you.
[Edited 7/20/2009 8:10:25 AM PST]
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| 7/20/2009 8:47:46 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
4uacoyboy
Madisonville, TN
age: 59
| NO||||| I am myself. I can disagree with someone and still respect them for their opinion. I find no reason to be someone other than myself. If someone likes me or not it is how I feel about myself. I am happy about myself and try to stay positive. My upbringing, my beliefs, and my faith has made me what I am and that is the person you will see everytime. If you can look at yourself and like the person that you see then other people will like you for yourself.
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| 7/20/2009 8:50:49 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
andornot
Paint Rock, AL
age: 57
| ... from the Andornot ... perhaps, like you or, just as reasonbly, DISLIKE you for yourself ...
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| 7/20/2009 8:57:27 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
4uacoyboy
Madisonville, TN
age: 59
| ... from the Andornot ... perhaps, like you or, just as reasonbly, DISLIKE you for yourself ... -----------------------If someone dislikes me than that is thier right or my right.
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| 7/20/2009 3:24:32 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
browneyz
San Diego, CA
age: 58
| Nice guys let the ladies finish first::
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| 7/20/2009 3:28:37 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
elaine77
Grant, AL
age: 49
| I dont Suffer From It......
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| 7/20/2009 3:44:54 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| ... from the Andornot ... since most do not know themselves, think about it, living in the world is an ACT ... think of the 'nice guy' syndrome as a belly metaphor, a place where the 'nice guy' act (the darkside if you will) is digested and is transformed into the REALITY ... and your 'nice guy' act becomes disempowered ...
Most know themselves well enough and comfortable enough to present themselves to others, and not hide behind a shadow charactor. How can one give advice on reality, when they are so unreal. Andernot you are a contradiction of your on advice.
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| 7/20/2009 4:22:33 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
duchessa
Yonkers, NY
age: 59
| Most know themselves well enough and comfortable enough to present themselves to others, and not hide behind a shadow charactor. How can one give advice on reality, when they are so unreal. Andernot you are a contradiction of your on advice.
Salut...!
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| 7/20/2009 4:33:04 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
sandymac12000
Vinemont, AL
age: 57
| NO||||| I am myself. I can disagree with someone and still respect them for their opinion. I find no reason to be someone other than myself. If someone likes me or not it is how I feel about myself. I am happy about myself and try to stay positive. My upbringing, my beliefs, and my faith has made me what I am and that is the person you will see everytime. If you can look at yourself and like the person that you see then other people will like you for yourself.
I agree if you do not like me then that is your problem and not mine. If I do not like you then that is my problem and not yours. When I look in the mirror I like who I see except for the wrinkles and rolls that simply will not disappear but if you are searching for looks then you must be pretty shallow because a paper bag does not disguise a beautiful heart.
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| 7/20/2009 4:56:14 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| Well said Sandy
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| 7/20/2009 5:02:13 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
sandymac12000
Vinemont, AL
age: 57
| Thanks, Tom.
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| 7/20/2009 5:38:28 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
natureboy52
Falkville, AL
age: 53
| I read your little syndrome hypothesis, and gave it some thought. And all I can say is bullsh#t. I am so sick of people blameing their shortcomings on some outside sorce. My father abused me, my mother was a drug addict. Every man and woman with a healthy mind and body has the choice of free will. You choose what you will an will not do. I help people every time I can, not to get them to like me. Because they need it. You know "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
I think it is just another excuse to be an azz. I lack confidence in nothing, I hate conflict, but you will not find anyone more able to deal with it than me. I like things to go smooth. Makes my life easier. And God knows that some parts of my life were so hellish that someone like you would curl up and wet himself
As for the transparent head, you already have one because there is nothing in it if you truely beleive all the BS you were spouting. It sounds like some of the propaganda that these self help people are spouting to sell their books and tapes, or maybe a drug to help balance something.
The real truth is this, every man and woman has choices to make, good and bad. And like children, when we make a bad one we look for something to blame it on. We were put on this planet to help each other, not for what is in it for us. That is part of the problem today is to many people asking "whats in it for me". We have become so self absorbed in our own lives and problems that as the human race we don't know how to pull together. And yes, I am a "nice guy", but I'm also more man than you will ever dream of. I rule this house, as it is ment to be. Not with an Iron fist, but as God rules his church. I am the head of the household, and the woman in my life will have to agree, or I will be alone on judgement day. And I'm ok with that.
