| 11/4/2009 6:09:04 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| Just when my life is going along fine and I am recovering nicely from a disaster of a marriage, I get an e-mail from him today demanding an article he thinks I still have. January 28th makes the second anniversary of our divorce - MOVE ON!
A few months ago he said he didn't want to be friends or communicate with me anymore. Okay, that works for me. When we divorced, he did not pack one thing, I did. Furthermore, the mediation agreement says anything left after January 28th becomes my property. BUT I DON'T HAVE IT!!!
Right now I am going to ignore his e-mail. Any advice??? He just opened old wounds, is still angry with me for divorcing him and he has a gun!
| | 11/4/2009 6:14:38 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
cowboyupphx
Phoenix, AZ
age: 43
| Buy a gun yourself...and change numbers/emails...and perhaps addresses...he will get the hint...but good to have a back up plan
| | 11/4/2009 6:20:41 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
latestflame
Memphis, TN
age: 32 online now!
| exes are annoying. It took me a long time to get over one and then she randomly contacted me after years of not tlaking. Then she started ignoring me after a while when I was nice enough to respond to her despite things she did in the past.
Anyway, I assume you will know how to handle it.
| | 11/4/2009 6:26:42 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | chyrei
Harrisonville, MO
age: 45
| It's a sad fact.
Some people don't miss the water, til the well runs dry.
Sounds like he used that as an excuse to contact you.
You say he has a gun
Change everything!!!
Phone numbers, email addy's and anything else that he may be able to use to get in contact with you. Do any and everything in your power to protect yourself.
If you feel threatened, get an order of protection ASAP!
Crazy, evil individuals very seldom change.
[Edited 11/4/2009 6:29:44 PM PST]
| | 11/4/2009 6:28:23 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
geana824
Murfreesboro, TN
age: 53
| You just have to do the block thing. Emails, phone calls, etc.
| | 11/4/2009 6:32:41 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
dinkasu48
Henderson, TX
age: 48
| tell him what you said here, and tell him you will no longer receive emails from him or phone calls, for you have ALREADY moved on...
dink
| | 11/4/2009 6:42:27 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
i_am_bill
Astatula, FL
age: 50
| Ignore any correspondence from him. Keep records though of any written correspondence. Especially if he threatens you even in casual passing.
Do not talk to him in any capacity.
If he alludes to any violence then report it. Take appropriate protective measures.
Do not talk to him in any capacity.
If you encounter him in public do not speak to him, move away from him and leave the situation.
If he shows up at your house do not speak to him, call the police.
And for God's sake, stay away from Palm Bay, there are more domestic shootings and violence there per capita than anywhere in Florida.
Bill
| | 11/4/2009 6:47:01 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
wisegirl33
Queensland
Australia
age: 45
| Hello Susan.
This must be the bad husband and not the nice one who died many years ago. I am sorry to hear about your situation.
What Bill says is the best advice.
Take care,
wisegirl33 - 5 Nov 2009 at 1257pm Aest
| | 11/4/2009 6:53:54 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
bored2deth
Frankfort, IN
age: 33
| I disagree totally. Bullshit him, kill him with kindness, put on a facade. Even a fake smile makes others and yourself feel better eventually. He knows he's getting to you. If paperwork is said and done then it's said and done. Tell him you'll involve the judicial system to resolve your material issues. If there ARE any. Can't remember what you said about that in your original post.
But, no matter what. Do the "block" e-mail , etc, etc, . But in person, do EVERYTHING with a smile on your face. F**k him, you owe him nothing............. Just don't let him know that.
| | 11/4/2009 7:10:44 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 30
| Just when my life is going along fine and I am recovering nicely from a disaster of a marriage, I get an e-mail from him today demanding an article he thinks I still have. January 28th makes the second anniversary of our divorce - MOVE ON!
A few months ago he said he didn't want to be friends or communicate with me anymore. Okay, that works for me. When we divorced, he did not pack one thing, I did. Furthermore, the mediation agreement says anything left after January 28th becomes my property. BUT I DON'T HAVE IT!!!
Right now I am going to ignore his e-mail. Any advice??? He just opened old wounds, is still angry with me for divorcing him and he has a gun!
