| 11/7/2009 9:11:25 AM | A question for women | | 
kskountryboy
Deerfield, MO
age: 33
| If one of the first things a guy said to you was "i would like to be in a relationship but i travle for work and never around when i am home i spend most of my time with my kids" would you consider dating him?
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| 11/7/2009 9:14:37 AM | A question for women | |
zeanah
Clarion, PA
age: 50
| No....he is not ready or available to date. Why would he even be on a dating site? The only way that could even have a remote chance of being successful is if he lived very close to someone he was dating. Even then, he'd be unavailable most of the time. Why waste your time???
Good Luck!
"Z" 
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| 11/7/2009 9:49:29 AM | A question for women | |
kskountryboy
Deerfield, MO
age: 33
| So which should i do stop working or stop seeing my kids? Neither of which will happen i work to support my household and provide for my girls. Im not a deadbeat dad who walks away from my girls. Why am i not ready to be in a relationship?
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| 11/7/2009 9:53:10 AM | A question for women | |
arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 47 online now!
| If one of the first things a guy said to you was "i would like to be in a relationship but i travle for work and never around when i am home i spend most of my time with my kids" would you consider dating him?
If that's the life you chose, then expect some women to not accept it.
if you don't like it, change jobs.
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| 11/7/2009 10:24:51 AM | A question for women | |
metu
Mansfield, TX
age: 48
| So which should i do stop working or stop seeing my kids? Neither of which will happen i work to support my household and provide for my girls. Im not a deadbeat dad who walks away from my girls. Why am i not ready to be in a relationship?
Listen closely: BECAUSE YOU'VE ALREADY STATED YOU DON'T HAVE THE TIME! Nobody is saying that you're a bad person or father, but at this moment it seems like you've got enough on your plate. Only a "doormat" is gonna wanna play 3rd fiddle in your life. No foul on them or you...it's just the way it is...
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| 11/7/2009 10:37:23 AM | A question for women | |
gypsysays
Westbank, BC
age: 44
| I think for yourself to be happy you need to have a happy balance of work, kids, and a social life. You arent a bad father if you want to go out at times.
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| 11/7/2009 10:44:11 AM | A question for women | |
bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 47
| By 'a relationship' you mean: A woman who is reliably available for the things I want in the few minutes I have that I am not busy elsewhere.
What would she be getting out of it? Financial support? If so, there are plenty of women willing to accept that.
But most want a shared life. You can't fault them for wanting that.
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| 11/7/2009 10:49:52 AM | A question for women | |
pirl
Summerville, SC
age: 50 online now!
| So when does she get what she may want/need?
When she makes an appointment?
There was a time that would have been fine with me, busy career and a child of my own at home. Not now.
A paycheck will not warm my heart or my feet in the winter.
Plus I "got my desires"
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| 11/7/2009 10:59:13 AM | A question for women | |
gypsysays
Westbank, BC
age: 44
| It doesnt sound like you have the time for a relationship. May I suggest Dateahooker.com!!
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| 11/7/2009 11:02:19 AM | A question for women | |
windyoo1
Enumclaw, WA
age: 40
| there plenty of women out there that would
probably enjoy your kids also.
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| 11/7/2009 11:03:08 AM | A question for women | |
binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 47
| Nope.
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| 11/7/2009 11:03:50 AM | A question for women | |
settee_for_2
Flower Mound, TX
age: 56
| I once upon a time dated a man who owned his business and had three children 9 through 13. We spent a great many of our dates with his children including soccer games and band concerts..he is a great dad and I admire him for that. We did have time to ourselves about 50% of the time. I don't regret it but doubt I would do that again. I got too attached to the kids and breaking up is hard enough without having the kids involved...
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| 11/7/2009 11:31:18 AM | A question for women | |
ilovemyhorse
Madison, IN
age: 48
| i see no problem with it, the right person will understand.
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| 11/7/2009 11:36:13 AM | A question for women | |
lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 50
| How do you propose to find time to date the woman you say that to?
Of course you have to work, of course your children are in your life. How are you going to fit her in to all of that? The onus is on you, not her.
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| 11/7/2009 11:48:03 AM | A question for women | |
iamalwaysjustme
Olathe, KS
age: 50
| Yes , I would date him  I had a boyfriend that was a roofer , had one that did construction . They were both gone quite a bit , sometimes gone more than they were home . I love my free time too much to ever want a man in my life 24/ 7 
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| 11/7/2009 11:52:51 AM | A question for women | |
msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 46
| HMMM well I married a military man that was NEVER around much when he was I had to go with him to be with him, so doesn't bother me...
