| 11/5/2009 8:27:33 PM | Why do straight guys find it appropriate... | | 
ava_adore
Concord, CA
age: 19
| ...To send girls who are looking for girls messages saying "I know you're a lezzy/lesbo but can we chat anyway?" Sorry, I don't know how others feel on those words but I always thought of them as being slightly offensive when coming from someone who is definetly not one. Kind of like how women will call each other "b*tches" affectionately or jokingly, but then when a man calls a woman his "b*tch" it's quite inappropriate.  
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| 11/5/2009 11:49:31 PM | Why do straight guys find it appropriate... | |
cargoshorts
Saint Louis, MO
age: 46
| I totally agree with you, those terms are very offensive to me & I find the choice of words very disrespectful. Had the person used the term lesbian it would have been more appropriate. I personally prefer the term gay. As for being called a b*tch, well, that doesn't settle very well with me. If I am told I am acting like a b*tch I can handle that in reference to my behavior, if indeed I was acting as such.
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| 11/6/2009 2:06:15 PM | Why do straight guys find it appropriate... | |
ava_adore
Concord, CA
age: 19
| I totally agree with you, those terms are very offensive to me & I find the choice of words very disrespectful. Had the person used the term lesbian it would have been more appropriate. I personally prefer the term gay. As for being called a b*tch, well, that doesn't settle very well with me. If I am told I am acting like a b*tch I can handle that in reference to my behavior, if indeed I was acting as such.
Yeah, I don't like it either. I only use "b*tch" for anyone of any gender who is behaving badly, not as a term of endearment.
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| 11/6/2009 7:58:28 PM | Why do straight guys find it appropriate... | |
wanna_be_loved
Florissant, MO
age: 46
| Go figure...Kinda why lesbians are turned off by men...I also don't like hearing anyone call their wives or girlfriends their "old ladies" kinda of any oxymoron. to say they are old which is derogatory and lady which is a respectful way to address a female. I esp find it distasteful even more so when the female is younger than the one saying it. I'm willing to bet that the person calling the other their old lady thinks they are being cute but I believe they need to be knocked up side their head and given a lesson in respect.
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| 11/6/2009 11:42:27 PM | Why do straight guys find it appropriate... | |
mystacia
Jerseyville, IL
age: 56
| I really don't care if I am called lesbian or gay but some guys are just plain ignorant and it doesn't matter what comes out of their mouths. As far as b*tch, I hang with my b*tches sometimes and enjoy the hell out of it. If you call me a b*tch maliciously, I will consider the source and ignore your stupid a** anyway. 
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| 11/11/2009 1:48:36 PM | Why do straight guys find it appropriate... | |
melanie65
Saint Albans, WV
age: 44
| Sorry, no time to answer. My gal didn't make my sammich right and we need to get this shit straight before I do anything else.
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| 11/14/2009 5:21:43 PM | Why do straight guys find it appropriate... | |
boo2y
Dunlap, TN
age: 59
| It's funny how words affect one and not another.
I have occasionall called a friend a b*tch in jest but never use it to harm anyone unless they have it coming of course. I used to scare the hell out of waiters and waitresses when the come to the table and ask. How may I help you ladies. I'd pretend I was offended and quickly say 'who you callin a lady'. Then crack up while they were getting over the shock.. lmao
Always hated the word lady. Why can't, how can I help you be enough? For years my twin brother would ask me why I couldn't act like a lady. I'd tell him because then I couldn't beat the crap out of him and feel really good about it after he teased me relentlessly. LOL
Guys that call you that crap are intensely insecure, if you repond in the very same way they will melt down because in reality they don't like it directed at them either.
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| 11/14/2009 8:00:47 PM | Why do straight guys find it appropriate... | |
amethyst123
Kent, WA
age: 50
| I had to laugh at your comment about waitresses. A few years ago, on our way to a restaurant, my partner and I were discussing archetypes, and decided "b*tch" is really just another archetype. When we got there, 2 or 3 young persons chimed in with "good evening, ladies," and we said, in unison, "who you callin' ladies?" In addition to the young ones, who all seemed to disappear within seconds, there was another middle aged woman. She laughed, and asked us what we would rather be called. We told her "b*tch" would do, and we all laughed together.
When we were there the next time, we asked if she was there, and she was. We asked our waitress (another young person) to "go tell her the b*tches are here." She looked decidedly confused, but did it anyway. Apparently she was uncomfortable with the message, but she did deliver it, and our friendly fellow middle aged woman came out and talked to us. We had a great laugh together.
As for why straight guys do this - I think a lot of them think that women together would turn them on, and don't take us seriously otherwise. It's a way of diminishing us and putting us back into the place of sexual objects for their pleasure.
[Edited 11/14/2009 8:01:12 PM PST]
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