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| 7/20/2009 5:41:52 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| Nature, why don't you tell us what you really think. Just Joking Buddy
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| 7/20/2009 5:44:38 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
crazygroupie
Murrieta, CA
age: 56
| Nice guys let the ladies finish first::
 
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| 7/20/2009 5:45:17 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
natureboy52
Falkville, AL
age: 53
| Don't know any other way.
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| 7/20/2009 5:50:26 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| Yep, your staight up for sure.
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| 7/20/2009 5:52:34 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
mercymeta
Guntersville, AL
age: 56
| Glad you have a voice today!
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| 7/20/2009 6:24:00 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
duchessa
Yonkers, NY
age: 59
| Nice guys let the ladies finish first::
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| 7/20/2009 6:36:59 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
sassypants11
Cullman, AL
age: 44
| Cobra42 have you had more dates since you have changed from a "Nice Guy" to a "Not so Nice Guy? Just wondering.
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| 7/20/2009 6:41:24 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
sassypants11
Cullman, AL
age: 44
| At the zoo Jim. You are wonderful with giraffes. They are you specialty. lol
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| 7/20/2009 6:52:40 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
sassypants11
Cullman, AL
age: 44
| I bet it does Jim. lol
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| 7/20/2009 6:59:38 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
duchessa
Yonkers, NY
age: 59
| natureboy52
Get ready...another visit is in the making.
I always remember dinning with both of you... Great time
Silvia
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| 7/20/2009 7:11:29 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
elaine77
Grant, AL
age: 49
| I'm the nicest a**hole someone would ever want to meet.Not sure where I fit in here.
You Are Ice Cream Man!
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| 7/20/2009 7:14:31 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| 
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| 7/21/2009 12:48:27 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
browneyz
San Diego, CA
age: 58
| I'm the nicest a**hole someone would ever want to meet.Not sure where I fit in here. 
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| 7/21/2009 5:58:14 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
sandymac12000
Vinemont, AL
age: 57
| Natureboy, you have to be honest with yourself and I can see that you are and I can see that you know your bible. I agree that we are all very self-absorbed with "what is in it for me". I like the way you put things.
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| 7/21/2009 6:21:06 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
needmysoulmate
Gadsden, AL
age: 45
| I don't think anyone should take any advice from Alabama Hitch. He seems to be confused. I checked out his Myspace page for the fun of it and he seems to be a 31 year old female as well. 
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| 7/21/2009 6:40:07 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| Now thats funny
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| 7/21/2009 6:44:00 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
bamabob
Crane Hill, AL
age: 58
| I never read the whole o.p. and I probably won't.... but I can say that if someone has a problem with me or doesn't like me then they've just got a problem. I'm pretty much happy with myself. I do however think that anyone who is putting up a profile on a date site is in some way not happy alone or else none of us would be looking for someone....
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| 7/21/2009 6:45:28 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| Now, that makes sense Randy.
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| 7/27/2009 7:42:24 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
bamabob
Crane Hill, AL
age: 58
| well.. ya know Tom.. you know you're hard up when you have to scour the internet to get laid I recall someone saying something about hitting the bottom of the barrel but I know that's not true... you must have never met my ex-wife... that's the bottom of the barrel!
[Edited 7/27/2009 7:43:41 PM PST]
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| 7/27/2009 7:44:56 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
lbothere
Knoxville, TN
age: 57
| well.. ya know Tom.. you know you're hard up when you have to scour the internet to get laid I recall someone saying something about hitting the bottom of the barrel but I know that's not true... you must have never met my ex-wife... that's the bottom of the barrel!
Thanks for the laugh... I needed that tonight!
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| 8/3/2009 10:20:33 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
nightstar52
Crossville, TN
age: 57
| well.. ya know Tom.. you know you're hard up when you have to scour the internet to get laid I recall someone saying something about hitting the bottom of the barrel but I know that's not true... you must have never met my ex-wife... that's the bottom of the barrel!
Sorry Bob but I know who shes with... my ex....
