| 1/13/2008 3:59:12 PM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
funpeaches
Battle Creek, MI
age: 34
| I thought I'd take the chance and actually meet someone from this site. I thought at the time that the trip was worth it, but now I wish I'd never gone. I had a wonderful time with this man and he seemed genuine. I don't know if the distance scares him, but I was willing to try the long distance thing. I knew he had like 70 friends on his profile that he talked to, but it didn't bother me at the time. All of the sudden it seems he has someone else that he'd rather talk to on a regular basis. I've seen them in these forums and he moved her into my number one spot on his friends. I felt like someone smacked me in the face to wake me up. I really did enjoy talking to him, and even though the sex wasn't the best, it was nice. I do wish him the best, but it still hurt me to find out that I was wrong about him. I feel like an idiot and should've known better. I was just getting ready to go see him again too, thank god I found this out before I had my plans all set. Well, I hope he and his Texas lady can work something out. Just needed to vent a little!
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| 1/14/2008 4:17:41 AM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
seawench1
Maricopa, AZ
age: 55
| This was the first meeting? and you slept with him? ........hummmmmmmm. Hun I do feel for you, but you don't have sex with a man on first meeting.
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| 1/14/2008 4:18:51 AM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
toni020547
Unadilla, NY
age: 61
| Yes...but don t beat yourself up....first make them come to you the first time...don t waste your time and money on what might not be even a good date. Nothing ventured nothing gained...he has at least the privilege to meet you and dine you and talk and see if you really want to see each other again.Then is communications are even better after the "meet" you can decide if you want to see him again. We all make mistakes ...but we gotta try to stop repeating them...Good luck you are young and pretty there has got to be a prince among the frogs ...don t ya think?.....Granny Toni 
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| 1/14/2008 5:17:10 AM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
peregrina
Lumberton, NC
age: 52
| I'm sorry to hear about your frustration. Only think I can tell you, make your mistake a learning tool. All of us are subject to mistakes, we are human. In the future, don't repeat it, that's all. For every woman up there, keep in mind, most people on date webside, think of it as a ball park and they want to play and score as high as they can, others feelings don't matter  . So, all woman up there, please take control off rules. Star with the sexual part, remember how emotional it can be, when you find out you were used and discarded. Most man talk to a huge number of ladies at same time,is dating after all, so when they decide to meet you, they are exploring their chances....so, take a chance to meet if you decide too,  open your mouth in a big smile....... keep you legs closed, at least until you make sure you wining the game. Be aware of those popular ones, check the number and gender on friends's list, it can tell you a lot, believe me, I have been there, only with the difference if you want to play is going to be by my rules until the issue is seriously screened and the game is over. Good luck to you.
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| 1/14/2008 5:52:48 AM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
anyhope31
Portage, MI
age: 32
| There are plenty of good men in this state, maybe you should give them a chance. wink, wink. I hope this doesn't blur your vision on men.
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| 1/14/2008 6:00:15 AM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
silkpanties53
Baytown, TX
age: 53 online now!
| Hey funpeaches
look around this site
he's just one, have some
fun - don't look for just
one - chat - phone - pic's
then make up your mind who
it will be
"Make it your choice"
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| 1/14/2008 9:43:04 AM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
funpeaches
Battle Creek, MI
age: 34
| Oh, it's not like he was the only one I've talked to. He was just the one that I clicked with at the time. I'm still fishing! I would never give up because of one bad attempt. It's not the only bad one I've had. It just made me feel stupid. I will definitly be sticking closer to home.
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| 1/14/2008 10:14:18 AM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
fartonsam
Plainwell, MI
age: 19
| how could you be that stupid? 
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| 1/14/2008 10:17:43 AM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
dg1260
Galion, OH
age: 47
| fartonsam, lighten up! Wow, like, kick someone when they are down!
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| 1/14/2008 4:44:32 PM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
funpeaches
Battle Creek, MI
age: 34
| I'm not down. I got it out of my system. It's not a thing of being stupid or not, I wanted to go. I had a great time. I had a backup plan if things didn't seem right. I don't always make the right calls in life, but I don't need anyone telling me I'm stupid. I can handle that part on my own.
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| 1/14/2008 7:31:07 PM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
michaelcee
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
| Wanted to email you but you have my age group blocked.
Was going to say don't sweat it.... all that matters is you had a good time.
Maybe it wasn't "worth it" but you still had a good time.
Better to find out he has a roaming eye now than once you have a lot invested (both financially and emotionally)
I appreciate you sharing your experience.
Wll help me decide how to act if I ever decide to committ to any long didstance relaionships again.
Michael
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| 1/16/2008 9:57:17 PM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Wow! I think I have to agree with the comment that meeting someone online, taking a trip to be with them probably isn't the SMARTEST time to be sexually intimate - but, no doubt you were "in the moment"
and rarely does anybody stop and say: "gee, maybe this is something I'm going to REALLY regret..."
Can everyone shout COYOTE UGLY...?
All together now?
However, I don't think this is an "online" issue or even a long-distance issue...'cuz the one thing I can say Ihave learned - personally is you can thinkyou really KNOW someone, and you can trust them with all of your greatness and your weakness and still, still be disrespected and mistreated. It's a nasty thing to have experienced (and yeah, wouldn't we all like to have a cheat sheet or a hint about who's the "real thing" and who's playing sick games on here??) but the reality is - this might have happened to you just as easily with someone you met at the corner store.
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| 1/17/2008 6:53:38 PM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
knittinkitten
Lady Lake, FL
age: 72
| Whoa Qazy...I'm gonna have to disagree with you on that one. A "date", to me is a "date"...that's meeting face to face. I may talk to someone on the phone or Messenger for any length of time.....it doesn't tell me if there's any "chemistry". You can say what ya want about chemistry, but, in the past, I have found that if it's NOT there when ya meet, it HASN'T ever miraculously appeared....yet.
I have met a few in a long distance situation. However, since I live in Florida, many retired men spend extended time down here. To date, I have not made a long trip...they have been the ones to travel. However, they know from the beginning, that sleeping arrangements will be separate. It's still a "Meet and Greet", no matter how far the travel.
Just thought you might like to know, "the OTHER side of the story." I will not travel out of my "comfort zone for a "Meet and Greet" (meaning stay over in a Motel in a strange city).
If a man expects me to do so, he's not the man for me.....and, I learn that soon enough.
It's amazing, OP, how much ya learn once you're online. You'll be just fine. You simply have to remember to take care of your safety. You'll get better at taking care of your heart!.
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| 1/17/2008 7:07:25 PM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Hey I'm going to weigh back in on this one, Qazy. I don't think I'd allow ANY ONE inside of my body on a first meet.
Give me a break! I don't think that's safe, ladies am I right or wrong?
Guys - any body want to comment on the appropriateness of sharing sexual intimacy when you meet for the first time?
Maybe I'm whacked.
(p.s. I love Knitting!)
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| 1/17/2008 8:33:50 PM | I should've known better and now I feel like an idiot. | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| Dayum, I don't see the prob. 
Only wanted a measly slice or 2. 
Ain't like I was tryin' 2 steal the whole loaf...
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