| 11/6/2009 7:29:06 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | | 
gingerale21
Brooklyn, NY
age: 49
| I met a man online I could be interested in. We IM'd-then he stopped but kept me as a connection. A few months later he started doalogue again. He gave me his phone number. But he removed me from his contacts. I asked to be added to his contacts again but since he works and is away I don't know if he saw it or is ignoring me or just playing hard to get. Our conversations are wonderful-very simpatico and we've seen eachother's photos. Should I wait a few days and then call him? Or is he just playing games online? He seems to be single and lives alone. I don't want to feel foolish if I call him-I spoke to him earlier in the year and the conversation was very short and he never followed up then. I'm confused-should I persue it? I so enjoy our conversation but he always leaves me disappointed after.
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| 11/6/2009 7:36:43 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
tonyalasagna
Lawrenceville, GA
age: 36
| hell no!
get and read the book "he's just not that into you".
i would not communicate with him in any form or fashion. he's playing you and using you for backup - when he's bored.
if he wanted to talk to you, he would. there is no such thing as too busy, etc. when you want to talk to someone that you are interested in. he's not interested.
move on.
you deserve better.
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| 11/6/2009 7:37:35 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
ironmuscle
Santa Cruz, CA
age: 33
| Quote from gingerale21: I so enjoy our conversation but he always leaves me disappointed after
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There's your answer! Don't let your emotions overcome your intellect!
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| 11/6/2009 7:39:37 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
bored2deth
Frankfort, IN
age: 33 online now!
| It's the adrenaline of the hunt darlin. You want him THAT bad keep tryin till yur dyin. Sounds like your pretty close to the dyin part though. But hey , if you think the prize is worth the fight... Keep on fightin'. Just don't get too caught up in the riff-raff that IS man. There's plenty more out there. 
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| 11/6/2009 7:40:57 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
starzdream
Florence, KY
age: 44
| are you friggin kiddin me??????!!!!???? dump that loser he's usin you !
You can do so much better than that...no one deserves to be on a roller coaster like that. My X husband kept me on that ride...and it keeps you emotionally DRAINED. Dont even get on it ..too hard to get off once he has you on for the ride.
Sorry Hun...
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| 11/6/2009 7:42:25 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
wildbluemist
Battle Mountain, NV
age: 48 online now!
| hell no!
get and read the book "he's just not that into you".
i would not communicate with him in any form or fashion. he's playing you and using you for backup - when he's bored.
if he wanted to talk to you, he would. there is no such thing as too busy, etc. when you want to talk to someone that you are interested in. he's not interested.
move on.
you deserve better. I agree your profile sucks why in the hell would a great guy want to get to know you? Now if you really tried to put the real you on a profile it might be different!
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| 11/6/2009 7:43:30 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
waterloo_sunset
Coram, NY
age: 51
| Pffffft, no brainer. He's not into you and there's a high probability he is with someone esle. Move on. Time is too precious to waste.
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| 11/6/2009 7:44:45 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
pattie53
Rochester, NY
age: 51
| He's just playing games with you let him go..
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| 11/6/2009 7:44:56 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
pebblesbambam
Allentown, PA
age: 43
| I think that I lost my quarter here... The game machine tell me this "Try Again"...
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| 11/6/2009 7:48:05 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
classikchris26
Shelton, CT
age: 54
| From what you say here, I say forget about him. Too much mystery. If I was interested in someone I would want to meet sooner than later and not let a month go by. Sounds like he is playing you. Don't waste anymore of your time. Move on. There are plenty of gues out there who keep it real. Good luck to you.
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| 11/6/2009 8:06:12 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
gingerale21
Brooklyn, NY
age: 49
| Thanks everyone. Consensus is 7 say dump him and 2 say try again. I have never met this man so in person he may be as exciting as peeling paint. But he is so slick that he has peeked my curiousity. I will not call him but if he contacts me and we ever do meet I will let you all know-I don't think that will happen because your right-he's just not that into me-and if we met I may not be into him. Our phone conversation was less than a minute. He's just great online with IMing. He gets a
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| 11/6/2009 8:46:50 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
10_2ur_biz
Highland, CA
age: 43
| He gave you his number, call him. If it's the wrong Number , you have your answer.
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| 11/6/2009 9:39:18 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
gingerale21
Brooklyn, NY
age: 49
| Its the right number Big Sur because I called it several months ago but he seems to play a lot of games-he might be with someone-I like him if he would get honest and give me a chance. Only 3 out of 10 on here said give it a chance.
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| 11/6/2009 11:12:49 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
michaelnnyc1
New York, NY
age: 50
| He's married sweetheart----don't bother and keep going---he is a player
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| 11/6/2009 11:41:20 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
spunkymissy1
Washington, PA
age: 46
| move on I say.........you deserve better
my motto is after about a month if playing online/phone if no meeting then he must not be to darn interested
Good luck to ya
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| 11/6/2009 11:58:13 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
latestflame
Memphis, TN
age: 32
| Actually I was first going to say they can't know he is playing you, but honestly he sounds exactly like this girl I was into a couple years ago. Conversations always went well and lamost ALWAYS ended with me feeling... like they abruptly ended. When something seems to be not quite finished about the convo I think it's someone purposely playing around. I've also had girls who would lead me on and then they would turn things totally around as if they didn't do it. Some people have no life. Then yes some want someone there as a backup, but I doubt this is that case if you feel like something is kind of odd about how you feel wjhen convos end.