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| 8/13/2009 7:51:30 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
jaguarfxr
Albertville, AL
age: 27
| I've already gotten to tha point where I don't care what anyone thinks about me. I don't care if a women looks my way. I've got issues I'll admit that but on tha other hand u'll find a lot of women that just want to use u, and that's what makes nice guys turn to violent people. You put it all out there and b honest about everything it tends to backfire. Until you close urself off and fall into depression. But what u say is true I'll agree with that. I'm just now getting back to reality myself after dealing with tha with a vindictive,pittiful excuse for a person. I don't have any thing against women mind u but it seems like it's getting harder to find a women with morals and stadards.My generation doesn't have a clue as to what those things are. U look at the way young women dress and act now days would ur parents allow that?? Mine wouldn't.
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| 8/13/2009 7:56:41 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| I thought she was with my neighbor last night
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| 8/13/2009 8:00:30 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
sassypants11
Cullman, AL
age: 44
| I suffer from the "Nice Gal" Syndrome. lol
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| 8/13/2009 8:06:16 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
kentuckylady52
Bowling Green, KY
age: 52
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| 8/13/2009 8:07:01 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
tomfreebird
Brownsboro, AL
age: 56
| I suffer from the "Nice Gal" Syndrome. lol
But, you sure have a bad girl dance
[Edited 8/13/2009 8:07:18 PM PST]
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| 8/13/2009 8:08:25 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
kentuckylady52
Bowling Green, KY
age: 52
| she's a nasty girl
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| 8/15/2009 2:17:43 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
uhhhlifeis
Smiths Station, AL
age: 49
| yep...shore do! Female version of course!
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| 8/15/2009 2:57:29 PM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
cottonnballs
Crane Hill, AL
age: 58
| I've already gotten to tha point where I don't care what anyone thinks about me. I don't care if a women looks my way. I've got issues I'll admit that but on tha other hand u'll find a lot of women that just want to use u, and that's what makes nice guys turn to violent people. You put it all out there and b honest about everything it tends to backfire. Until you close urself off and fall into depression. But what u say is true I'll agree with that. I'm just now getting back to reality myself after dealing with tha with a vindictive,pittiful excuse for a person. I don't have any thing against women mind u but it seems like it's getting harder to find a women with morals and stadards.My generation doesn't have a clue as to what those things are. U look at the way young women dress and act now days would ur parents allow that?? Mine wouldn't.
I certainly don't mean to criticize people in Albertville but I do know a few in that area and have been in a bar or two near there. It may just be my sensitivity because of a lost love who lives in Albertville but what I've seen is that there is an unusually large proportion of women there who are really trashy and nasty looking and acting. I know that one place I went into I thought I was on the set of the movie "Deliverance" when I went there. I've about found that the best approach is to not show them much interest, just be yourself. Put yourself out there for them to see and if a woman is interested she'll find a way to get your attention. It did take me a while to develop the attitude I now have but finally, after all these years, I've firmly made up my mind and practice the motto that "I don't want a woman who doesn't want me"... I NEVER try to make one like me. I'll not bother a woman with a barrage of phone calls and if she wants in my bed she'll make the first move. I know for a fact that women definitely appreciate me more than the old way of wining and dining and practically begging for her attention. I won't do it ever again...and I won't give them the time of day if I feel like I'm being played or toyed with. I've developed far better friendships and trust this way.
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| 8/16/2009 5:04:56 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
idlehour
Trussville, AL
age: 54
| I've firmly made up my mind and practice the motto that "I don't want a woman who doesn't want me"
You hit the nail on the head....I don't know who said it, or the exact quote, so I paraphrase...but most men are more interested in someone that is interested in them than they are with the most beautiful woman in the world. And I agree.
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| 8/16/2009 7:11:57 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
elaine77
Grant, AL
age: 49
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| 8/16/2009 8:10:27 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
cottonnballs
Crane Hill, AL
age: 58
| hmmm.. well, the last couple of weeks, being nice seems to have caused me a lot of trouble as well as a few other folks. Maybe I should go back to being a not so nice guy. Being nice always gets me in trouble.
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| 8/16/2009 8:32:24 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
cottonnballs
Crane Hill, AL
age: 58
| Hmmm,I been being nice here lately and it's opened up a few doors for me 
nah.. it wasn't your being nice. It's because you got so sexy when you shaved your head
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| 8/16/2009 8:40:15 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
juiceizback
Huntsville, AL
age: 46
| It is true Bald is Beautiful!
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| 8/16/2009 8:46:17 AM | Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome? | |
cottonnballs
Crane Hill, AL
age: 58
| kojack did pretty well with it... and tootsie roll pops
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