When should you take your profile off a site?

11/7/2009 11:08:21 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
lildeb76 Fall River, MA age: 33	I'm just asking and wondering when do you do this? Once you've starting seeing or dating someone, when do you take your profile off a site, or should you take it off, or do you keep it on and just change it to say "only looking for friends"? What I'm asking is, when do you do this, or should you do this? When you start dating someone, how long should you wait to do this? Should you wait a couple of months, 6 months, a year, until you see how the relationship goes? I personally would keep it on and just change it to say " in a relationship" or "only looking for friends". I have made some wonderful friends on different sites and have learned a lot and have gotten a lot of information from them, so I would keep it on and change it to keep in touch with friends and learn more and get more info. Let me know what you think on this, any of your thoughts will be helpful. you, lildeb.
11/7/2009 11:11:47 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
i_am_bill Astatula, FL age: 50	You take it off only when you and only you decide to do so. There is no standard and you should not be pressured or forced to do so. So there. Bill *** And notice how the above also applies to getting undressed. I'm so clever.
11/7/2009 11:11:47 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
bbw47reader Frederick, MD age: 47	Everyone should do what they want to do. There is no 'correct' or 'right' answer.
11/7/2009 11:15:06 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
arkansasnman Fayetteville, AR age: 47	Quote from lildeb76: I'm just asking and wondering when do you do this? Once you've starting seeing or dating someone, when do you take your profile off a site, or should you take it off, or do you keep it on and just change it to say "only looking for friends"? What I'm asking is, when do you do this, or should you do this? When you start dating someone, how long should you wait to do this? Should you wait a couple of months, 6 months, a year, until you see how the relationship goes? I personally would keep it on and just change it to say " in a relationship" or "only looking for friends". I have made some wonderful friends on different sites and have learned a lot and have gotten a lot of information from them, so I would keep it on and change it to keep in touch with friends and learn more and get more info. Let me know what you think on this, any of your thoughts will be helpful. you, lildeb. You take it off when you have accepted someone and understand that it might hurt them.
11/7/2009 11:16:46 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
susansheart839 Port Saint Lucie, FL age: 61	And in the meantime, make it invisible.
11/7/2009 11:24:26 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
ladydi780 West New York, NJ age: 49	Quote from i_am_bill: You take it off only when you and only you decide to do so. There is no standard and you should not be pressured or forced to do so. So there. Bill *** And notice how the above also applies to getting undressed. I'm so clever. Yes you are very clever and a good answer !
11/7/2009 11:26:40 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
gypsysays Westbank, BC age: 44	When your dead.....cause I have a hard time dating dead people. And they never email me back.....those bastards!!! [Edited 11/7/2009 11:27:38 AM PST]
11/7/2009 11:31:44 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
10_2ur_biz Highland, CA age: 43	You do not have to delete until you are sure. You can make yourself invisible. But yes, If you have a new BF you should spend the time you spent on here, with him.
11/7/2009 11:39:23 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
arkansasnman Fayetteville, AR age: 47	Quote from lildeb76: I'm just asking and wondering when do you do this? Once you've starting seeing or dating someone, when do you take your profile off a site, or should you take it off, or do you keep it on and just change it to say "only looking for friends"? What I'm asking is, when do you do this, or should you do this? When you start dating someone, how long should you wait to do this? Should you wait a couple of months, 6 months, a year, until you see how the relationship goes? I personally would keep it on and just change it to say " in a relationship" or "only looking for friends". I have made some wonderful friends on different sites and have learned a lot and have gotten a lot of information from them, so I would keep it on and change it to keep in touch with friends and learn more and get more info. Let me know what you think on this, any of your thoughts will be helpful. you, lildeb. Okay..........let's review...... I'm dating this guy and think he's the one. Being the honest and forthright individual that I am, I tell him about this dating site. He's not thrilled about the fact that I'm participating in a website designed to have people meet and fall in love.......go figure. If you REALLY loved this guy would you instill that pain?
