Do you have a list of minimum requirements?

12/28/2009 5:05:04 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
1731casper Overland Park, KS age: 47	I recently met a woman with a list of minimum requirements for anyone that she would go out with. Before dinner had ended I believed that this woman would never find true happiness. And she certainly wouldn't have a chance with me. Even though I passed all of her "Requirements", I found her to be shallow, clinical, jaded and using an approach to romance that bears galactic potential for failure. Personally, I don't measure my passion for someone by my estimation of their wealth status and I believe to do so is to vividly illustrate ignorance and narcissism. What do you think? Meet singles in your area here at DateHookup.com, we're 100% free for everything! Join now!
12/28/2009 5:08:55 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
phina1 Walton, KY age: 49	It get's past the point of "sad" when one feel's as if their on a job interview. Move on . . . to someone whose more open minded vs. calculating and clinical !
12/28/2009 5:48:16 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
arkansasnman Fayetteville, AR age: 47	People have had horrible failures in the past. Their minds are screaming, "THAT AIN'T EVER GONNA HAPPEN AGAIN !!!" Many think that some sort of checklist is a valid way to avoid mistakes they've made in the past. ....it's not.
12/28/2009 5:51:21 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
sage_way Buenos Aires Argentina age: 48	I don't have a list, just notes to remind myself to 'take out the trash'
12/28/2009 6:09:34 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
sherri_ Erlanger, KY age: 48	Quote from 1731casper: I recently met a woman with a list of minimum requirements for anyone that she would go out with. Before dinner had ended I believed that this woman would never find true happiness. And she certainly wouldn't have a chance with me. Even though I passed all of her "Requirements", I found her to be shallow, clinical, jaded and using an approach to romance that bears galactic potential for failure. Personally, I don't measure my passion for someone by my estimation of their wealth status and I believe to do so is to vividly illustrate ignorance and narcissism. What do you think? Since you asked... Are you using a really old picture as your profile pic?
12/28/2009 6:13:42 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
ambrosia123 Pompano Beach, FL age: 46	1. I wanna rip your clothes off when I see you. 2. You're not living with your mother, father, ex wife, sister, brother, or in the condo that was left to you by your dead great-aunt because you're a total f**kup and couldn't afford a place of your own. 3. You have a job. A real job. Not a work out your house "self employed" bullshit job. 4. You're smart. If you're dumb as shit, you'll make my skin crawl. So fellas, check your profiles for typos; they're a turn off. 5. You're a gentleman. 6. You make me laugh. 7. We share some common hobbies/activities. 8. I wanna rip your clothes off when I see you.
12/28/2009 6:14:50 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
badger_of_death Houston, TX age: 42	Quote from ambrosia123: 1. I wanna rip your clothes off when I see you. 2. You're not living with your mother, father, ex wife, sister, brother, or in the condo that was left to you by your dead great-aunt because you're a total f**kup and couldn't afford a place of your own. 3. You have a job. A real job. Not a work out your house "self employed" bullshit job. 4. You're smart. If you're dumb as shit, you'll make my skin crawl. So fellas, check your profiles for typos; they're a turn off. 5. You're a gentleman. 6. You make me laugh. 7. We share some common hobbies/activities. 8. I wanna rip your clothes off when I see you. I think I qualify...what are the benefits?
12/28/2009 6:17:16 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
horace_schitt Wausau, WI age: 42	Yes, I have a list. 1. MUST BE FEMALE!! 2. Must be intelligent. The rest are preferences, not prerequisites.
12/28/2009 6:19:05 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
susansheart839 Port Saint Lucie, FL age: 62 online now!	Yeah, he's got to be breathing and can afford his own viagra
12/28/2009 7:08:11 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
lulu24 Conway, AR age: 35	i do have a list, i must admit. anyone that doesn't fit...i'm just passing time with. they absolutely must be intelligent. i don't care if they went to school...how much education they possess...but if they break out a dictionary every time i talk, it's not going to last. no addictions. i'm not dealing with an alcoholic or a druggie, period. if it's going to go anywhere, we need to share the same basic viewpoints on child-rearing. i do not believe in corporal punishment (or any form of punishment) and use positive and negative forms of reinforcement. i couldn't handle being with a hunter, either. ----------------------------------- other than those, most else is negotiable.
