Profile red flags.

8/22/2009 7:32:29 PM	Profile red flags.
rabbitbrown Oviedo, FL age: 37	When looking at someone's profile (a person of interest to you), and considering emailing them, what would be some of the things that would stop you in your tracks? Meet singles in your area here at DateHookup.com, we're 100% free for everything! Join now!
8/22/2009 7:35:03 PM	Profile red flags.
crow09 Ponca City, OK age: 36	When she says that her kids are number 1 in her life... cause that tells me that no matter what happens she will believe her kids over me everytime.. in a relationship it's suppose too be you her, and then the kids..
8/22/2009 7:38:09 PM	Profile red flags.
jacob808 Honolulu, HI age: 26	I dont like well detailed profiles. And if she has to much wants and needs, or to much high standards, I would just say...NEEEXT!
8/22/2009 7:41:09 PM	Profile red flags.
gentlebear1949 Wooster, OH age: 60	Quote from crow09: When she says that her kids are number 1 in her life... cause that tells me that no matter what happens she will believe her kids over me everytime.. in a relationship it's suppose too be you her, and then the kids.. I have seen more than a few relationships broken up on here,just for that very reason.....The kids came first..........
8/22/2009 8:07:04 PM	Profile red flags.
satinsky2 Charlotte, NC age: 60	Interesting, I noticed that the guys who have a problem with a woman putting her Kids first do Not have any Kids.
8/22/2009 8:14:55 PM	Profile red flags.
rabbitbrown Oviedo, FL age: 37	Quote from satinsky2: Interesting, I noticed that the guys who have a problem with a woman putting her Kids first do Not have any Kids. I agree. That is interesting. I don't have any children, but I do wonder how single moms prioritize their household. It can't be easy. Not for single dads either. My father was a widower for many years before he remarried when I was twelve, and although he dated, he never brought any women home except for one that he almost married before he met his current wife.
8/22/2009 8:15:14 PM	Profile red flags.
i_am_bill Astatula, FL age: 50 online now!	I saw one woman on here that listed her three priorities before her man. They were, 1. God 2. Her children 3. Her job Then her man. I love it, she placed God before her kids. Nothing wrong with that. I generally ignore profiles where the negativity is prevalent. When she lists all the things wrong with men in her profile I move on. If a profile has all of her failures listed concerning relationships I move on. If a profile says she is looking for her one and only, her soulmate, a husband, I move on. If she lives a hundred miles or more from the ocean and lists her interests as swimming at the beach, walking on the beach, surfing, etc., I move on. I doubt she is driving daily to do those things. I want to know what her daily interests are, not her fantasy interests. Yeah I know, lame, but I can be particular some times. I prefer a person who is realistic and wants to meet people and if sparks fly then that's cool. If not, that's cool too. Profiles that make it virtually impossible to meet her "qualifications" are a waste of my time. And then we could get into the discreprencies with age, looks, yada yada, but I won't. Bill
8/22/2009 8:21:28 PM	Profile red flags.
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV age: 90	Quote from i_am_bill: I saw one woman on here that listed her three priorities before her man. They were, 1. God 2. Her children 3. Her job Then her man. I love it, she placed God before her kids. Nothing wrong with that. I generally ignore profiles where the negativity is prevalent. When she lists all the things wrong with men in her profile I move on. If a profile has all of her failures listed concerning relationships I move on. If a profile says she is looking for her one and only, her soulmate, a husband, I move on. If she lives a hundred miles or more from the ocean and lists her interests as swimming at the beach, walking on the beach, surfing, etc., I move on. I doubt she is driving daily to do those things. I want to know what her daily interests are, not her fantasy interests. Yeah I know, lame, but I can be particular some times. I prefer a person who is realistic and wants to meet people and if sparks fly then that's cool. If not, that's cool too. Profiles that make it virtually impossible to meet her "qualifications" are a waste of my time. And then we could get into the discreprencies with age, looks, yada yada, but I won't. Bill You know, you actually can walk on a beach that is not on the ocean. Not surf, but walk or swim. But I agree with what you're saying. I'd add: too long, and/or one solid block of print. And too many emoticons. Too hard to read, so I don't bother. Repeating endlessly what they've just said (so as to make the profile larger, maybe?) And I add talking about sex, too.
