Why do you not reply?

11/27/2009 4:39:30 PM	Why do you not reply?
cuddle_bunny Edgewood, MD age: 21	I've noticed, some guys read the messages you sent but why not reply? What is it that turns most guys off in a message? picture? Tone? Is there a sence of being desparate? Help a girl out I am curious... Meet singles in your area here at DateHookup.com, we're 100% free for everything! Join now!
11/27/2009 4:42:30 PM	Why do you not reply?
horace_schitt Wausau, WI age: 42	It's nothing that should be taken personally. It's just that nobody is obligated to respond to somebody just because they sent them an email. Some people (most often the "politically correct" people) see that as "rude" for some reason, but it is what it is, and it's just the honest truth.
11/27/2009 4:43:23 PM	Why do you not reply?
i_am_bill Astatula, FL age: 50 online now!	Quote from cuddle_bunny: I've noticed, some guys read the messages you sent but why not reply? What is it that turns most guys off in a message? picture? Tone? Is there a sence of being desparate? Help a girl out I am curious... Guys will tout this and that about why they may or may not answer emails, but the reality is in most cases, and note I said most cases, it is about looks. Especially men in your preferred age bracket. Now let them bring on the BS. Bill
11/27/2009 4:43:55 PM	Why do you not reply?
wsprs0nthewind Powell, TN age: 45	It depends on the content of the email as to whether I reply or not. If it's someone wanting to have a conversation that I've seen on the forums then I will reply. If it's someone I don't know then I reply or not according to what their email says.
11/27/2009 4:44:30 PM	Why do you not reply?
midnightriddler Sitka, AK age: 41	This is the interwebbie thang... Unfortunately, a percentage of persons (regardless of gender) simply forget that the person on the other end of the screen is a living breathing human, with real feelings and emotions. Aside from that, some folks are just a**holes.
11/27/2009 4:48:52 PM	Why do you not reply?
cuddle_bunny Edgewood, MD age: 21	lol, yeah people sometimes in general are not a nice crowed. Looks arent everything, to me age is important but everyones entitled to their opinions. Just makes things frustrating though.
11/27/2009 5:15:09 PM	Why do you not reply?
jpmari Boston, MA age: 35	Quote from cuddle_bunny: lol, yeah people sometimes in general are not a nice crowed. Looks arent everything, to me age is important but everyones entitled to their opinions. Just makes things frustrating though. IN MY OWN VIEW That's Reality Girl, Sad But the Truth....Do not let no one think of you as if you are less..You Are Who YOU Are! Don't change for no one and if they choise not see you who you are tell them "go hit the back botton and move it" GOOD LUCK
11/27/2009 5:37:05 PM	Why do you not reply?
noswal09 Havertown, PA age: 20	a woman being ignored on dh? wow! this has gotta be a first!
11/27/2009 5:40:19 PM	Why do you not reply?
shiloo1 Tulsa, OK age: 30	Quote from cuddle_bunny: I've noticed, some guys read the messages you sent but why not reply? What is it that turns most guys off in a message? picture? Tone? Is there a sence of being desparate? Help a girl out I am curious... I would imagine it's for the same reason women don't reply to the messages they get. I only reply to maybe 1 in 10 of the messages I get, mostly because it's quite obvious the sender didn't read my profile.
11/27/2009 5:46:26 PM	Why do you not reply?
only4dating Rio Rancho, NM age: 50	Just not interested in the woman that sent the message, and sending the "thanks but no thanks" reply seems even worse then not replying at all. I'd much rather be ignored than get the "eewwwww, I'd never date you" message that some people will send, but that's just me. IMO [Edited 11/27/2009 6:01:38 PM PST]
11/27/2009 5:52:32 PM	Why do you not reply?
greyhnd Huntingburg, IN age: 55	Not sending a reply has a similar effect to asking a woman out and she says "I'll have to think about it" or just a plain "no thanks". I'm lucky to get 2 emails a month, so I have no excuse for not at least sending some kind of reply.
11/27/2009 5:53:33 PM	Why do you not reply?
lonewolf1218 West Palm Beach, FL age: 46	Probably not interested.But don't want to hurt your feelings.I get the same from woman all the time.
