| 1/21/2008 11:18:46 AM | Old Cow Theory | |
midnight2005
Clarksburg, WV
age: 38
| Tallest I have to agree with you. I want to point out that I am not knocking anybody just simply stating changes that have affected the way things have transpired.
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| 1/21/2008 11:36:46 AM | Old Cow Theory | |
tallestdiva
Flint, MI
age: 33
| Midnight, I am not by any means upset about your point of view. I personally believe that there are roles that both men and women should play.
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| 1/21/2008 11:41:12 AM | Old Cow Theory | |
mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 44
| I find it comes daown to what sign they were bormn under and what sign raised them as well as if mommmy and daddy were over the top in love and lived it as an example lots of factors play into this one...over all...anything divorced wants to run the pastors for a while anyway...can you blame them.
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| 1/21/2008 11:42:34 AM | Old Cow Theory | |
midnight2005
Clarksburg, WV
age: 38
| I understand and I am not trying to place roles on anybody, however I am stating that the roles that we are playing are affecting the way things are happening.
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| 1/21/2008 11:52:31 AM | Old Cow Theory | |
faith32
Bedford, IN
age: 49
| midnight, you stated that back then men cheated on their wives & it was accepted because women had no other choice. You also said basically men cheat because women have more choices. SO....Who did men cheat with back then? It's basically the same, right?
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| 1/21/2008 11:59:07 AM | Old Cow Theory | |
tallestdiva
Flint, MI
age: 33
| Midnight I agree with you.
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| 1/21/2008 12:00:11 PM | Old Cow Theory | |
midnight2005
Clarksburg, WV
age: 38
| Well I think you got it wrong Faith, I dont know if it was accepted, I was more trying to praise the women back then, they would stand by their man through anything. Not say that it was ok for men to cheat. I have no reason for men to cheat, cheating is wrong no matter who is doing it. I am saying men (some men) do not commit because they have more choices. In my opinion, and of course I do not know everything.
thank you Diva
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| 1/21/2008 12:07:55 PM | Old Cow Theory | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Weighing in on this theory.... moo.
I have pondered this for some time. As well as objectively looking at other people who appear to have what I don't and asking why? I SEE lots of people together, married, having dinner, etc., and I am alone and I ask...why not me?
I think generations before mine - people stayed together as there was simply no option. They knew no other life. The rare Wallis Simpsons who kissed the wind and said to hell with what others think were a once in a century event.
Our grandparents had work, chores, economic depressions and wars to cope with - divorce?
Couldn't be done.
Now we're flooded with options - including those here.
Where else do you find 157,000 people all looking for SOMEONE in one place?
Why stay and struggle and work, or even try to make a dating relationship work when there "appears" to be so many options?
But are they GOOD options? Quality choices? Is divorcing TOO easy? Is cheating too easy? Do those values and morals that used to be taught to the young even matter any more or do we simply want what we want when we want it and we want it now oh yeah and we want it all and we want it OUR way or .....screw it?!
Sounds harsh and selfish but I think it's how it is.
I also think many, many people are also married to someone they could care less about because it's easier than being alone.
I also think that's a stupid trend that will ultimately destroy how anyone lives life happily.
Let alone happily ever after.
We've become such a microwave society that it's totally okay with young people (and us old folks) to post a photo, fly across our nation, meet someone and share our body sexually in less than a week.
Think about it - aren't your grandparents rolling over like wild things in their graves and what we now see as normal?
My bet is they are! But that's JMO.
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| 1/21/2008 12:13:19 PM | Old Cow Theory | |
bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 49
| I think both men and women cheat at a higher rate today than they did 50-100 years ago. There is a lot more oportunity for both do do so. However, today I think there is a higher percentage of women cheating today than back than. Because they have a LOT more oportunity.
So why get married? It's all about the desire to be responsible. There is nothing that makes me happier than having someone to come home to at the end of the day. Do you think your dog or cat care? HAHAHAH, they are happy to see anyone who feeds them. Leave them at a friends house for a month and they aren't your best friend anymore. But if you pick the right man or woman they will be your best friend and mate for life. Besides, a babe in the sack is worth a lot more that 50 at the mall. It's a lot eaiser to come home when someone that loves you is there. You can say that you don't have to be married to get that. Well, I think you do. Someone that isn't married can leave anytime and probably won't put much time or effort in to having a happy home with you. Some women look for financial security in marriege. They want to make sure thay have a place to sleep at night. Men on the other hand are looking for someone to welcome them home. Yeah, I would rather be married. It's not hard to be loyal to one woman. When I feel like hunting, I will grab my bow or my gun and get a deer.
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| 1/21/2008 12:13:20 PM | Old Cow Theory | |
midnight2005
Clarksburg, WV
age: 38
| Gonesailing very well put! That is what I am trying to say.
"But are they GOOD options? Quality choices? Is divorcing TOO easy? Is cheating too easy? Do those values and morals that used to be taught to the young even matter any more or do we simply want what we want when we want it and we want it now oh yeah and we want it all and we want it OUR way or .....screw it?!"
It is too easy to divorce. Too many choices and too much temptation! Sociaty has no morals anymore1
well done
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| 1/21/2008 12:27:27 PM | Old Cow Theory | |
drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
| here's my 2 cents. if she baths everyday. i probably want to see her again. but if she's not, and she's trying to cover it up with cheap perfume, the answer, is a resounding "NO".  
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| 1/21/2008 12:29:47 PM | Old Cow Theory | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| well, I'm on my way to the shower right now...! LOL!
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| 1/21/2008 12:49:16 PM | Old Cow Theory | |
faith32
Bedford, IN
age: 49
| Seriously people, Love & commitment is the best thing you can ever experience. Like it or not, men & women do have roles & they are wonderful roles. There are things men do better than women & things women do better than men. I like being a woman. I wouldn't trade a man places for anything. My husband died last year & so many things have come up that I needed him for. It is sad that we have become what we have: We are missing out that's for sure.
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| 1/21/2008 12:51:24 PM | Old Cow Theory | |
faith32
Bedford, IN
age: 49
| midnight,
I was just trying to give you a hard time....sorry, sometimes trying to be funny isn't funny
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| 1/21/2008 12:57:43 PM | Old Cow Theory | |
sondra1968
Mackey, IN
age: 40
| My sintaments exactly Diva! also,her initial question was talking about those of us who do like relationships with one person. Kinda counterdicting yourself to talk about how things were back in the good ol' days and compareing them to now days. you are mixing the two intead. And as far as old sayings go how about this one: You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink." I bet you don't even get this word's meaning "BULLP*SSY" lol
And to say that you would rather roam the other pastures so to speak is all wrong no matter how you look at it.
Yes back in the old days things were what i call always swept under the rug...butthat was because woman had no rights.
and about the men that stay home while the wives are out roaming........NOT
we are usally out to bring home the bacon now for that reason....the youngs guys nowdays for some reason stay up all night and sleep all day...somebody has to work!
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