| 1/18/2008 6:28:17 AM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
niffie
Nashua, NH
age: 23
| I have been seeing this guy frequently since September we are taking things slow because I have a young child at home. He keeps giving me such mixed signs!! In private he is a wonderful man he comes over we enjoy meals together he has met my son he is great with him and so much that my son calls him his best friend. He says he loves my son and really likes me. In public if we run into each other completely different I turn invisible we run into each other his friends know me they say hi they buy me a drink come over and dance with me but he is in a completely different world. I have comfronted him a few times about that and he says that he likes to be around just everyone.... what does that mean!? He cant say hi and buy me a drink and dance with me like his friends do? This doesn't make any sense to me and it's killing me I can have any guy I want but decided to be around him more?! ---- Don't get me wrong I'm still dating people just like he is but him and I have something more going on than just a night out ya know!? Please guys I need a male point of view before I decide to just cut this off and ladies if you have something to say too let me know I need all the advice I can get!! Thanks!!!
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| 1/18/2008 6:36:09 AM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
mr_dave_12
Shickshinny, PA
age: 42
| I think ya hit the nail on the head....you are dating others as he is. You may think there is more to this, but does he? Her may really like you, but it may still be at a point where he is not looking more than just dating and/or seeing you at this point. If there were more it would be logical one of the two would have said something about it being exclusive. I dunno about him, but if I really liked or cared for someone I would not ignore them in public...that actually is kinda rude anyway. JMO.
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| 1/18/2008 6:45:45 AM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
jaded75149
Mesquite, TX
age: 47
| I agree with Mr Dave. It sounds like you think there is more between the two of you than he does. If he really liked you, he wouldn't ignore you in public. I've noticed that some men think if they don't socialize with you, they won't become attached to you. They will come to your house, eat, watch tv, etc...but not take you out...And actually make an effort to NOT get to know you personally. Since you say you're "taking it slow" I'm assuming that you haven't had sex yet? He could be just trying to get close enough to you at home to score...but doesn't want to be come emotionally attached.
[Edited 1/18/2008 6:46:27 AM]
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| 1/18/2008 10:02:25 AM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| Hmmmm since september
Did you sleep with him?????
But more importantly, you said that you date as well as he is so everything is fair and both you and he doesn't owe anything. If you are dating other people, then you can't blame him for his actions as you said he is also. But You are leaving an important piece out if you slept with him or not.
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| 1/18/2008 10:10:00 AM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
niffie
Nashua, NH
age: 23
| We have slept together and are exclusive in that... we both agreed to only sleep with each other and if we decided we had feelings for someone else in that way we would let each other know. And yea I am feeling like something else is there.... I've asked him and he said he wants to keep doing what we are doing until we feel confortable enough to be a couple.... but you think since September if there was something there he would already feel comfortable?! I have actually started to back off a little and told him that I want more than what he is providing for me and that I'd rather not get closer and have him over or sleep with him....we are still talking... but even if we stayed friends I still find it weird that he is ignoring me in public? I'm not anything to be embarassed about thats for sure .... I'm more arm candy for him than he is for me lol
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| 1/18/2008 10:11:13 AM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
niffie
Nashua, NH
age: 23
| by the way thank you all for your comments and support it's appretiated!! I don't have many friends that I can confide in and them not spread shit around.... I keep most of my personal stuff to myself.
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| 1/18/2008 10:26:17 AM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
bigeasy741
Bay, AR
age: 45
| I never bring a woman around my son unless she is only just a friend.I do not want to confuse him. You both are dating other people,maybe you are more serious then he is;If you are treated in that manner I only see you as a friendly booty call in his black book.Maybe in public he doesn't want to look as having a girl,Wants to appear single for the other ladies. Don't expect much in a open date relationship.I wish you luck and not a broken heart.
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| 1/18/2008 10:29:49 AM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
niffie
Nashua, NH
age: 23
| Thank you big easy I think I have made my mind up about this guy and I'm cutting him loose I'll still talk to him if he calls or if I see him I'll say hi but I think he needs to find out what he wants before we pruse it any further and I'm not going to wait around either....... This whole dating thing sucks and having a child involed is even worse!
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| 1/18/2008 11:57:12 AM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
irparis39
New York, NY
age: 48
| I agree with everyone else. You are a hookup, the new term for getting the booty and not having to commit to it. The only thing about that is that the "booty" still wants what it wants emotionally and its always the girl who tries to see a future in it.
I'm glad thought to see that you're alot smarter than waiting around to see if you can change him or if things can change. It might, then it might not and if it doesn't, you have wasted x amount of years waiting for him to be on the same page as you.
You're a beautiful girl. Date others, keep your options open and your legs close until you know what you need and what the guy is looking for. As you said, a child puts a different spin on the whole situation...what it does it keep you from believing too much in the hype of what a man tells ya to hookup and staying grounded.
Paris
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| 1/18/2008 12:08:42 PM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
wolf_man
Ada, OK
age: 44
| if you continue the way your going, and not just see one guy, and date other's you will probly get the same results.they dont take it seriously,and take it as just a fling, and its hard to make a relationship work,with you both seeing other people,its really not a relationship to begin with. but you dont turn your back on someone out in public.
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| 1/18/2008 6:18:33 PM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
like_i_need_one
Bishop, CA
age: 40
| I think he (bf) explained it.. your at this bar/club and if he was to hang with you.. who is gonna date him?
can't have it both ways that was the deal.
you already said if you are together in public he is great.. just not when you bump into each other.
seems pretty plain and normal for such a situation as described.. no problem. when he's mingling and no prearranged date is going on.. then chill.
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| 1/18/2008 7:22:32 PM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
collide64
Janesville, WI
age: 43
| Sounds like he's using you and still shopping
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| 1/18/2008 7:28:13 PM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| Why buy the milk when you can have the cow for free
You sleep together and still dating other people? Again, why buy the milk when you can have the cow for free
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| 1/18/2008 7:29:25 PM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 51
| Why buy the whole pig for a little piece of sausage???
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| 1/18/2008 7:38:17 PM | Ok Guys I need some insite..... | |
cali08
Palm Desert, CA
age: 43
| Girlfriend... sounds to me like you already know what you should do. Remember we teach people how to treat us. Don't ever let anyone treat you less than you deserve.
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