11/27/2009 6:15:30 PM	Why do you not reply?
drummaster777 Auburn, WA age: 34	It's funny how when a guy asks this question in a thread, he gets put through the meat grinder, but when a woman asks it, everyone is polite but won't tell her the truth....which is what I'm going to do right now. Dear, if guys don't respond to your e-mails, it's because they don't find you attractive. Trust me when I tell you that your pics is the first and primary thing most guys look at on dating sites. Yeah, they'll read your profile too maybe, but if they don't like what they see in your pics, most of the time they won't respond. That's just the way we are. Personality is great and all that, but if we're looking for potential dating material, we need to be attracted to the person. That's just the way it is. Good luck! [Edited 11/27/2009 6:16:20 PM PST]
11/27/2009 6:30:48 PM	Why do you not reply?
rw67 Omaha, NE age: 42	Quote from midnightriddler: This is the interwebbie thang... Unfortunately, a percentage of persons (regardless of gender) simply forget that the person on the other end of the screen is a living breathing human, with real feelings and emotions. Aside from that, some folks are just a**holes. Right on! I cannot say it any better... This Guy is right on, NO, I am not gay. People need to treat people better... Simple as that! Peace to all the Nice friendly folks out there! Robert
11/27/2009 6:32:31 PM	Why do you not reply?
secretagentman0 Jackson, WY age: 47	if the pants don't fit i'd suppose it not improper in these forums, etc. to not reply. of course some say no pain no gain. elvis "return to sender" [Edited 11/27/2009 6:33:48 PM PST]
11/27/2009 6:39:27 PM	Why do you not reply?
wsprs0nthewind Powell, TN age: 45	Same reason you don't answer when the caller ID shows the name of someone you don't want to talk too.
11/27/2009 6:39:29 PM	Why do you not reply?
waterloo_sunset Coram, NY age: 51	Happens to all of us. If people do not respond it means they're not interested for one reason or another. It would be polite if everyone would at least send a no thanks I'm not interested reply, but most people are not polite.
11/27/2009 6:41:41 PM	Why do you not reply?
xpamela_leighx Springville, UT age: 36	Quote from waterloo_sunset: Happens to all of us. If people do not respond it means they're not interested for one reason or another. It would be polite if everyone would at least send a no thanks I'm not interested reply, but most people are not polite. And sometimes you can say no thankyou....and still be hounded or given shit. Just sayin'
11/27/2009 6:52:05 PM	Why do you not reply?
waterloo_sunset Coram, NY age: 51	Quote from xpamela_leighx: And sometimes you can say no thankyou....and still be hounded or given shit. Just sayin' Definitely. It is a valid reason why, if there is no interest, no answer is a reasonable course of action. Any response at all can be construed as a continuation of conversation.
11/27/2009 8:24:31 PM	Why do you not reply?
noswal09 Havertown, PA age: 20	Quote from drummaster777: It's funny how when a guy asks this question in a thread, he gets put through the meat grinder, but when a woman asks it, everyone is polite but won't tell her the truth....which is what I'm going to do right now. Dear, if guys don't respond to your e-mails, it's because they don't find you attractive. Trust me when I tell you that your pics is the first and primary thing most guys look at on dating sites. Yeah, they'll read your profile too maybe, but if they don't like what they see in your pics, most of the time they won't respond. That's just the way we are. Personality is great and all that, but if we're looking for potential dating material, we need to be attracted to the person. That's just the way it is. Good luck! you noticed the hypocracy too huh?
