| 12/16/2005 9:37:22 AM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
dustin
Roseville, CA
age: 28
| I want this thread to be about what people should do to make a great profile. Feel free to give us your opinions on what you think a good profile should look like.
Things I recommend:
- Add pictures. No pictures = no success. That is just the way it is, so get over your shyness or paranoia that someone you know is going to see you or whatever. You don't have to be a supermodel or bodybuilder, no one expects that. People just want to be able to put a face to the profile. And make sure you add multiple pictures, like 5 or more. 1 is not enough.
- Fill everything out. Leaving most of your profile blank makes it fairly difficult to decide whether to email you or not. Actually it makes it easy to decide, I just click 'Back to Search Results'.
- Use proper grammar and spelling. if you type in really long sentences,with bad spelling, and poor grammar, it makes you look really stupid and people will not want to talk to you because they will think you are too dumb to hold a intelligint conversation, and also it is just real annoyin trying to read profiles like that cause it's like they just keep talking without a break. Okay you get my point. You don't have to write like a scholar, but least capitalize the first letter of a sentence. Don't write like you're talking on an instant messenger.
- Be honest. Don't lie about anything in your profile. I mean what's the point of doing that? They're gonna find out anyway, and when they do they'll be pissed. Not a good way to start a relationship with someone.
Well those are my main things. What do you think makes a good profile?
[Edited 5/19/2006 12:39:38 PM]
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| 12/23/2005 2:26:38 PM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
spankmymnky
Olympia, WA
age: 47
| I agree with dustin, I think that honesty is a given, a decent helping of humor goes a long way also, personally I can't help myself, it just as natural as breathing. I whole-heartedly, 100% concur with him on the spelling/grammer/punctuation issue, for some folks it's o.k. but it may could imply a less-than-average intelligence or at the very least the lack of a dictionary! Geez, I bought one for a buck at the dollar store!
(side note) Is there actually any women on this date site? I have located only a few that are current, the rest are noted as not logged in for 3+ months! Could be just me, or a conspiracy! LOL!
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| 1/4/2006 9:20:42 AM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
victoriaaa
Tolar, TX
age: 42
| Actually, i disagree somewhat with you guys on the spelling and grammar. Some folks just aren't strong in those areas, and i don't think that it necessarily indicates ignorance or stupidity. I also spell some words wrong on purpose, and even use some that aren't real words. Examples: gonna, kinda, yessir. Not because i don't know better, but because that is the way i talk face to face. I generally don't capitalize my "i" either. Again, i know i am s'posed (heheh) to, but it just seems kinda (heheh) arrogant when i don't capitalize "you"....dunno (heheh), i reckon it takes all kinds!
I also haven't put much info into my profile either, mainly because i feel like i could say anything, true or not, and what good does that do anyone? The idea that you can tell a lot about someone from their online profile just hasn't panned out for me. The simple truth is that you cannot know someone through a screen. Most folks are as honest as they can be about themselves, but we just never know how someone else is gonna (heheh) see us.
I kinda like my run-on sentences.
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| 3/18/2006 12:58:40 PM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
bythesea
Harwich, MA
age: 54
| I disagree also with the spelling issue. If I did in fact agree with it showing little intelligence, I would also have to assume the above posters following sentence also showed little intelligence; "Is there actually any women on this date site" lol 
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| 4/23/2006 8:46:21 PM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
krazz
Whittier, CA
age: 55
| Dustin is "spot on" with the subject of spelling and grammar. Quite frankly, would you go out on a first date with out trying to look your best? Would you not look in the mirror and just jet out the door? I don't think so.
Well written profiles are like first impressions. Simple proofreading just shows some care and is a reflection of one's self. Personally I care about making a good first impression, and hope the person I find and date also believes in that concept too. Common sense prevails.
I too am looking for some constructive criticism on my profile from the ladies side of the room.
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| 4/27/2006 1:43:27 AM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
ol_hillbilly
Lowry City, MO
age: 48
| I agree mostly with Victoria. I like to write like I talk. Kinda with a drawl to it. I drove my english teachers crazy when I was in school (many years ago).
On the other hand. You can tell when reading someone's writing, whether they's just talkin or they just cant spell. Theres a difference 'tween knowin an misspelling on purpose and not havin a clue. ~insert rolling eyes~
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| 5/16/2006 4:03:48 PM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
emtnancy50
New London, WI
age: 54
| Byth...Im here and I have to say Im also rather intelligent and when I read profiles with spelling errors I really have to wonder....Nancy
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| 5/16/2006 4:07:59 PM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
emtnancy50
New London, WI
age: 54
| Steve..I have some ideas for you..
