| 1/12/2008 6:33:15 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
dreambuilder07
Gaithersburg, MD
age: 48
| If your long time soulmate/partner/spouse stopped having sex with you for medical reasons (physical, mental, emotional) how would you react?
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| 1/12/2008 6:39:50 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 44
| Be supportive...Its not their fault...
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| 1/12/2008 6:47:52 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
curmudgeon4300
Gretna, NE
age: 61
| When it's done for medical reasons, then you have to continue to love and respect. You can still be loving, cuddle when possible, hold hands, show affection in other ways. When it's for medical reasons, you hang in there.
If it's taken away just because with no medical reason, then it's different; but for medical reasons, aint her fault.
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| 1/12/2008 6:49:34 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
southerndish
Peachtree City, GA
age: 35
| I would remember my vows, for better or worse, in sickness and in health.
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| 1/12/2008 6:56:03 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
seawench1
Maricopa, AZ
age: 55
| I did and I lost....won't elaborate. 15 yrs
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| 1/12/2008 7:05:21 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
dreambuilder07
Gaithersburg, MD
age: 48
| Though I haven't experienced it,I think this would be an easy one for me. I would just keep on loving the best way you know how. Some how the feelings of fruststration could be set aside.
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| 1/12/2008 7:54:38 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
kiddycat
Tyler, TX
age: 51
| At one time when I was happily married, a friend of ours was in a car accident and was paralyzed from the neck down. I thought if that happened to my husband, would I stay with him? Of course I would, with no doubt in my mind.
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| 1/12/2008 8:05:45 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
sondra1968
Mackey, IN
age: 40
| I agree with dish!!!!!!!!!
and... think about this. If you truely love this woman, for God's sake don't let your other head think for you. There are3 other ways. and one more....SHOW HER you are there.
hope this helps. truely i do. 
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| 1/12/2008 8:08:15 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
| for me, no question about it. i'd stay with her, and try to be as supportive as i possibly can. it's just the right thing to do.
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| 1/12/2008 8:14:57 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
superheroscoo
Garden City, KS
age: 24
| I would start seeing my friend, Ms. Michigan. We have a hand for a reason. lol
I would stay with my wife/soulmate and be supportive. Obviously if I care enough about her to marry her, I must appreciated her for a lot more than sex. Anyone who wouldn't be supportive with that obviously doesn't have their priorities straight. Life isn't all about getting off all the time, as fun as it can be.
Good luck to anyone who is in this situation and I will pray for your partners.
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| 1/12/2008 8:28:09 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| Support them 100% and give comfort.
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| 1/12/2008 9:45:43 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
hot007
Bryant, AL
age: 49
| Like dish said remember the vows we didn't say them for the heck of it!
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| 1/12/2008 10:10:17 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
| I remembered my vows. They were what kept me married...in sickness and health. He is bi polar and with that comes promiscuity. I couldn't change this fact so for my own health/safety my marriage became sexless for me. If I were to be in this same situation again I don't know what I would do. I wouldn't cheat but I honestly don't know if I'd stay. Would depend on the situation and had this man been good to me. If he had then I'd probably stay. In the first case he was not good to me...I should have left. Live and learn.
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| 1/12/2008 10:13:07 AM | perplexing question #1 | |
spiritwonder
Lions Head, ON
age: 60
| I had this experience on and off in my last 15 yr relationship. When the situation would raise it's ugly head I always tried to find out the reasons behind it. Usually, if it is an emotional and not a medical mechanical thing, something else is the trigger. This is where communication comes in. Hopefully, both partners are on the level. In my case, it was not. "I just don't feel well" isn't the answer one should get. That is obvious. However, when you are unable to penetrate through the emotional level, it is time to get serious. Someone has to take a stand and either lovingly force the truth, or put the cards on the line. It is really hard to do when the one you love is withholding like that.
We had some very open conversations eventually, but the truth never did come out. It was unfortunate and to end a relationship with "I think we should go our separate ways" can be devastating. In the end, as much as it hurt, I wanted her to be happy, and if being around me wasn't doing that for her, I accepted her decision. After all, we are not here for a long time and to be honest, I don't want to be around someone who doesn't want to be around me. We can avoid friends and relatives if we want, but to avoid a lifetime partner is cruel. Have the courtesy to be up front and honest about the whole issue.
Communication, communication, communication..
I hope my experience will help someone who may be going through this.
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| 1/12/2008 1:48:57 PM | perplexing question #1 | |
v2_1
McHenry, IL
age: 45
| Unless and until a marriage is faced with this question, no one truly knows how they will react.
My husband passed relatively quickly. We had a year between his diagnosis and his death. It was the hardest, most painful year of my life and quite frankly, sex was the last thing on my mind. That said, if his illness had been prolonged, who can say for sure? I don't think I'd have cheated, but I can't know.
My point is: unless you have been in that situation, you will never know for certain what you will do. God is the only one to weigh our sins.
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