11/27/2009 8:30:55 PM	Why do you not reply?
thebestman Alpharetta, GA age: 36	Quote from cuddle_bunny: I've noticed, some guys read the messages you sent but why not reply? What is it that turns most guys off in a message? picture? Tone? Is there a sence of being desparate? Help a girl out I am curious... Probably the same reasons why females don't answer. 1. They are not interested due to physical reasons 2. They have a number of females on their plate already 3. They are merely here for attention gain. 4. Many men steer away from women that places a lot of emphasis on how independent she is in her profile etc. I haven't read your profile, just saying some of the reasons men are prone not to answer emails. Remember for men, it's not so much the email content as in physical appearance unless it is totally wack and out of line. Generally speaking, there are more women that put emails under a microscope than men (not every woman but a lot do). Quote from drummaster777: It's funny how when a guy asks this question in a thread, he gets put through the meat grinder, but when a woman asks it, everyone is polite but won't tell her the truth....which is what I'm going to do right now. Dear, if guys don't respond to your e-mails, it's because they don't find you attractive. Trust me when I tell you that your pics is the first and primary thing most guys look at on dating sites. Yeah, they'll read your profile too maybe, but if they don't like what they see in your pics, most of the time they won't respond. That's just the way we are. Personality is great and all that, but if we're looking for potential dating material, we need to be attracted to the person. That's just the way it is. Good luck! Exactly. It's what I've been saying. Majority of the time when a woman whines, bashes men, it's pretty much ok, there's not much backlash. When a man does it, he's thrown to the wolves. I laugh at the hypocrisy and note the hypocrites [Edited 11/27/2009 8:35:03 PM PST]
11/27/2009 8:40:49 PM	Why do you not reply?
klassyklown Bakersfield, CA age: 41	Quote from drummaster777: It's funny how when a guy asks this question in a thread, he gets put through the meat grinder, but when a woman asks it, everyone is polite but won't tell her the truth....which is what I'm going to do right now. Dear, if guys don't respond to your e-mails, it's because they don't find you attractive. Trust me when I tell you that your pics is the first and primary thing most guys look at on dating sites. Yeah, they'll read your profile too maybe, but if they don't like what they see in your pics, most of the time they won't respond. That's just the way we are. Personality is great and all that, but if we're looking for potential dating material, we need to be attracted to the person. That's just the way it is. Good luck! Someone shoot me, I am going to agree with drum, but I am going to add to it. All they get is a picture. We are flat characters, so yeah it is much easier and more frequent that guys are going to ignore you here. As far as the hypocrisy, you men are as guilty of jumping on whiney men as are the women.
11/28/2009 5:02:12 AM	Why do you not reply?
itsclear Fort Mohave, AZ age: 47	I always reject women in a kind way, it is far easier to ignore them but.....
11/28/2009 5:32:33 AM	Why do you not reply?
nippy1 Melville, NY age: 44	There is no law stating we have to reply. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Don't take it personally.
11/28/2009 5:59:07 AM	Why do you not reply?
drummaster777 Auburn, WA age: 34	Quote from klassyklown: Someone shoot me, I am going to agree with drum, but I am going to add to it. All they get is a picture. We are flat characters, so yeah it is much easier and more frequent that guys are going to ignore you here. As far as the hypocrisy, you men are as guilty of jumping on whiney men as are the women. That's cuz they're trying to score points with the women here. Bad move of course. Never suck up to women. [Edited 11/28/2009 6:00:59 AM PST]
11/28/2009 6:31:25 AM	Why do you not reply?
musicdesign Rocky Hill, CT age: 47	Quote from nippy1: There is no law stating we have to reply. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Don't take it personally. Same here. There have been times I have responded back nicely only to get a very rude email back. Then I have to do the block and delete method.
11/28/2009 6:39:40 AM	Why do you not reply?
okaydude Mesquite, TX age: 53	I always reply...seems to me the thing to do. Who knows? Unless of course it is obviously one of those profiles that are clearly a scammer. Those I usually pass on by.
11/28/2009 11:46:58 AM	Why do you not reply?
noswal09 Havertown, PA age: 20	let a man start this thread and he's a whiner. let a woman make this thread ans she get remourse and understanding. what kind of bullshit is that
11/28/2009 11:52:58 AM	Why do you not reply?
alexand7 Rockingham, NC age: 31	She's also the kind of girl you guys claim don't exist, she is confident enough to make the first move. Cuddle, do not worry about it at ALL! YOu have a great profile with some very mature interest for you your age. Maybe try putting some more pics up, b/c men and women alike are very visual. Good LUck
11/28/2009 11:58:35 AM	Why do you not reply?
tryagaindj68 Evansville, IN age: 41	I reply to a certain wrecker man, and I watch for responses to remarks I've made in forums or to questions I've asked (also related to comments on forums).
