Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?

10/25/2009 2:20:15 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
abundance1961 Mesa, AZ age: 48	I'm 48 and never married or had kids. (I actually think it's better to have kids in a stable relationship, preferrably married.) What is your impression of men like this? Is a guy like this a bad bet, Do you write us off as players? Let's hear it.
10/25/2009 3:32:06 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
newlife4me2 Sioux Falls, SD age: 44	A very good friend of mine is your age, has never been married and never had children. He has been in at least two ltr's that I am aware of. He would have gladly married either one if circumstances had been different....no need or desire for me to repeat his personal life here. Sure he has issues, but then again who doesn't? Me, I try not to make arbitrary judgments.
10/25/2009 3:47:20 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
meches Apache Junction, AZ age: 48	First of all I dont like Players, so u would be written OFF. A Middle age Man that havent been Married, stay that way until you find the write LADY. But from experince with Men period get to know them, see what its like living with them before you Marry them. Its not Kewl to judge, everyone is different. [Edited 10/25/2009 3:50:11 PM PST]
10/25/2009 3:50:45 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
xpamela_leighx Springville, UT age: 36	Sorry baby...you are a bad bet.
10/25/2009 3:55:29 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
roamingorator White Cloud, KS age: 40	I feel your pain brother, but I still have hope that guys like us, without the heavy emotional baggage of the ex-wife(s), have a clear advantage. Some lady will look at a guy like you or me and say: "No one has messed him up yet? This looks like a job for________" (fill in appropriate female superhero type name)
10/25/2009 4:00:21 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV age: 50	I'd assume that you'd been in relationships that just didn't become marriages. The only concern I may have, is that I'm a parent, and you may not appreciate the restrictions that could give a relationship. And then again, you might. I wouldn't think you're a player. I'd think you're just as good a bet as any other man.
10/25/2009 4:02:05 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
looking4_prince Twin Falls, ID age: 56 online now!	I am very leery of middle aged men who have never married...there's just too many things that one should have shared by now..or at least tried...
10/25/2009 4:07:46 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
xpamela_leighx Springville, UT age: 36	Quote from mahogany_rush: Ive read some of the comments and I think whoa there , It really depends on the guy? You're telling its acceptable if the guy has been married twice, divorced, paying alimony up the wazoo and tight on money to take you out sometimes that he's a good catch?? come on now. Ive never been married nor do I have children, I could say the reason for me was I couldn't extricate myself from my work obligation but the truth is I did not find my Ms.Right and Ms.Right did not find me. Ive been in long term (7 years) but we didn't go to the next level, things happens. I think before you start " judging" find out first, if the guy hasnt had long term relationship yeah ok, Commitment issues but find out the story first. Okay fine...let's get married in vegas.
10/25/2009 4:08:31 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
bbw47reader Frederick, MD age: 47	Brilliant. Extra points if they were smart enough to not have kids young either. or Worthless piece of shit. But the men I've know were the former. Dumbasses marry the wrong person for the wrong reasons and breed very young. Yes, I am saying that most dumbasses do that, but that does not mean that most people who do that are dumbasses. Don't make me do a Venn diagram.
10/25/2009 4:08:39 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
snhgirl Leesburg, AL age: 38	just makes you wonder why he has never been hitched,maybe afraid of commitment?
10/25/2009 4:09:47 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
cinthianna01 Goshen, IN age: 30	I think, they're all waiting for me.
10/25/2009 4:12:23 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV age: 50	I know a lot of people, men and women, who have reached their 50's and had never married nor had kids. They're all great people, no weird commitment issues or mental health problems. It's just that careers or the lack of time or the lack of finding the right one, or whatever it ended up being, got in the way.
10/25/2009 4:16:09 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
tanyainoregon Beaverton, OR age: 51	They scare me a little at first,the next thing I wonder is if their Mommas boys
10/25/2009 4:19:17 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
snhgirl Leesburg, AL age: 38	yeah or momma,s boys
10/25/2009 4:23:28 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
judit0606 Big Stone Gap, VA age: 52	I'd go into it without any preconceived notions about him just like I would any other guy, for sure!?! If he felt the need to explain, fine...if not, fine. I think it's UNFAIR and we may miss out on a really GREAT guy if we go into a relationship thinking something that may NOT JELL with the REAL TRUTH behind what makes this guy who he IS~~~just saying I'd give him a fair chance!!!
10/25/2009 4:24:33 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
darklady09 San Jose, CA age: 53	I'm thinking peopele should be viewed on a case by case individual basis. Doing otherwise would be generalizing.
10/25/2009 4:25:29 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
no_doubt_delish Beaumont, CA age: 34	I guess better to have never been married than to have been divorced a bunch of times
10/25/2009 4:36:01 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
tryagaindj68 Evansville, IN age: 41	I love children, but I can't have any more babies, so that could be an issue for a man who hasn't had any children of his own.
