| 1/4/2008 10:09:21 AM | women with and without kids | |
the1hick
Osage Beach, MO
age: 39
| im just new at this date site
and am wondering why some women give their kids to the husband so they arent bothered with them
does this make the woman worthless or does it make her irresopnsible
is there a reason she would do such a thing or just stupidity
i love my children and think they are very dishonest the kids
my ex fights me all the time for custody
but she is the one that told the judge she didnt have time for them
i dont try for support cause they are my children
but what makes women just give them up
is it because they are crazy
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| 1/4/2008 10:17:34 AM | women with and without kids | |
dancekidsdance
Meridian, MS
age: 42
| I THINK THAT IS CRAZZY. I DO NOT KNOW WHY A WOMEN WOULD JUST GIVE HER KIDS UP UNLESS SHE IS SELFESS,LAZZY,AND JUST PLANE NO GOOD AND THE KIDS DON'T NEED TO BE WITH HER ANYWAY. I COULD NOT IMAGION NOT HAVING MINE ALL THOUGH IT IS NICE TO GET A BREAKE FROM THEM. THERE ARE ALOT OF MEN THAT HAVE COSTDY OF THERE KIDS AND I THINK THAT SAYS ALOT ABOUT THEM AS A PERSON.
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| 1/4/2008 10:32:09 AM | women with and without kids | |
the1hick
Osage Beach, MO
age: 39
| my ex likes to make people think she is so important in the rearing of our children
she bought them a box of candy for each one and a package of socks
she didnt even bother to call them on christmas day she was at her new mans house
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| 1/4/2008 10:34:51 AM | women with and without kids | |
seawench1
Maricopa, AZ
age: 55
| what about men who walk out on their kids ?????
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| 1/4/2008 10:43:48 AM | women with and without kids | |
newlife4me2
Saylorsburg, PA
age: 43
| First remember there are three sides to every story.
There is a whole lot I wish I could post here but due to the fact that my custody battle has scarely begun I can't.
In my case my ex wants custody of our children. He has tried to use the following reasoning to get me to agree to it (and presented it to me at various times over several months in this order) 1) I am going to have too difficult a time trying to jump start my career and care for the three of them. I will have so much less stress if I am not burdened with juggling their day to day care on top of a new job/career. My answer to that is that I worked full-time until seven years ago and mangaged both the stress and the juggle with two - who are now that much older - so I'm confident I can handle it now that it is three. Will there be stress - sure enough there will be but life is stress folks - get used to it. 2) He missed out on too much of their younger formative years and feels he 'deserves' this time now with them. Well, I can't answer that here as I would like to.
My ex filed a 19 count custody claim - most of the counts are claims of my incompetence either financially or emotionally to provide for our children. And this after 19 years of marriage and 14 years of him never voicing a concern. The accusations and implications are on a nearly constant basis and the amount of emotional energy it takes to combat this negativity is unfathomable to most. If I were of a weaker nature emotionally I would have given up and walked away long before now. I have no family within 600 miles of me that I can rely on. My friends are scattered across the country. He has his family some local some not to fall back on if he needs.
I've been knocked down more times than I care to count. I am bloody and some things are broken but I am still standing......and that in part is due to some of the wonderful people I have met here. This is a fight to the death in a lot of ways....he'll have custody when it is wrenched from by bloody hands by the courts.....not because he succeeded in destroying me.
[Edited 1/4/2008 11:08:39 AM]
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| 1/4/2008 10:58:04 AM | women with and without kids | |
big_joel
Ash Flat, AR
age: 55
| well said newlife
but in his case she told the judge she didnt have time for them
why even try having children in the first place if we arwent gouing to be there equaly to take resopnsibility for our actions
[Edited 1/4/2008 10:59:16 AM]
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| 1/4/2008 11:04:03 AM | women with and without kids | |
newlife4me2
Saylorsburg, PA
age: 43
| I understand that he posted that she voluntarily gave up custody....I guess I didn't make my point clear enough as to the sometimes compelling reasons, which have absolutely nothing to do with being selfish, lazy or not loving your children, that a woman might give them up.
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| 1/4/2008 11:05:55 AM | women with and without kids | |
stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 42
| I've met some women who did give thier kids to the husband and just bail - good thing too they had no business raising kids - so sometimes it's a good thing.
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| 1/4/2008 12:56:27 PM | women with and without kids | |
softbreeze
Queensland
Australia
age: 30
| hi !
wherever the children are, between you and the ex, just keep reassuring the children, keep nurturing them. They are the ones affected the most AND definitely undeserving of any exposure to relationship-gone-wrong madness !
This is pretty bad when you have a selfish person to deal with. My ex is kind of like that but I dont sweat it. He and his family complain and go off on tangents about me not allowing them access to the children but they're so dysfunctional. I have a choice and I decided not to let my children go anywhere until these people get it right and if that never happens, I wont lose sleep.
Everyone's different, it's hard to generalise, personal choice and influence you know !
You're doing well though and thank your lucky numbers that you've got sensitivity in the matter ! Good on you for taking responsibility ! All the best for 2008 !
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| 1/4/2008 1:46:55 PM | women with and without kids | |
billericachick
Billerica, MA
age: 38
| HATS OF TO YOU - KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK WITH THE KIDS
For Her I don't know why woman choose men over their own children. My sister did this. She has to grown kids now, who she doesn't see, and has missed out on there lives. It's a shame. They still keep in touch with both sets of grandparents and all there aunts. They are LOVED.....she is the one who missed out.....
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| 1/4/2008 1:51:28 PM | women with and without kids | |
drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
| the1, my x dumped me for her new boyfriend, then tells me he's not ggod to her special needs kid. but she won't dump him. good luck to this guy,he can have her. but let's be realistic too. stats prove that it's usually men who leave their kids behined, and move on. the1, i say, good for you, and just keep being there for your kids.
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| 1/4/2008 1:53:34 PM | women with and without kids | |
happinessnlove
Dade City, FL
age: 41
| why can't women just take their kids out on a date. I think the best date with a woman with kids is Chuck E Cheese. The kids go play and the woman and I can get a bit acquainted. If things go well, maybe when kids are put down to sleep, me and her can be a bit more intimate.
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| 1/4/2008 1:57:52 PM | women with and without kids | |
brokenbridges
Augusta, KS
age: 37
| You know you really can't judge every woman who gives custody to the father. I for one was pretty much a single mom while I was married. I gave up finishing my education and all of my dreams and goals to be a good mother and wife and he walked out on us.
I have been divorced for some time and I just gave my ex residential custody of our children. They are older now and I discussed it with my children first. I am going back to school to finish my bachelor's degree so that I can financially provide for my children on my own without a man. I can now, but a better job always makes life easier. I get to see my kids when ever I want, neigher of us pays child support. I help out with what they need. My kids actually encouraged me to go back to school and were ok with living with their dad full time so mom can finally finish her dream and meet her goals. So every situation is different. We all do things for a reason. Some people don't agree with what I do, but as long as my kids are ok with it and understand, than it is good. And it is a temp. arrangement until I finish school and then we will go back to shared custody.
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| 1/4/2008 1:58:09 PM | women with and without kids | |
smilesalot2
Smithtown, NY
age: 46
| I can't for anyone but myself.....I have sole custody and proud
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| 1/4/2008 2:04:29 PM | women with and without kids | |
soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 39
| somebody has to have custody, why not the man ? its 2008 now we are almost equals. the man seems to always want to get out of the whole single father thing .. women have a big burden being single moms , working , providing , cleaning , yard work . why cant we do it ? no parent should let their kids go . and no spouse should keep them away from the other party
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