| 1/12/2008 7:59:15 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
bejewel
New Kensington, PA
age: 60
| My question,how long should you wait before you meet someone face to face ?
A month,week,couple of days....Does it matter,who makes the first contact to
meet...Boy,questions,questions !!!!
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| 1/12/2008 8:02:18 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
honeybgood
Meeker, OK
age: 50
| Jewel, I would say that you have to follow your heart. I don't think you can get to know someone until you give them a hug! We are all in the same boat and no one wants to be alone. Just be careful!
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| 1/12/2008 8:04:35 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
chucky_t
Akron, IN
age: 60 online now!
| Personally I want to meet as soon as possible. We can have great fun and be great friends with the written word, or even on phone conversations. But in real life face to face, we might just not like each other all that much.
I would say be careful and comfortable with meeting. No real time limit, just when you feel comfortable and know enough about the person to know they are who they are.
Do they give you unlimited access to their home phone? or do you have to call them on a cell phone only during certain hours?
Do you know what they do for a living and where they work? Can you find them there?
Each person is different. The more open they tend to be the faster I am ready to meet them.
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| 1/12/2008 8:10:03 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
joesmom1986
Redding, CA
age: 54
| It just depends on the people and how you feel at the time. Ive been emailing a guy for about a month and things just worked out kind of spur of the moment to meet today. it went very well and i had a great day. I have done the asking a couple of times and it worked out ok too. A lot of people warned me when i started meeting people online that i would run into a lot of wierdos but haven't found one yet. You can tell after a few emails and or phone calls if its someone you would like to meet and spend time with.
I still get so nervous tho, meeting that first time. That doesn't get any easier, for me anyway.
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| 1/12/2008 8:15:22 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
ex_law
Sneads Ferry, NC
age: 52
| For myself, I think I rather email. chat phone, chat, email, for a good while before meeting.
There are  whackos out there, be careful, not foolish. Don't believe everything you hear
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| 1/12/2008 8:18:49 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
bigmac_95901
Marysville, CA
age: 60
| Only you can determine when the time is right, but when you do meet, drive yourself and meet someplace very, very public!!!!!! Then make sure you give/get a hug at the end if earned. And please ladies, if you say you are going to show, please do. That goes for us guys too!!
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| 1/12/2008 8:22:31 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
david9766
Chattanooga, TN
age: 52
| I have meet with a few women that I met online. First we chatted, then talked on the phone, and met in a public place so we both would feel safe. There is no set time frame as to when to meet face to face. Just go with what feel right and safe
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| 1/12/2008 8:28:15 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
dentsrun
Kittanning, PA
age: 52
| We are so much alike, I hope you give me a chance. Goodnight Barb, sleep tight!
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| 1/12/2008 8:38:56 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
whidbey
Normal, IL
age: 57
| I've met some very nice men from online dating sites - no romance but I sure have made a some wonderful friends. 
Always followed chucky_t's suggestions - plus my girlfriend was a deputy sheriff and ran background checks 
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| 1/12/2008 8:46:20 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 56
| It is different for everyone..and you need to do what you feel is good for you. I agree with Chucky..I prefer to meet face to face, once I have spoken on the phone with the person. I never meet at night, always in a public place...and I leave all the information I have on the person, on my refrigerator door
I dated for three years on Match.com...never felt in danger...never was contacted again, unless I wanted to see the person again...and managed to make two very good friends out of it. I found that regardless of how many emails..phonecalls..day dreaming...the only way to know for certain..that you will both click ...is to meet...face to face.
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| 1/12/2008 8:49:23 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
waytogo51
Farmington, AR
age: 52
| I agree with Chucky. After a few e-mails and phone calls, I want to meet to see if there really is something there. You can't know for sure until you meet face to face. JMO.
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| 1/12/2008 8:59:58 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
loveisarose
Port Richey, FL
age: 50
| Jewel, do what feels right. I have exchanged emails with someone now for a couple months, we've talked a few times. It is always really fun. He's coming down to Tampa in a few weeks and I'm a nervous wreck that things will be different face to face, but life is a gamble, I guess. We've both said that if it works, that's terrific. If not, then chalk it up as a good try!
Good luck and just do what your heart advises.
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| 1/12/2008 9:19:53 PM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
elfiegirl
Port Charlotte, FL
age: 54
| This is where I differ...I would like to get to know ALOT about someone
before meeting them. I am not comfortable meeting a total stranger, so
for me...it takes more time!
I love the meeting by web cam...that takes alot of the guess work out of
the "picture & age thing", and well worth the investment! ($14 @ Wal-Mart?)
Worth every penny! This way after emailing and IM'ing awhile, you invite
them to see your face and then talk on the phone at the same time! I only
got a webcam due to my daughter & family being in Phoenix. I could SEE
my new grandbaby! It was great!
Now I KNOW what the man looks like and can talk with him at the same time!
No suprises there! I mean, it's like he's here with me...how cool is that???
So my advice...get a webcam and REALLY start talking!
No more excuses! Tee Hee! If you do it for a few months it's like
meeting a good friend already! Try it everyone, then you'll see how
fun it is!!! 
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| 1/13/2008 7:15:05 AM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
jan113
Downingtown, PA
age: 51
| I have found talking online does not do the task. It seems to be the norm for someone to ask for a cell phone# and take it from there. The worst that can happen is choosing to not answer the phone, people seem to get the message rather quickly. I find if someone is too "eager" it is a red flag for me. I will give out my cell number and get the feel of the person on the phone.
Like Exlaw says, be careful~so far I have found my gut instinct is the best measure and believe me I listen to it 
Good luck
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| 1/13/2008 7:20:28 AM | Meeting in Person,that first time..... | |
sandigirl
Baton Rouge, LA
age: 50
| You are so right! But it seems you have an advantage, you can check them out yourself before meeting LOL
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