He is not interested in that one item...........he wants you back......period
| | 11/5/2009 12:05:26 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | gypsysays
Westbank, BC
age: 44
| I dont think he wants her per se.......I think he just wants to control her. He sounds like he is in lack of control and feels the need, jmo.
| | 11/5/2009 12:08:07 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
steven030463
Newton Falls, OH
age: 46
| come to my house sweety, I'll protect you.
| | 11/5/2009 2:21:34 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
life2short6
Granbury, TX
age: 53
| Well, it's well after Jan 28. Should've taken care of anything before then, I'd say.
Had ex do something similar, had keys to the house, full access, up until, the day the divorce was final, could've cleaned me out. Come home one day after find her trying to get in (while I wasn't there), wanted something, when I questioned her.
Flat told her she had every opportunity to get it. Don't come back.
| | 11/5/2009 5:16:51 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| exes are annoying. It took me a long time to get over one and then she randomly contacted me after years of not tlaking. Then she started ignoring me after a while when I was nice enough to respond to her despite things she did in the past.
Anyway, I assume you will know how to handle it.
I am going to ignore him. My ex friend (she went to the Dark Side with the Devil Incarnate) reads my Facebook page and of course, although she lives like 3 miles away, she can't come see me in 2 years, wrote and asked me what was going on. I fed her some bullshit so she could feed it back to him! Yeah, right, she doesn't see or hear from him anymore but the first thing she writes is "he's been in a foul funky mood for well over a week now."
| | 11/5/2009 5:19:20 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| Well, it's well after Jan 28. Should've taken care of anything before then, I'd say.
Had ex do something similar, had keys to the house, full access, up until, the day the divorce was final, could've cleaned me out. Come home one day after find her trying to get in (while I wasn't there), wanted something, when I questioned her.
Flat told her she had every opportunity to get it. Don't come back.
I had the cops here as back-up on the last day he was moving everything from the garage that I had placed there. Even with the cops, he tried to cut the wires in the attic to my surround sound system. When I screamed, they came right over and said "Mr. ________, please step down from the attic now, you have what you want, now leave." What a piece of work he turned out to be!!
| | 11/5/2009 5:21:49 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 46
| Susan it's called control IF you allow him to keep doing this and let him know it bugs you he waill always keep doing it...
I must agree with what Bored2death says kill him with kindness act like nothing bothers you and eventually he'll give up, you have to play his ugly game...
| | 11/5/2009 5:23:48 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
geana824
Murfreesboro, TN
age: 53
| I am going to ignore him. My ex friend (she went to the Dark Side with the Devil Incarnate) reads my Facebook page and of course, although she lives like 3 miles away, she can't come see me in 2 years, wrote and asked me what was going on. I fed her some bullshit so she could feed it back to him! Yeah, right, she doesn't see or hear from him anymore but the first thing she writes is "he's been in a foul funky mood for well over a week now."
An ex friend like doesn't even deserve to be fed the bullshit to pass on. Block her. Period.
| | 11/5/2009 5:24:01 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
oceandive
Clonfert
Ireland
age: 52
| susan,,,,a lot of people try to carry on with some type of relationship after the split....even if it's a bad one.....and some continue to do this for very long periods of time...i saw one on one of those court t.v. shows the other day that the woman was still doing this exact thing.....32 years after the divorce.........
silence is your best bet.....conversing with him will only encourage more...good luck
| | 11/5/2009 5:29:06 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | caky1
Walton, KY
age: 48
| Furthermore, the mediation agreement says anything left after January 28th becomes my property.
Send him the snippage above, or a scanned copy from your divorce decree. End of story.
| | 11/5/2009 5:42:30 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| I dont think he wants her per se.......I think he just wants to control her. He sounds like he is in lack of control and feels the need, jmo.
