| 11/6/2009 4:48:46 PM | If you were to get married ? | | 
jennyann71
Clarksville, AR
age: 69
| Who's Life would change the most  THE man's or the Woman's and give reason why or why not?
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| 11/6/2009 4:51:43 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
dateable1
Berea, KY
age: 44
| If it changes either life so drastically, maybe there shouldn't be a marriage. It's not meant to be prison sentence but a partnership. If there are enough commonalities, neither life should have to change so drastically.
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| 11/6/2009 4:53:12 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
surrealone
Overland Park, KS
age: 38
| If it changes either life so drastically, maybe there shouldn't be a marriage. It's not meant to be prison sentence but a partnership. If there are enough commonalities, neither life should have to change so drastically.
Spot on.
-- SR1
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| 11/6/2009 5:05:49 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
jennyann71
Clarksville, AR
age: 69
| How would your life style change or would it? Reality it would change but how much? for whom?
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| 11/6/2009 5:31:00 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
perfectmatch67
Pico Rivera, CA
age: 42
| It depends on the situation. Myself for example, I would love to have kids, and a wife with good values and that will understand that I'll always do my best to be the provider, but wouldn't stop her from following her dreams. As for the women, she can only answer that...
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| 11/6/2009 5:33:27 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
leftarian
Hermosa Beach, CA
age: 45
| Who's Life would change the most THE man's or the Woman's and give reason why or why not?
Me!--because I'd have to have gone insane before I married again.
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| 11/6/2009 7:14:03 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
doreen1111
Brenham, TX
age: 45
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| 11/6/2009 7:55:16 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
joann1980
Roseburg, OR
age: 29
| It depends on the situation. Myself for example, I would love to have kids, and a wife with good values and that will understand that I'll always do my best to be the provider, but wouldn't stop her from following her dreams. As for the women, she can only answer that...
Hey. That sounds good for me.
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| 11/6/2009 7:55:22 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
wildbluemist
Battle Mountain, NV
age: 48
| The woman if she meets a real man who actually really cares for her!
[Edited 11/6/2009 7:55:50 PM PST]
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| 11/6/2009 8:18:58 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 50
| You've done this thread before, haven't you? Or someone did.
Anyway,
why would a life style change for either of us? If we're at the point of marriage, we already know our life styles match up and we want them to blend even more. I love being married. I love knowing my husband is there at night, is there in the morning, is coming home after work, is there for homework, and for watching TV after dinner, and is there with me, living with me, laughing with me, loving with me, teasing me, or helping clean up something, or out in the yard, or in the garage, or reading....
I love catching his eye across a crowded room and we know what it means. I love seeing the look in his eyes. I love slumming around on weekends with no particular destination.
Our lifestyles are only enhanced when we share them.
So I guess the answer is is that both our lives change for the better.
If you mean something more tangible like...he gets a meal and I get someone who'll make sure the oil is changed in the car? I guess we both come out ahead because we're both doing things for each other. We become a team.
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| 11/6/2009 8:32:35 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
blowtorchbabe
Tulsa, OK
age: 59
| You've done this thread before, haven't you? Or someone did.
Anyway,
why would a life style change for either of us? If we're at the point of marriage, we already know our life styles match up and we want them to blend even more. I love being married. I love knowing my husband is there at night, is there in the morning, is coming home after work, is there for homework, and for watching TV after dinner, and is there with me, living with me, laughing with me, loving with me, teasing me, or helping clean up something, or out in the yard, or in the garage, or reading....
I love catching his eye across a crowded room and we know what it means. I love seeing the look in his eyes. I love slumming around on weekends with no particular destination.
Our lifestyles are only enhanced when we share them.
So I guess the answer is is that both our lives change for the better.
If you mean something more tangible like...he gets a meal and I get someone who'll make sure the oil is changed in the car? I guess we both come out ahead because we're both doing things for each other. We become a team.
Exactly, Lake...