12/28/2009 7:16:50 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
singmesweet West River, MD age: 31	I have some preferences, but not requirements.
12/28/2009 7:52:06 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
emyo81 Meeker, OK age: 28	Yeah that sounded nasty. ALthough I do have a VERY short list of requirements I tend to throw out one here or there. It's more of a morals list than a financial, social status, or superficial list. GLad you weeded her out before things went crazy.
12/28/2009 7:55:48 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
tryagaindj68 Evansville, IN age: 41	Stands to reason that there should be some selection process. Let's just say I seldom respond to a profile if the photos show either a big dog or a dead deer. He might be a great guy, but I'm afraid of dogs, and I don't like venison. That being said, there's this groovy dude in Port Jervis with dogs, and I'd still love to give him a hug.
12/28/2009 7:59:41 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
tryagaindj68 Evansville, IN age: 41	Quote from 1731casper: I recently met a woman with a list of minimum requirements for anyone that she would go out with. Before dinner had ended I believed that this woman would never find true happiness. And she certainly wouldn't have a chance with me. Even though I passed all of her "Requirements", I found her to be shallow, clinical, jaded and using an approach to romance that bears galactic potential for failure. Personally, I don't measure my passion for someone by my estimation of their wealth status and I believe to do so is to vividly illustrate ignorance and narcissism. What do you think? I think you're handsome, intelligent, and likely to avoid unnecessary BS by taking a practical approach to sizing up a date's potential as a partner.
12/28/2009 8:00:57 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
badger_of_death Houston, TX age: 42	No list. Everyone is taken case by case. What I might not like about one person I may love about another...etc...you don't know until you interact with that person. Lists are why people stay single. [Edited 12/28/2009 8:01:18 AM PST]
12/28/2009 8:05:41 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
foxy_woman_49 Omaha, NE age: 51	yep..coffee drinkers only LOL must be single too sad to say..Op many go through what you just experienced .. edit to add..No non-smokers [Edited 12/28/2009 8:08:57 AM PST]
12/28/2009 8:07:09 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
mendicant Tulsa, OK age: 81 online now!	Quote from badger_of_death: No list. Everyone is taken case by case. What I might not like about one person I may love about another...etc...you don't know until you interact with that person. Lists are why people stay single. Never had a list of any kind except that he be clean and respectable... Other than that, I flew by the seat of my pants, so to speak...
12/28/2009 8:11:30 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
hotpockets Maple Shade, NJ age: 54	For me a simple nice easy conversation is all. I really don't like question and answer interview dates...BIG TURNOFF>> Keep things simple like being at a casual party with friends. Yes, I think the past for most have given us new insight as to what we are looking for...what we will tolerate and so on...but that will come out on it's own in good time I think...then there are some that don't want to waste time and get right to the point...it's all in personality.
12/28/2009 8:30:23 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
xpamela_leighx Springville, UT age: 36	I have never had a list.....just a desire to connect with someone who deserves it.
12/28/2009 8:36:20 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
badger_of_death Houston, TX age: 42	Quote from xpamela_leighx: I have never had a list.....just a desire to connect with someone who deserves it. How do you know they deserve it before you connect?
12/28/2009 8:53:13 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
xpamela_leighx Springville, UT age: 36	Quote from badger_of_death: How do you know they deserve it before you connect? Magic 8 ball of course!
12/28/2009 9:01:22 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
badger_of_death Houston, TX age: 42	Quote from xpamela_leighx: Magic 8 ball of course! Ah yes..playing with balls is a great indicator. Quote from drmarrow: I dont need a List of requirements. i just feel a woman should have respect for herself. I agree...no fat ones. [Edited 12/28/2009 9:06:47 AM PST]
12/28/2009 9:03:17 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
drmarrow Bronx, NY age: 28	I dont need a List of requirements. i just feel a woman should have respect for herself.
12/28/2009 9:11:25 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
leftarian Hermosa Beach, CA age: 46	Hmmmm...seems like the only thing I have on my list is that they want to stalk me.