FREE time is wonderful time together is great after that free time...
Time with your kids well why can't a good woman enjoy that KID time with you too?
Depends what your asking if you want a female to jump and run like being spontanious some will ALOT won't!
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| 11/7/2009 2:23:09 PM | A question for women | |
kskountryboy
Deerfield, MO
age: 33
| So basically Im screwed untill the right one comes along that'll be awile. As for the dateahooker comment I won't be taking that advice
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| 11/7/2009 2:25:34 PM | A question for women | |
wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 45
| So which should i do stop working or stop seeing my kids? Neither of which will happen i work to support my household and provide for my girls. Im not a deadbeat dad who walks away from my girls. Why am i not ready to be in a relationship?
Is it fair to ask a woman to wait for you to give your time to your job and kids? I wouldn't. If a man is telling me up front he's never around and when he is he's with his kids then why would me or any woman want that? If I am going to be lonely I am going to do it alone not on the pretense of being someone's girlfriend.
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| 11/7/2009 2:27:21 PM | A question for women | |
jasmi
Latrobe, PA
age: 52
| I would probably not date you then. A relationship takes time, and you apparantly have none left for a relationship. How is a woman supposed to get to know you if you don't spend time together? Just saying.
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| 11/7/2009 2:41:13 PM | A question for women | |
zeanah
Clarion, PA
age: 50
| I did not mean you are a bad person....you work hard and you are a good Father, which is great and honorable. BUT....I am available to date and I want a man who has time to date me. I raised my kids, worked hard all my life. It's my time now to get out there and enjoy life. I can do that with friends, with a dating partner or by myself. However, a dating partner who would give me some of his time to do things and get to know him would be great! Life is to short now to sit and wait for someone to "fit" me into his schedule.
You may find a woman who doesn't mind that kind of a relationship. I am sure they are out there...good luck!
"Z" 
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| 11/7/2009 2:42:30 PM | A question for women | |
pattie53
Rochester, NY
age: 51
| I dated a guy for 1-1/2 years that made me fourth on his prioity list of to do things
and it sucked!!! If you really want a relationship with someone, they will eventually
have to take the #1 spot in your life. If you can't do that, than I would suggest
you wait until the kiddies are grown and you are retired.. Just my opionion based on
my own experience!!
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| 11/7/2009 2:48:29 PM | A question for women | |
me4_overit
Stanton, NE
age: 36
| If one of the first things a guy said to you was "i would like to be in a relationship but i travle for work and never around when i am home i spend most of my time with my kids" would you consider dating him?
No.........that is pretty much telling her...........sit and wait until I have time for you. No woman with any self esteem is going to do that.
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| 11/7/2009 2:51:40 PM | A question for women | |
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 46
| Hey! I'm sure you could work it out with the right person.
You just need to find them.
My neighbor is in a situation like yours. They love it. Every time he comes home it's like a honeymoon all over again.
That reminds me....I need to get some more insulation for that side of the house.
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| 11/7/2009 2:52:13 PM | A question for women | |
xpamela_leighx
Springville, UT
age: 36
| Hmmmm....nope!!!
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| 11/7/2009 3:26:02 PM | A question for women | |
cowboyupphx
Phoenix, AZ
age: 43
| Your going to have to have (make) some time for a women - none will stick around long if not...date night (s) at least - and if she has kids - might understand your situation more - maybe same boat - that's your best bet....good luck 
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| 11/7/2009 4:10:04 PM | A question for women | |
license2explore
Billings, MT
age: 44
| I WAS trying to deal with that now with a guy I have been seeing. He has 3 grown boys, that live with him, all in early twenties. He is gone a lot anyway,then when he is back, tries to fit them and I into his I AM BACK TIME! He is a good father,but I miss going out on weekends and having fun with my boyfriend. I work also,but still want to do things on my time off with him .I envy my friends going out having fun with their guys. While yes he was back, but he had to fix one of the boys cars. He had been gone five days,just got home.He called and said he was taking one of the boys to get shoes. Then he called two hours later and said the son wanted to go eat,so it would be another hour. When he got home another one of the boys wanted something,so by the time he got around to seeing me, he fell asleep on the couch! He was wore out! Yes, he really is doing this for them,and I would hope if you are a father, your kids come first! The problem I have is they are not little kids who can't do things for their self! He had been gone a week this last time. All three boys had a list of things they needed him to do. One even texted me did I know the time his father was getting into town. He wanted to be the first to have Dad do something for him! He will be home two days. He called and asked if it was ok to come and get me and we could go up to his place, we would watch a movie. I did go, but I hardly saw him! He was doing their laundry, cleaning up the house and etc. I like him a lot, but am finding this just to hard to make it work. I don't think I can deal with this.