I want to be married. I want to wake up and see his beautiful face on the pillow next to mine. I want to be able to reach out in the middle of the night and be able to touch him. I want his voice to be the first I hear every morning. I want to take him a cup of coffee fixed just the way he likes it. I want to go shopping with him and have him hold my hand the way he does when we're together. I want him to stop me in the middle of the store and have him kiss me every time we're out.
The only thing that will change when we're married? We won't be apart. 
[Edited 11/6/2009 8:33:16 PM PST]
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| 11/6/2009 10:23:01 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
10_2ur_biz
Highland, CA
age: 43
| I thank the one with the least to lose should move . If you have no kids or you have just a job maybe not something you love doing. They should move.
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| 11/6/2009 10:45:52 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 52
| I cant really repsond to this question as I cant see me getting married....
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| 11/6/2009 10:54:57 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
kaleigh9
Naperville, IL
age: 40
| Why insane?
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| 11/6/2009 10:57:23 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
ironmuscle
Santa Cruz, CA
age: 33
| If it changes either life so drastically, maybe there shouldn't be a marriage. It's not meant to be prison sentence but a partnership. If there are enough commonalities, neither life should have to change so drastically.
Great Answer!
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| 11/7/2009 12:10:44 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
dghorn
Assiniboia, SK
age: 45
| Both of your lives would change, as you were single and now you are married. There is the blending of families, friends and maybe new jobs, and even a new house.
It would depend on who was moving into which house, where is that family. Ages of kids and even pets, and so many other factors.
Now saying that, I would gladly change (even give up) all these things and not even consider them as a loss as I would be gaining so much more. I would hope that she would also feel the same way.
It would be a two way win with no losers.
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| 11/7/2009 2:37:59 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
ctprincess
Danbury, CT
age: 56
| Both of your lives would change, as you were single and now you are married. There is the blending of families, friends and maybe new jobs, and even a new house.
It would depend on who was moving into which house, where is that family. Ages of kids and even pets, and so many other factors.
Now saying that, I would gladly change (even give up) all these things and not even consider them as a loss as I would be gaining so much more. I would hope that she would also feel the same way.
It would be a two way win with no losers.
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| 11/7/2009 3:03:48 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
latestflame
Memphis, TN
age: 32
| Well it's hard to say when most people with only think how they themselves would change. i would guess it would vary though. I'm not so sure eithers would change more. or maybe this is if were in a relationship currently? I'm not in one so no specific person to compare it with.
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| 11/7/2009 5:40:13 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
virgo01
Concord, NC
age: 40
| Both of the lives and depending if there are children involved.It makes me wonder why some are in OR get involved with a person who does not like or get along with the other persons children.That and a back ground check to make sure he was not a preditor.Thats a deal breaker for me.
[Edited 11/7/2009 5:40:58 AM PST]
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| 11/7/2009 6:44:23 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
epiphany2
Houston, TX
age: 45
| If I were to get married again, I would have a prenupt next time for sure. But to answer your question, his life would probably change drastically.
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| 11/7/2009 6:46:21 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
epiphany2
Houston, TX
age: 45
| Me!--because I'd have to have gone insane before I married again.
I FEEL YOU on that one!!!!!
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| 11/7/2009 7:35:30 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61
| I will never, ever get married again. Let me repeat that: I will never, ever get married again!! I made many changes for my second husband. Moved 3,000 miles to be with him, sold a house, bought a house, had to place my 3 dogs when I moved, got one dog when I got here, but it all seemed good at first when he was putting on his I Love You act and playing nice. Then he changed the rules. Then I divorced him. (singing Irreplaceable in my head as I type) 
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| 11/7/2009 7:37:12 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
br289
Buford, GA
age: 43
| I wont either...once and done. I had a great marriage but for whatever reasons it dissolved it left a bad taste in my mouth so to speak....
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| 11/7/2009 9:03:15 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 53
| In my case, I think it would be my life that would change the most. BRING IT ON!!!!!
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| 11/7/2009 9:50:35 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 50
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Sigh. Yep.
