| 12/7/2007 4:11:58 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
warm64
Princeton, KY
age: 44
| | 1. very important | | 2. important | | 3. some what important | | 4. not at all past is past |
I feel it is very important. Because your past formed you into what you are today, and your present along with your past will lead you into your future. And you can't hide from your past forever it always comes back. And I don't like suprises! I also feel hideing your past is lying, and knowing your past may help others understand you better.
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| 12/7/2007 4:22:42 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
jess786
Billings, MT
age: 22
| it is ur past but it is alot eassier to deal with if someone cares enough to listen and attempt to understand
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| 12/7/2007 4:30:14 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
warm64
Princeton, KY
age: 44
| It's not my past I worry about I hide nothing I would rather expose it and deal with it.
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| 12/7/2007 4:46:49 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45
| If you have SKELETONS in your closet you should bring them to light early in the relationship. There is nothing worse than trying to hide them and to have them jumping out at inapproriate times. It's best to lay it all out on the table before you get too involved. Just think how cool it will be when someone tries to whisper some bulls*(t
into you lovers ear and her reply is, "So, I knew that. What's the big Deal!"
Probably the toughest question for you is going to be when should I reveal these things.
My answer is soon but probably not too soon. You need a firm foundation before you begin the process of opening up and revealing the past. You probably don't want to or need to start sharing the past until you really get to know eachother. Definately not a suject for the first few dates. Of course if she is going to see you on the news tonight you may want to let her in on it before she gets home. Can't be any less ambiguous than that.
[Edited 12/8/2007 1:56:04 AM]
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| 12/7/2007 7:44:10 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
libra75
Garfield, AR
age: 32
| Personally, I believe it to be very important. I dont believe you can have a functional relationship if you're hiding something, or holding back. Whether it be a close friend, or a lover....I let them know everything from the beginning so that there is always a clear understanding.
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| 12/7/2007 9:31:17 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
hotrod08
Great Bend, KS
age: 32
| shut up libra you puss!
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| 12/7/2007 9:41:06 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
slingblade69
Mantua, NJ
age: 38
| everybodies a f*cking lier if not your not human!! i`m reading everybodies post some are cool and some are just retarded. but you already know , but its all good!
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| 12/7/2007 10:07:34 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53
| well, it's nice to share some of your past fairly soon in a relationship, but talking on and on about the ex's can get really old fast! Your life's events i can understand, but bashing the ex is a big turn off. Guess it depends on what biggies in your past merit being brought up...
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| 12/7/2007 10:42:45 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
pickyguy
Ramona, CA
age: 50
| well i feel its not all that important to let someone know too much about your past per se,however i will say that talking about your past is good if someone asks you questions about certain times of your life,also stuff just comes out as you get to know eachother and most times a natural progression occurs.....so i say its not important enough to fixate on,but something to let occur naturally(bad skeletons are excluded from this opinion)(i mean like really bad ones)lol
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| 12/7/2007 10:47:35 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
margaretann
Canton, GA
age: 70
| I am new to this site, and find it very informative. I guess I am older than most on here, but am looking for a LTR. My problem is I use a wheel chair usually when I leave my home. I have not posted that as yet because on other sites I have been on, I was viewed but never made any lasting friends. Do I post that now, or tell a gentleman later. Margaret Ann
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| 12/7/2007 10:51:42 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
pickyguy
Ramona, CA
age: 50
| well margarette,if you were me you would post that question on a new thread of your own,this would give you maximum exposure and probably a good discussion would follow,and lots of people will be checkin you out...
this so far is one of the better ways to get noticed here,either that or wink at every guy here till you get a response....
[Edited 12/7/2007 10:53:47 PM]
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| 12/7/2007 10:53:24 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
lostinwyoming
Evanston, WY
age: 50
| tell it all.except where ya hid the bodies.
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| 12/7/2007 10:57:05 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
margaretann
Canton, GA
age: 70
| Thank you, I guess I could take both suggestions. Being new, I have to figure this out
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| 12/7/2007 11:39:43 PM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
lattml
Hazleton, PA
age: 41
| I don't know. In general, I believe in opening up your own closet door and showing off your skeletons -- because somebody else is gonna do it eventually anyway and probably make them look worse than they are. You're better off doing it yourself. But I think you can do too much too fast. If you spend much of your first two dates with some girl telling her about all the rotten things you did in the past -- I used to smoke pot, I lost a lot of money gambling on sports, I used to get in a lot of fights, I once got drunk and smashed all the furniture in my living room, I had a drinking problem -- she may start thinking, "what the hell am I doing with this guy?" I think a measured approach is best. Yes, admit everything, but do it a little at a time.
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| 12/8/2007 1:35:42 AM | How important is it to expose your past in a long term relationship? | |
fourbars
Alva, OK
age: 23
| although it is your past and you may be embarresed or ashamed of it if the topic comes up in a long term relationship i feel it sould be revealed but just to do it no let it come to in time
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