10/25/2009 4:49:37 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
sherri_ Erlanger, KY age: 48	Quote from abundance1961: I'm 48 and never married or had kids. (I actually think it's better to have kids in a stable relationship, preferrably married.) What is your impression of men like this? Is a guy like this a bad bet, Do you write us off as players? Let's hear it. I approach this exactly backward to your question. I never think 'wow, he's THAT old and never married?'. Never. Tho' occasionally I'll come to the end of a profile and think, 'I see why he's never been married.'
10/25/2009 5:20:48 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
abundance1961 Mesa, AZ age: 48	Quote from sherri_: I approach this exactly backward to your question. I never think 'wow, he's THAT old and never married?'. Never. Tho' occasionally I'll come to the end of a profile and think, 'I see why he's never been married.' I'm sure there are almost as many reasons as there are single middle aged men. A man I knew had his heart set on a woman when he was young and she dumped him. Since then, he hasn't dated and let himself go physically and didn't attempt to reach his full potential professionally. Then there are others who, for one reason or another, don't believe in marriage or in having kids. Others get very busy with their carreers and never had time to meet anyone. Especially in careers where they mostly meet men. I had one relationship for six years with a woman who was "getting divorced". She actually got divorced about three years after we broke up, for other reasons. I've also had other relationships that never worked out. There were also times when I had professional ups and downs and didn't date due to the uncertainty. I've also made a practice of not dating someone from work or was a customer of the place I worked. Sometimes I think I should have taken the chance on some of those women, but those opportunities are past. Again, I am in a state of flux, due to having lost a good job earlier this year. Around the same time I lost my job, I lost my girlfriend. I'm working part time and trying to build a small business related to my former position and am also looking into a possible business with my Brother. I'm not actively seeking anyone right now, but I am open to meeting somebody, if she makes the move be fully aware of my current situation. The advantage of meeting a women at a time like this is that I can be certain she is with me because she likes/loves me and not due to any financial consideration. Someone who is behind you during the hard times is someone you can count on. [Edited 10/25/2009 5:21:51 PM PST]
10/26/2009 12:15:37 AM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
ladyreadonly Marysville, WA age: 37	I think the same as I do about women like my best friend... More power to them.
10/26/2009 3:48:25 AM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
newlife4me2 Sioux Falls, SD age: 44	Quote from roamingorator: I feel your pain brother, but I still have hope that guys like us, without the heavy emotional baggage of the ex-wife(s), have a clear advantage. Some lady will look at a guy like you or me and say: "No one has messed him up yet? This looks like a job for________" (fill in appropriate female superhero type name) OH I wouldn't say my friend is free of emotional baggage. Far, far from it.. Just because you've never actually taken the official plunge into marriage doesn't mean that you haven't been hurt, haven't had relationships that turned so sour in the end that it hasn't affected how you view life and the opposite sex in general. Again, though, I try really hard not to prejudge.
10/26/2009 4:05:24 AM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
th6231 Point Pleasant Beach, NJ age: 62	62--never married--no kids--bad bet?? YUP--I work a job that keeps me away---the hours are lousy--work 12 hours--go home to sleep and then get up to do it again. I never had the desire to have that family life--I had other things to do and that was my choice--afraid of committment?? I am committed to my state work--I was committed to my own part time business--I have 3 houses-- had every possible toy I ever wanted--traveled where and when I wanted--can truthfully say I have done everything I ever dreamed of doing--flying--doing artwork---accomplished musician---worked the fire department job for 25 years, now I work a state job. I am perfectly suited for committment--to the things I chose. I am not in a card game--so do NOT bet on me. I never made a woman feel lousy or made the kids unstable by never being home. I never hurt or disillusioned anyone--I never used anyone. Like any other human in America--I was free to make my choices. Is there something better about a divorced person? I am sure they are a good bet--after 2 or 3 times at ruining relationships. GREAT CHOICE!!
10/26/2009 4:40:27 AM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
s1owhand Palau, PW age: 49	Quote from abundance1961: I'm 48 and never married or had kids. (I actually think it's better to have kids in a stable relationship, preferrably married.) What is your impression of men like this? Is a guy like this a bad bet, Do you write us off as players? Let's hear it. i made it to 40...but then, "she got me" - does the fake theatrical dying thing aaaaghhh....
10/26/2009 4:44:35 AM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
jessmingler Queensland Australia age: 45	Quote from s1owhand: i made it to 40...but then, "she got me" - does the fake theatrical dying thing aaaaghhh.... So marriage made you younger????? [Edited 10/26/2009 4:47:10 AM PST]
10/26/2009 4:47:00 AM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
caky1 Walton, KY age: 48	Quote from abundance1961: I'm 48 and never married or had kids. What is your impression of men like this? Is a guy like this a bad bet, Do you write us off as players? Let's hear it. For some reason people think that everybody has to be/been married to be happy. The divorce rate proves it's not true. If you held out to find the right one and it didn't happen, you're smart.