8/22/2009 8:38:01 PM	Profile red flags.
rabbitbrown Oviedo, FL age: 37	Quote from lovethelake17: You know, you actually can walk on a beach that is not on the ocean. Not surf, but walk or swim. But I agree with what you're saying. I'd add: too long, and/or one solid block of print. And too many emoticons. Too hard to read, so I don't bother. Repeating endlessly what they've just said (so as to make the profile larger, maybe?) And I add talking about sex, too. Yeah, I read a few profiles that stated something along the lines of: "I'm told I'm good at sex, so I like plenty of it" And I thought... They'd say that on a profile? But then, there's something to be said for 'truth in advertising', I suppose. Much easier to anticipate someone's expectations from the get go and just move on... [Edited 8/22/2009 8:39:26 PM PST]
8/22/2009 8:41:55 PM	Profile red flags.
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV age: 90	there was one man to whom I may have responded to his email until I read his profile. And he started off with how much he enjoyed oral sex. And was surprisingly verbose on the subject.
8/22/2009 8:53:26 PM	Profile red flags.
thebestman Alpharetta, GA age: 36	1. A one pic profile and none of the answers are completed. 2. A one pic profile and no description or answers are provided. 3. A profile that has an obvious web pic. 4. A profile that has a fake pic (harder to tell for most people). 5. A profile that has a pic or pix that are all airbrushed or photo enhanced. 6. A profile that states how much independent she is and also how sassy she is. 7. A profile that has a grocery list of her wants in a man. 8. A profile that says that she likes to be spoiled. 9. A profile that is tooooooooooo lengthy. (I don't want to read a book about how much a person thinks highly of themselves and or their grocery lists of wants). 10. Shadow profiles wanting you to talk to them, yet they don't want to provide pix
8/22/2009 9:36:58 PM	Profile red flags.
ndnprncess Caliente, CA age: 52	Smoking #1
8/22/2009 9:52:45 PM	Profile red flags.
satinsky2 Charlotte, NC age: 60	Quote from ndnprncess: Smoking #1 ================ Drinking is Okay, but smoking is not?
8/22/2009 11:02:31 PM	Profile red flags.
surrealone Overland Park, KS age: 39	Quote from rabbitbrown: When looking at someone's profile (a person of interest to you), and considering emailing them, what would be some of the things that would stop you in your tracks? People who use any of the following in their profiles basically erect huge stop signs that I both notice and abide by: "I can't believe I'm actually doing this" -- Translation: "I'm insecure as hell." "My friends talked me into this." --Translation: "I'm even more insecure that the moron who can't believe she's doing this ... so much so that I easily succumb to peer pressure." *"I feel just as comfortable in jeans as I do in a ccktail dress." -- Translation: "I try to be flexible but I am unable to convey it in a unique way. As a result I sound just like the profile before me as well as the one that follows. A date with me will be about as interesting..." "I love to laugh." -- Translation: "I'm too stupid to realize that EVERYONE loves to laugh, so I wrote something trite and meaningless to fill space. A conversation over dinner with me will be about as interesting as this phrase." "I love to travel."** -- Translation: "I am rarely happy at home, enjoy taking trips that cost thousands of dollars whenever I can, and am in all liklihood very high maintenance." "I love life and live it to the fullest." -- Translation: "I'm a condescending btch who thinks most people hate their lives and are lazy couch potatoes just because I don't see them doing the things that I do."* "Liars, cheaters, and game players need not apply." -- Translation: "I've been burned and am still bitter. As a result I am treating all members of the opposite sex as if they are filling out an employment application. I'll also expect urine and blood samples from anyone who passes the written portion of the exam. "...no drama or baggage..." -- Translation: "I'm so prone to drama, myself, and have enough of my own baggage that I can't be around anyone who might cause me to explode by bringing more of either of these into my life. You have been warned." "My children come first..." -- Translation: "This is a self-obviating statement to any good parent, but as I'm insecure with my parenting abilities I'm forced to state it in my profile for my own good, not yours. I hope no one will recognize it for what it really means." -- SR1
8/22/2009 11:14:26 PM	Profile red flags.
iamalwaysjustme Olathe, KS age: 50	Good one Kansas
8/22/2009 11:38:41 PM	Profile red flags.
thesniper Erie, PA age: 36	if they claim to be from japan?
