| 1/20/2008 7:33:48 PM | So confused... | |
angel28681
High Point, NC
age: 25
| Ok, so I used to be married. I haven't seen my ex in 4 months. Then, Thursday out of the blue he contacts me and says "Let's be friends." First instinct says "HELL NO!"...but after I thought about it a while I thought maybe I could. I messaged him back, but he won't answer. I'm thinking that maybe he was just trying to get at me and hurt me again. What do you guys think?
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| 1/20/2008 7:36:26 PM | So confused... | |
bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 49
| There is a reason you are divorced and he is your ex. If you don't have any kids than there is no reason to see him. Life will be better without him. Move forward and don't look back. If you do have kids then be friendly. But there is no reason to have him over like you would a true friend. He just wants sex.
[Edited 1/20/2008 7:37:45 PM]
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| 1/20/2008 7:39:42 PM | So confused... | |
angel28681
High Point, NC
age: 25
| Well, we don't have kids together, but my daughter's never known another dad. It's complicated. But, I agree with you about him only wanting sex. That's kind of what I was thinking too. That, or he's just trying to hurt me like he did before.
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| 1/20/2008 7:46:29 PM | So confused... | |
cjbaker
Decatur, AL
age: 38
| Not sure about his intentions cause I don't know him... just think and follow your heart.
It's so hard for me to be friends with my X.., cause I can't stand being around her (not sure what kind of lie she will tell me next). But I try cause of my kids.
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| 1/20/2008 8:00:19 PM | So confused... | |
angel28681
High Point, NC
age: 25
| Well, I know where you're coming from on the lie thing. This guy does nothing but lie. In fact, the day that he left me, I just woke up and he was gone. I just found out Thursday where he'd been because he'd lied to me about it when he came to get his car and allowed me to believe the lie for 4 months!
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| 1/20/2008 8:05:36 PM | So confused... | |
bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 49
| Hey Angel,
You are a very pretty young woman. You can do a lot beter than him. If you invite him back into your life it will just makes things worse. You need to be strong. There are plenty of good young men out there that will accept you and your kids as their own. You just need to be patient. Stay away from that guy. He sounds like a guy that just wants to use you and take things from you without giving anything in return.
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| 1/20/2008 8:07:15 PM | So confused... | |
brent72
Omaha, NE
age: 36
| Could be one of two things. He could be....well....you know....wanting some again, or he might be really missing your friendship. Hard to say. After my divorce, that was the hardest thing to deal with, losing my best friend. That's kind of a judgement call, but it's always best if you can remain friends.
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| 1/20/2008 8:08:23 PM | So confused... | |
angel28681
High Point, NC
age: 25
| Thanks, I'll remember that. I can do better. 
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| 1/20/2008 8:09:29 PM | So confused... | |
brent72
Omaha, NE
age: 36
| Maybe you could say something like, "Yeah, that would be nice, but as long as we're clear that's all it is."
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| 1/20/2008 8:12:13 PM | So confused... | |
angel28681
High Point, NC
age: 25
| Well, I left him a message this morning saying that if he was sincere to meet me for lunch tomorrow...his choice of time and place. But, he didn't answer back. I don't think he really wants to be friends.....
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| 1/20/2008 8:13:30 PM | So confused... | |
thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25
| The only thing I can say that makes the best sense right now. DO NOT, DO NOT, do anything that you know is going to hurt you. Your job is to make you and your children happy. Since you don't have children you will have more energy to focus on you, so do that.
Good Luck.
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| 1/20/2008 8:14:43 PM | So confused... | |
ricarascal
Eureka, CA
age: 54
| ~Tried to write you a letter,
System wouldn't let me.
~Are you looking for a Happy Ending,
Or just settling?~
~Looking for a Bad Boy maybe?
~Change Your Locks!!!
~~~Jim~
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| 1/20/2008 8:26:45 PM | So confused... | |
ricarascal
Eureka, CA
age: 54
| ~Heard this same thing a LOT.~
~How many nice guys do you know that
would treat you decent?~
~Maybe have some Respect for You?
~Look there first.~
~~~Jim.~
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| 1/20/2008 8:36:00 PM | So confused... | |
angel28681
High Point, NC
age: 25
| Thanks guys. You've been very helpful. I think I'm going to chalk this one up to a mistake and move on. He probably is just wanting sex, money, or the like and not my friendship. And, you're right, I shouldn't put myself in a possition where I could (and probably will) get hurt again. Thanks!
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| 1/20/2008 8:42:24 PM | So confused... | |
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45
| What ever he wants it's not right for you. You have a whole life ahead of you and you should go out and find a new partner that will respect you, won't lie to you and won't cheat on you.
In all reality why would you want to see him? He has been nothing to you but disrespectful. Cut him out of your life completely. Start your new life without the influence of that loser. And NO, he will never change.
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