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| 11/7/2009 4:53:14 PM | A question for women | |
wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 45
| I WAS trying to deal with that now with a guy I have been seeing. He has 3 grown boys, that live with him, all in early twenties. He is gone a lot anyway,then when he is back, tries to fit them and I into his.
I have 2 grown daughters and love spending time with them, however we have our own lives. Sounds like your bf needs to cut the apron strings and prioritize his time and not dedicate it to catching up time with his boys but seeing them when he can since they are grown.
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| 11/7/2009 8:46:55 PM | A question for women | |
hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
age: 49
| I understand your position but at the same time you are practically saying that you have no time to spend with a date so no I probably wouldn't.
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| 11/7/2009 8:53:46 PM | A question for women | |
singmesweet
West River, MD
age: 31 online now!
| If one of the first things a guy said to you was "i would like to be in a relationship but i travle for work and never around when i am home i spend most of my time with my kids" would you consider dating him?
If you're either traveling for work or never around when you're not traveling, how will you have time to date? How are you going to be able to get to know someone and have a relationship with them?
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| 11/7/2009 11:57:41 PM | A question for women | |
kskountryboy
Deerfield, MO
age: 33
| Since i am guessing few of the replys on here didn't look at my profile I normally get 1-2 nights a week and 1-2 days a weekend at home as for the grown kids comments my girls are 7&20months old not to be a d*ck but no woman will be #1 to my girls
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| 11/8/2009 12:02:26 AM | A question for women | |
epiphany2
Houston, TX
age: 45
| If one of the first things a guy said to you was "i would like to be in a relationship but i travle for work and never around when i am home i spend most of my time with my kids" would you consider dating him?
How????? There's no time.
[Edited 11/8/2009 12:02:50 AM PST]
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| 11/8/2009 12:04:51 AM | A question for women | |
epiphany2
Houston, TX
age: 45
| If that's the life you chose, then expect some women to not accept it.
if you don't like it, change jobs.
I agree!!! This guy doesn't seem to get it.
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| 11/8/2009 12:08:42 AM | A question for women | |
zeanah
Clarion, PA
age: 50
| OP...you are still quite young yet and do have small children. Maybe you can find a woman who also has children and you can do things together with both families. Lots of women around your age have children. I'm an old gal and my opinion comes from my situational age bracket. BUT....I have talked to men who are in their 40's and 50's with small children, who have this same problem. There are many men who will not date women with obligations to children. Sometimes, it's just not fair, but with kids and working, you got to make choices that simply suck.
No one has ever been #1 but my kids...always will be, but I dated while raising them. They turned out just fine. I couldn't ask for a better relationship regarding my kids. They did not feel unloved because I took time out for myself and got out for an evening to enjoy life. I needed that break and it made a happier home because of it.
"Z"
[Edited 11/8/2009 12:17:41 AM PST]
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| 11/8/2009 12:16:50 AM | A question for women | |
epiphany2
Houston, TX
age: 45
| Since i am guessing few of the replys on here didn't look at my profile I normally get 1-2 nights a week and 1-2 days a weekend at home as for the grown kids comments my girls are 7&20months old not to be a d*ck but no woman will be #1 to my girls
No one is saying that a woman should be #1 to your kids. You have a few things you need to work out before considering a relationship with a woman that's all.
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| 11/8/2009 9:21:07 AM | A question for women | |
1638mystic
Kansas City, MO
age: 31
| I wouldn't be interested in a serious relationship with a man if he had very little free time due to any reason(s). Family, work, school, social clubs etc.
[Edited 11/8/2009 9:24:43 AM PST]
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| 11/8/2009 9:46:34 AM | A question for women | |
dateable1
Berea, KY
age: 44
| Yes. I would. Great relationships do not require each person to be together 24/7. It's not about the quantity of time spent together but the quality.