8/22/2009 11:42:21 PM	Profile red flags.
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV age: 90	surrealone oh my, now I have to write my profile all over again!
8/23/2009 12:00:04 AM	Profile red flags.
ava_adore Concord, CA age: 20	Anything about sex other than "I enjoy lovemaking" is a red flag to me. It just doesn't seem like the kind of thing you should talk about on your profile straightaway.
8/23/2009 5:16:42 AM	Profile red flags.
other1974 Summerfield, FL age: 35	When she says that her kids are number 1 in her life... cause that tells me that no matter what happens she will believe her kids over me everytime.. in a relationship it's suppose too be you her, and then the kids.. I dont have any kids but I would worry about any woman that doesnt put there kids first. Men should be able to take care of themselves, but Kids cant thats the parents first priority. [Edited 8/23/2009 5:26:02 AM PST]
8/23/2009 5:26:29 AM	Profile red flags.
other1974 Summerfield, FL age: 35	Quote from other1974: When she says that her kids are number 1 in her life... cause that tells me that no matter what happens she will believe her kids over me everytime.. in a relationship it's suppose too be you her, and then the kids.. I dont have any kids but I would worry about any woman that doesnt put there kids first. Men should be able to take care of themselves, but Kids cant thats the parents first priority.
8/23/2009 6:13:33 AM	Profile red flags.
wvdad3 Bunker Hill, WV age: 41	Quote from satinsky2: Interesting, I noticed that the guys who have a problem with a woman putting her Kids first do Not have any Kids. my son comes before any woman to a extent until he is 18 then he is on his own.
8/23/2009 6:16:22 AM	Profile red flags.
lust4love Atco, NJ age: 39	Quote from satinsky2: Interesting, I noticed that the guys who have a problem with a woman putting her Kids first do Not have any Kids. Yes in my case that would be true,keen observation there.
8/23/2009 6:37:19 AM	Profile red flags.
polefrog Harriman, TN age: 53	The kid thing,,,,Guess you would have had to of been there!! No kids myself.
8/23/2009 6:37:33 AM	Profile red flags.
thebestman Alpharetta, GA age: 36	Quote from surrealone: People who use any of the following in their profiles basically erect huge stop signs that I both notice and abide by: "I can't believe I'm actually doing this" -- Translation: "I'm insecure as hell." "My friends talked me into this." --Translation: "I'm even more insecure that the moron who can't believe she's doing this ... so much so that I easily succumb to peer pressure." *"I feel just as comfortable in jeans as I do in a ccktail dress." -- Translation: "I try to be flexible but I am unable to convey it in a unique way. As a result I sound just like the profile before me as well as the one that follows. A date with me will be about as interesting..." "I love to laugh." -- Translation: "I'm too stupid to realize that EVERYONE loves to laugh, so I wrote something trite and meaningless to fill space. A conversation over dinner with me will be about as interesting as this phrase." "I love to travel."** -- Translation: "I am rarely happy at home, enjoy taking trips that cost thousands of dollars whenever I can, and am in all liklihood very high maintenance." "I love life and live it to the fullest." -- Translation: "I'm a condescending btch who thinks most people hate their lives and are lazy couch potatoes just because I don't see them doing the things that I do."* "Liars, cheaters, and game players need not apply." -- Translation: "I've been burned and am still bitter. As a result I am treating all members of the opposite sex as if they are filling out an employment application. I'll also expect urine and blood samples from anyone who passes the written portion of the exam. "...no drama or baggage..." -- Translation: "I'm so prone to drama, myself, and have enough of my own baggage that I can't be around anyone who might cause me to explode by bringing more of either of these into my life. You have been warned." "My children come first..." -- Translation: "This is a self-obviating statement to any good parent, but as I'm insecure with my parenting abilities I'm forced to state it in my profile for my own good, not yours. I hope no one will recognize it for what it really means." -- SR1 Some good points... As far as "My children come first" good point and it should be obvious that kids come first for a parent. Why do many feel it is necessary to state it
8/23/2009 6:41:48 AM	Profile red flags.
binderdundat New Orleans, LA age: 48	"I'm a HUGE Nascar fan!!!"