Bingo!!! He needs someone to lash out at and I AM NOT IT ANYMORE. ::::shakes head in disbelief::: Some girl must have dumped him or used him for his $$$ or whatever. I heard him trash his second wife all the time when she did nothing to him just because he was angry with something, so I know his pattern. Screw him! He was a loser when I met him and he is still a loser.
| | 11/5/2009 6:10:45 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
no_toe_jam
Snow Camp, NC
age: 48
| come on now ,think about it ,no response from you MAY intice him to try harder to get a answer, don't change a darn thing, "that will make you look and think weak" IMO. just simply say in a email, (1) I dont have your pocket p<< (2) and tell him you'll ask your new man rock the jock if he has seen lt ,  then go and pick out the biggest pair of work boots like a size 14 or 15, and leave them on your door step, This also keeps away prowlers you can find a good pair at good will or some place like that..
| | 11/5/2009 6:36:06 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| come on now ,think about it ,no response from you MAY intice him to try harder to get a answer, don't change a darn thing, "that will make you look and think weak" IMO. just simply say in a email, (1) I dont have your pocket p<< (2) and tell him you'll ask your new man rock the jock if he has seen lt , then go and pick out the biggest pair of work boots like a size 14 or 15, and leave them on your door step, This also keeps away prowlers you can find a good pair at good will or some place like that..
Ohhhhhhhhhh I like the work boot idea!
| | 11/5/2009 6:39:43 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
no_toe_jam
Snow Camp, NC
age: 48
| the idea of work in any form makes me tired , so I'm re-tired everyday!!!
| | 11/5/2009 5:24:19 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
10_2ur_biz
Highland, CA
age: 43
| Just make sure when you talk to him that you sound secure with your situation now. That you have everything under control. He may be trying to weasel back in . Just speculation
| | 11/5/2009 6:05:09 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| come to my house sweety, I'll protect you.
I tried to thank you earlier but DH goblins told ne I was hogging my own thread - LOLOL
| | 11/5/2009 6:13:09 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
starzdream
Florence, KY
age: 44
| Chyrei said it very well. You dont know what you got til it's gone , and that cow in the cartoon that got its neck all twisted like a pretzel in the fence??? Thats usually what has happened...the grass is always greener.
He no doubt looked back and saw what he left and wants it back.
When people get in a mindset like that , they will never be satisfied . It's hard to get our mind made up to BE CONTENT but it can be done.
Just stand firm, Hun and don't let him rattle you. If he sees that he CAN...then he WILL continue to do so.
Good Luck!
[Edited 11/5/2009 6:16:05 PM PST]
| | 11/5/2009 8:18:26 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| UPDATE: The latest e-mail is full of threats to not only myself but also to my friends with lawsuits and police, etc. Going to ignroe that one, too, and if he sends another one, I am taking all of them down to the local police station. I just don't understand why he is picking on me. It's been ages since I had anything to do with him and now he wants to get to me. The good advice is that I am staying away from him and saving all his e-mails.
| | 11/5/2009 8:34:13 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
wiilnotgiveup
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 45
| susan ,You live in a town where threats are taken serious! very !! Now just take your emails down to the city hall and get a restraining order! they at the time of issue, will collect all weapons. and he will not be allowed to carry any!
| | 11/5/2009 8:45:08 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
katrinasq
Fort Smith, AR
age: 40
| I would tell him you don't have anything of his, that things were settled Jan 28, and if he contacts you again, you will file a police report and a restraining order, then block him. I would then send a copy of everything to your divorce lawyer and the local police department. I would go ahead with the restraining order since the threats.
| | 11/5/2009 9:06:27 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
eimilee
Jacksonville, FL
age: 37
| Do not respond to the email. Keep it copy he contacted you. He doesn't want paper he wants control. Get a new email ASAP! Stay safe. Been there and don't fall into the trap.
| | 11/5/2009 9:45:38 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| I really want nothing to do with him. His last two words on the latest e-mail were "more to come." I feel that is a big threat, especially since he has a handgun at his disposal. He's just not making any sense, is probably drunk 24/7 these days and needs to pick on someone. Unfortunately for him, he has made idle threats before, but I have always addressed them. I actually made up a fake male screen name tonight and thought maybe I would write him as my "boyfriend" telling him to leave me the hell alone. I must have been some dumb, pitiful blonde to believe his lies 9 years ago. I actually trusted him with my life because he was FDNY retired. This time I am ignoring him at all costs. I have nothing of his and he knows this. If the item is misplaced, it was misplaced by him, not me TWO YEARS AGO.