11/28/2009 5:34:13 PM	Why do you not reply?
josh_p Los Angeles, CA age: 23	Quote from drummaster777: That's cuz they're trying to score points with the women here. Bad move of course. Never suck up to women. And it's disgusting so many guys on here do that. Whats even funnier they think the women are that stupid to fall for it.
11/28/2009 5:55:58 PM	Why do you not reply?
steven030463 Newton Falls, OH age: 47	Don't take it personal. Some people have there own thing on what they want. On a date site. They will ignore you. I try to answer everyone I get emailed from, sometimes I forget because i'm doing something at the same time, The only time I don't answer is if I get crazy woman sending me a crazy email. and I do get them. I don't bother. Just keep looking OP. there's someone there for you, You just have to weed the bad to get to the good.
11/28/2009 6:07:30 PM	Why do you not reply?
carbonv Salem, AR age: 52	Quote from midnightriddler: This is the interwebbie thang... Unfortunately, a percentage of persons (regardless of gender) simply forget that the person on the other end of the screen is a living breathing human, with real feelings and emotions. Aside from that, some folks are just a**holes. yep, got to agree with ya rider
11/28/2009 6:09:33 PM	Why do you not reply?
trsmith22 Carrollton, TX age: 39	I reply to everyone's email, whether I am interested or not. I will state the fact. Truth is, I am NOT interested.
11/28/2009 6:15:47 PM	Why do you not reply?
bbw47reader Frederick, MD age: 47	There is little need to stamp out whiny 'why no response' threads by women, as they don't run rampant on the forums. The rarity of one from a woman has been noted here. Still, I wish I had gotten here earlier. No point now. Edit: Actually, it's not really very whiny: 'I've noticed, some guys read the messages you sent but why not reply? What is it that turns most guys off in a message? picture? Tone? Is there a sence of being desparate? Help a girl out I am curious...' Questions, but no complaint. So I doubt I would have killed her anyway. [Edited 11/28/2009 6:18:59 PM PST]
11/28/2009 7:40:23 PM	Why do you not reply?
abe80 Clermont, FL age: 24	i don't know if you have realized this or not but most boys in the age bracket of 18-22 are just that, boys. they think with thier flacid dck and fail to realize that even the most vile looking woman on this planet can please thier every desire. they've not had thier hearts truly broken nor done any soul searching to find out what really matters to thier heart. i may not be favored for my posts but, brutal honesty and confidence are something important to me and this is why i posess such attributes. easily put doll, boys need to GROW THE FK UP and become men. bashing your g/f to your friends isnt cool, acting like a dck around her friends makes them hate you and, slandering someone directly that you know nothing of or about really doesn't help your case "Mr. First Impression" you should leave that f**ked up bullshit reality of who you wish you were at home and be yourself. i'm willing to bet that the world would be a MUCH better place without idiots trying to impress someone. be proud of yourself, show your pride and don't let ANYONE knock you down.
11/28/2009 8:33:46 PM	Why do you not reply?
tammyc333 Urbandale, IA age: 44	you are so right about the "sorry but I'm not interested" thing. That seems so much worse to me. Despite that, depending on the msg content I may reply back with a closure of "just wanted to thank you for the note. It was very kind and I wish you the best of luck!" maybe it's not much different than the "sorry but not interested".
11/28/2009 9:44:05 PM	Why do you not reply?
rcb822 Macon, GA age: 47	Quote from midnightriddler: This is the interwebbie thang... Unfortunately, a percentage of persons (regardless of gender) simply forget that the person on the other end of the screen is a living breathing human, with real feelings and emotions. Aside from that, some folks are just a**holes. ......Well put....and enough said
11/28/2009 9:46:52 PM	Why do you not reply?
latestflame Germantown, TN age: 33	Quote from horace_schitt: It's nothing that should be taken personally. What I take personally is a lot of my friends who do talk to me a lot randomly don't respond to a message wehre I actually asked them a QUESTION in it. That would be like in real life asking someone a question and them just staring at you and not answering. Well I don't take it "personally", as I'm sure they do it to others also, but it's pretty rude regardless and most people do it. Not just on this site. Not just to me. People in general. Somehow people decided that online you can be rude and then wonder why someone's annoyed at you.