I may have to go wander over to the Spouse Seekers thread.
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| 11/7/2009 9:51:59 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
joann1980
Roseburg, OR
age: 29
| I definitley agree on the whole backround checks. You wouldn't believe some of the men I have come across that seem nice and then BAM the backround checkcmes through. Although this one guy I saw very briefly I did just a state wide backround check. It turned out clean, but shrotly there after I get a call as he is going to jail and asks me for 1100 bucks for unpaid tickets. At that very moment I said see ya, have fun in jail pal.
I also have to agree with you dg. It is a life style change. But if it is the right person it is definitly a win win situation for both. It would be a wonderful addition. I think at this point it depends on the others situation and flexibility. If I moved I would probably end up selling my house or end up renting depending on income or vice versa. But if in the next year and a half something happens, I would probably be the one to move seeing as how I am not currently working and am currently attendng online college.
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| 11/7/2009 10:05:58 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
i_am_bill
Astatula, FL
age: 50
| Who's Life would change the most THE man's or the Woman's and give reason why or why not?
I gave up a career and moved to a different city to be with my ex. I gave up nearly everything material. I don't think I will have a problem grasping anything anyone is going to offer here. 
Bill
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| 11/7/2009 1:09:47 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
terryh54
Albion, ME
age: 37
| It would be mine because that would mean that I had completly lost my F**king mind and was setting myself up to be taken advantage of and used for their own gain and benefit and then when they felt they could handle it all on their own or found someone to wait on them more then me they would leave and expect me to be A o.k with all of it!!!!!
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| 11/7/2009 5:03:55 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
jennyann71
Clarksville, AR
age: 69
| Not me darlin NEVER ASK THIS QUESTION BEFORE????as I am the new kid on the block so what did they other answers look like or do they compare to these answers,?????? I never repeat anything, giggles """"""""" Once is enough?????
[Edited 11/7/2009 5:05:02 PM PST]
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| 11/7/2009 5:11:25 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
mrchris2u
Hicksville, NY
age: 48 online now!
| I cant really repsond to this question as I cant see me getting married.... Thats a big dopey lookin doggy. Rub it's belly for me.
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| 11/7/2009 5:13:39 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 45
| Really, I can't see how either would be less affected by it.
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| 11/7/2009 7:18:20 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
iamalwaysjustme
Olathe, KS
age: 50 online now!
| Get married ? OH Hell NO 
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| 11/7/2009 7:21:45 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
happylisa
Broken Arrow, OK
age: 43
| I would think both of our lives. New environment, new house, new kids, new living arrangements, new dynamics in the family...all of which would change when we do get married.
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| 11/7/2009 8:01:18 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
thirstyace
Magnolia, DE
age: 38 online now!
| cancel my comcast
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| 11/7/2009 8:34:47 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
chyrei
Harrisonville, MO
age: 45
| If I were to get married?
Hmmm, let's see....
Time would stand still, Hell would freeze over, and the world would come to an end...
All on the same day.
I guess he would have to change, huh?
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| 11/9/2009 9:28:53 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
thirstyace
Magnolia, DE
age: 38 online now!
| He who?
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| 11/9/2009 10:24:27 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
xpamela_leighx
Springville, UT
age: 36
| His.....Because life could throw nothing else at me I haven't already dealt with. I am guessing some poor saint will take pity on me, and try to "save me" from myself....so his life will be changed by the nightmare he is trying to take on.
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| 11/9/2009 2:22:22 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
10_2ur_biz
Highland, CA
age: 43
| I believe both lives would change , hopefully for the best.
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| 11/12/2009 9:30:58 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
stoneowl
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 50 online now!
| Everything changes, and much still stays the same--yet dealing with it all evokes new efforts and understandings from each, and in a solid relationship, these understandings themselves go through continual evolutions over the years...