12/28/2009 9:18:06 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
leftfooted West Covina, CA age: 51	I don't measure my passion for someone by my estimation of their wealth status and I believe to do so is to vividly illustrate ignorance and narcissism. What do you think? Where did you get the idea that the passion was going to be for you,seems as if it would have been for your money......
12/28/2009 9:19:58 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
torisdad Louisville, KY age: 42	For me it's no tattoos, intelligent and classy. After that it's pretty open. You can't limit yourself to much or you'll be alone forever.
12/28/2009 9:21:28 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
stumppy Bath, PA age: 64	My only requirement is that they typically engage their intelligence on a regular basis, instead of relying on their biological instincts.
12/28/2009 1:24:04 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
icuddle Salem, OR age: 57	Everyone has requirements. What they are is what varies. Mine are simple: human, female, single, interesting, somewhat compatible, preferably living near me. I don't care about: age, height, weight, shape, looks, income, etc...but some people do. Shallow people often end up with other shallow people. "Let them!" Say I. It leaves more non-shallows for folks like me.
12/28/2009 1:24:48 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
dinkasu48 Henderson, TX age: 49	Quote from susansheart839: Yeah, he's got to be breathing and can afford his own viagra men have asked women to buy their viagra now??? the new liberated male... you gotta love em..... RIGHT??
12/28/2009 1:32:02 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
trueblue5ft2 Poplar Bluff, MO age: 53	never understood the concept of the list that men and women make as they search for their "forever". It seems to me that such a list would only get in the way. I have been single most of my adult life and have done my share of dating and having relationships. Each one was different.. each one had some qualities that I came to treasure and some qualities that I didn't care for but could easily live with. Some I had alot in common with and enjoyed their company alot. Some I had very little in common with but enjoyed learning alot from them. I probably would not had " chosen" a man who was 6'5" since I am merely 5'2". I probably wouldn't had chosen a man who had a young daughter, had a sharp sense of humor,lived several states away or was into nascar races big time... but I found one just like that and I chose him. Sadly, he was taken from me in a car accident in 04 but the point is... take care to not have your list written in stone. Ya never know what you might be missing out on... and trust me, God knows what your needs and desires alot better than you do. You just might be surprised by what you truly need and want if ya just throw that damn list away. Well... is just my opinion anyway
12/28/2009 1:40:43 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
stumppy Bath, PA age: 64	for me lists work well, I use them to ensure that the mundane don't bite me in the ass, while I am chasin' what appeals to my heart. But, I also rely on my experiences, they have no lists, but know when to raise either yellow or red flags.
12/28/2009 1:40:47 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
carbonv Salem, AR age: 52 online now!
12/28/2009 1:41:45 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
blueeyes333 Baldwinsville, NY age: 37	No list, just go with my feelings & chemistry..
12/28/2009 1:50:10 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
r2d21 Suttons Bay, MI age: 60	Quote from ambrosia123: 1. I wanna rip your clothes off when I see you. 2. You're not living with your mother, father, ex wife, sister, brother, or in the condo that was left to you by your dead great-aunt because you're a total f**kup and couldn't afford a place of your own. 3. You have a job. A real job. Not a work out your house "self employed" bullshit job. 4. You're smart. If you're dumb as shit, you'll make my skin crawl. So fellas, check your profiles for typos; they're a turn off. 5. You're a gentleman. 6. You make me laugh. 7. We share some common hobbies/activities. 8. I wanna rip your clothes off when I see you. Yep; I'm a total funk up. I'm self employed and I work out of my home office and have for the past twenty years. Yep; I'm a gentle man. I'm smart, but sometimes do stupid things. I play golf and find it much more fun when someone else pays the green fees and buys the beer on the 19th hole and pays for lunch. You can rip away. But, I don't do lists. I'll pay the electric bill, make my own car payment, and buy the groceries. I also expect to be supported till next year when I get my social security. My best qualities are not on that list. yep..coffee drinkers only LOL must be single too sad to say..Op many go through what you just experienced .. edit to add..No non-smokers Yep; gotta drink lottsa coffee and must be a smoker for me too. I buy my own tobacco. WE got that going. And, I want to move to Arizona within a couple years.