Well, he is pissing me off, so I will take a cleansing breath and ask God for divine intervention! 
| | 11/5/2009 9:53:49 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | jm0405
Las Vegas, NV
age: 44
| I agree with what others said - DO NOT TALK TO HIM - and DO NOT TELL HIM YOU MOVED ON!! When my ex figured out I moved on, he trashed my car - wrecked it - and flattened all the tires on my friend's truck. Don't tell him you moved on. That's dangerous. Just change your address, phone number and make this number unlisted and change all your e-mail addresses - disappear quietly.
| | 11/6/2009 6:47:36 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | izzystradlian12
Tupelo, MS
age: 33
| block him change your number and email adress and call the cops if u haft to
| | 11/7/2009 9:59:59 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| I did respond to his second email. Told him to leave me alone and stop threatening me and that the local cops found his "more to follow" message a threat since he has at his disposal a 9mm handgun. His reponse: "OK" Oh yeah, and I know I have sort of fueled the fire, but the cops told me I had to have it in writing that I asked him to leave me alone. He will feed off my e-mail for weeks because he loves playing the victim. If he contacts me again, all I have to say is: INCOMING!
| | 11/8/2009 1:39:07 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
simonptkd
Berkshire
United Kingdom
age: 51
| No point in drawing out the battle. Two simple rules.....Rule one:Keep a war book, a simple diary in which you record events...if you get an e-mail, note it down, keep the mail, same goes for SMS texts, if you can download them and print them so much the better. Do it for a few weeks so you have a trail. Second rule: Geta solicitor/lawyer to send him a letter , refer to the mediated agreement, point out that you have already had the police around and that you request that he refrain from contacting you in any manner whatsoever and that should there be a single further incident that you will apply for a restraining/protection order.
I had similar problems with my ex-wifes ex husband, it was only when he saw that he could not control or bully without facing arrest that he finally left us alone You should not have to deal with him or his issues and the law is there to protect you.
| | 11/8/2009 2:32:18 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | caky1
Walton, KY
age: 48
| No point in drawing out the battle. Two simple rules.....Rule one:Keep a war book, a simple diary in which you record events...if you get an e-mail, note it down, keep the mail, same goes for SMS texts, if you can download them and print them so much the better.
I agree - documenting all events date, time, incident is needed.
Perhaps he's trying to egg you on to be argumentative so that he can then cry foul. Stay on track by not stooping to his level. Let him cook his own goose. Just make sure a family member or friends are also aware of what's been happening.
Personally, I would have called the police already so that it can be on record. This way he'll know you're serious and will not tolerate threats of any kind.
| | 11/8/2009 5:24:50 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| I didn't call the police - I WENT DOWN TO THE STATION. You see, this is a small town and during the divorce proceedings, he refused to leave my house. In the meantime, he would steal from me when I was in bed sleeping. The police really got involved and he gave back some very valuable jewelry and coins my late husband gifted me when they went knocking at his door after he finally moved. Right now I am documenting everything and am telling mutual friends the truth - I DON'T HAVE IT.
| | 11/8/2009 5:27:50 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | caky1
Walton, KY
age: 48
| Right now I am documenting everything and am telling mutual friends the truth - I DON'T HAVE IT.
| | 11/8/2009 7:27:02 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
gentlemanjim1
North Fort Myers, FL
age: 60
| My Dear Susan....I remember you from my first thread about room mates of a different gender... when you are in a relationship. I liked your response. So I read your profile, then I read you posts about a bad room mate situation you went through. Now this!!!
I sincerely feel for you. Wish I really was closer to be your room mate and perhaps feel like some protection from this lunatic. (hey, it's the healer/protector in me). But I've grown to like you, so I sincerely hope this guy keeps his distance and yuo stay safe. 
[Edited 11/8/2009 7:27:39 AM PST]
| | 11/8/2009 7:30:08 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
gentlemanjim1
North Fort Myers, FL
age: 60
| Just when my life is going along fine and I am recovering nicely from a disaster of a marriage, I get an e-mail from him today demanding an article he thinks I still have. January 28th makes the second anniversary of our divorce - MOVE ON!