11/28/2009 9:48:06 PM	Why do you not reply?
latestflame Germantown, TN age: 33	Quote from josh_p: And it's disgusting so many guys on here do that. Whats even funnier they think the women are that stupid to fall for it. Well from what I've seen it works. MOst women are not so smart in that regard and they do se suckups. That's most of who you see women responding to here and they fall all over them as if they're not fake.
11/29/2009 5:20:03 AM	Why do you not reply?
horace_schitt Wausau, WI age: 42	It's not a matter of "being rude". I challenge ANYONE on these boards -- or ANYWHERE, for that matter -- to tell me that they respond to every single piece of mail that comes to their personal home mailbox out by the street. Every letter, every credit card application, every loan application, every single piece of junk/spam mail, etc., ad infinitum. Show me somebody who says they do this, and I'll show you a liar.
11/29/2009 5:31:28 AM	Why do you not reply?
wheels915 Mesa, AZ age: 50	Maybe some people don't know why that little envelope thing is flashing with the word 1 new means so they get scared and turn their computers o..................
11/29/2009 9:59:37 AM	Why do you not reply?
darkraven83 Savannah, GA age: 26	Usually I will write anyone that writes me. I might not be interested but it just seems rude not to. However if they just send friend requests and no message, I wont write them and I wont add them. If they think my profile is good enough that they want to be on my friends list , they can at least write something.
11/29/2009 7:01:37 PM	Why do you not reply?
soobroken Bronx, NY age: 27	Umm "a**holes" that's a bit tuff lol I think the point of winks is that... a wink show them that ur interested n if they r they'll drop u a note n begin a convo I use to answer everyone but it would start a converstation I had no intention of continuing, or gv ppl false interest I have a type a pirticular person am looking for n am not gonna waist my time or there's I dnt want a buddy Try winks n u won't be insulted when they dnt reply
11/29/2009 7:09:46 PM	Why do you not reply?
surrealone Overland Park, KS age: 39	Bill, Drum, and Horace are pretty much on target. I'll piggyback on what Horace said by adding that replies take energy and people just aren't willing to spend energy in areas they see going nowhere. Call it human inertia, I suppose... -- SR1
11/29/2009 7:16:34 PM	Why do you not reply?
nathanrocks88 Tenino, WA age: 22	Quote from cuddle_bunny: I've noticed, some guys read the messages you sent but why not reply? What is it that turns most guys off in a message? picture? Tone? Is there a sence of being desparate? Help a girl out I am curious... i never reply to anyone that says "hit me up on messenger" because I get enough email spam with that message in it already
11/30/2009 2:49:14 PM	Why do you not reply?
noswal09 Havertown, PA age: 20	Quote from josh_p: And it's disgusting so many guys on here do that. Whats even funnier they think the women are that stupid to fall for it. which is why i don't kiss ass
11/30/2009 2:59:17 PM	Why do you not reply?
enoranthos Johnstown, PA age: 24	same thing goes with women, thats the only problem with dating sites, people have impossibly high standards 90% of the time. I mean personally i feel im damn attractive but dont get shit for responses. Oh yeah please all women on here do us guys a favor esp me. Post a full body pic. Unless your obviously like 500 lbs or somthing, i know guys like to know what their dealing with and i for one cant stand myspace angles. if your to ashamed to post a pic of your full body you shouldnt be looking for a date you should be dieting or finding out why your ashamed of your body and fixing that problem. Im not one to be picky at all, ill date a heavy girl or a skinny girl (not overly heavy, i do have limits and thats just my personal taste and im not trying to be rude to anyone overly heavy because i was 290 at my worst) Personally its more about facial features, if I can look at you and not puke its all good Truthfully though, i think everyone should respond if you have the time, weather or not to just say im not interested or whatever, its a kindness IMO. It does annoy me when women dont respond and i see deleted, but its their loss really and there is obviously somthing wrong with them [Edited 11/30/2009 3:05:02 PM PST]