8/23/2009 6:49:18 AM	Profile red flags.
newlife4me2 Sioux Falls, SD age: 45	Any profile that lists Engineer as the occupation and somewhere in the body mentions working for the oil industry.....
8/23/2009 7:00:45 AM	Profile red flags.
nicksterdemus Bastelica France age: 50	"if they claim to be from japan?" Bingo, especially when they don't know Rodan or Ghidorah... My favs are the ones that love to use a bunch of caps coz their writing skill sucks & layed down all sorts of rules and regulations like a prima donna/diva wannabe. Not you doll, your special & perfect!.. OK, OK so I'm wild! [Edited 8/23/2009 7:24:02 AM PST]
8/23/2009 7:15:25 AM	Profile red flags.
rain_drop Seattle, WA age: 57	gm, I came across one mans profile and he wrote Wild, Wild about sex , Wild while having sex, Wild about you wanting sex, Wild while watching you having sex, the list went on this is kind of what I remember. Wild about not remembering bacause I was going to to wild write him.
8/23/2009 7:35:20 AM	Profile red flags.
ericr64 Mount Pleasant, MI age: 45	Any hot 20 something that winks at me. Any very good looking, wealthy, well educated woman that suddenly gets stupid sounding in her e-mails. Anyone from Nigeria. Anyone that says she read my profile and shares my values and thinks she has what I'm looking for. ( I'm here for friends only for now) They get easy to spot with little experience. There's a fake profile on this page. Can you spot her?.....I'm not flagging her or anyone. I'm not the DH gestapo. http://www.datehookup.com/Forums.aspx?p=FORUMPOSTS&forumthreadID=308845&pageSize=15&startAt=196#9066225
8/23/2009 8:17:09 AM	Profile red flags.
i_am_bill Astatula, FL age: 50 online now!	I totally get the kid thing. My daughter will always come before anyone. Unless of course she is playing games with me for attention,,as kids do. But I do get freaked out by kids in profile pictures, which has been beaten to death here. But just an example of gross, there is a guy who posted in the sex forum, he is in the thread on masturbation, telling girls he likes doing that, yada yada, but it is gross because as you are reading the thread you see his posts and there he is with his two little kids in his pic talking about jerking off. And if you get a chance to check out this thread be sure to pay special attention to his user name. Choice. Lovely. Lucky kids. It should be against the rules to put kids in pictures on dating sites, in fact, I have been on at least one where that is a rule. Bill [Edited 8/23/2009 8:19:03 AM PST]
8/23/2009 8:56:21 AM	Profile red flags.
claudius5 Petaluma, CA age: 60	When they say I want a God fearing man. When they say they are looking for their soulmate or long term relationship. When their profile is empty, nothing to work with, so why would I be interested. When there is nothing in their profile that gets my attention. When the pictures are when they were younger and also when they are fake. When they have a long list of what they want and don't want. When they say they don't want a smoker, I smoke cigars on occasion and respect their choice. When they don't smile in their photo, unless they have warm inviting eyes, then I will ask for a photo with them smiling. Well, that is all I can think of before I have had my coffee.
8/23/2009 9:08:55 AM	Profile red flags.
foxy_woman_49 Omaha, NE age: 51	When it says..Looking for discreet pleasures Now that spells Married man! Looking for some unattached sex or FWB It all spells just looking for sexually experiences only etc... I guess thats fine if you're a married woman or man looking for an affair but I'm not! also..any guy who is clearly over weight looking for the perfect 10 [Edited 8/23/2009 9:10:45 AM PST]
8/23/2009 9:19:39 AM	Profile red flags.