12/28/2009 2:04:20 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
only4dating Rio Rancho, NM age: 50	Yes, we all do to a certain extent. I guess the woman in question didn't meet the OP's requirements. If you carry a checklist around you may not find "the one". But I think that wanting someone who "has a job", "isn't a drug user" or "isn't abusive" is perfectly acceptable. IMHO
12/28/2009 2:08:17 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
arkansasnman Fayetteville, AR age: 47	Quote from only4dating: Yes, we all do to a certain extent. I guess the woman in question didn't meet the OP's requirements. If you carry a checklist around you may not find "the one". But I think that wanting someone who "has a job", "isn't a drug user" or "isn't abusive" is perfectly acceptable. IMHO No offense.......I get your point.......but "having a list" is a very flimsy tool for filtering out the examples you gave. Those sorts of extreme bevaiors aren't noted on people's profiles and they have difficulty admitting those things to themselves....let alone others. I'm just sayin'. [Edited 12/28/2009 2:13:39 PM PST]
12/28/2009 2:08:37 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
only4dating Rio Rancho, NM age: 50	Quote from carbonv: I have to admit, I like his list.
12/28/2009 2:29:49 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
only4dating Rio Rancho, NM age: 50	Quote from arkansasnman: No offense.......I get your point.......but "having a list" is a very flimsy tool for filtering out the examples you gave. Those sorts of extreme bevaiors aren't noted on people's profiles and they have difficulty admitting those things to themselves....let alone others. I'm just sayin'. Agreed, point taken
12/28/2009 5:53:49 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
burbon357 Delton, MI age: 32	A list of requirements is something that should be a little flexible! I have a couple simple ones like you have to work, have a car, honest, smart, and just a fun person to be around! I think that just about sums that question up
12/28/2009 5:56:07 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
okaydude Mesquite, TX age: 53	Only one requirement: She has to have legs like I like them....Feet at one end and p*ssy at the other end.
12/28/2009 6:03:47 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
manifesting West Islip, NY age: 51	Minimum requirement? Must have a pulse rate we can move foreword from there.
12/28/2009 6:12:47 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
silverspn Manitowoc, WI age: 56	the only requirement is for me to be able to love him unconditionally, that happens when he fills what I know my exes didn't have and he will be the right guy for me...
12/28/2009 6:16:15 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
bbw47reader Frederick, MD age: 47	I try to but I keep making exceptions.
12/28/2009 6:19:17 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
ladydi780 West New York, NJ age: 50	I do but it's a short list Must have a sense of humor !!!
12/28/2009 6:23:22 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
cinthianna01 Goshen, IN age: 90	I don't have a list, I know what interest me and what doesn't. I truly want to meet the person that completely intrigues me because of the person they are, and not the person I expect or want them to be. Secondly, I honestly think those that go far enough to make lists of their wants/desires and things they won't accept are the people who are attempting to protect themselves from themselves. Those kind of people have their validity in their reasonings for doing such, but I already know that a person who cannot trust themselves enough to go through life without trying to protect themselves from themselves....won't work
12/28/2009 6:49:04 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
petron Garland, TX age: 48	a list means organized...not my forte a list is something we want to do together, not what the other is expecting of the other.
12/28/2009 6:58:22 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
tko2009 Grand Meadow, MN age: 33	yes. 1. must have drivers license! ( I wont pick up my date) 2.Must be single!. or divorced.. not seperated.. 3.Must have job. and own vehicle. 4.does not live with parents. 5.And the big one.. Must not be on parole or probation. for anything where I am at...lol..its hard to find someone with just these few requirements.. pathetic
12/28/2009 6:59:07 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
kinkycapitalist Atlanta, GA age: 55	Great. Just got off work release.
