| 12/25/2007 3:20:51 PM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
ambereyes7
Pasadena, TX
age: 50
| It seems to me that love was only meant to happen in fairy tales! i am one of the youngest in my family, and i am 49 years of age,and after almost 10 years of marriage my husband moved out and filed for divorce! I have not been good at relationships with men, i am not what you call a debutante princess that got everything good in life! my other siblings dated and married happily! i on the other hand got the short end of the stick in life!i also suffer from manic depression, which i developed in my twenties! i feel like a total reject and loser! all i ever asked God for in my life was to be happy and i dreamed about my prince charming to sweep me off my feet!i don't want any of my family or my married friends to come around! it seems that no-one really cares for the lonely divorcee! divorce is treated like a social disease!If i don't find the man of my dreams soon, all hope for love and happiness shall go to the grave along with my dead body!and God will probably laugh at me and send me to hell!i will end up comitting suicide in some form or fashion!  
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| 12/25/2007 3:34:52 PM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
aboomer
Hot Springs National Park, AR
age: 50
| You keep talking to yourself like this and you are committing psychological suicide. you say you suffer from manic depression. Are you taking meds? If not then you need to see a specialist. Self talk can be more destructive than having someone that doesn`t know you say anything about you or your life style. Divorce shouldn`t be looked at as an ending, but as an opportunity to begin anew. it`s hard to leave the past in the past, but in order to progress and build a future you will have to learn to do just that. it doesn`t matter what other people think, usually they are only thinking about themselves anyway.
go stand naked in front of a mirror and ask yourself if you are any different than every other woman. Equipment the same? two eyes, two arms, two legs, two b88bs. Now, because you believe in GOD; Ask yourself if you really believe he creates junk. There is not another living human that is exactly like you. That fact by itself makes you unique and special in this humanity, and once you accept that you will no longer allow youself to think as you have. Here`s a question I have for you. If you were the clown? Who would make you smile? All this is an inside game. Life is wonderful.
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| 12/25/2007 3:40:06 PM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| Does not having a man mean that the world must end??? No, if something isn't to your liking then either change it or accept it as it is. A few people are in a rush for a relationship and end up settling and then they are miserable. Goes around in circles. I didn't get married til I was 36. One, I was shy and didn't date much. Two, I was waiting on a man to whom I thought loved me as much as I did him. Sometimes things don't work out the way that I thought they should. I did, however, have a wonderful son that I wouldn't want to alter anything in the past to not have him in my life. The past is what it is ... the past. I hope I've learned from my past so that I can move forward to a future full of hope. Go with the flow and take what life brings you. If things were perfect we all wouldn't be on a dating site looking 
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| 12/25/2007 3:54:05 PM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
mustang_sally59
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 49
| I agree with Chopper... not having a man isn't the end of the world. Also, self pity is not attractive... never has been, never will be. Create your own happiness, be secure in loving yourself, or you won't have anything to offer anyone else. Perhaps you should have been praying that God help you stand on your own two feet, and like it, before asking for a prince to sweep you off them. In the long run, you can depend on no one but yourself for that elusive thing called happiness.
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| 12/25/2007 4:11:46 PM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
aboomer
Hot Springs National Park, AR
age: 50
| two things in your favor. one, you are introspective and two, you are articulate. you`ll be O.K.
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| 12/25/2007 8:36:09 PM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
shelly389
Pineville, LA
age: 19
| Ok, so I might be the youngest posting on here, but girl, having a man aint everything. Enjoy not having a man while you can, because right now you're thinking you can't live without one, but once you get one, you'll be thinking you can't live with him. Your life isn't over till it's over. Don't give up. Maybe God's just making you wait because once that someone comes along, he'll be worth the wait. You gotta kiss a bunch of toads till you get to the prince, right? haha. Good luck and don't give up yet hun.
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| 12/26/2007 3:46:52 AM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
crazycajun74
Dallas, TX
age: 34
| That is why it is important to love yourself first. If I had to be alone the rest of my life I would be fine because I think I am pretty good company. Although i am feeling a little lonely since I seem to be the only one posting right now!
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| 12/26/2007 3:50:55 AM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 51
| No ya not Cajun... I'm right behind ya...
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| 12/26/2007 3:54:16 AM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
crazycajun74
Dallas, TX
age: 34
|  Heather... hope you had a wonderful Christmas!
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| 12/26/2007 4:04:01 AM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
goldarnit
Saint Paul, MN
age: 48
| hey..right behind ya guys....but its pretty much the same with my family...im the total misfit...been divorced 25 yrs....never remarried,raised kids alone,fought all battles in life alone..i just dont fit in with my clicky family..as some of you know,by other threads ive ran on here....your not alone girl...theres alot of us out her just like you..male an female....dont let lack of a man break your spirits...
i got stood up xmas eve..at my own dinner..then xmas day all my x,s came out the woodwork....hang tough.....
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| 12/26/2007 4:12:20 AM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 51
| Christmas was ok Cajun... hope you had a good one too...don't know about you but I certainly am glad its over.
Morning Gold...I know you had a good Christmas shoveling all that snow...wish I'd been there to help...
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| 12/26/2007 4:14:28 AM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
johnmod
Gardendale, TX
age: 61
| DON'T LEAVE IT TO SOME GUY TO MAKE YOU HAPPY
THIS IS A DO IT YOURSELF JOB
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| 12/26/2007 4:21:01 AM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
goldarnit
Saint Paul, MN
age: 48
| MORNIN HEATHER...its suppose to snow straight thru til saturday... 
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| 12/26/2007 4:23:05 AM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
29tootsie
Brightwaters, NY
age: 60
| Amber....You do need to figure out how to make yourself happy. You said all you ever asked God for was to make you happy! That's what everyone asks for but I'm not too sure that is what we are on the planet for....more likely to love, create and learn...and I surely don't believe in hell!
Hey - you'll be ok - by yourself - if necessary....cheer up...my x-husband and his wife gave me a pair of vibrating msssage slippers for Christmas...maybe they think I'll wear them out in the rain and get electrocuted!
YOU WILL BE OK! New year...new choices....and I care about you!
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| 12/26/2007 4:37:17 AM | ''i feel like a loser! | |
goldarnit
Saint Paul, MN
age: 48
| NO THEY DIDNT TOOTSIE....well at least they thought about you....alls i get is....HAVENT YOU CHANGED YOUR NAME YET....????its pretty costly,pain in the ass...and its just FUN..to ...PISS THEM OFF....after 25 yrs of being divorced...
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