A few months ago he said he didn't want to be friends or communicate with me anymore. Okay, that works for me. When we divorced, he did not pack one thing, I did. Furthermore, the mediation agreement says anything left after January 28th becomes my property. BUT I DON'T HAVE IT!!!
Right now I am going to ignore his e-mail. Any advice??? He just opened old wounds, is still angry with me for divorcing him and he has a gun!
And as a coincidence, my birthday happens to be ]January 28th!
| | 11/8/2009 6:11:27 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| And as a coincidence, my birthday happens to be ]January 28th!
Duly noted! 
| | 11/8/2009 6:39:00 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
wheels915
Mesa, AZ
age: 50
| If he said he has a gun in his e-mail print it out and send it to the police, and then let him know that.
This will stop him from trying to commit more mental anguish.
[Edited 11/8/2009 6:49:45 PM PST]
| | 11/8/2009 6:55:48 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
stoneowl
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 50
| Do not respond to any communication from him--at all!
Shut the door between you two--leave him incommunicado with you....
By changing the way you deal with him, you force him to rethink his strategy's success-rate, maybe reconsider making further efforts and moving on....?
| | 11/9/2009 7:07:16 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| Thanks, Stone. I did what I had to do to protect myself, now he can knock himself out. I've learned valuable lssons from dealing with him. If I ignore his threats, sooner or later, he goes away because he certainly has more to lose than I do. I now have my house alarm on 24/7 and my poor doggie is in house jail again because he can cut the pool screening and come take her (which is what he would do). I've been thinking about getting cameras for the perimeter of my home, now I know I will do it, come what may.
[Edited 11/9/2009 7:08:26 AM PST]
| | 11/9/2009 7:56:49 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
gnu2knoxville
Maynardville, TN
age: 42
| I know how you feel. I've changed cell phones 3 times in 5 months. Threw one away yesterday, in fact. Lost track of how many times I called police on her during seperation. Had her arrested for breaking all the windows out of my office. Crashed her sequoia in parking lot drunk where I worked. I've moved out of state, done the no contact order, everything. Final hearing is in 13 days. I'll probably get physically attacked in the courtroom.
| | 11/9/2009 12:35:13 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
akasha__
Sparrows Point, MD
age: 23
| If my x ever bothers me agian,,I have some ppl that will kick his mutha f**kin a** until he is hospitalised
[Edited 11/9/2009 12:36:00 PM PST]
| | 11/9/2009 6:11:50 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| It's really weird because I divorced his lazy, drunken a** over his not paying attention to me. Then, when we get divorced, he wants to be frineds, but in the end all he wanted to do was rehash our divorce (no thank you). He is underhanded, though. Just when I feel safe, up he pops. No more mail from him or to him and I have purchased cameras for the outside perimeter of my home. They were installed today. I can even watch from work! Everything is recorded. The cameras and alarm system should do the trick.
| | 11/9/2009 6:43:58 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| I hope this is all over....but I am waiting for the other shoe to drop! LOL
| | 11/9/2009 6:51:51 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
dunewolf
Huntington, OR
age: 64
| send him a nude picture of you and ask if this will look good on a calendar you are posing for.
| | 11/11/2009 7:12:58 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
stoneowl
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 50
| Thanks, Stone. I did what I had to do to protect myself, now he can knock himself out. I've learned valuable lssons from dealing with him. If I ignore his threats, sooner or later, he goes away because he certainly has more to lose than I do. I now have my house alarm on 24/7 and my poor doggie is in house jail again because he can cut the pool screening and come take her (which is what he would do). I've been thinking about getting cameras for the perimeter of my home, now I know I will do it, come what may.
Walmart and others sell inexpensive surveilence systems, which, integrated with a motion detector, the video cam can be set to record on your computer. No warning lights, just a motion detector and the cameras it activates, and the existing outside lighting--maybe moved to cover key entry-points. This way, only when the motion detector is set off, will the taping begin.
| | 11/11/2009 8:47:44 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 46
| What does he say you have of his?
Maybe go out, buy a new one, give it to him and tell him to stay out of your life.
| | 11/11/2009 7:36:39 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| What does he say you have of his?