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| 11/13/2009 5:22:05 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
qinx_babyboomer
Houston, TX
age: 51
| If it changes either life so drastically, maybe there shouldn't be a marriage. It's not meant to be prison sentence but a partnership. If there are enough commonalities, neither life should have to change so drastically.
DITTO!
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| 11/13/2009 5:40:10 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
pattie53
Rochester, NY
age: 51
| Both people would have to change. I think thats why alot of people shy away from it!
Maybe thats why marriage itself came in to exsistence to define that moment in time when the change happens.
[Edited 11/13/2009 5:41:35 AM PST]
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| 11/13/2009 5:52:51 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
oceandive
Clonfert
Ireland
age: 52
| quote from lake:.......why would a life style change for either of us? If we're at the point of marriage, we already know our life styles match up and we want them to blend even more. I love being married. I love knowing my husband is there at night, is there in the morning, is coming home after work, is there for homework, and for watching TV after dinner, and is there with me, living with me, laughing with me, loving with me, teasing me, or helping clean up something, or out in the yard, or in the garage, or reading....
I love catching his eye across a crowded room and we know what it means. I love seeing the look in his eyes. I love slumming around on weekends with no particular destination.
Our lifestyles are only enhanced when we share them.
So I guess the answer is is that both our lives change for the better.
If you mean something more tangible like...he gets a meal and I get someone who'll make sure the oil is changed in the car? I guess we both come out ahead because we're both doing things for each other. We become a team.
......yep,,,,this is pretty much me too....i miss those little 'secret looks'....as for the background checks.....anyone run one on me is gonna find a wrap sheet that puddles on the floor.....and that poster worried about unpaid tickets.....jeezzzz louise.....there is FAR WORSE CHIT than that on this planet.....anyone can take me or leave,,,,,i am who i am.....i was alone when i got here and i might just stay that way.........but i sure don't want to...
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| 11/13/2009 5:53:30 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
taurus_e
Corsicana, TX
age: 33
| How could you possibly predict whos life would change more?
Is this sweeping generalization day again?
And really, again..
After marriage your life doesnt change, unless only slightly, and thats IF you two havent shacked up together yet.
Magic doesnt happen after marriage. 
[Edited 11/13/2009 5:55:25 AM PST]
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| 11/13/2009 6:27:48 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 46
| Both of your lives would change, as you were single and now you are married. There is the blending of families, friends and maybe new jobs, and even a new house.
It would depend on who was moving into which house, where is that family. Ages of kids and even pets, and so many other factors.
Now saying that, I would gladly change (even give up) all these things and not even consider them as a loss as I would be gaining so much more. I would hope that she would also feel the same way.
It would be a two way win with no losers.
I agree with YOU!
I would change most definately to be with him, that's a change that I'd welcome. I have no home of my own per say, so that isn't a problem, and no job at the present time so moving for me would be a GREAT change. I do have children BUT they don't leave so that isn't even a problem for me...
I see so many pluses and NO minuses to this, and as I must agree with DG, BOTH lives would change in all reality for the BEST
BUT OP to answer your question I cannot because your asking in general and I can only speak for ME, I don't know about others lives, and what or who would change!
[Edited 11/13/2009 6:28:47 AM PST]
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| 11/13/2009 7:06:44 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
dinkasu48
Henderson, TX
age: 48
| If you were to get married ?
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then woke up, sweating from that awful nightmare
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| 11/13/2009 7:19:19 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
crzyblubttrfly
Fort Smith, AR
age: 50
| Surely whatever the details it would be a good change ,if you have found someone important enough as to want to marry them. Major changes can be harsh but you have someone to help ease that transition and should do fine.
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| 11/13/2009 8:40:34 AM | If you were to get married ? | |
izzystradlian12
Tupelo, MS
age: 33
| i would change my life and also i would say i finally found the right woman after bein single for 15 years also i would stop worring about finding a woman that didn't care about me having a bad back
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| 11/13/2009 12:24:57 PM | If you were to get married ? | |
sandra49ok
Shelton, WA
age: 50
| i don't plan on ever getting married again
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