lively01 Indianapolis, IN age: 27	Quote from crow09: When she says that her kids are number 1 in her life... cause that tells me that no matter what happens she will believe her kids over me everytime.. in a relationship it's suppose too be you her, and then the kids.. i think you are totally wrong the kid comes firt but that does not necessarily mean that the mother should believe the kid about every thing you are an adult and kids do tend to lie everything now if its something about somthing sexual then the parent deseves to atleast check into it
8/23/2009 9:30:40 AM	Profile red flags.
seeworthyfl Merritt Island, FL age: 35	Interesting post!!! I would say an extremely easy 'dead give-away' is honesty. If either party struggles in the initial communication stages at being honest (ONLINE) then how can they possibly be honest in real life??? If someone says they will be available, call you, make plans with you, engage with you in any way, shape or form and they fall through without communicating with you- RUN!!! This person is incapable of being genuine. You mean so little to them they don't feel the need to give you even the minor courtesy they would a doctor's office... RUN!!! They are either looking for a mutual admiration society, someone to boost their ego, or a throw-away companion to make them feel good about themselves. Truly, honesty, is the most basic and essential test in a potential online meet/greet scenario. Interesting enough by following these simple principles I have made 'real life' friends through the online forum. Women that have actually become a better friend than a dating partner. It works...
8/23/2009 9:48:48 AM	Profile red flags.
crow09 Ponca City, OK age: 36	Quote from lively01: i think you are totally wrong the kid comes firt but that does not necessarily mean that the mother should believe the kid about every thing you are an adult and kids do tend to lie everything now if its something about somthing sexual then the parent deseves to atleast check into it I agree on the sexual part...all parents should look into that....but when little sammuel, and little joel are being a butt and just wanting attention, then mommy needs too know how too put her foot down and tell em too go too their rooms....
8/23/2009 10:50:58 AM	Profile red flags.
thesniper Erie, PA age: 36	Quote from thebestman: Some good points... As far as "My children come first" good point and it should be obvious that kids come first for a parent. Why do many feel it is necessary to state it the "i love to laugh is a good one lol...who doesnt love to laugh!
8/23/2009 10:53:12 AM	Profile red flags.
crow09 Ponca City, OK age: 36	Oh wait we forgot...I am honest, trustworthy, Kind, and I don't judge
8/23/2009 10:55:27 AM	Profile red flags.
thebestman Alpharetta, GA age: 36	Quote from thesniper: the "i love to laugh is a good one lol...who doesnt love to laugh! Exactly... I would say anything that's obvious and basic that a person has to state on their profile is weak and really need not be said. They are just adding up stuff about themselves. Instead people should state things that are not the ordinary, basic, and goes without saying. But people want to state as much stuff possible I guess lmao lmao.
8/23/2009 12:03:01 PM	Profile red flags.
walter555 Albuquerque, NM age: 53	These are red flags for the women on this site. 40-ish.................. 52 and looking for 25-yr-old Athletic................ Sits on the couch and watches a lot of football Average looking......... Unusual hair growth on ears, nose, & back Educated................ Will always treat you like an idiot Free Spirit............. Sleeps with your sister Friendship first........ As long as it involves sleeping with you and nudity Fun..................... Can operate a remote behind his back Good looking............ Arrogant Honest.................. Figures he won't get caught. Huggable................ Overweight, more body hair than a bear Like to cuddle.......... Insecure, momma's boy Loyal .................. Will be home for dinner, if it's cooked and ready. Mature.................. Older than your father. Open-minded............. Wants to sleep with your sister but she's not interested Physically fit.......... Does a lot of 12 packs, carried by hand from the truck Poet.................Wrote ex-girlfriend's phone number on the bathroom wall at the bar. Romantic ............... Rather cuddle on the couch than take out the garbage. Sensitive .............. Cries when rejected Spiritual............... Got lucky in a cemetery once Stable.................. Occasional stalker, but never arrested Thoughtful.............. Says "Please" when demanding a beer Very sensitive.......... Gay
8/23/2009 1:51:35 PM	Profile red flags.
