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1/22/2008 11:51:36 AMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

goodintention54
Plymouth, MI
age: 55

I am new to this forum thing (dumb question; what's a thread?)

Any way, the profile I have posted shows that I am a single dad raising two little children. That being said am I correct in my thinking that most women would rather not tangle with that. It seems that most of the women in my age range already have grown children that have left the nest and are looking for travel companions. I'm not complaining mind you but I am not going to compromise my loving relations with my little ones for any women who are not okay with it. I fully understand their justified reasons, I just want your opinions....am I wasting my timeon these sites

1/22/2008 12:58:37 PMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

shadow01
Winston Salem, NC
age: 50

I'm not really sure, if it does or not. I know that on Fashionably Late with Stacy London, they said to never, post a picture of anyone, but yourself. Not, really sure. Wish you Luck Have a great day

1/22/2008 1:00:32 PMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

shadow01
Winston Salem, NC
age: 50

I think I would probably, have my main picture, by myself and the kids in the other pictures. Hope this helps.

1/22/2008 1:05:09 PMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

goodintention54
Plymouth, MI
age: 55

Thanks Shadow I guess I felt it best to be up front you know put that honesty, no hidden extras thing in their face and hope for the best.

1/22/2008 1:30:02 PMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 37

goodintentions.....i see your point about the kids and being a little older.the thing is,there are others out there in the same boat.there is someone for all.never give up!!!

1/22/2008 1:36:19 PMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

blondie1946
Lockhart, TX
age: 62

Good afternoon, Goodintention. Your children are a part of who and what you are. I applaud you for putting them first and up front. That's right where they should be. I don't know whether or not it will effect your ability to attract anyone on this site or not, but if you have to "hide" your kids from them to get their attention, then you don't want to have anything to do with them anyway. Good luck to you and you kids. They're adorable.

1/22/2008 1:37:14 PMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 48

I will bet ya'll are a package deal, correct? Then any woman not interested in small children should skip on over your profile, and see if she can find someone as shallow as herself. I love all children.

1/23/2008 1:25:03 AMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

cinscharmed1
Freeburn, KY
age: 37

If you're having children and being a real dad scares women off then you dont need the aggravation anyway. You are doing the right thing asking that question because you need to know the anwser to that before you even try to talk with someone or make a relationship with that person. I must commend you on raising your children as a single father. I know that it isnt a easy task. I am a single mom and I know how hard it is to try to juggle everything and still not be able to do it. Most men dont relize what a battle it can be. So if women dont like it I say you are better off without them you will find someone who will love your children and you if you just stick in there it will happen

later

cin

1/23/2008 1:29:36 AMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

lonealways
Great Falls, MT
age: 32

If a woman gets scared off by your children they are ignorant and you don't need to be with someone like that anyway. It's just like a single mom and a guy running when he finds out she has kids. You don't want your children around someone like that you want them around someone who will be warm and caring not cold and rude to them. don't get me wrong I don't believe in finding another Mommy or Daddy for your children just someone for you but they have to be willing to warmly and open heartedly accept the kids as part of the package too. Single Parent As Well. Have Same Problem.

1/23/2008 3:58:09 AMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

stormilove
Norman Park, GA
age: 46

If it does you don't want them anyhow. I have two grown children who live in AZ with my 6 grandchildren and two teens still at home here in GA. If somebody doesn't want the whole package they can move on. My children come first as they should. So let the women who scare off go and wait for the one who is really to go the distance. Stormi

1/23/2008 8:56:29 AMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

katiescarlett72
Arlington, TX
age: 35

Wouldn't bother me a bit, but I'm 20 years younger too. You may find that women in your age bracket are done with the whole raising-children bit and are not interested in starting up with it again, but unfortunately, that's a risk you took in having children later than most people do. You may find that you just have to wait until they're a little older and more independent to start dating again.

My advice for now would be to remove all the stuff in your profile about your kids. It comes across as defensive and one-note. I'm not on here looking to date a couple of children; I'm on here looking to date a man. You need to show yourself as a man and worry about the kids thing later. If you're smart, women are not going to meet your kids until wayyyyyyyyyy down the road anyway.

I've never understood why people see the need to be "totally up front" in their profiles about their whole kit and kaboodle. Yes, I have children. Yes, they are my world. Yes, you will have to love them just as much as I do in order to be with me. Did I just tell you anything that you wouldn't have assumed when you saw in my profile chart that I have kids?

I don't have to go into detail about this in my profile text. I know that I will not allow anyone into my heart or home that I don't think is good for my kids. Now, what do I want a guy to know about ME that will make him, first and foremost, a good match for ME? Because if he doesn't fit me, then whether he's okay with my kids or they with him is really totally moot anyway.

And honestly, if your ONLY identity is "dad," then you don't need to be dating anyway, because it's totally unfair to the woman. If you can be "Man" AND be "Dad," then wonderful. But if you can't separate the two to some extent, then you need to stay single until you figure out how to do so.

1/23/2008 9:11:44 AMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43

you need to put a picture that is close up and your thought should be a warm endearng but sexy hot thought we want to look in your eyes and see the gentleman and the beast all at the same time...close up right into the lens...it works look at drummer his pic is perfect he looks soft hearted, laid back but yet you can see that animalistic gleam... I can list more ...the focus should be on what you bring now...eveeryone please stop come back ina minute and help me please
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1/23/2008 9:21:15 AMDo my children scare prosective women off? 

sheteddy
Sandusky, OH
age: 46

To some women it may be a turn off. Especially at your age. But most women are understanding about it. Heck, I lot of grandparents are now raising their grandchildren because their son or daughter can't . So, I don't think it is unusal. I applaude you on taking on the little ones.