| 1/12/2008 10:04:52 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
tabz1975
Corona, CA
age: 32
| I have had two huge losses within 6 months. Is there anyone out there that has some advice on how to move on?
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| 1/12/2008 10:06:02 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
| Drink beer and get nekkid....
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| 1/12/2008 10:11:01 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
libra75
Garfield, AR
age: 32
| Time....that's all the
advice I can offer to ya......
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| 1/12/2008 10:13:01 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
lorlie
Eugene, OR
age: 52
| tabz, I have recently lost my big brother suddenly. There is no way
to get over it and move on except to cry it out. Is the hardest thing
I have ever done. But know that your loved ones would not want you to
not go on with your life just because theirs ended. You will see them
again in a better place. So you have to make yourself move forward for
them. My deepest sympathy for you. God Bless.
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| 1/12/2008 10:16:23 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
meh777
Midland, TX
age: 30 online now!
| focus on the good times you had with them and spend alot of time with loved ones... it just takes time for the pain to go away and some times it never does my papa passed away when I was in high school and I still miss him too this day but my family and old pictures and videos and even dreams keeps him in my heart and mind... I believe he is still here cheering me on and comforting me when I am sad.... If you need someone to talk to then turn to family and if you can't you can alway talk to me.. I will say a little prayer for you. Just remember that just because they are gone in body they will always be in your heart.
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| 1/12/2008 10:30:24 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
tabz1975
Corona, CA
age: 32
| Well thanks for the advice, I know it takes time but I tell you what sometimes you wanna just scream and ask WHY.......................
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| 1/12/2008 10:31:18 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
libra75
Garfield, AR
age: 32
| ...been there too...
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| 1/12/2008 10:32:28 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
oldfashionedgrl
Sumner, WA
age: 46
| Give yourself the time you need to grieve. If they were important in your life, it's understandable that you're feeling horrible. I lost my Mom several years ago and I felt like the world should have come to a stop when she died. It was very weird that everything kept moving forward, like her passing didn't mean anything.
You will probably find that the grief will hit you hard when you least expect it. Just let it come and work through it. Maybe a place or a song will make you think of them. Time will heal and then you will be able to look back fondly on the good times with your loved ones.
Take care.
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| 1/12/2008 10:38:33 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
meh777
Midland, TX
age: 30 online now!
| I definately understand I have wanted to scream WHY many times in my life and honestly sometimes it actually makes you feel better to just let all of those feeling go just be sure that you have someone there when you need that shoulder to cry on because after all the screaming you will need it... Don't hold the feeling in let them go and you will feel better..
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| 1/12/2008 11:10:05 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
aboomer
Hot Springs National Park, AR
age: 50
| Get you a good louisville slugger baseball bat and go beat on a tree until you can`t lift your arms and then you won`t have any energy to cry and you'll realize you're just feeling sorry for yourself. Don`t mean to insult, but most people are sorrowful because they didn`t have all the conversations, and do all the things that they wanted to with the departed before it was too late. I still get angry with myself because I never made the time I should have with my folks before they passed.
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| 1/13/2008 4:56:42 AM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
v2_1
McHenry, IL
age: 45
| One of the things that made me craziest was hearing people say that it will get better with time. Unfortunately, it's true. You have to feel all of what you're feeling right now in order to heal. It hurts. It sucks. It's very necessary.
Some days, the best you can do is to find one thing, just one thing that made you happy. It could be as simple as hearing a bird's song. Build on that. And know that there are people who have been where you're at, and are available for a shoulder or an ear if you need them.
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| 1/18/2008 11:06:33 AM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
tititine
Kitchener, ON
age: 27
| First of all-I am sorry for your loss. It is one of the hardest things to deal with. The best advice I can give you is to feel all the feelings you need to feel. You will be angry-BE ANGRY! You will feel sad - BE SAD! Let yourself go through the process. Know that it isn't fair but that it is part of life. It is true that it does get easier with time...but just take it one day at a time and feel what you need to feel. Good luck and I hope that this helped.
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| 1/18/2008 11:13:38 AM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
libra75
Garfield, AR
age: 32
| Good suggestion, Boomer...
Personally, I pour as much alcohol as I
can find over my loss......
[Edited 1/18/2008 11:15:05 AM]
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| 1/18/2008 11:22:07 AM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
happinessnlove
Dade City, FL
age: 41
| With time comes healing. Write your feelings down. Don't worry if it doesn't make sense, just write them down. It makes the healing go faster.
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| 1/18/2008 6:46:12 PM | The loss of a loved one......... | |
57rickie
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 57
| If you feel like screaming go ahead, if you feel like crying go ahead. Believe me, there are some loses you just never get over. Time may heal, but it doesn't take away the feelings you had for the person
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