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| 12/19/2007 8:01:57 PM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | | 
shir567
Beaverton, OR
age: 58
| Okay, help. I am soo guilty of letting my girlfriends drift away. Still close to a couple, but have lost so many for different reasons. Any ideas on how to restart the circle. I miss all those wonderful things, like sitting up late just talking and sharing snacks and sad movies. Maybe just laughing at something only another female would understand. We seem so unfriendly to each other though - we need each other. I learned the hard way. Children grown, done, husband grown, done. Why do we sit alone on Friday night, when we could be sharing pop corn
| | 12/20/2007 11:23:15 AM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | | 
lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 56
| Hello Shir...I know I miss the fun, laughter, friendship that can be found when several women get together. I left all my friends when I moved to Florida...and I have not been able to find friends in my age group, with similar values, and single. I know several women in their seventies who have lost thier husbands, have found connections with other women, and are very happy to meet for dinner, trips, golf, movies...I would imagine thier conversations are just like the ones we want to have...but most women our age, are married, and it is hard to start new friendships with other single women, because it often will come down to competition. The older women do not want a thing to do with finding a man...they are very content, feel fullfilled with life as it is.
I was so hoping that the Woman's Group, could be a start for a place to somehow have what you are talking about...however not many people post here, or on a regular basis. I see chat rooms and threads that are about just sharing the day..in other sections of the site...I think Womans World should try and develop a girlfriend/sister circle.
| | 12/20/2007 11:31:45 AM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | | 
chinatown_girl
Oyster Bay, NY
age: 19
| i'm a little younger than u but i am in a similar situation.
since i moved to long island i kinda lost contact with a lot of my girlfriends from brooklyn that i grew up with. along with the distance our lives have changed a lil, most r going to college, some didnt and r working, and a couple married after they finished high school. i'm using the christmas & new years holiday as a chance to contact them, that way theres not the embarassment of contacting someone out of the blue after i kinda ignored them for a while 
i haven't paid much attention to the "groups" here cause i didn't want to be stuck with the 20's (no offense) but a REAL woman's group would be interesting. not a group where we're still just writing about guys and hoping they will look in and see what we wrote but something where we could just discuss things dealing with being women. i want to hear what the big sisters and aunties have to say (thats how i think of u from a chinese cultural point of view) and i think the younger sisters have points of view and information that is important too. anyway, im glad to be here and i'll come often if that helps to keep it going!
| | 12/20/2007 12:34:03 PM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | |
lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 56
| China...I have seen your wisdom, no-nonsence direct approach, and compassion in your postings in the regular forums...and you would be an asset to any one of the groups here...I for one look forward to hearing what you have to say, and I do think if every woman on the site would just check this thread and give some input, however minor..we could all benefit by it...and become those girlfriends to each other, that we so miss.
| | 12/20/2007 6:39:58 PM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | |
shir567
Beaverton, OR
age: 58
| China, Lotus 3, thank you. I kinda wondered if it was just me. Like where did that part of life fall apart. Compitiion?, well The very few I've held onto - we don't compete. Maybe, though that's because we enjoy each other's wins. Example: I lost my home, retirements, everything this year. My best friend got her 1st house, this fall. It's a beautiful home, exactly what I would dream of. I was so happy for her I cried, but I also cried for my lose and that I might never have it again. She understood that and was okay with my mixed feeling - knew though my joy for her was real. I think maybe because we both were open about those feelings - it took the jelousy out it and we'er closer. She let me have a real part in helping decorate. We both gave up our ego's
A women's group would be great. Men are great to, but somehow, we are a lot nicer to each other when thier not around
Shirl
| | 12/20/2007 7:18:32 PM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | |
lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 56
| Well I am thinking more along the lines of new friendships where it often becomes a competition...and even more so, if we make them at this age. My girlfriends I had in my younger years, we did not feel this. It never dawned on us to be envious, jealous of each other. I do see it now between women I have worked with, women in the neighborhood I live in. Yes, apparently we enjoy men, and know how much we need them to feel complete...after all look where we are But without female friends, there is almost the same type of void...jmo...we need both to feel complete.