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| 11/8/2009 9:48:47 AM | A question for women | |
wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 45
| I couldn't do it. I can't see how the relationship could grow if you only got small snippits of time occasionally. That's just me.
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| 11/8/2009 9:57:04 AM | A question for women | |
irparis39
New York, NY
age: 50
| I would have no problems with your life style.
I have never felt the need to be up some guy's arse to feel like a couple. If he says we're a couple, then we are. I'm independent enough to be able to entertain myself. And if I need to be somewhere and didn't have an escort, my cousins and I drag each other to places and events when their spouses or b/fs don't want to go or have to work.
I always said I could be a great dr's wife.
Although your children should come first, once you find that person that will complete your family, you would have to refocus your priorities. If you make it all about your kids, your kids will know this and might possibly use that aganist the g/f-wife as they grow older especially girls who do not want to share daddy.
Making kids our priority is all well and good when it needs to be, but you know what, they will grow up and leave you someday, so THEIR priorities will shift to someone else eventually and that will leave you old and alone. After all children should be raised to be self sufficient and independent from ourselves...and we should not feel guilty for wanting to be in a relationship and finding a good, strong person who is willing to be as much a hands on parent as yourself.
paris
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| 11/8/2009 11:55:34 AM | A question for women | |
barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 53
| no
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| 11/8/2009 11:42:13 PM | A question for women | |
kskountryboy
Deerfield, MO
age: 33
| From what I can see the score is 23 NO 7 YES and 5 MAYBE IF I FOUND THER RIGHT GIRL at that rate it's gonna be very complicated. 
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| 11/8/2009 11:48:09 PM | A question for women | |
brandynewatthis
Rivers, MB
age: 28
| It is tough with young kids i know myself, but it is all about the person you are with and how involved they are with you and your kids. Then there isn't the separation of time between girlfriend and kids it will eventually become one! It just depends on if the initial realationship lasts and is serious enough to have your kids meet your girlfriend!
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| 11/9/2009 12:17:31 AM | A question for women | |
surrealone
Overland Park, KS
age: 38
| How do you propose to find time to date the woman you say that to?
Of course you have to work, of course your children are in your life. How are you going to fit her in to all of that? The onus is on you, not her.
QFT
-- SR1
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| 11/9/2009 12:19:14 AM | A question for women | |
gypsysays
Westbank, BC
age: 44
| Maybe you just need a dial a screw!!! I hear you can find them in the phone book!!!
You know....since you dont have time for a woman!!!
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| 11/9/2009 4:23:38 AM | A question for women | |
oceandive
Atlanta, GA
age: 52
| not no,,,,,HELL no
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| 11/9/2009 10:31:47 AM | A question for women | |
gh2staay77
Mindenmines, MO
age: 32
| There is women out there that can sorda understand that. Hell some of us that are single mothers are in the same boat. All i can say, is when u find the right one, you will find the time to see her also with ur busy schedule. Until then, dont give up and just be you.
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| 11/9/2009 11:01:32 AM | A question for women | |
gogators47
Gainesville, FL
age: 47
| Probably not. Kinda in the same situation myself.
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| 11/9/2009 11:03:03 AM | A question for women | |
judit0606
Big Stone Gap, VA
age: 52
| 
Nope, no way! I'm at an age where I've done the mommy thing. NOW, I want a man who spends TIME with ME. Since you are still young, you may want to look for a lady who is having the same problem. Many couples who have combined their families have a very fulfilling life... Just something you may want to think about~~~
 GOOD LUCK
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| 11/9/2009 10:53:12 PM | A question for women | |
titanicrose
Schaumburg, IL
age: 44
| No, when will I see you? You are too busy! LMAO
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| 11/9/2009 11:18:16 PM | A question for women | |
kskountryboy
Deerfield, MO
age: 33
| This comment is for: GYPSYSAYS with all of the serious replys to my question you have mentioned the "dateahooker.com& dialahooker" remark twice. Do you know something about the escort service? If so what are your rates? LMFAO!!  
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| 11/20/2009 11:03:20 PM | A question for women | |
strictloveagain
Neosho, MO
age: 25
| It sounds as though you're almost defensive about the situation. So many women agree that they would not tolerate a mostly absent boyfriend, myself included because i love love, but one woman hints that maybe there are women who stay just as busy as you. I admire that you stayed honest instead of switching over to fairy tale. It's a noble way to not waste time.