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| 11/7/2009 12:14:07 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
s1owhand
Palau, PW
age: 49
| hell no!
get and read the book "he's just not that into you".
i would not communicate with him in any form or fashion. he's playing you and using you for backup - when he's bored.
if he wanted to talk to you, he would. there is no such thing as too busy, etc. when you want to talk to someone that you are interested in. he's not interested.
move on.
you deserve better.
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| 11/7/2009 1:03:36 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
simonptkd
Berkshire
United Kingdom
age: 51
| hell no!
if he wanted to talk to you, he would. there is no such thing as too busy, etc.
Well don't phone me then......life does not always revolve around others expectations. There are times when one is too bust, you maybe at work, stuck up a ladder with a brush full of paint......there are times when the luxury of a chat is just not an option
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| 11/7/2009 4:56:55 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
bluerick
Bayside, NY
age: 63
| If you have that many doubts before you call him then you shouldn't be calling him at all.
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| 11/7/2009 5:16:44 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
latestflame
Memphis, TN
age: 32
| If you have that many doubts before you call him then you shouldn't be calling him at all.
Sometimes one can over think something though. At least from my experience it does seem like if you feel doubts they indeed are there for a reason though, so I guess I agree with you. Just that occasionally an exception may slip through where someone overthinks.
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| 11/7/2009 5:29:55 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61
| Don't call him. If he treats you this way before any in-depth relationship begins, can you imagine how he will treat you if something goes wrong? Consistency is the key here. Maybe you just dodged a relationship bullet and you don't realize it yet! Sometimes a person is single not because they want to be, but because they have serious problems no one else wants to handle!
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| 11/7/2009 5:44:19 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
settee_for_2
Flower Mound, TX
age: 56
| Don't call him...and hope like hell he doesn't call you..
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| 11/7/2009 7:59:11 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 35
| I met a man online I could be interested in. We IM'd-then he stopped but kept me as a connection. A few months later he started doalogue again. He gave me his phone number. But he removed me from his contacts. I asked to be added to his contacts again but since he works and is away I don't know if he saw it or is ignoring me or just playing hard to get. Our conversations are wonderful-very simpatico and we've seen eachother's photos. Should I wait a few days and then call him? Or is he just playing games online? He seems to be single and lives alone. I don't want to feel foolish if I call him-I spoke to him earlier in the year and the conversation was very short and he never followed up then. I'm confused-should I persue it? I so enjoy our conversation but he always leaves me disappointed after.
Maybe you have a daughter, maybe you don't. But what would you tell your daughter if she told you this story? There's your answer.
[Edited 11/7/2009 7:59:20 AM PST]
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| 11/7/2009 8:01:29 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
butchy325
Brooklyn, NY
age: 54
| 1st of all forget that guy.. 2nd of all your picture is too provocative. your showing that your desperate..which hopefully your ont.. 3rd change your picture.. i`m sure there is a more demure side of you, that will make men come your way.. good luck.
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| 11/7/2009 8:02:23 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
3asygoing
Dearborn, MI
age: 41
| Seriously after how many months of imms and a couple phone calls do you expect to keep somones interest, Im kinda baffled at how anyone could be villified by the population here for going away ,loosing interest and not wanting to waste nomore time himself. Dunno how he is useing her either its imming and a couple phone calls , after a couple weeks if there is no willingness to meet its move on time for me , shit or get off the pot he got off the pot and got tired of waiting for something real to happen like a meet and greet kinda what the place is all about. So you might of lost a real one there possibley.
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| 11/7/2009 8:25:33 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
95north
Holbrook, MA
age: 31
| IMO you are his backup option. He stopped talking to you because he was more interested in another woman. Things didn't work out with her so he started talking to you again.
[Edited 11/7/2009 8:25:56 AM PST]
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| 11/7/2009 9:03:36 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
tomotos
South Plainfield, NJ
age: 62
|  Ginger you need to be spanked.....No way in hell,dump ( that ) like waste ! 49 and you had to ask....dang ! I say it the way we see it..... 
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| 11/7/2009 9:11:57 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
zeanah
Clarion, PA
age: 50
| No No No! Do not call him!Many posters gave valid reasons why, so I won't repeat it all. He is playing you big time! If he was interested, you'd know it by now. I'll do my part in conversing and giving attention to a man, but he has to do his fair share too. If he doesn't...he's history...POOF! DELETE!