10/26/2009 4:52:36 AM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
bsp46219 Indianapolis, IN age: 42	This is fairly amusing. I am 42, will be 43 in January, and I've never been married and don't have any kids. I don't have commitment issues and am not a mamma's boy. I did spend roughly 10 years in an on again off again relationship with Miss Wrong that wasted a good but of time. The last 6 years she and her 2 daughters lived in my house with me. Why did I live with this woman for 5 years without marrying? Well, she had issues. Besides being a recovering drug addict, she was also not so faithful. I stayed with her probably 2 years longer than I should have just because of her girls. But, I guess that makes me a bad bet, or means there is something wrong with me. Apparently, I would be a much better prospect if I had had 2 or 3 kids in or out of wedlock and a couple of ex wives. I have a good job, own my own home (me and the bank anyway), have my own transportation, and a few bucks in the bank, but simply because I've never married or had any kids I am damaged goods.
10/26/2009 6:25:01 AM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
stoneowl Virginia Beach, VA age: 50	I didn't marry until I was 37, have never had children, and was divorced within 4 years. My ex is on her #5 marriage at present. I am not a player, hate the idea of sleeping with someone I haven't developed a solid friendship (at least!) with. Not that it hasn't happened, but I could count the times on one hand and still have a finger or two to spare. I haven't married since, bu =t was with one partner for most of 5 years, off and on...and I'll never put up with or do that again! I consider myself more thoughtful, more patient and far less prone to be moved by the antics of those women who are 'out to get laid tonight'. Having a deeper serious side, I desire more time to develop friendships and relationships--jumping into bed with some woman I've just met isn't for me at all. Most people turn me off by their obviously self-centered bahaviors and actions towards others-men and women alike are so often solely self-motivated and so deeply so that real concernfor others is only a by-product of someone reminding them, often forcefully, to wise up and act right by their partners. Having listened to many women talk about what they don't like in their relationships--or more specifically, what their boyfriends/husbands/lovers/etc do/have done that ignores/ offends, insults, upsets or degrades them, I've sought to not be or do any of that--only to find that it is actually expected of men... I seem not to offer women a chance to find something meaningless to contest with me over...being a nice guy is not what women want, but instead they seek out less conscious and aware men who put themselves first, defying women to provoke bettter from them. This is the kind of relationship-contest or better, emotional strife, that many women want--to challenge and succeed in challenging men to do better by them. I'm still waiting for that one special wman who is past all that crap and is willing and looking for a man to stand directly beside, focused on the long-haul while making the every day stuff move smoothly and steadily towards those long-term goals... ...and the sound track theme-song running though my head foes something like this"...dream on, dream on, dream on--dram until your dreams come true..." which of course is usless because dreams don't come true, they only exist to portray to our concsious minds a far distant 'pseudoreality' that inspires us to keep trying, even when only in vein...
10/26/2009 6:38:56 AM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
geana824 Murfreesboro, TN age: 53 online now!	Players is that last thing I would think about when it comes to an older man. A younger one maybe I don't have a problem with a man that's never been married, or married without kids. I would have to hold the same suspicions for my elderly aunt who never married and had kids (but according to her family - lived in sin with her lifetime boyfriend until he passed). I would have to hold disdain for two of my sisters who married and divorced and never had kids. A couple of more years and I'll be in the category "Kids not living at home." But for now I will continue to look at those that have, "Don't want kids," or "Want kids," and regretfully we'll have to pass each other by.
10/26/2009 10:17:36 AM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
stoneowl Virginia Beach, VA age: 50	Quote from stoneowl: I didn't marry until I was 37, have never had children, and was divorced within 4 years. My ex is on her #5 marriage at present. I am not a player, hate the idea of sleeping with someone I haven't developed a solid friendship (at least!) with. Not that it hasn't happened, but I could count the times on one hand and still have a finger or two to spare.... As a footnote to this, While I've never had kids, keeping those 17 rabbits on life-support is costing me a fortune!
10/26/2009 6:02:26 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
outback2451 Rochester, NY age: 58	i wouldnt give such a man really alot of serious thought as I think I would prefer to date a man who at least tried and maybe failed than one who had never tried at all.
10/26/2009 6:58:12 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
iamalwaysjustme Olathe, KS age: 50	I think they are smart
10/26/2009 7:05:11 PM	Ladies, what do you think of middle age men who've never married?
drummaster777 Auburn, WA age: 34	Are you kidding me dude? You're brilliant and my hero.