11/7/2009 11:40:30 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
gypsysays Westbank, BC age: 44	Quote from arkansasnman: Okay..........let's review...... I'm dating this guy and think he's the one. Being the honest and forthright individual that I am, I tell him about this dating site. He's not thrilled about the fact that I'm participating in a website designed to have people meet and fall in love.......go figure. If you REALLY loved this guy would you instill that pain? yes
11/7/2009 11:40:49 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
i_am_bill Astatula, FL age: 50	Quote from arkansasnman: Okay..........let's review...... I'm dating this guy and think he's the one. Being the honest and forthright individual that I am, I tell him about this dating site. He's not thrilled about the fact that I'm participating in a website designed to have people meet and fall in love.......go figure. If you REALLY loved this guy would you instill that pain? When did she say any of that man?
11/7/2009 11:45:39 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
iamalwaysjustme Olathe, KS age: 50	I see you just joined in Sept. I say you are one damn lucky woman to of found the right one so soon . Best of luck to you , I myself love forums too much to want to delete my profile any time soon
11/7/2009 11:48:04 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
arkansasnman Fayetteville, AR age: 47	Quote from i_am_bill: When did she say any of that man? Bill, she said it.
11/7/2009 11:50:57 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
crow09 Ponca City, OK age: 35	I have a gal in my life right now...we don't live together and are not serious right now... she knows I am on here and doesn't care..she don't get jealous over me chatting on here, and I don't get jealous when she talks too aguy friend or gives him a hug... She even liked too look on here when I am online just too laugh at some of the idiots on here
11/7/2009 11:54:14 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
judit0606 Big Stone Gap, VA age: 52	I'm with Bill on this one...when YOU feel it's time...
11/7/2009 11:56:00 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
arkansasnman Fayetteville, AR age: 47	Quote from crow09: I have a gal in my life right now...we don't live together and are not serious right now... she knows I am on here and doesn't care..she don't get jealous over me chatting on here, and I don't get jealous when she talks too aguy friend or gives him a hug... She even liked too look on here when I am online just too laugh at some of the idiots on here Right..........but everything you say is based on the fact that there is no commitment. Would you say the same thing if there was?
11/7/2009 11:56:02 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
msbevzie Oregon, OH age: 46 online now!	I myself would probably remove myself especially IF I was with him! If I wasn't with him yet he'd know what I was doing... There are alot of people male or female that are secure enough to know what they have, and they trust one or the other... Do what YOU feel is right ultimately it is YOUR decision!
11/7/2009 11:57:15 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
gypsysays Westbank, BC age: 44	You could always make a dynamic duo profile!!!
11/7/2009 12:01:28 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
bbw47reader Frederick, MD age: 47	Quote from arkansasnman: Bill, she said it. No. She did not. Read it a few more times. (Not that it will help.)
11/7/2009 12:13:53 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV age: 50	If you were here only to find a date, and you have, then you at least put your profile invisible. You can state you're in a relationship, you can state you're just here for the friends and the fora. You can take it off completely. Do what feels right for you. Talk with the guy, how does it make him feel? Take that into consideration, think about what feels good for you, and then act accordingly. As for me, if I found the one, I'd be likely to stay for the friends, but make my profile invisible or state all over it that I'm taken. But I would listen to his input and if it was a problem for him, I'd probably delete and leave the site. But going from my experience and how my late husband would have been, he'd have been fine with my staying on for friends, because I'm trustworthy.
11/7/2009 12:14:40 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
crow09 Ponca City, OK age: 35	Quote from arkansasnman: Right..........but everything you say is based on the fact that there is no commitment. Would you say the same thing if there was? If we lived together and was really serious about each other, then no I would not be on here.... I do believe that if a couple is living together then they should concentrate on each other...not each other and a cyber world... if ya have friends on here, well great, they know how too email ya if they need something. As for the ones that claim they are in a relationship on here and have never met that person...well guess what, hate too bust your bubble, but you ain't in a relationship until ya both meet and actually spend real time together, for more then just a day or two. [Edited 11/7/2009 12:16:00 PM PST]
11/7/2009 12:24:07 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
lildeb76 Fall River, MA age: 33	Quote from iamalwaysjustme: I see you just joined in Sept. I say you are one damn lucky woman to of found the right one so soon . Best of luck to you , I myself love forums too much to want to delete my profile any time soon I didn't say I was dating anyone and I'm not, I was only asking a question and wondering when should you do that. I have met someone, but only as friends right now to see how it goes. I don't want to move too fast or rush into anything that's all and that's all it was, just a question and nothing implying that I'm dating.
