| 1/15/2008 12:51:03 AM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
countrysinger2
Fallon, NV
age: 49
| Ok been out of the dating circuit for quite awhile...Met a gal that lives with her AUNT and to say (the aunt)is a men hater is a understatement!This gal is 36 years old and has lived with her aunt since she was 13...Ok I recently became single and met this gal thru the dating website. Come to find out ive know of her for 20 years never ever figured she would take a interest in me...ok so she asked around(town) and was told I was a very respectable person ..ok she warned me that she had some issues and that in order to date her I would have to accept them unconditionally..ok how bad can it be??No kids but 5 dogs & lives with the aunt.. Got the story from this gal that all the guys shes dated have just wanted sex and left her after getting some from her..ok im thinking this aint good... ok when I first met this gal I told her I had just recently filed for divorce and was up front honest with her...she said thats fine.. Hooked up several times with her(in a 2 month time frame) and then BAM..The aunt puts a stop to me comming over to visit(never once did I ever have sex with her in the aunt house nor would I)and this gal tells me that im not welcomed at her aunts house.. and that since her friends(one couple)where leaving town that I would have to take a back burner to them...No more going out nor more going to dinner nor more going to the movies... and she recently deceided that until she see divorce papers nor more sex...ohhhhhhh ok.. the sex issue i understood....(paperwork was shown upon request)And then she said since I wasnt of the same "calibur" as her friends that I would have to stay gone until they leave...Now I really truely like this person..(ok shoot me now).but does anybody else think that this is normal dating protocal? After talking to the last BOYFRIEND I was told that the aunt was in fact the reason for there failure (and I have to say the aunt does not have ANYTHING GOOD TO SAY ABOUT MALES).. and he got what sex he could and dumped her....wow .. things sure have changed since I dated.... So do i run like hell? Put up with the aunt? and see if things are better after the "friend leave? Hey thx for reading and any good solid advise would help thank you.
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| 1/15/2008 1:09:09 AM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
auntiekk
Bellingham, MA
age: 45
| sounds messed up to me I thinks she told you kindly to stay away got the hint.
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| 1/15/2008 1:28:00 AM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
countrysinger2
Fallon, NV
age: 49
| thx...I was thinking the same thing except i still get the i love yous and early moring calls and the good night calls..........i think you might be right.
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| 1/15/2008 1:51:02 AM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
auntiekk
Bellingham, MA
age: 45
| sounds like to me she does'nt know what she wants she is how old and still living with her aunt?time she grows up and move on in to the world.
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| 1/15/2008 5:27:14 AM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
donna63
Ringgold, GA
age: 45
| I think you need to keep dating other people.
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| 1/15/2008 6:59:25 AM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
craftygirl002
Tacoma, WA
age: 40
| Too many red flags to count. Her telling you you're not good enough to be around her friends is HUGE! It seems to me everyone deserves to be with someone who is proud to introduce them to friends. Run, Forest, run!
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| 1/15/2008 7:05:03 AM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
| cookoo for coco puffs! sorry dude. run. run like you've never run before. run forrest, run! seriously, to try to work it out will only cause u more pain than it's worth. there r better women for u out there.
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| 1/15/2008 7:13:21 AM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
lovesflowerstoo
Fort Smith, AR
age: 47
| Move on...and fast...trust me, if she says she's 36, and lives with her Aunt, still, never married etc...she doesn't know what she wants, someone has always made her decisions...do you really want that? I understand and remember coming out of the gate after my divorce and it's scary and we tend to date those who will pay attention to us...but there are major red flags there.... MAJOR.... Good luck...
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| 1/15/2008 7:22:26 AM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
rureadynow
Clearwater, FL
age: 50
| i have to agree with everyone else....run like hell. that one is not worth the time and effort. there is always someone better out there just waiting.
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| 1/15/2008 3:13:05 PM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
countrysinger2
Fallon, NV
age: 49
| Well ask and you shall receive... Thanks for the honest advise... AND Took your advice.. In fact sat her down and let her read your responces!!!In fact showed her that people around the world can agree on one thing even if they dont know each other..and that my thinking wasnt all the afu as she sugguested.. I had recently told her the same thing and suggested that we not see each other until she was out on her own(own house away from the aunt.....where she can live her own life...thanks again It was reassuring to see im not all that messed up as a redneck! thx
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| 1/15/2008 3:26:52 PM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 49
| Countrysinger,
Why would you want to continue to go out with her even if she does have her own place? I married a woman that was raised by a man hater. Yes, I got all the love notes and the calls in the morning before and after work. The nice valentines day card and so on. She made me believe that she was the best woman in the world and that she had been abused by all the men in her life.....as did her mother.
My advice to you? RUN LIKE HELL!! As soon as she finds that you can't keep her happy all the time....or she just gets tired of you, she will acuse you of abuse. No matter how nice you are. And she says you aren't on the same level as her friends? That alone is reason enough to dump her. She will end up just like her aunt.
As a matter of fact my ex wife and her mother sound so much like the people you are talking about it is scary. After the divorce I made my friends promise to kick my ass if I ever fell for a woman like that again.
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| 1/15/2008 3:28:59 PM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
ctrybunny
Brighton, CO
age: 49
| Nope, your not missing anything. Auntie is too controling. Move on.
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| 1/15/2008 3:38:05 PM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
maturelady
Marion, OH
age: 65
| countrysinger what are you thinking?
this woman sounds very weird and with alot of problems your best bet is to look somewhere else someone that puts you 1st in her life not her auntie and her friends that are to good for you to be around.
from your picture you should have know problem finding some one that will love you and be there for you unless you are into this weird kind of life.
Good Luck
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| 1/15/2008 3:42:23 PM | ok mybe i missing something here??? advise needed// | |
countrysinger2
Fallon, NV
age: 49
| Thx Appreciate the honesty.
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