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| 5/20/2006 8:53:34 PM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
krazz
Whittier, CA
age: 55
| Okay..... Different strokes for different folks, On this...
Slang is okay, and "shorthand" is okay (e.g. 4U = for you). What is not okay, is dyslexic typing (oaky vs. okay), and the total lack of proof reading to correct the sloppy keystroke errors. Here's is the Krazz's list. If you want to join my harem, I look at certain things. If you don't care? Neither do I.
a) If your profile is sloppily written, with obvious dyslexic typing and letters missing... I will pass you by.
b) If there are numerous (I said many) punctuation errors, and grammar errors (using your vs. you're incorrectly) I will pass you by.
c) If you do not fill in a lot of information (i.e. smoking, employed, CORRECT marital status, etc), I will not be interested. Personally, I don't care how much money you make, as much as I care what your profession is.
d) Obviously OLD picture(s)? I will pass you by.
e) No picture? I will not even notice you.
f) The profile narrative section is your opportunity to attract my attention, and the man or woman of your dreams too. Take your time, use Word or a similar program, and run a spell check. Then copy and paste it in. Run on sentences and general slop? I will pass you by...
g) Rotate your "main picture" too, for freshness.
h) Virtually no information in the narrative? You have accomplished your goal... Invisability!
i) There is an edit button to correct typing in the forums. Use it (just like I did here)! So what if it shows you edited your post. It shows you read what you typed! Bravo!
j) Freshen up your profile every now and then. Not only will people read it more, BUT it will also be highlighted with the red phrase, "Updated." That will attract more attention to it too.
Maybe you don't want me to notice you? Not a problem. But this forum is to help you write the best profile and be intelligently understood in the forums too. It is all IMHO!
Rock On all!
Krazzman
[Edited 5/20/2006 9:56:53 PM]
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| 7/21/2006 9:16:37 AM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
lynn53
Hemet, CA
age: 58
| A great profile is dandy...but, what about when some one connects? Is everyone going to jump in and correct their emails back and forth...suggestions, is helpful on making a eye catching profile but at the end of the day if someone is put off by grammar errors then they should be writing a teacher! Just be you...
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| 7/21/2006 3:02:39 PM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
emtnancy50
New London, WI
age: 54
| Dustin right on..And people dont use the fact that some people cant spell well..they can type their profile in Microsoft word and spell check then copy and paste into the profile. If the spelling and grammar are poor..no matter what is said or what the photo is like I will return to search results. Same with an email..
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| 8/19/2006 6:29:59 PM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
yammyrock
Buckinghamshire
United Kingdom
age: 35
| I agree with all of that, but I do understand that some people are no good at spelling or grammar and I accept that. What I do find quite annoying is people who write in abbreviations as they would in an sms/text message. But the rest is pretty spot on.
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| 8/30/2006 9:35:45 PM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
ndiace
Mount Vernon, NY
age: 24
| I am pretty young. I spend lots of time on AIM and other messengers with my friends so, it is safe to say that I use lots of shorthand and slang. That is for the purpose of length. HOWEVER, on a profile I put my best foot forward because I want to be taken seriously. Think about it, if I claim to be college educated and such, how would it look if my grammar was off? Okay, so you are not a great speller. Fine. As suggested, a simple spell-check works. Grammar on the other hand in inexcusable. Poor grammar in writing (excluding run-ons and punctuations) indicate to me poor grammar when speaking. I don't care if you used a comma when it should have been a semi-colon. I do care if your sentence sounds like you have never gone to school.
What do I pass by? Fuzzy pictures, Pictures with multiple people and no caption to point you out, NO pictures, very little information. At least give me your age and education level. I don't care how much money you make but I would like to know that you work. Emply profiles are an automatic "ignore". Just answer the questions like it is an interview.
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| 10/27/2006 10:59:45 AM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
cutiepie31
Minneapolis, MN
age: 33
| Put what ever your heart tells you to put. Don't lie, tell the truth. And be patient the right one will come across your profile. If they aren't fake that is.
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| 1/9/2007 11:11:01 AM | How To Write A Great Dating Profile | |
goldenangel
Morrisville, PA
age: 42
| okay.....by now you all know that I am new here....I just have on teensy insy (HMMMM how do you spell that word) question What if I don't have a cam and have no clue how to go about getting my pic on here otherwise?? Its not that I don't want to post a pic its just that I have no clue how. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated
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