lowpezz26
Ontario, CA
age: 27
| hi my name is manny here is my delema i was married for 2 1/2 years with a girl that i dated for 8 years we have a 2 yr old doughter togeather well in october out of the blue my x wife came to me and told me that she did not love me , did not want to be with me , and thats why we did not have sex for the last 4 months prior , and she told me she had a new friend , and that she was sleeping with him , and seeing him as a friend , and she told me that i was her friend too and that she wanted to seperate with me , after hearing this i filled for a divorce , the next weekend when i went to pick up my doughter she rolled up with this guy in a new chevy avlanche and looked at me like i aint crap cuz i was in my old toyota rav 4 , but what i drive is just for the moment cuz i graduate college this may and i will be a radoilogists , i have never treated her wrong all i ever did was work to support her and my lil girl and go to college to have a beatter life do you think she will try to come back ? will carma hit her ? i am so confused ?
will the guy she left me for dump her ? he is divorced with 2 kids
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rich101
Lillington, NC
age: 52
| Brother if you aren’t a God fearing man now is the time to turn to Him.
My opinion let her go, keep loving that child, and never talk bad about her momma to her.
You think it hard and confusing for you it is more so for that loving child. Don’t spoil the child now, for in the long run she will try playing the two of you against each other. Keep your cool at all times around the child and don’t fight and argue in front of her. Brother lowpezz, it’s hard but pray and let Jesus lead you.
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winesong
Bend, OR
age: 88
| Good luck with finishing your career education. You will be the winner in the long and short run of Karma. I know you would not wish her bad luck. Keep yourself positive, your eye on the future, the month of MAY, and think YES I WILL OVERCOME this.
Manny, I am sorry for your pain. When I got through several of your sentences, I could sense she HAD met another man and was sexually involved. Boom, there it was..in print. I imagine that you knew this was happening three months before you were told. We are all creatures of *survival skills*. WE KNOW when we are being deceived..we just know...
like a dog knows *to turn around so many times before he curls up* for the night, in his bed. He knows the safety of his bed and he charishes it...so do we humans...we find our bedroom the safe harbour, the place to cuddle, and seek shelter from the world.
When that bedroom is feeling tension..your red flags GO UP...listen to your heart.
Again, I am so sorry. You have many things to deal with. Cherish your daughter.
Wine
[Edited 1/2/2008 2:49:36 PM]
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 49
| Lowpezz,
Don't argue with her at this point. Be glad that she wants a divorce before you start raking in the dough. I din't think the marriage can be saved and yes...she probably will want you back. But could you ever trust her again? I say cut her loose, finish your education and get full custody of your child if you can. Chicks LOVE guys with kids. Once you do this don't look back. You are young, you will have a good education and soon a good job. Move forward and leave her in your dust. I have no doubt that you are a better man than her new BF. But I think you can do a whole lot better.
Good Luck
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ilium527
Springfield, MO
age: 46
| manny, if I knew then what you know now, I would have never gone back the first time things went seriously wrong. Or the second time either. People do change, but I think it's safe to say only when the surroundings change. Put her back in the same surroundings (around you) and I'd bet anything she'll be the same as before. If she changes, in a positive way in your view, for several years, maybe.
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