| 1/2/2008 4:35:57 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
soelle
Greene, ME
age: 54
| I have been married more than twice and have heard through the grapevine that one guy that I dated said that I was not "marriage material" because none of mine lasted. How should I take that? Is it that big of a turnoff? Should I withhold that?
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| 1/2/2008 4:42:34 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 51
| As long as you learned from your past mistakes, absolutely not... you may have more knowledge and relationship skills than most people who have never been married or married only once or twice. Hopefully, you know what doesn't work in a relationship...and thats more than some people...
The man who said that about you in my opinion was judgemental and opinionated (unless he knew more than what you've said in your post)...and it sounds like you can do better.
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| 1/2/2008 5:08:03 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
adelinesmother
Fremont, NE
age: 38
| Just depends on the circumstances of their past divorces....i think.
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| 1/2/2008 5:08:37 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
magicmanooo7
Pineville, LA
age: 34
| again, i agree with theresa...
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| 1/2/2008 5:11:37 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
| I was married to a man married mutiple times and at the time thought nothing of it. If I was dating someone now who was married multiple times I'd be paying close attention to everything about him. I'd have to see who filed against who. In my exes case all the women divorced him. If I saw that now..I'd probably run. I learned from my mistake too.
JMO
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| 1/2/2008 5:17:20 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
soelle
Greene, ME
age: 54
| I divorced them. Each time I married someone with issues like alcoholism or drug addiction that I was not aware of prior to the marriage. I think that maybe I didn't take enough time to get to know them. And yes, I have learned from my mistakes.
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| 1/2/2008 5:18:35 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
bocky1019
Newark, DE
age: 50
| I would say 3 times your out.sometimes we get married for the wrong reasons.But I knew a woman who was married 4 times.She said she was abused by all of her husbands.WEll I ended up knowing one of her husbands from a construction job I was running and he told me she was the abuser and tried to kill 2 exs.Including him.I think you have to look at it both ways.I think its almost the same as would you get serious with someone say in thier late 40s or 50s and never been married.Maybe some red flags there,who knowsJMO
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| 1/2/2008 5:20:02 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| it all depends on the circumstances
age
kids
living situation
finances
baggage
ex's in and out of their lives etc.
her employment situation
family
her mental state
so many things to consider
[Edited 1/2/2008 5:20:25 PM]
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| 1/2/2008 5:28:50 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
that_wd_b_me
Essex Junction, VT
age: 50
| How many more than twice?.Now I don't know you so I can't say but multiple marriages are a huge red flag.could be too much melodrama,exes still hanging around,an attitude of perpetual victimhood.Might also depend how you feel about polygraphs prenups and private detectives.at the very least there would be a long LONG engagement
[Edited 1/2/2008 5:46:59 PM]
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| 1/2/2008 5:53:20 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
soelle
Greene, ME
age: 54
| To that wd b me: So you are saying that you would worry that the other person would be a poor judge of character?
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| 1/2/2008 5:56:06 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
| I'd say you have nothing to worry about then. Good luck
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| 1/2/2008 5:58:24 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
soelle
Greene, ME
age: 54
| Actually that guy has gone through one girlfriend a year since then and has an ex-wife who has taken him back to court 14 times for more money alimony etc. So maybe his judge of character wasn't that good. She's a prize!
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| 1/2/2008 6:09:52 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
that_wd_b_me
Essex Junction, VT
age: 50
| Or I don't fully trust my own judgement,I am inclined to give folks the benefit of the doubt.Among the lessons I have learned are not to confuse pity for love,hence the victim phobia and the knowledge that trying to be the hero,or knight in shining armor is a mistake because gratitude is fleeting and sometimes mistaken for love as well.I dont mind providing a shoulder to cry on either,but that gets old too.
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| 1/2/2008 7:01:14 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
greggx
Daytona Beach, FL
age: 53
| I sure hope someone can get serious with a perdon married multiple time's.If not I'm screwed
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| 1/2/2008 7:09:22 PM | Would you get serious with someone who's been married multiple times? | |
jeang
Caledonia, MI
age: 50
| Bocky, you bring up a good point, about the red flags that go up with someone who has never been married. Say someones in there 50's and never married. I think I would have more flags go up over that than being married more than once. Especially for someone looking for a committed relationship.
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