| 12/28/2007 5:27:15 PM | why men are players | |
babe91
Crossville, TN
age: 23
| why do men have to be players,treat you good to start with,then like crap   
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| 12/28/2007 5:28:51 PM | why men are players | |
wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 37 online now!
| as opposed to the women 'players' out there?
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| 12/28/2007 5:41:18 PM | why men are players | |
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45
| I hate to say this, BUT IT'S YOU! You picked them...Why not pick a goodman. You need to go through the steps to weed out the bad ones. During the weeding process allow no quarter. Don't give them any breaks. If they are jerks it will all come out. That's what dating is about. That's why you don't give up the sex too fast. Make them wait.
It's during this waiting period when his personality will come out.
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| 12/28/2007 5:43:00 PM | why men are players | |
cooltammy45
Eugene, OR
age: 46
| Your being to trusting up front and offering the meal before he settles in for the night. Need to set some goals and boundaries and don't be so totally open until you have a good sound relationship. Sorry your finding the not so good ones but I have seen some ladies do the same thing to the guys. So it is about a 50/50 toss up on that.
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| 12/28/2007 5:47:53 PM | why men are players | |
lakemead
Portsmouth, NH
age: 56
| I agree with the dutchman..you women seem to pick the same type over and over again and complain about it..And I thought you were shoppers. 
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| 12/28/2007 7:51:03 PM | why men are players | |
ruthy52
Yreka, CA
age: 52
| I think what she is trying to say is what I have been going through on these online dating websites. I meet alot of nice guys but at first than once you get to know them their true colors start to show. And I'm not just saying it's men only. Women do the same thing. The profiles are really not true. But who is going to write in their profile what a jerk or b*tch they are. But you are right about dating and getting to know someone. But I have noticed that if a man isn't interested in me he just disappears without any inclination of why he won't call again. I think we all owe it to eachother to be at least upfront and honest when we aren't interested. This way we aren't left hanging.
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| 12/28/2007 7:57:16 PM | why men are players | |
oldfashionedgrl
Sumner, WA
age: 46
| I agree with dutch & ruthy. Good points...both of you.
One more thing...I hate shopping. :-p
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| 12/28/2007 8:52:45 PM | why men are players | |
whatsluv
Ellicott City, MD
age: 51
| Dating is like starting a new job. You are put on ninety days' probation. And why? Simply because by ninety days you'll show your real personality, strengths, and weaknesses. Keep that 90-day rule in mind when you start dating anew and avoid deciding anything, either way, until you've given him a chance to show you who he really is. Good luck!
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| 12/28/2007 9:15:10 PM | why men are players | |
countrydancer32
Elmo, UT
age: 33
| Lol, whatsluv, I've never heard of the 90 day rule for lovers. That's a good one!
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| 12/28/2007 11:22:53 PM | why men are players | |
babe91
Crossville, TN
age: 23
| hey i really appreciate all your advice and you are right women do it too,but i dont pick them on purpose,it seems like they find me,i do have morals and boundries but i cant help falling for a guy that seems so nice,cause im not used to it,and for all you goood guys,all men arent players
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| 12/29/2007 12:53:24 AM | why men are players | |
steak_king
Whitmore Lake, MI
age: 51
| well thanks cuz were not!
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| 12/29/2007 12:56:21 AM | why men are players | |
emt854
Appleton, WI
age: 53
| You have to learn to look for red flags..but I agree, the men and women pick them. I have never dated a player. Sometimes you have to look at yourself and ask why your attracting that type of man..the mirror is a wonderful thing
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| 12/29/2007 12:57:33 AM | why men are players | |
steak_king
Whitmore Lake, MI
age: 51
| dam EMT just cuz I play softball?
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| 12/29/2007 12:59:36 AM | why men are players | |
babe91
Crossville, TN
age: 23
| im truly sorry to all the good guys all men arent players just 50 to70 percent of them lol!! and to you watsluv your advice really helped thanks again to all of you,but what makes a man a player 
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| 12/29/2007 3:47:38 AM | why men are players | |
irparis39
New York, NY
age: 48
| Whatsluv, that's an excellent rule. Have always follow it, but I also believe in the LL Bean way, all their products come with a lifetime replaceable guarantee for as long as you own the item...
So don't feel that just because you in love with the guy and he treats you like crap, he's not replaceable, because he is. Make it a rule in your head that no one has the right to treat you badly regardless of how long you've been with him.
And I think men are players because women allow it and once a woman plays the game (either by giving them attention, being flattered) it gives them a sense of empowerment to then mess with your head.
Its like I heard somewhere, men always know what to say to women to appeal to their emotions/their better side, women have no clue how to figure men out because men are good at hiding their emotions and don't let them get in the way of what they want, except for those who are totally looking to fall in love. Its the same with women, except that for the most part, they play devious games, not the same ones men play.
Dating is for weeding. There are good ones out there, don't let the players keep you from recognizing a good heart when its humbly presented before you.
Paris
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