Maybe go out, buy a new one, give it to him and tell him to stay out of your life.
Well, there isn't much left of this item since it went down with the Titanic! He should have opened his stuff two years ago, then put it safely away!
| | 11/12/2009 6:14:09 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
kokomokid54
Palm Bay, FL
age: 55
|  he is not worth worrying about,you put him out of your life ,so keep him there.If he continues to bother you have to contact your lawyer.at least tell him that to get him off your back.he won't know if your lawyers for real or not.tell himyour lawyer told you to document his phone calls and threatrs and if he continuesthat charges will be filed for threatening with bodily harm,defimation of character,stalking just to name a few and those alone can put him away for up to 30+ yrs.so back off and leave me alone or have a happy rest of your life behind bars.
| | 11/12/2009 8:59:49 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
pablo_cruz
Chicago, IL
age: 40 online now!
| Just when my life is going along fine and I am recovering nicely from a disaster of a marriage, I get an e-mail from him today demanding an article he thinks I still have. January 28th makes the second anniversary of our divorce - MOVE ON!
A few months ago he said he didn't want to be friends or communicate with me anymore. Okay, that works for me. When we divorced, he did not pack one thing, I did. Furthermore, the mediation agreement says anything left after January 28th becomes my property. BUT I DON'T HAVE IT!!!
Right now I am going to ignore his e-mail. Any advice??? He just opened old wounds, is still angry with me for divorcing him and he has a gun!
They're just materialistic items. He's not the first and won't be the last to lose something in a divorce.
If you fear for your safety, get a gun. Then do your best to ignore and avoid him.
[Edited 11/12/2009 9:00:51 PM PST]
| | 11/12/2009 9:10:09 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
age: 62
| Not to be rude--but if you are 61--that means he has to be somewhere in the same age range--tell him to go in the yard and lay down--take a nap--its over. He has a gun--probably works as good as his weenie--probably shooting blanks. On a serious note--IGNORE HIM--if YOU communicate--you set the scene and that could become a problem. If you ignore him--he can't start any trouble. establish your boundaries and don't allow him to cross it. Lots of gun owners don't plan on using them on an ex--how stupid would that be?? BUT--if you really fear for your life--CONTACT THE LOCAL POLICE--get the legal low down on what YOU can do!! Good luck
| | 11/14/2009 2:57:33 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
outback2451
Rochester, NY
age: 58
| how come you dont block him change your email etc???? unlisted phone etc.
| | 11/14/2009 12:15:22 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | askmrknowitall2
San Jose, CA
age: 59
| Yes. Email him back and tell him you don't have what ever he's talking about. Please don't contact me again for any reason, if you find anything that belongs to me that I left throw it away, assume I don't want it, I'll do the same,. Certainly don't stop by uninvited or I will call the police. And do so. This guy is trying to harrass you.
| | 11/14/2009 12:52:46 PM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | | 
iamalwaysjustme
Olathe, KS
age: 50
| Ex husbands are like hemeroids , just when you think you got rid of them , they come back
| | 11/15/2009 7:09:45 AM | Oh Crap, It's the Ex | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61 online now!
| Yes. Email him back and tell him you don't have what ever he's talking about. Please don't contact me again for any reason, if you find anything that belongs to me that I left throw it away, assume I don't want it, I'll do the same,. Certainly don't stop by uninvited or I will call the police. And do so. This guy is trying to harrass you.
That is exactly what I did. What's funny is the fact he kept going onto the screen name he uses with me, looking for my mail (which wasn't there), then logging off all day long for 2 days. Yes, I got a cheap thrill watching him suffer, waiting for my response. When he wrote me again saying I was ignoring his demand for the item, that's when I responded with "No, I am ignoring you and there is a vast difference." I told him I don't have it, to stop contacting me and to leave me alone. After I hit send, he came back on about 1 minute later (he must have me on his buddy list under his new unknown name) and read it. His response was "OK." To hell with him and his drunken illusions.
Oh! And now he is having his friends in NY call me at 2:30 am to ask for his phone number! Thank God someone else answered my phone
[Edited 11/15/2009 7:11:33 AM PST]
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