"Z" 
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| 11/7/2009 5:54:23 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
gingerale21
Brooklyn, NY
age: 49
| Okay people most say dump him-But: 1-he is back as idle on my messenger so that may have been a tech error which means he hasn't typed to ANYONE in awhile 2-He is working and one man commented u r not always available when working 2-He did want to meet last time we IM'd but I thought it a bit too soon. So the climate is a little different. To Butchie from Brooklyn-I was in the salon today and u should see the competition-they're stunning. Remember this is NYC and its fierce. In person I am quite conservative -maybe too much so. And to the woman who said there were 10 decent available men in our age group in the NYC area I have to agree-there's just not much to pick from and this one could turn out to be the needle in the haystack. Remember we don't get to meet thst many online offline in person. If I had you guys years ago I think my relationships would have gone a lot better. Isn' this great that now we have a forum like this! So consensus is 50/50 and I have to decide what to do.
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| 11/7/2009 8:09:37 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
jm0405
Las Vegas, NV
age: 44
| 1st of all forget that guy.. 2nd of all your picture is too provocative. your showing that your desperate..which hopefully your ont.. 3rd change your picture.. i`m sure there is a more demure side of you, that will make men come your way.. good luck.
I thought the exact same thing when I saw the profile. Also, the content of - WANT A MAN NOW kind of thing. Why not talk about yourself instead of coming across as someone on a man hunt? Your profile makes you sound needy and the picture confirms it. I would definitely make changes.
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| 11/7/2009 8:12:37 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
chyrei
Harrisonville, MO
age: 45
| Move on!
Next question, please...
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| 11/7/2009 9:13:47 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
latestflame
Memphis, TN
age: 32
| What in the world are people getting at who say how horrible he treated her? For not calling? If someone doesn't call that doesn't make them horrible. lol I guess people are assuming he was playing her, but really with the details in that first post you can't tell anything for sure other than he hasn't called. That alone isn't "horrible treatment". If he's truly playing games, then yeah he's not worth any time.
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| 11/7/2009 9:14:31 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
steven030463
Newton Falls, OH
age: 46
| no, call me instead.
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| 11/7/2009 9:23:48 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
3asygoing
Dearborn, MI
age: 41
| I sure hope when im 49 I can actually decide for myself how to go about my life. This is to funny. You know what the answer is ,not to mention only you can decide what is best for YOU.
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| 11/7/2009 10:41:58 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
latestflame
Memphis, TN
age: 32
| age has nothing to do with it. anyone can be unsure of someone's motives. But the way I feel is nobody here can know anyway. They can only give opinions to her. Nobody knows him so they can't be sure.
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| 11/7/2009 10:48:11 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
ericka_c
Dallas, TX
age: 39
| If he doesn't care enough now, how much could he later.
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| 11/7/2009 11:50:56 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
annamranna
Bloomington, IL
age: 54
| No. And you really already know that is not a good idea.
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| 11/8/2009 8:31:21 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 51
| Move on bypass the trash
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| 11/8/2009 8:38:40 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
gayfife
Fife, Scotland
United Kingdom
age: 46
| NO
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| 11/8/2009 8:47:54 AM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 46
| If he doesn't care enough now, how much could he later.
Here's how you get over it...
Call him....
Ask him to meet you within a week.
If he can't make it, bail on him. Totally write him off.
The only reason I say this is you seem to be hung up on him.
If you're both local and he can't find the time to meet you in a week, he's just pulling your chain.
I'm sure you can find others in NYC to date. You just need to start doing some local searches and start hitting up a bunch of guys in your area.
Don't get hung up on any of them until they're hung up on you.
Your current profile picture leaves nothing to the imagination. It's a bit too provocative. You may want to work on that. Get more photos up.
Edit??? Don't ask me why I quoted erika... But she has a good point. But a guy that doesn't care now may eventually care. Relationships are built from the ground up. You can't expect anyone to really care until they have invested a part of themselves into the union.
[Edited 11/8/2009 8:53:12 AM PST]
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| 11/8/2009 4:38:47 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
gingerale21
Brooklyn, NY
age: 49
| Okay people-listen up- I did not meet this person on this site so he never saw the photo on DH. As far as provocative there is really nothing to see-I am totally covered. What is provocative about that? Didn't any of you girls ever have a strapless dress? Local fashion here is moch more suggestive because many times its trendsetting. More men than women opted to give the person a chance. The best advise was from DutchBoy in Huntington Beach, Ca. who said call him since we're both local and see if he meets within a week. Otherwise dump him. I thought that was sensible since a few Im's and phone calls really mean nothing. I tend to move on very quckly so I think that's a good idea. There are many people online who will IM and phone for a long time and never meet you. That's just their thing. I have a chance to meet many people because of the large populated area I'm in. I chose the few I'm interested in-that's certainly not desperate.
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| 11/8/2009 4:46:19 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
neo52
Kos Island
Greece
age: 53
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I say ,you young lady are making a good decision.
If he was interested he would have made efforts to have met you by now .
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| 11/8/2009 8:08:50 PM | Should I call this guy? Please advise | |
ljnaps69
Lake Hopatcong, NJ
age: 58
| He's not playing hard to get. He's brushing you off. There are a lot of great guys out there.
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