| 12/27/2007 9:06:50 AM | help me please!!!!!! | |
soaring_bird
Marion, IN
age: 32
| i have an ex - g/f that i really liked, well she was of a different cultural background.
(this was when i was 17,) my mom told me that if i went out with her she would kick me out of the house. so out of ignorance i ended the relationship.
now i see her every once in a while and am still attracted to her.
the problem is i don't know how to approach her or i'm to nervous to do so.
i know she has a child but i'm not sure if she is involved with someone.
how the heck can i approach her when the only time i see her is at her work, and it would be even more nerve racking to try to talk to her there.
any suggestions?
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| 12/27/2007 9:12:05 AM | help me please!!!!!! | |
cadw319
Glenview, IL
age: 50
| Go introduce yourself, chat with her about basic things like the weather, life, the company, basically break the ice. Just be friendly and take it easy. You may have to gather information about her situation over time.
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| 12/27/2007 9:16:41 AM | help me please!!!!!! | |
qirki
San Francisco, CA
age: 63
| Go straight ahead and do it! Walk up to her and remind her of who you are and where you met. Then ask her if she would like to have lunch or dinner to bring each other up to speed on what's been going on since high school. You are not asking her to get married, it is just two old friends getting together.
 Just do it!
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| 12/27/2007 10:21:46 AM | help me please!!!!!! | |
theman19
New Hartford, IA
age: 19
| ok i have had this happen to me before what you should do is make it really simple just go up to her one day and say excuse me miss but do you remember me? and if she says no then just remind her who you are like the basics and if she says yes then just go right into the talking stage by saying something like how have you been or what have you been up to all these years and if that does not work then idk what to tell you but it should work.
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| 12/27/2007 10:23:39 AM | help me please!!!!!! | |
soaring_bird
Marion, IN
age: 32
| i just feel embarrased to try to talk to her in front of her co-workers lol.
thats the only way i can get in touch with her.
she acts like she still likes me a bit, but i noticed wemon to be kinda hard to read at times.
[Edited 12/27/2007 10:24:42 AM]
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| 12/27/2007 12:41:23 PM | help me please!!!!!! | |
mfpc58
Woodlyn, PA
age: 49
| How do you feel in your heart? How does she feel in her heart. Just ask.
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| 12/27/2007 12:52:28 PM | help me please!!!!!! | |
soaring_bird
Marion, IN
age: 32
| well i obviously would love to have a relationship with her, but as far as her feelings i dont know for sure.
every time i do get the courage to go tlk to her she ends up being off work the only day she is there is saturday but when i go on say. she ends up not being there so i can tlk to her. is this an omen? 
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| 12/27/2007 12:57:25 PM | help me please!!!!!! | |
brwnsugar59
Albuquerque, NM
age: 49
| Tell her exactly what you just told a couple thousand people, and good luck.
And telling her in front of her co workers might just be the sweetest thing any man has ever done for her.
[Edited 12/27/2007 12:59:32 PM]
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| 12/27/2007 1:07:54 PM | help me please!!!!!! | |
sorprano
Wayne, NJ
age: 56
| don't act as if you're stalking her--in a public area SAY HELLO: say it's been some years now i am wondering if you remember who i am--I know time has past but I notice you're a parent now--what a beautiful child you have, i would imagine your mother must be so proud...look for a vibe--then ask if she's involve--you're welcome ...
[Edited 12/27/2007 1:08:07 PM]
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| 12/27/2007 1:10:28 PM | help me please!!!!!! | |
soaring_bird
Marion, IN
age: 32
| do i look like a stalker ? , wait don't answer that! 
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| 12/27/2007 1:14:37 PM | help me please!!!!!! | |
soaring_bird
Marion, IN
age: 32
| so then what should i do about the mom issue , where my mom is a racict ass?
i know if we hooked up my family would still have a problem with the fact that she is african american, god, did i even come from them if so i must have shattered the mold!
i love all people!!!
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| 12/27/2007 1:15:14 PM | help me please!!!!!! | |
sorprano
Wayne, NJ
age: 56
| read your thread again you're seeing her everywhere esp where she works--so you've been following her or why would i say try not to stalk her--if you know her place of work then wouldn't she confront you
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| 12/27/2007 1:17:44 PM | help me please!!!!!! | |
sorprano
Wayne, NJ
age: 56
| if you ever got to her and it's about race perhaps if she ever wanted you back you're going to take her and the child and get away from all that are prejudice and never look back...and get a new life with her without anyone having negatives vibes,,,can you live without either mom's influence
[Edited 12/27/2007 1:18:47 PM]
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| 12/27/2007 1:22:18 PM | help me please!!!!!! | |
brwnsugar59
Albuquerque, NM
age: 49
| It shows you as 31yo so you are an adult and mom and the rest of the racist a** hole's will just have to live with it. We love our parents but they don't have to live our lives for us. I have a female friend who got pregnant by a black guy and her racist father was pissed. But he loved his mixed grandchild. He even apologized to the babies father before he died. Life is too short for all the hatred. JMO
Sorry I shouldn't have called your mother a racist, I don't know her. My apologise.
[Edited 12/27/2007 1:23:41 PM]
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| 12/27/2007 1:28:39 PM | help me please!!!!!! | |
soaring_bird
Marion, IN
age: 32
| yur fine man i said it too .
makes me upset cause of the lost time we could have had together.
but i guess you guys should know that she (my interest)
did aproach me and start tlkin to me. and i was about to ask her if she wanted to get together some night or what have you, and i choked ! got all nervous and shy!
so no im not stalking thanx!
but no apologies needed here racism is not of god and this woman (my mom) goes to chur5ch then says thing that are prejedice against people.
i told her that god will be predjedice of her if she dont change her attitude.
[Edited 12/27/2007 1:30:48 PM]
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