| 1/4/2008 3:53:30 PM | women with and without kids | |
newstartin08
North Sioux City, SD
age: 48
| There are many different situations and different people-and I think there are FOUR sides- yours, your spouses, the kids and REALITY. I found out that the reason most marriages fail is communication, and you wonder then how can they manage custody if they had so many problems communicating!!! Have the courage to dig deep, and find a way to make it work on all levels around the kids-they are the ones who need the security, sense of protection and the financial support. Put aside your selfish angers on each other-no matter how much you may hate the other-distrust each other-perceive the other as a threat-all of it-needs to go out back in the trash when it comes to the kids....every mom and every dad has the job to stand in front of the BUS-no questions-no reservations!
Kudos to you "brokenbridges"- you seem to be the only one so far who has the maturity, the common sense and the protection that every mother should display on their kids and put their well being and sanity over everyone else!
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| 1/4/2008 3:57:44 PM | women with and without kids | |
skyemitchell
Windsor, ON
age: 40
| Perhaps the woman who gives up her kids, doesn't believe she'll be a good mother alone. Perhaps, instead of calling those women lazy, selfish, and irresponsible, we ought to have some basic human compassion and wonder why she doesn't believe in herself enough. Maybe she really believes they'd be better off with the father -- is that irresponsible and selfish to want what's best for your kids?
An awful lot of judgements fly around in this site.
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| 1/4/2008 4:05:15 PM | women with and without kids | |
the1hick
Osage Beach, MO
age: 39
| yes broken that was a generous thing you did
but in my situation she was smoking pot and having men there in the same house as my children and she chose the drugs and another man over them
she had a good job for a while and just blew everything to hang out with her friend from work not be there for the kids
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| 1/5/2008 7:57:05 AM | women with and without kids | |
adelinesmother
Fremont, NE
age: 38
| I have read everyone's posts. I understand all sides. My father became a single parent back in 1984, my mom left us with him. She felt that she couldnt support 4 children by herself. So he raised us, we were ages 6-13. My mother loved her new life, she wasnt into drugs or anything too stupid. But she was dating around. Before the divorce my father was her only boyfriend, ever. They were married 18 yrs before the divorce. Anyway, she fell in love with her new life. She never saw us, and lived 30 minutes away. And when she did come get us, she wouldnt take all 4 of us at once. My dad never asked for support from her. I grew up hating my mother. I knew someday she would have regrets about this decision.
About 3 years ago, she told me that, she never realized how young we were when she left. I am a single mother of a 4 yrold and i CAN'T imagaine not seeng her everyday. I cant imagine ever abadoning her.
Sorry for the rambling...but i am now an adult but as a child lived what you guys are discussing.
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| 1/5/2008 8:15:26 AM | women with and without kids | |
charlesdecker
Sun Valley, CA
age: 38
| My mother is the most beautiful woman in the world.
She worked 16 hour shifts at times as a waitress after my father had a bad accident in his milk truck, and she always made sure we had a sitter when he wasn't there.
She also took care of my father after their divorce, when he couldn't take care of himself.
She is a wonderful woman, an angel who loves her kids more than she loves life itself.
So maybe I am ignorant.
But I can't understand a woman not wanting to be an everyday part of their children's lives.
Giving up custody, maybe.......as long as she sees that as being a better situation for the children.
But not having much to do with them..........I'm sorry, that's f**king wrong in every way imaginable.
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| 1/5/2008 8:48:32 AM | women with and without kids | |
craftygirl002
Tacoma, WA
age: 40
| I agree with Sky and the others who have commented on the fact that there are several sides to the story. Unless you are in the woman's shoes, you can't really have an informed opinion of her choice.
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| 1/5/2008 8:55:10 AM | women with and without kids | |
landing007
Palmyra, NY
age: 56
| Is this thread about child custody or dating women with/without children?
About custody - the best of both worlds is the child has both parents. If it takes two to make'em then it stands to reason it takes two to raise'em. With divorce up around +50% now days - there are a lot of children that don't have both parents. Who wins the "child prize" is up to the lawyers and courts. Since I'm not god - I don't judge other peoples situations. Me personally - I lost the child prize but still ended up being there 110%. Today she is happily married with a 4 year old, has a master degree and is financially well off. Proof is in the results....
Dating women with or without children??? - since I like children, I have no problems with it.
cheers;
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