Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?

11/1/2009 12:35:35 AM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
abundance1961 Mesa, AZ age: 48	I'm a middle aged man who has never married or had kids. Do other men in this situation think women avoid us?
11/2/2009 11:56:29 AM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
bones01 Morehead City, NC age: 60	I think perhaps some women avoid men in your age group who have never been married. I would think twice with regards to a woman who never married also.
11/2/2009 7:04:11 PM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
wheresmybeer Los Angeles, CA age: 26	U don't have to be marry to be happy in life. it's just what society pushes people to do without understanding that there's other options. The men of your age in my town buy many things that most guys kill for and they travel around the world. U don't have to worry about kids when u travel or a wife taking everything u have because she got tired of u. But the whole thing about never been married do scare women away because they believe u have sum flaw that no one will marry u. That's the only draw back i could think of. U could find younger women who loves an older guy with success.
11/3/2009 6:53:18 AM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
abundance1961 Mesa, AZ age: 48	Quote from wheresmybeer: U don't have to be marry to be happy in life. it's just what society pushes people to do without understanding that there's other options. The men of your age in my town buy many things that most guys kill for and they travel around the world. U don't have to worry about kids when u travel or a wife taking everything u have because she got tired of u. But the whole thing about never been married do scare women away because they believe u have sum flaw that no one will marry u. That's the only draw back i could think of. U could find younger women who loves an older guy with success. Thanks for that thought. However, I lost my good job at the end of February and am working part time and trying to b uild a small business, so I'm not quite "Successful" at the moment. The bright side of that is if I meet a woman now, I'll be sure she's with me for me and not my money. I had a girlfriend that ended it not long after I lost my job, so I guess my misfortune was providential in that I found out the truth about her now rather thasn years later when it would hurt more. In my opinion, there's nothing better than a mature woman who takes care of herself, so that's what I am looking for rather than a young girl. I would also have more in common with her.
11/4/2009 12:50:08 AM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
wheresmybeer Los Angeles, CA age: 26	I hear you man, I hope u find her.
11/5/2009 7:16:44 AM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
asfarasiam Potterville, MI age: 42	You are viewed as self centered, non comittal and really not long term material. But at your age you also have to be aware that some women will think you are desperate also. Think of the things you tell a woman about yourself when you first meet. Do you just say you've never been married or do you tell how many times you've been in love with a woman... different than how many women you've been with.
11/5/2009 3:12:28 PM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
nerdstatus Rocklin, CA age: 31	Quote from abundance1961: I'm a middle aged man who has never married or had kids. Do other men in this situation think women avoid us? Since I'm looking for a rational woman, who's not going to see my 'single' and 'unmarried' status as any kind of 'failure' in life - I don't give a damn. Anyone who things a divorced man is a better catch than one that's never been married (or visa versa) isn't going to be the brightest crayon in the box.
11/5/2009 6:36:55 PM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
abundance1961 Mesa, AZ age: 48	Quote from nerdstatus: Since I'm looking for a rational woman, who's not going to see my 'single' and 'unmarried' status as any kind of 'failure' in life - I don't give a damn. Anyone who things a divorced man is a better catch than one that's never been married (or visa versa) isn't going to be the brightest crayon in the box. Of course that might depend on her experiences with middle-aged men who haven't married. Another issue is that people don't always (or even often) make relationship decisions based on reason.
11/6/2009 4:56:56 AM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
serenityfrank Toms River, NJ age: 51	Gals in our age group have been thru the ringer and are cautious,just keep trying
11/6/2009 10:08:07 AM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
asfarasiam Potterville, MI age: 42	Quote from serenityfrank: Gals in our age group have been thru the ringer and are cautious,just keep trying some are beyond the whole cautious thing. Just as I am expected to believe that they aren't all the same as the women that have done me wrong, the same goes for them, and if they really can't let their past go at this time they probably won't ever get over it either. Sometimes it's best to just walk away because they can't return the same feelings that you have. Save yourself the heartache.
11/16/2009 8:16:20 PM	Middle aged men who haven't married. Are we "Chopped Liver"?
abundance1961 Mesa, AZ age: 48	Quote from asfarasiam: You are viewed as self centered, non comittal and really not long term material. But at your age you also have to be aware that some women will think you are desperate also. Think of the things you tell a woman about yourself when you first meet. Do you just say you've never been married or do you tell how many times you've been in love with a woman... different than how many women you've been with. Actually, I don't bring up my "Never Married" status unless she brings it up. What I'm looking for is a relationship with a woman I both admire and desire and who feels the same about me. I believe that relationships must be based on Shared attraction, affection, mutual beliefs and goals and compatible lifestyles. I don't have to be married to the woman, some ladies have had bad experiences of marriage or some other reason it is not for them. I'm open to marriage to the right woman or even the possiblity of 1-2 kids with the right one, if she's still capable of it and wants children. I feel that I have alot to offer the right woman, even if I am having financial problems currently, it won't last forever, I will get out of this situation. I'm healthy, honest, fit, intelligent and loving. I have loved before, it's just how my life has worked out, up until now. [Edited 11/16/2009 8:18:15 PM PST]