Forums: Dating General Discussion: Wasted Time?
1/29/2008 11:20:44 AMWasted Time? 

wrestlingdad1
Prairieville, LA
age: 44

I'm starting to wonder about "ALL" of the time I spend on dating services and going out trying to meet "NEW" people. Why is so hard for good people to find and meet each other? Where are we "ALL" hinding at?

I tend to look at this problem from my point of view. I believe that I'm a Nice Guy and a good catch. I go out with friends to bars knowing that I'm there, so why wouldn't nice woman be there? My best friend and I have a different looks on being Single. If he never gets re-married, he's perfectly happy living by himself. I want to get re-married one day. I believe that is want I'm looking for.

Someone please help me with types of places that you hang out to meet "NEW" people.

I have to wonder if I'm being to choosy for the person I want to let into my life. Can this be a true statement?



Stan

1/29/2008 12:01:08 PMWasted Time? 

lorlie
Eugene, OR
age: 52

dad, hey is really hard doing the dating sceene. I hate it. But your
right woman is out there, don't give up. It just takes time, and it
is worth waiting for the right one. Don't settle for anything less than
what you are looking for, and time wasted, just gotta happen to find the
right one. Good luck to you.

1/29/2008 12:03:56 PMWasted Time? 

kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 48

I am more like you friend, if I will be okay by myself. Don't give up on yourself, there is someone out there for you.

1/29/2008 1:21:33 PMWasted Time? 

chrisk1974
Bowling Green, OH
age: 34

try your freinds point of view out. not saying to push women away, just quit looking so hard. take some time to get comfortable being alone. then when the right one does come along you'll be ready.

1/29/2008 1:36:31 PMWasted Time? 

l2kids44
Lanesville, IN
age: 45

There was a thread on here the other day asking pretty much the same question. The consensus was try chatting with woman at the grocery store. I talk to a lot of guys there just never thought of it as a place to find a date. You can never be too choosey in picking a partner. Remember you're hoping it's for life.

1/29/2008 1:57:49 PMWasted Time? 

sea_dragon
Crystal River, FL
age: 31

grocery stores are good. Just don't hit them right after work because everyone is in a hurry then.

1/29/2008 2:04:01 PMWasted Time? 

angelleyess
Middleboro, MA
age: 35

i am sooooo with you on this sometimes i wonder if im being too choosy too there have been a couple times when i met someone here that i thought would go somewhere but it seems to never work out hell im not sure where to look anymore some people just arent ready for a relationship or are just here for fun or sex. the sad part is when they lie in there profiles just to get what they want then you have the ones who say they are into you but show no action and just leave things in the air, i just dont get it.sometimes i wonder if i should just go back to the bar seen but there is a part of me saying to just wait it out the right one will come along soon enough. good luck hun

1/29/2008 2:28:55 PMWasted Time? 

gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45

wrestlingdad - I feel the same things, but I don't go out with friends to bars thinking like that...I think it's pretty true the "the good ones you aren't gonna meet at a bar" I've been divorced a LONG time - and I"m a good "catch" too. I think you have to GRAB opportunities when you see them.

Not necessarily online or on dating services - this is hard because we're so bi-coastal here... that firs date takes a plane ticket and some just cannot DO that...

Look around you at where you DO go. Look at the women at your kid's events - who's single? Who's alone? Who could make a nice dinner companion? Don't go for stunning or big boobs or a tight butt - cuz dude - everybody's aging...

Look for one who might be interesting to you.

I guarantee she's in the stands, she's filling her car with gas, she's at the bank, she's in line at the grocery store...

She's there.
I've been her.
So have many of the women on here.

It's like hunting for the morel mushrooms in the woods - you just gotta LOOK!

1/29/2008 2:38:02 PMWasted Time? 

brokenbridges
Augusta, KS
age: 37

I think we all go through it that is why we are here. I go to the grocery stores, the laundry mat, discount stores, sporting events for my kids, and it is all the same. I truly believe that people are afraid to invest time into someone. A lot of people go into it thinking what if this doesn't work. I do go to the bars but when I do, it is to have fun and dance, not to pick up on men. That is my comfort zone, I can be who I am am not worry about it. I may meet my true love there or it maybe that guy I flipped off on the interstate the other day. Who knows. I don't search it out, it will find me when it is ready too, until then, I still need groceries and my laundry still needs washed so I will continue what I do.



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2/1/2008 2:34:23 PMWasted Time? 

wrestlingdad1
Prairieville, LA
age: 44

Thanks for everyone points of view. Sorry but it make me feel normal that other people are analyzing the dating process like myself. I've started another phase by being more outgoing and approachable. I will let ya'll know how is turns out!

Stan

2/1/2008 7:17:30 PMWasted Time? 

pisceslady30
York, PA
age: 30

If we knew the answer to that question we wouldn't be here.