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| 11/21/2009 1:15:45 AM | A question for women | |
owlwisdom
Cedar City, UT
age: 40
| No - he's a dead end. No time to date, doesn't want to or he'd make time.
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| 11/21/2009 2:49:24 AM | A question for women | |
hsprin
Savannah, MO
age: 33
| No, if I wanted a little time here and there to go do stuff, that is what friends and guy friends are for.
If you truly want to date, then you will find time to do so. If your not willing to do that then you shouldn't be trying to date.
Lots of people have very busy lives, I know that I run all the time. But when I am dating someone I am willing to make changes and find ways.
And maybe you could find someone, but most likely not, and most likely it would be an open relationship where she dated others as well.
I mean what are you really able or willing to bring to the table to draw someone in? If your just looking for FWB I am sure that would not be so hard to find.
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| 11/21/2009 5:48:30 AM | A question for women | |
sarita67
Washington, DC
age: 50
| You would be better off restating your your question as, would you like to come over for booty call once and awhile or, be FWB? Be honest.
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| 11/21/2009 5:57:15 AM | A question for women | |
reenie4
Milwaukee, WI
age: 52
| If one of the first things a guy said to you was "i would like to be in a relationship but i travle for work and never around when i am home i spend most of my time with my kids" would you consider dating him?
The way I interpret this question is ... if a man's "first" comment is to let me know that he would like to be in a relationship, but has no time. I would immediately think it's his way of saying... "back of lady and don't expect much from me." Perhaps you are not ready or don't really want to be in a relationship at this time in your life.
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| 11/21/2009 6:04:55 AM | A question for women | |
msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 46
| Since i am guessing few of the replys on here didn't look at my profile I normally get 1-2 nights a week and 1-2 days a weekend at home as for the grown kids comments my girls are 7&20months old not to be a d*ck but no woman will be #1 to my girls
AND they shouldn't be!
SO I'll ask you this what are you really wanting to know?
You stated you travel for work(driving truck) and when your home you spend MOST of your time with your kids...
Well what about this...YOU find a female that can and is willing to travel in that truck with you so right there you have time with her, and when your home you spend time with those babies, and maybe just maybe someday you can introduce her to those babies, and you can spend time all together?
I did see females on your "other" thread saying they'd like this situation...
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| 11/21/2009 6:10:05 AM | A question for women | |
msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 46
| From what I can see the score is 23 NO 7 YES and 5 MAYBE IF I FOUND THER RIGHT GIRL at that rate it's gonna be very complicated.
YOUR making excuses really!
IF like others have said YOU really want something YOU will find it!
Just remember you chose that driving job, and you chose to make babies, wondering IF you had no time then how'd you produce babies... so now I THINK YOU can also choose IF your really want a relationship...
YOUR very defensive remember ask a question and get answers if you can't handle that why ask?
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| 11/21/2009 6:18:35 AM | A question for women | |
dinkasu48
Henderson, TX
age: 48
| to original question
no, he is not available
but might be up for a quickie
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| 11/21/2009 7:42:38 AM | A question for women | |
kskountryboy
Deerfield, MO
age: 33
| Ok not trying to be defencive but mabe i should list my work schedule on here so every one can see what kinda time i do have available to be in a relationship oh wait i did that already in my profile
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| 11/21/2009 8:07:19 AM | A question for women | |
mom1st
York, SC
age: 32
| I think that it wouldn't automatically be a deal breaker, but I think it take longer to get to know them, it would be a slow process. But I think that they would need to realize that they would need to take some alone time to get to know each other. Who would want their kids to automatically meet someone new and take a chance in possibly jeopardizing their safety, or getting them attached to someone that you may end up not being interested in after you get to know them. Although one's kids are their life, they shouldn't be all that their life is. I believe that you have to learn to balance everything. And by taking some time for yourself, doesn't mean you are neglecting your children. And not saying you should, but possibly looking into a different career could not only benefit your children, but you also.jmo best of luck
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| 11/21/2009 8:18:48 AM | A question for women | |
clownkilla
Sarasota, FL
age: 39
| No way!When I need my a** pounded I need my man then not two or three weeks down the road!Your I can't go two weeks without my a** being pounded at least eight times clown.
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