12/28/2009 7:03:13 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
tko2009 Grand Meadow, MN age: 33	Quote from kinkycapitalist: Great. Just got off work release. ya . and he was back in prison in 6 months. I didnt know he was on parole.. oops.. guess gals sould ask... or just do a back ground check.. you dont wana piss off a parolee
12/28/2009 7:05:09 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
kinkycapitalist Atlanta, GA age: 55	My bad. That was quirk-release
12/28/2009 7:22:33 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
foxy_woman_49 Omaha, NE age: 51	Quote from r2d21: Yep; gotta drink lottsa coffee and must be a smoker for me too. I buy my own tobacco. WE got that going. And, I want to move to Arizona within a couple years. Az is a wonderful place to be...I love it there and so does my body
12/28/2009 7:30:23 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
hockeychick7 North Sioux City, SD age: 41 online now!	Quote from arkansasnman: People have had horrible failures in the past. Their minds are screaming, "THAT AIN'T EVER GONNA HAPPEN AGAIN !!!" Many think that some sort of checklist is a valid way to avoid mistakes they've made in the past. ....it's not. exactly...
12/28/2009 7:33:23 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
rrrsmile York, PA age: 46	I would never tell a date I have a list of minimum requirements but I'll tell you His own teeth......OMG please people floss for God;s sake! A decent paying job....don't expect ME to pay your way! I'm not liberated. A home.....this means not living with parents unless they are elderly and you home was sold to free you up to take care of them. A car.......My a** is not toting you around town. A clue on how to clean a house.....Don't bring me back to your dirty little hovel in the basement. The ability to treat a woman with respect.......Do I need to say more? I think I can work with everything else.....I think
12/28/2009 7:36:20 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
cinthianna01 Goshen, IN age: 90	Quote from petron: a list means organized...not my forte a list is something we want to do together, not what the other is expecting of the other. Exactly...
12/29/2009 10:45:15 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
robert680 Nashua, NH age: 39	Having some minimum requirements is a good idea. The problem with some people is that they have a huge list, impossible for any normal man to fulfill. Then they wonder why they can never find the "right guy". I think its better to have a short list, with things one finds actually reasonable: Here are my "must haves": A pretty smile; a warm voice; good self-esteem; A sense of humor; Witty verbal repartee; Intelligence Here are my dealbreakers: Little or no sense of humor; alcohol abuse or illegal drug use; Clinical depression; Anger issues; Borderline personality disorder. Short, sweet and reasonable. [Edited 12/29/2009 10:45:33 AM PST]
12/29/2009 10:50:19 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
msbevzie Oregon, OH age: 46	I have NO list... WHY would people limit themselves? I think they do that maybe because they aren't ready for anything...they are in denial of THEMSELVES, so making a so called requirement list keeps them out of the loop. I know what I like and don't like but I don't tell a person that...I observe, and I might still like them even if they have a thing I don't normally like...why limit? [Edited 12/29/2009 10:51:48 AM PST]
12/29/2009 11:05:49 AM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
chicagomom Harwood Heights, IL age: 37	Quote from msbevzie: I think they do that maybe because they aren't ready for anything...they are in denial of THEMSELVES, so making a so called requirement list keeps them out of the loop. OMG this is so very true! I swear if you put your pants on with the right leg first and they start with the left you are unworthy. There are some that I could really see being that anal.
12/29/2009 2:05:57 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
msbevzie Oregon, OH age: 46	uh huh anal retentive NO matter what they will come up with something right then ya know?
12/29/2009 2:13:22 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
garyguitar01 Franklin, NJ age: 54	Quote from susansheart839: Yeah, he's got to be breathing and can afford his own viagra Yes, and she must be able to walk upright and have a vagina. Very difficult to find a woman with all those qualifications, but then again, I'm the "get 'em while they're still warm clown".... Oh, no, wait.... who the hell am I again? I forgot what lies I told in my profile. I don't want to misquote myself. Realistically, if she's got that "my shit don't stink" attitude, the date will end VERY soon. If she starts talking about her ex when the beverages get there, and she's still talking about him when dinner arrives, out the door she goes. If I can't lift her up without the aid of an engine hoist, NO DESSERT OR A SECOND DATE FOR HER!!
12/29/2009 2:38:25 PM	Do you have a list of minimum requirements?
azmommiex2 Mesa, AZ age: 27	Quote from tko2009: yes. 1. must have drivers license! ( I wont pick up my date) 2.Must be single!. or divorced.. not seperated.. 3.Must have job. and own vehicle. 4.does not live with parents. 5.And the big one.. Must not be on parole or probation. for anything where I am at...lol..its hard to find someone with just these few requirements.. pathetic I 2nd all off that!!!!!