dunrich2 Brantford, ON age: 55	I broke up 2 relationships because of jelousy of my kids. I gave up fighting that even to the point where I quit looking. I find that woman with kids were just as bad as those with out any. I think there is a problem when the man has custody. The woman are use to dating guys who only have their kids every second week end, so are spoiled by them as they can give all their attention to the lady for 12 days out of 14.As far as I an concerned, somebody gets bothered over kids being number one, they can go to Hell. Also, I wouldnt like or respect any woman who put me over their kids.Kids are a responsibilty, a realationship is suppose to enhance that,not be competition. If she were to put me first, that would indicate to me a neediness and possible jelousy issues to come, that is any thing but an enhancement. Now as for me, any mention of finanacial requirements. I also dislike those with rules listed out. Those that go on about "baggage", sheesh we are all human and have some. Any looking for perfection, claim they and their kids are pefect. Also, for some reason, I have never got along with any woman that mentions golf in their profile. That one, I hant figured out yet. I disagree about the kids. I would want to meet a woman who puts their kids first. Sheesh, I can take care of my self,lol, kids still need attention, I do not. I respect a Lady like that, do not the other type.
8/23/2009 2:17:42 PM	Profile red flags.
alicekathleen Sacramento, CA age: 64	Married more than once, religious, mentioning of x wife, money, woes, in profile. NO mention of reading, music, travel, nature would be a turn off, as well.
8/23/2009 2:49:39 PM	Profile red flags.
seeworthyfl Merritt Island, FL age: 35	Quote from walter555: These are red flags for the women on this site. 40-ish.................. 52 and looking for 25-yr-old Athletic................ Sits on the couch and watches a lot of football Average looking......... Unusual hair growth on ears, nose, & back Educated................ Will always treat you like an idiot Free Spirit............. Sleeps with your sister Friendship first........ As long as it involves sleeping with you and nudity Fun..................... Can operate a remote behind his back Good looking............ Arrogant Honest.................. Figures he won't get caught. Huggable................ Overweight, more body hair than a bear Like to cuddle.......... Insecure, momma's boy Loyal .................. Will be home for dinner, if it's cooked and ready. Mature.................. Older than your father. Open-minded............. Wants to sleep with your sister but she's not interested Physically fit.......... Does a lot of 12 packs, carried by hand from the truck Poet.................Wrote ex-girlfriend's phone number on the bathroom wall at the bar. Romantic ............... Rather cuddle on the couch than take out the garbage. Sensitive .............. Cries when rejected Spiritual............... Got lucky in a cemetery once Stable.................. Occasional stalker, but never arrested Thoughtful.............. Says "Please" when demanding a beer Very sensitive.......... Gay ROFL!!!!
8/23/2009 3:50:46 PM	Profile red flags.
rabbitbrown Oviedo, FL age: 37	To Walter555: Thanks, that was pretty funny! Heaven forbid!
8/24/2009 9:36:15 PM	Profile red flags.
dreamcatcher211 Milton Freewater, OR age: 46	"I'm a nice guy but kind of shy". Nickname: StudForYou "I'm a nice gal but kind of shy". Nickname: HotAndReady Age: over 40 Looking for: someone 25-35 [I'm over 40 but think someone in their 20's would be very interested in me.] Names a long long list of sports. "I have a lot of friends and enjoy spending time with them". (I party a lot and you'll be lucky if you see me.) "I don't like it when someone tries to change me". (I'm stubborn & will do what I want, when I want, with who I want--but you can't) Male: I like to cook and cuddle on the couch. (I'll do these things only until we're a couple, then just sit on the couch.) Female: I like to cook and cuddle on the couch. (Why don't you take me out to dinner, you cheapo?) A male that keeps making lame excuses to not give you a pic, even after emailing back and forth for awhile. Is or was a cop. [Edited 8/24/2009 9:39:50 PM PST]
8/25/2009 10:51:19 PM	Profile red flags.
ricshere Westminster, CO age: 46	about the only red flags for me are "smoking"
8/26/2009 1:08:36 AM	Profile red flags.
angelscholar Cheshire United Kingdom age: 43	When the picture is obviously fake or profile dont match the content of writing and in the way it is written. For instance one i came across claimed from states but his profile write up was very poor english, then in an email they sent they were totally different to their write up...