11/7/2009 12:25:08 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
arkansasnman Fayetteville, AR age: 47	Quote from bbw47reader: No. She did not. Read it a few more times. (Not that it will help.) ......and some people dispute that 6x7=42.........you get my same acknowledgment. It doesn't help to argue something accepted.
11/7/2009 12:27:26 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
lildeb76 Fall River, MA age: 33	Quote from i_am_bill: When did she say any of that man? Thank you Bill. I never did say I was dating anyone yet, only asking a question.
11/7/2009 12:34:43 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
arkansasnman Fayetteville, AR age: 47	Quote from lildeb76: Thank you Bill. I never did say I was dating anyone yet, only asking a question. lol..oh, please..........make an attempt to discern the distinction. It's your point........defend it.
11/7/2009 12:43:30 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
lildeb76 Fall River, MA age: 33	Quote from lovethelake17: If you were here only to find a date, and you have, then you at least put your profile invisible. You can state you're in a relationship, you can state you're just here for the friends and the fora. You can take it off completely. Do what feels right for you. Talk with the guy, how does it make him feel? Take that into consideration, think about what feels good for you, and then act accordingly. As for me, if I found the one, I'd be likely to stay for the friends, but make my profile invisible or state all over it that I'm taken. But I would listen to his input and if it was a problem for him, I'd probably delete and leave the site. But going from my experience and how my late husband would have been, he'd have been fine with my staying on for friends, because I'm trustworthy. I agree lake. As for the guy I met, he is on here as well and we talked about this yesterday and he doesn't mind if I keep it on just to talk to friends, but then again he and I only met yesterday, so no rushing into anything and there is nothing yet to say we are even dating yet.
11/7/2009 12:54:02 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
iamalwaysjustme Olathe, KS age: 50	OHH sorry I miss read your thread , I thought you were already dating someone . The best of luck to you , some DH members have been on this site a long time with out much luck , I will probably end up being one of the club too
11/7/2009 1:14:14 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
liberallady Lodi, CA age: 49	It depends on why. If you found a partner and no longer need date hook ups just change your profile and say so.IE "into the threads, thanks"? I'de stay to keep in contact with the people I've met here.
11/7/2009 1:33:57 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
msbevzie Oregon, OH age: 46 online now!	Quote from crow09: If we lived together and was really serious about each other, then no I would not be on here.... I do believe that if a couple is living together then they should concentrate on each other...not each other and a cyber world... if ya have friends on here, well great, they know how too email ya if they need something. As for the ones that claim they are in a relationship on here and have never met that person...well guess what, hate too bust your bubble, but you ain't in a relationship until ya both meet and actually spend real time together, for more then just a day or two. I agree with ya
11/7/2009 1:56:28 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
arkansasnman Fayetteville, AR age: 47	If we lived together and was really serious about each other, then no I would not be on here.... I do believe that if a couple is living together then they should concentrate on each other...not each other and a cyber world... if ya have friends on here, well great, they know how too email ya if they need something. As for the ones that claim they are in a relationship on here and have never met that person...well guess what, hate too bust your bubble, but you ain't in a relationship until ya both meet and actually spend real time together, for more then just a day or two. @@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@ Uhmmm... Guess what.........you are in a relationship as soon as someone else thinks so. It's difficult, but it's your responsibility to let them know. Any guy could charm a girl on here.......to let them assume you are in a relationship when you aren't is wrong.
11/7/2009 2:29:37 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
zipperlynn Porterville, CA age: 39	Quote from lovethelake17: As for me, if I found the one, I'd be likely to stay for the friends, but make my profile invisible or state all over it that I'm taken. But I would listen to his input and if it was a problem for him, I'd probably delete and leave the site. quote] Yup!!! You used the word... "fora" There goes a sock!
11/7/2009 2:33:24 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
surfingguitar Layton, UT age: 36	Quote from lildeb76: I'm just asking and wondering when do you do this? Once you've starting seeing or dating someone, when do you take your profile off a site, or should you take it off, or do you keep it on and just change it to say "only looking for friends"? What I'm asking is, when do you do this, or should you do this? When you start dating someone, how long should you wait to do this? Should you wait a couple of months, 6 months, a year, until you see how the relationship goes? I personally would keep it on and just change it to say " in a relationship" or "only looking for friends". I have made some wonderful friends on different sites and have learned a lot and have gotten a lot of information from them, so I would keep it on and change it to keep in touch with friends and learn more and get more info. Let me know what you think on this, any of your thoughts will be helpful. you, lildeb. That's like asking when is the time to tell someone you love them? It's not a set standard.