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| | 12/20/2007 9:39:41 PM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | |
shir567
Beaverton, OR
age: 58
| China - Please come often. I enjoy your perspectives. You can teach me, much. Lotus, a thought, maybe it helps how we connect. I had one of the worst days ever today. It became one the the best and so needed because of a group of women, but not one male was involved. I have been running low for some time, but got the chance today to see women give with nothing to gain. i might even call it noble. Our hearts are so powerful, I was in awe of what they gave and it was all pure heart
| | 12/20/2007 11:30:37 PM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | | 
ladykathryn0414
Denison, IA
age: 30
| just call them.. or send them a card that says thinking of you.. and mention how much you miss them and sorry that life made you lose contact. I myself have lost contact with my friends as well.. but life has gotten in the way.. they got married and moved away also.. so hard to get together.. but its not hard to write a letter or email or to pick up the phone.. hmmm.. should take my own advice..dang it...
| | 12/21/2007 7:19:35 PM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | | 
pamela0324
Pasadena, MD
age: 54
| I don't post often, but read lots of posts from others. This topic touched me and I decided to weigh in.
RE: the value of girlfriends for women....My girlfriends sustain me. I don't see them often, but stay in fairly regular touch with most of them, either by email or phone. I have been through good and bad times and I've kept in touch with several of my friends over many years. I also make an effort to make new friends.
Several of us get together periodically to have dinner and talk and laugh until our mascara runs. I look forward to meeting a few girlfriends for lunch and laughter the day after Christmas, a repeat of what we did last 12/26.
I deliberately try now to make friends with women I meet and like. I need smart, funny, sensitive, caring women to help me keep my perspective and remember what is important. They are also the ones who "get" me and are there when I need a good listener.
I think starting a girlfriend/sister circle is a great idea, ladies. Count me in! I'll make it a point of checking in here regularly to see how "my girls" (as I call my friends) are doing. I look forward to becoming friends with all of you.
Merry Christmas to those of you who celebrate Christmas.
And Happy New Year to everyone.
Pam
| | 12/22/2007 1:12:56 AM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | |
shir567
Beaverton, OR
age: 58
| It's so good to see a few at a time come together. Gives me hope it can happen outside to. I am thinking about the calls and letters to keep in contact and I do much of that. It seems though that many of the things that moved friends away and some passed away, also cause a growing of different paths, different places in our lives. It would also be interesting to share how we support our friends or they us. It might help keep us aware with our own to see those opportunities. We might even get in a laugh or two, to.
| | 12/22/2007 2:45:22 AM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | | 
mmaru
Erie, PA
age: 24
| Hi, all! I'm much in the same situation... I just graduated from college about a week ago, where I'd formed some very close girl-bonds. We're already planning to get together at least once a year, if not more, but I find that now, back home, I don't have the friendships that I used to have since we parted ways four years ago.
I've gotten in touch with some old friends before... MySpace, as much as it seems like a blight on society, is a GREAT way to do this! I, for one, have always been a little picture crazy, and I keep all my pictures. If you're the same way, maybe see if you have a picture with your old girlfriends and make a copy, and send it to them with a little note or letter saying how you appreciated their companionship and suggest getting together for a girls night in the future.
I also like the idea of having our own little girl circle here! I enjoy talking and listening to everyone on the forums and would love to get to know some of you ladies better!
I'll bring the popcorn, who's bringing movies?
| | 12/22/2007 12:03:41 PM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | |
pamela0324
Pasadena, MD
age: 54
| What a great idea to send pictures of yourself with your friends with small notes telling them of their significance to you. I know I would be delighted to receive one of those! I truly believe (most) everyone wants connections with people who know us and like us anyway. 
Enjoy this crazy pre-holiday weekend! I am trying to stay away from shopping centers and malls...to save and promote my own serenity.
Pam
| | 12/23/2007 10:02:00 AM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | |
lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 56
| 
I hope you all have a Merry Christmas.
| | 12/23/2007 10:58:00 AM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | |
shir567
Beaverton, OR
age: 58
| Just a thought, after Christmas would like to hear from you all. I,ve been thinking on some things like I'd like to know silly things like what your favorite movie is and why. Mine is The Ghost and Mrs. Muir. It has just about every side of a women's heart in love and an underlying truth to be known. The Painted Viel is another although so sad a story of love.
Merry Christmas to all
Thanks Lotus for the beautiful graphic
Shirl
| | 12/23/2007 11:33:10 AM | Restarting your girlfriend/ sister circle again | | ks51
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 52
| Wow ladies. Touches my heart strings here. Ah yes life does go by so fast and so many friendship lost long ago. I'm sooooo guilty of this. It has been far too many years since I've enjoyed the friendship of women. There's this little spot in me that has yearned for that companionship. Perhaps with this thread we, who have lost this ability, can rediscover how to interact with our women friends again.
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