11/7/2009 2:37:54 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
dutchboy4u Huntington Beach, CA age: 46	5 minutes before you die.
11/7/2009 2:54:55 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
bbw47reader Frederick, MD age: 47	Quote from arkansasnman: ......and some people dispute that 6x7=42.........you get my same acknowledgment. It doesn't help to argue something accepted. The OP posed a hypothetical question. She's not even dating anyone, you f**king illiterate.
11/7/2009 2:58:13 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
xpamela_leighx Springville, UT age: 36	I have dated people, and kept my profile up...I am not here to validate or conform to others feelings of what should, or shouldn't be done. I go with what I WANT! Sounds strange I know...more people should try it sometime.
11/7/2009 2:59:43 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
crow09 Ponca City, OK age: 35	Quote from xpamela_leighx: I have dated people, and kept my profile up...I am not here to validate or conform to others feelings of what should, or shouldn't be done. I go with what I WANT! Sounds strange I know...more people should try it sometime. Damn another smart lady here folks
11/7/2009 3:34:03 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
lildeb76 Fall River, MA age: 33	Quote from bbw47reader: The OP posed a hypothetical question. She's not even dating anyone, you f**king illiterate. Thank you, you tell um sister lol
11/7/2009 3:34:58 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
lildeb76 Fall River, MA age: 33	Quote from xpamela_leighx: I have dated people, and kept my profile up...I am not here to validate or conform to others feelings of what should, or shouldn't be done. I go with what I WANT! Sounds strange I know...more people should try it sometime. I absolutely agree
11/7/2009 5:03:32 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
1638mystic Kansas City, MO age: 31	There is no need to take your profile off. Either put it on invisble or list your status as "In a Relationship". [Edited 11/7/2009 5:04:22 PM PST]
11/13/2009 7:59:23 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
lildeb76 Fall River, MA age: 33	Well, the guy I met was a great guy but he just wants to be friends for now, so I'm still single and still looking. I just don't want to be someone on here for two years and still be single, maybe I should just stop looking.
11/13/2009 8:01:33 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
jennyann71 Clarksville, AR age: 69	If you find the love of your life then May I ask why would you still want your profile on site? [Edited 11/13/2009 8:02:13 AM PST]
11/13/2009 8:05:26 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
lildeb76 Fall River, MA age: 33	I would stay for all the friends I've made on here, but if the guy has a problem with me being on here then I would take it off.
11/13/2009 8:43:10 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
izzystradlian12 Tupelo, MS age: 33	i think u should take your profile off a site only when u decided to also i would make sure i found the right person before i took my profile off a site
11/13/2009 9:19:43 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
hotpockets Maple Shade, NJ age: 54	Just went thru this. I put my profile on invisible. I gave the guy I was dating the respect of time. It did not work out...so without changing my name or making a new profile I'm back.
11/13/2009 9:47:32 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
snowbird02s Siena Italy age: 45	Quote from bbw47reader: Everyone should do what they want to do. There is no 'correct' or 'right' answer. ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, I agree.
11/13/2009 10:35:17 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
countrycharmer Litchfield, OH age: 44	The forums here are sorta fun in participating in, so I may leave my profile but change my status if I meet someone so no one is confused why I would be on here. Be true to thyself first.....
11/13/2009 10:36:27 AM	When should you take your profile off a site?
no_doubt_delish Beaumont, CA age: 34 online now!	When you feel like it
11/13/2009 1:53:36 PM	When should you take your profile off a site?
chatte09 Linden, NJ age: 49	Quote from jennyann71: If you find the love of your life then May I ask why would you still want your profile on site? Because I enjoy spreading my wisdom throughout the internet. What else would I do on coffee breaks? This is better than reality TV. I met my SO in the forums. We are each plastered all over the other's profile and they are set to "in a relationship" so that we do not show up in searches. Someone would have to be dumb or blind to not figure it out. Besides, openly declaring your love for each other in every other post REALLY puts a cramp on dating others.